October 2014 // thread 6 // baby's new year resolution is to sleep more?!

[sazzlehopes]

We had 3 excellent nights (well in my book excellent) foing to bed 7/8 and then going to 3 then waking at 5 to chew on my nipple until 6. But now last night was the dreaded 2 hour thing from the second I put him down at 7....
It's annoying when you know how good it could be! Sorry you've all had crappy nights too.
to all the teeth arriving.
And happy birthday to goats!

goats it sounds like we have a similar thing here- I pick her up, she snoozes, I put her down she wakes up. I spent another evening in tears with a baby attached to me. I'm making all three of us miserable. Well, actually, the baby is happy, but I'm making dp miserable. I honestly don't know what to do. First, I don't know what to do about her sleep, and second, I don't know what to do about me. I just feel so trapped- I go to sleep as soon as she's asleep, I get up when she wakes up, and because she's not napping much either I don't get a break during the day, often- which probably makes me sound selfish, but I just feel not a part of myself. And every evening feeding and feeding and feeding. Until two weeks ago it felt like things were going pretty well, but I've just lost it, a bit. At least it's Saturday. We've got friends coming round though and I'm dreading it a bit- all the jokes about not sleeping when I just want to cry.

I really feel like I must be doing something awfully wrong. When she wakes in the night she quite often thrashes about for ten minutes then goes back to sleep again but in the evening she doesn't, even though obviously tired. But maybe I should leave her alone more if she's not crying? If she's just flailing about in her crib?

Moose I'd avoid ibuprofen for reflux babies. We discovered by 17 hours of uninterrupted (literally) screaming and stomach bleeding. NSAIDs aren't advised for babies with inflamed tummies.

Oh Tatty so with you on the not sleeping jokes. My MiL has a great line in these and also likes to tell me it'll get worse. And that she "can tell you've got a new baby!" by which she means I'm all haggard. I find it very cruel.

I don't know what to say about how you're feeling other than that I feel the same. I do leave him with DH for three hours a week though - well that's the plan, only done it once so far. It's so I can go to a PND support group rather than have fun but it did seem to help.

Happy birthday Goats hope you got some sleep. I suggest Pip spends a few hours with your in laws while you get a well deserved rest!

Everything is a phase tatty - hang in there!

Tatty - if she is not crying them definitely just leave her be in the cot.

Being awake and not upset in her cot is absolutely fine. In fact it is the forerunner for self settling, so it is necessary for her to be left to it in her cot. As long as she is not upset and screaming, don't worry about rushing to her.

Thanks! We've just left 1 foot of powder and bright blue skies in the alps to spend 12 hours driving home. Happy birthday to me!

Eeek thanks yellow!! That sounds terrible!

Hope the drive goes well Goats

fate thank you (again) that's so helpful. I wish the internet was less full of 'sleep solutions' and more full of, you know, practical pieces of information.

Feeling a bit brighter today although the tiny tyrant hasn't deigned to sleep for more than twenty minutes a go. It beats me how she can remain so cheerful.

Thanks for the sympathy re teething and tooth ouchies! Glad to hear it's not just me going through it!

So fri at the doctors we have been given a referral to a paediatrician because of Neds continuous hunky eye and rash the 3 times we've had egg plus my personal dairy trial and how better he is when I'm not eating it...
Tonight I decided to give the goats milk formula a try as it is more digestible than cows and then if he didn't like it I'm not damaging the dairy leaving my system... He liked it and drank about 60 ml but straight away his face flared up like this like the egg reaction...
It's gone down now, but I feel confident that I'm not wasting anyone's time and there's definitely something going on with him and food....

Hahaha hunky....damn autocorrect it was supposed to say GUNKY!!!

sazzle how did he react to his jabs? Because they can be problematic if you have an egg allergy I think.

We've started the evening hell. She slept for 40 minutes, woke, and is showing every sign of just refusing to settle without my nipple in her mouth, sort of half dozing, waking when I try and remove it. Once again we've tried a dummy and it's made her cry. I've left dp with her, trying to soothe her in her crib, but it doesn't sound like it's working. If she was actually feeding I wouldn't mind, and if she suckled to sleep I wouldn't mind- it's the hours and hours of part sleep I can't bear. Not lady because it makes me feel like I'm just failing- can't get her to nap in the day, can't get her to sleep at night. Can't bloody do anything. Anyway, we're going to see if we have any luck with him just trying to keep her calm at least.

The nipple in mouth thing really annoys me! (I know it shouldnt but it does!) If you're hungry, great! Feed! Dont just chew/freak out if i move half an inch! Gah!

Oh, moose, it completely enrages me, and then I feel like the worst mother in the world.

This isn't going well so far. Hurrah! Who needs sleep anyway. My child clearly doesn't. She's so cheerful, but I'm sure her frontal lobes are withering away from lack of sleep. I know mine are.

That looks quite scary sazzle. Your are absolutely right to be certain that there is something up with his allergies.

Much sympathy for those with hard evenings. One day you'll figure out what your baby's 'thing' is for getting to sleep and once you have that in sorted things will get better, I am sure.

tatty so far we have managed jabs ok, but yes id heard that they can react from them so I'll be on careful watch again this Monday when we have his next batch.... Although it might not be egg...but SOMETHING is up with him poor mite!
And sorry you're having a bad time. Really hope for you tonight goes a little better

Tatty and Moose hope your night gets easier and you get some sleep.
Sazzle poor Ned, how long until your referral? Must be so hard not knowing fully what's causing this.
Was just wiping baby's bum during nappy change when she cheerfully crapped/ farted over my hand (luckily missed most of it!)

Went to sleep and only lasted an hour! Booo! Bad babymoose!

Miracles apparently DO happen. Baby slept from when we got off the tunnel to home - 3 hours - then was awake for an hour while we unpacked - she needed that to thrash around after 12 hours in and out of the car seat. Put her to bed at 1am, and she slept straight through until 7.15.

So she CAN do it. I now have high expectations of every night. HAHAHAHA!

I'm having weird boob problems though - the left one is just in massive oversupply mode. Got 150ml in 5 minutes pumping this morning. It's rock hard almost all the time. Nowhere on the web tells you how to reduce supply in one boob.

Arghhhh back to crappy nights here waking all the time, more than every 2 hours. So many times I've lost count... Putting it down I hope to the goat milk formula and praying to the sleep hids that it improves tonight. Dreading bedtime already and drinking all the tea...

goats that is ace, what a birthday treat for you. Hope she repeats that!

Happy birthday for yesterday, goats. Sorry to ruin the theory for you and splendide, but people here in Germany seem fond of clicking at babies too. And my mum who comes from Liverpool doesn't

smooshie no period here either yet. Not expecting it for quite some time, although a better-sleeping baby (relative to dd) might trigger it earlier.

sazzle hope the drs can get to the bottom of Ned's food reactions quickly. Do you think he definitely reacts when you eat dairy, or are you still not sure?

Fate I also wanted to post that it was better to leave the sleeping car seat in the cold hallway and go into the lounge.

Lots of snow here. Rear wheel drive plus steep hill makes me reluctant to drive anywhere even with winter tyres, but pushing the pram through a blizzard the other day was more exercise than I'd planned. Maybe sling plus yaktrax is the way to go.

Hope people had good nights last night.

Morning all.

Happy birthday for the other day Goats, fantastic that you got some good sleep. There is that saying that good sleep promotes more good sleep. Long may it continue for you.