November 2014 - the one where we all get a good night's sleep

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Here's hoping, anyway...

Nurseries here are £1100 a month

Just took dd to the cinema, feel a little embarassed that her first trip was to see 50 shades... but it was nice to go and felt very relaxed given it was full of noisy babies!

Nurseries here are £1100 a month

Just took dd to the cinema, feel a little embarassed that her first trip was to see 50 shades... but it was nice to go and felt very relaxed given it was full of noisy babies!

Nurseries here are £1100 a month

Just took dd to the cinema, feel a little embarassed that her first trip was to see 50 shades... but it was nice to go and felt very relaxed given it was full of noisy babies!

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Hahaha lady those 50 shades definitely have affected you :)

Lol ladydolly I didn't quite catch that!

he he he! Blame Jamie Dornan and his topless fantastic performance as Christian Grey...

If seriously lady I think it's a perfect film to watch with the baby by side, if you have to attend her in the middle, you havent really lost too much and can still follow the plot. As I already mentioned few days ago we went to cinema this weekend with DH on turns. Would be nice to go together, but even though it was great to have 3 hours off on my own, purely focused on "Theory of everything" and see that there is still life outside apart from the world circulating around babies.

Like weeonion approach to the christening with the odd-parents!

Don't judge me, but the only real reason why I would think about christening her is that she would have godparents. My sister is already referring to DD as her goddaughter, so not christening (or doing something similar) would probably upset her. Although our parents never christened us and so that we dont feel left out in terms of godparents they had agreed with their siblings they would be unofficial godparents to us. Which was fine with us apart from the fact we had to share them...

strawberry that was exactly my thinking, I thought the book was awful, I dumped it half way through but knew enough that it wouldn't be too taxing to half watch! dd was pretty good so I feel brave enough to see one I actually want to watch. (and I've learned you can't eat popcorn and hold a baby)

ladydolly - how'd u manage to take her to the cinema?! Do they do screenings for babies lol!

And at the cost of nurseries where you live!!! Its around £34/day here but I guess thats still nearly £700/month if you wanted to work full time. No wonder its not feasible for most. Check out if your employers offer childcare voucher schemes as that saves 20% & I think come september a new scheme means everyone will be able to receive it.

I'm doing as before & going back part time, 2.5 days/wk. Last time DS went to grandparents 1 day & nursery the other, but tbh he never really settled in the nursery environment (prob as he didnt go enough) & for 2 years he screamed at every single drop off. We now have a lovely childminder who lives very close so I'm hoping she will be able to look after dd too.

As for naps nothing resembling routine here. She's usually overtired when i get her down so she naps 30mins then wakes - then cries a lot til I get her down again. I seem to spend my whole day trying to get her to sleep!

Has anyone else found their lo has reacted awfully to their jabs? DD had her 2nd lot yesterday & all she has done today is scream. DS is whining at me to play with him, dd went mental when I tried to put her in the sling & after great progress last week she will only nap in my arms again. I'm ready to tear my hair out!!!!

Hello! Please can I join you? Long time lurker and thought it was about time I contributed. FTM, DS was 12 weeks on Monday. Not got much of a routine for naps, he sleeps in the morning and afternoon but the times depend on what we are doing (walking the dog, at baby groups, visiting grandparents etc). I'm a bit lazy though and let him feed to sleep and then sleep on me if we are in during the day. It's easier and means I can read my book!

Got him down for a nursery near home for 1 day a week. He'll have 1 day a week with each grandma and DH and I will hopefully each work 4 days a week so we can have him a day each. I earn more at the moment and have a horse so I need the money. Also, we both work for local government so they have to be flexible for working parents.

Sorry for the long post!

Hello floopledoop !!

DD will do 2 days a week at the nursery her sister goes to (although DD1 will leave just a few weeks later for school). We put her name down after the 20 week scan to get a place. With DD1 we didn't know that people organised nurseries before their babies are born so we're a bit surprised when we started ringing them when she was a few weeks old and were told some had no places. Grandparents will do other 2 days, and I don't work fridays. DH will look after them when I work nights and weekends.

