October 2014 // thread 5 // baby's first Christmas

[JeannePoole]

Welcome back!

(Dear greetings cards manufacturers: 'Baby's First Christmas' does NOT necessarily have to include Baby being liberally sprinkled with glitter from your shoddily-made merchandise.

Except that, as I'm rapidly discovering, it does.

bangs head against wall the mother in law has just emailed a christmas menu to my husband for me to approve... now where as this may seem like a nice gesture it is infact a very loaded trap, in that if i say anything isnt ok she will use it to put me down for years to come for being "overly fussy". As it appears my son having cmpi is a huge inconvenience! All i did was ask her if she wanted me to bring some non dairy alternatives with me to make things easier and avoid being made to feel like a huge inconvenience :(

Believe me i know there are far worse things but she just drives me crazy!

Thanks for new thread :)
Bubba still has a cold, drs say chest is clear but to use infant paracetamol if temp spikes.

Difficult question peeps, my parents have a rescue dog who is not good with other animals and new people. We will be with them over Christmas, I've suggested that he goes to their dog sitter over the festive period - I'm not being awkward am I? I just don't want to risk anything as this would be the first time we will be staying.

My mum has a rescue dog who hates other dogs but he was surprisingly good with babymoose, just sniffed him a bit and stayed quite close to him. Go with your gut instinct tho, you wont enjoy it if you're constantly worrying about your lo

Moose ah the joys of CMPI BF where everyone thinks you cutting all the fun things out of your diet is a terrible inconvenience for them, because just once they have to label check. Whereas you have to label check every fricking day, are the one going without but are assumed to be doing it for shits and giggles. Gaaaahhhhhh.

Smooshie go with your gut instinct. Our dog is a bit of a nutter but is great with Lil but she grew up with our eldest so is acclimatised to babies.

Yup yellow that about sums it up! All i did was ask that if she buys crisps she gets some ready salted for me lol

Back to dh driving me mad... hes been home for an hour and "had to go straight to the loo for a massive shit" (tmi i know) hes now moping around like a subdued puppy and being completely useless... ive asked him if hes ok, if hes feeling ill etc and no hes fine... so why am i having to talk him through putting tea in the oven like hes an alien from another planet!
We're usually getting ds ready for bath around now so thats all getting delayed so we're in for a rubbish night, im worrying enough about ds without dh being unexplainedly useless :(
Ds has been really sleepy (on me, wont be put down) and feeding even worse than usual today, took him to go earlier as has a dry cough but said just to keep an eye on him
I give up tonight, i cant worry about dh when im so worried about ds, and i cant do this all on my own :(

Smooshie I'm not sure I'd take the chance with the dog, you would just worry. We have a dog & she has grown up with my DD (nearly 4yrs now) but was a bit funny of her turf when my DS arrived home. Had a couple of days of pooing in the house & generally skulking around. Fine now, just a little jealous but nothing I would worry about. I did worry for first few weeks and kept a close eye.
Slide blinking heck, you have been through the wringer. Glad the drugs seem to be kicking in. Silent reflux is no picnic without all the other stuff to add to it. My DD had it & it nearly put an end to my sanity. Look after yourself over the house move & enlist help if you can.
Kirsti sounds like this woman has some issues of her own to iron out.
Wonder wow! Gotta love the MIL's

smooshie if I'm honest I'd be pretty put out If someone asked me send my dogs away for Christmas. If you're worried just keep the dog and baby separate.
We have 2 rescues and we were worried about them getting on with Dylan but they adore him!

Moose my mil is a but like that, loves to trip you up! Must in laws are all vegetarian do that's going to be fun with no dairy....I'll have a breadstick please hehe.

Smooshie We have a nervy rescue dog who'd never been around children. We love her and wouldn't be without her, but she's taken some work and I take zero chances; even if I nip to the loo she is shut in another room for a few minutes. I'd make your concern clear but if the dog is obedient and is kept a distance from the baby with all parties aware they are not to get close, you shouldn't have an issue. Always keep baby higher than dog too, not on floor or in bouncer - pack hierarchy thing. How long will you be there for?

CJ He was fine before the antibiotics; constipation but that's obviously more common on formula. I have GORD so he maybe would have developed it anyway though. He's much better now, a happy smiley boy again, but has become very clingy :/ Only wants to sleep upright on me. Not getting much done, but thank goodness for slings.

We're forking out for the removal company to pack up for us. Am so excited, our first family house!

Tatty Thank you - am trying, and meds definitely helping, but mostly I think people are judging me and I'm failing him. Rationally I know he's thriving but can't shake the feeling I'm letting him down all the time. It's difficult to explain. I was moderate on the Edinburgh scale. I've had cyclical bouts of depression lasting a few months at a time since my late teens, so knew I may have problems, and DP has clinical depression. So no messing with mental health in this house, went to docs as soon as HV & DP expressed concern. Sorry you suffered so badly; it's wildly debilitating though you look fine so people don't get it.

Thanks moose, yellow, excited, mrs, slide* for your advice. He's a lovely dog but really can't be trusted - he's very territorial. Normally if we pop over he's put upstairs but that's normally for an hour and he constantly howls. I'll speak to my mum about it as we are there for 3 days.

