October 2014 // thread 6 // baby's new year resolution is to sleep more?!

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Good luck sazzle .., just remember " any sleep is a bonus " my mantra for the last 3 months

Ha yes stigz good one to remember- currently trying to get N back to sleep after he woke bang on after 45 mins...

Happy holidays Goats!
Good luck Sazzle, you'll get there!
Stigz we're having a meet-up of the Scotland MN'ers in a couple of weeks Edinburgh if you fancy, drop me a PM if you do, just remembered you're not a Facebooker.

Kirstie thanks, still attempting it, now feeding again. Is that bad? He was so zonked at 7 but that damn 45 minutes thing he was like clockwork waking up. And he's not just resettled with the White noise and back patting...

E's naps have been bang on 45 mins as well!
Currently have DH upstairs with a bottle (of milk, not wine) while I pop out to get a take away Let's hope she lets us eat dinner in peace

No Sazzle I did the same, every time H woke up and wasn't for settling with a dummy i offered her a boob too, no idea if that was the right thing to do or not! I just figured if she wants to suckle then it might work out a bit like cluster feeding and so the next day I'd have plenty milk to fill her up and hopefully she'd sleep longer the next night! Or if she's not properly feeding and just suckling for comfort then let her carry on if it got her back over to sleep quicker!

sazzle I agree with kirsti I always feed Rocco again if he wakes in between 7 and 11. There is no way he can be hungry it's just a way to get him back off. When we first started putting him to bed at seven he would wake a few times but I just persevered and now he's got it probably 70% of the time the other 30 he will wake once and have a little feed then go back off.

Ooh have a great time goats

How do you get past the 45min thing? Just patting and shushing? Its crazy how its exactly 45 mins!

Moose I just give her her dummy at that point if she's only grumping a bit, a wee soft rub of her forehead and down her nose and let her hold my hand for a while.

Moose I stuck a dummy in this morning and drifted while she grumped. When I got up 40 mins later she was asleep again #completefluke
It has become apparent that most things work sometimes, but nothing is 100% guaranteed. Good luck tonight guys!

Wow super quiet night!!!

Thanks SO much kirstie and pregnant for reassuring me about the boob feeding...
Well he went back down at about 9 and slept til almost 3am!!! Wahoooo amazing. That means i also got 5 straight hours which I haven't had in weeks! He was a bit of a monkey from then on in but really it's that first stretch I really need. We're up now and he's happy as Larry and so am i! Going to continue this early to bed thing and hope for the best. It really is antisocial to the OH and ruins my evening but so worth the sleep and hoping in the future for more of an evening!

I also paid a lot more attention to him getting more naps in the day, they were only short 45-1hour but that seem to help. It's hard to remember to do that when you're entertaining a toddler too but it did seem to help matters!

I'm with the feeding to sleep contingent. It works pretty quickly usually, and I think now she goes to bed before me and is on her own for a few hours quite often her early wake ups just seem to be for reassurance, and that's the easiest way. Plus also I would struggle to sleep for ten to twelve hours without having a drink of something.

That said, bed times are something of a struggle at the moment. She goes down ever so quickly after a bath but then wakesever half hour or so until I go to bed, so it kind of defeats the point (getting a bit of evening to myself). Not sure if there's anything I can do other than persevere.

sazzle yay that's great! Well done little Ned. You're right it is a bit antisocial at first with one of you upstairs most of the evening but it does get gradually better and soon you will have your evenings free too :)

It's my favourite time of the day just a few hours to myself.

Sorry forgot this is dc2 for you! You already know it gets better

The 45 minute thing is so weird isn't it?! I try and make all the other kids be really quiet around that point if r is asleep but it never blooming works a mouse farting would wake him!

Hello everyone - hope you have a good weekend.

I've been persevering with dropping the dreamfeed and we finally got a night that worked last night - 8pm to 7am with dummy reinserted at 4am and 5am (with hand hold that time). Hopefully after a bit of time she won't wake at all in the early mornings but for now just reaching across into bedside cot and giving the dummy is nothing compared to needing to feed, so I am happy.

Had a few nights over the last few days where the dummy wouldn't do and she needed a night feed, but was expecting that when dropping the 11pm feed.

Yaay sazzle that's brilliant. I agree it does feel antisocial at first but fingers crossed he will get used to it soon and you'll have a bit more of the evening to yourself. I felt quite lost the first few days when she didn't wake up, nearly didn't know what to do with myself!
That's fab about hopefully kissing the night feed goodbye too Fate
We're going to my mum's this afternoon for a wee gathering, heading there early so they get some awake time with H! DH joining us after as he's working today, so we'll be there for the evening too, it will be the first time H's wee routine will be interrupted since we started, so this should be interesting!

We had a bit of a bad night last night - I'm at my mum's and I think he was just too hot. I'll try him not in his sleeping bag tonight.

Ha preganant it is but sometimes you'd never know it! You know what it's like though some days you feel so confident compared to last time and other days you think I can't remember what the hell I did first time round this baby is so different!!

Thanks kirstie have a nice time and good luck tonight!

Fate I think we need to drop the 11pm dreamfeed and make a clear earlier bedtime as this morning Lil slept in until 10.40 when I woke her as her bro had been up for ages and we wanted to go out. Am going to bring it forward to 10 tonight, 9 tomorrow and aim to have her in bed by 8 on Monday oh crap hope she doesn't wake during Broad church!. I'm expecting this will bring a return to a night feed. At the moment she views her 7am feed as a night feed and wants another 3 hours kip after, which just doesn't work with a toddler.

Aw kirstie thanks for the invite, unfortunatly im not confident in driving to Edinburgh I'm a really nervous driver, plus have no sense of direction

Stigz we're meeting at John Lewis cafe just across the way from Waverley if the train is an option instead? xx

Good luck everyone dropping night feeds. We still don't have a set bed time. Managed 8ish a few times. Must get more strict with routine soon.
We had a roll over tonight- she had to psyche herself up and cried afterwards but I'm definitely saying it was a conscious attempt

I've not left the house since Thursday and am starting to feel cabin fever. This isn't helped by DP sulking over something so he's barely spoken to me today. I'm presuming he's feeling left out cos I'm so occupied with baby but can only guess cos he won't tell me. The way this tends to go is that he'll wait till we're about to sleep and start an argument. Oh joy.