We are going to take DS swimming for the first time on Sunday. There is a kids pool at the local sports centre. He likes a bath and having a shower so hopefully he'll enjoy it. Anyone got any tips for a successful first dip?

omama I know, we're in one of the most expensive cities in the country :(

It is cinema for babies! Well, parents of under ones, its called the big scream, all arts picturehouses do them I think.

Welcome floopledoop!

Floopledoop! That name is never gonna get old.

ladydolly I have a feeling you're close to me as it's pretty much the same price range round here. I would litteraly be working to pay a nursery bill. I'd rather have a part time job and spend time with my baby to be honest. Plus I get much more help with rent, tax credits etc if I only work part time, it's no wonder people end up on benefits tbh!!

Welcome floopledoop!

My colleague told he had his daughter in the nursery in London and pays £1400 a month, compared the approx £1000 we have here, sounds like a good deal, but then again I pay about £500 for the commute to London. Taking that in account for me pays off to go back only full time as part time would mean there isn't much left after childcare and trains. The idea of DD being without parents for 7am-6pm 5 days a week makes me feel really bad, but it's not easy in my profession to get back after prolonged periods off work. The only hope is on working from home 1 or 2 days a week and picking her up bit earlier.

omama one thing I often do on a bad sleep day is I run bath with lavender oil in it and we both go for a soak&float; any time of the day, whenever I feel I had enough of rocking and moaning. When we get out she is flat out in 5 minutes. I also keep a lavender pillow in the cot, not too sure if this is the reason, but she is a good sleeper during the night.

Welcome Floopledoop
Crap day again today. Dragged DH to playgroup then went to PILs for lunch. MIL hogged baby whole time even though he was clearly shattered. Managed to escape to feed him then I came back in the room with everyone else in and eyes wide open! He finally slept at about 4! Poor boy. He's had good sleep in on my chest then little play with daddy now I'm just trying to get him to sleep for the night.

I think tomorrow I'm just going to stay in and try my best to figure out his nap needs(And hopefully meet the them! )

I've realised that I know ZERO lullabies. The only slow songs I know are hymns that float back into my brain from my childhood. I was pretty embarressed today when DH walked in on me trying to get DS to nap and found me rocking him crooning "Here I am, Lord"

But it works like a charm! Its so slow - its the perfect lullaby!

I really really have to learn some proper ones......!

Yes, I realised too that I cannot name a single song (not just lullaby) from the childhood that I knew lyrics 100%. Ended up on Google and learning some... Was trying to convince DH sort out few English songs for her but he just would not sing. So DD will have to put up with my foreign songs.

I hum the tune to the frog chorus from Rupert the bear, calms her down very quickly! I used to watch it on repeat when I was little!

I sing or hum 'albert ross the albatross' and the 'impala song' from alphabet zoo. Not lullabies but nice soft slow songs. Children's songs mostly drive me mental with inanity but Alphabet Zoo by Ralph McTell is genius! (And works wonders in the car too...)

We did a humanist ceremony like you weeonion for ds1, so hoping to do the same. Dh wants to ask for ds1's supporting adults to be A's as well - is that odd? I'd be happy with that as they're some of our best friends, just wondering really.

Ds1 does the local montessori nursery two mornings a week which is 570, and will do three days when he's three which is 640 with the 15 hours free. It only starts at age two though, so A is going to have a day nanny to match the same hours until then, as I have my own business so fit hours in around that..

I could do a little dance of joy! He took a bottle. Woo hoo! A NUK teat with expressed breast milk, warmed up more than I have before. I didn't realise quiet how much it was bothering me until he latched onto the bottle and I started crying. I think I have been convincing myself that it didn't matter in case he just wouldn't take one.

Off swimming this morning and then baby bliss this afternoon with a lady and baby from NCT. Have a good day.

Welcome floop

utopian re sharing supporting adults, I guess, nothing is odd considering there is no legal framework for the humanist celebrations. But it could mean that LOs feel bit upset about sharing. I and my sister shared and I felt bit odd sometimes that I didn't have my own god (or odd) parents. Maybe bcs we were sharing almost everything with her: room, clothes ( I was wearing her hand downs), toys, supporting adults, and our parents always put massive stress on "sisters have to share everything". So that eventually you just desperately want something completely your own.
But hey, this is my personal experience, probably your kids aren't into so heavy sharing ideology and will take ok sharing supporting adults