Me Had childbirth & attacks within a couple of weeks; would take the labour every time. It's just excruciating isn't it? Was terrifying the first time, didn't know what was happening & carted back to hospital in ambulance with baby in car seat. when allowed home was happening most nights, then gradually got further apart. Now under control but I've cut most fat from my diet. So unfair, only just got my beloved brie back & have to forego again. Waiting for date to have gall bladder out.

slide it's good you're taking it seriously. I would have thought feeling like you're failing your baby would be a pretty inevitable symptom, but that's manifestly all it is. Personally, I always found that recognising my thoughts as being part of the illness was quite helpful, because although it didn't stop them it meant I didn't also have to add the next level of misery by worrying about whether they were true, whether they were real, whether I was making the whole thing up etc. I could just go, well, this sucks, and then try and weather it out. Also drugs. And then one day you feel normal again.

Has anyone used the calpol vapour plug ins? It says 3m+ and ds is 10 weeks tomorrow but thinking we need something to take to the inlaws over xmas as dont want to take our humidifier as already feel like im taking the world!

Wonder I started using them when DS was around 10 - 11 weeks. They are pretty good & cleared my nose a little too, nice benefit. They would be fine just crack the door a little if you are worried the vapour will be too strong.
I have ours plugged beside door & baby on other side of room.

Moose I'm sure some folk will rave about them but we've always found you can't beat baby olbas on a muslin in the cot.

Cool thanks guys

In other news im literally about to kill dh.
Let him sleep from 9-11.30pm as he was 'feeling a bit funny'. Hes been completely incompetent since! Keeps picking ds up to put him in his cot and banging his feet so waking him up after ive spent hours trying to get him to sleep, then he lets me fall asleep in bed feeding him and falls asleep himself so weve all been asleep for 2 hrs!!
I dont mind co sleeping if its just me and ds and i can move away from him a little but when dh is in bed i end up stuck on my side in a contorted position so now my neck/spine/hips are in agony and theres no chance of getting ds back to sleep! But yet dh still thinks its ok to moan about being tired!
Argh i just really want to slap him at the moment!!

Slide sorry to hear you've had such a hard time, but good that's you've been so proactive about treatment. Sending you lots of positive thoughts.
Wonder in laws are a breed apart, I hope they manage to accommodate your outrageous request of ready salted crisps
Smooshie I never leave DD alone with our cat as I don't trust him. MIL is ridiculous about her dog, asked her to leave him in other room while baby in chair during dinner. Apparently he got lonely/jealous so let him in so I had to pick baby up off the floor and leave the room. Grrr! Do what you think is best, but ask everyone to be extra vigilant with animals. Let me know how you get on.
We're at my grandparents and DD has loved all the attention, I've got a cold and really hope she doesn't get it too bad this time

After a week of the baby sleeping five or six hours her first chunk she's back to waking every three. I am awash with self pity. Oh oh oh poor me.

In other news, some people have just moved in a few doors down who have a 16 week old baby. I've invited them round for tea and they're coming on Monday. I have visions if them being our new best friends- imagine the fun we can have! But it'll probably be really awkward and they'll think we're really weird, not helped by the fact oh has vowed not to trim his beard till the new year so he looks deranged.

I can't believe after the talk of gallbladders yesterday I had an attack last night was in so much pain and didn't get to sleep until 2am I has choc pudding and cream last night so I think that triggered it. Took codydramol and ibuprofen but they didn't have any effect, I still have a dull ache in ruq area I hope it doesn't come back.

Oh my we just had the best nights sleep ever! 8 straight hours!! We had a day of him not sleeping much in the day and we struggled to get him down for his evening nap. We went up to bed at 10:30 so I changed his nappy....still asleep....popped him on the bed before I fed him ..still asleep. He fed whilst asleep, I pooped him in the side crib after he finished around 11 and after a few stirs at around 5ish we thought he was ready for his next feed but the little wonder kept sleeping til 7!! Amazing!!!

That's great MrsB! Really good night here as well. 11-5 then 6-8, very good for us!

My baby is teasing me, she is sleeping right through some nights and others waking up for a 3am feed that she doesn't finish

Kirstie sounds like your workmate is very i dealt with someone like that in my first pregnancy who was quite close to me.. Very awkward

for you slide you have not had it easy, hope everything is looking up from now on?

Hope you feel better me ?

Hope you all have a lovely weekend? Dd1 is with mil tonight so me and dp are wrapping her presents I'm getting so excited now about seeing her wee face on christmas morning (",)

Last night Pip spent the whole night in her own crib - yay! Still only a foot away from me, and she woke up after an hour and a half, and again three hours later, but then slept from 4 until almost 9, so I don't mind too much. More it was about getting her out of my bed cos after a week of being a bit precious about her own bed, I could see she was getting a bit comfy. No doubt about it though, she sleeps better in my bed (and I sort of sleep better when she's in with me too.)

Just come back from a day out at our local farm. Went to see Father Christmas with all the kids. We sat on hay bails and listen to a choir sing carols while the children played with the donkeys and goats and held the smaller animals. It was so lovely one of those I wish I could freeze this moment. I must admit had a small tear in my eye during silent night! I'm blaming my hormones still

I need help! I am loosing the plot. My DS WILL NOT SLEEP at all during the day for longer than 20 mins or so & that has to be on the move. He is 13 weeks old & is the worst sleeper. He won't even sleep on me for longer than 20 mins. Today I fed him & we went out in the car to try & get him to sleep - no joy. I swaddled him this afternoon & bounced him in his hammock for 1/2 hr, he went to sleep & woke up 20 mins later!
As a consequence he won't lie on the floor and play & just wants held constantly. He is so fractious and grumpy. I am a broken person, was in tears most of day.
My poor DD is finding it all so tough too!
He is on reflux meds - 10mg Losec & I'm not sure if he is uncomfortable from silent reflux or something else? CMPI?? Hunger?? He is a huge guy and has gone from 50th centile (nearly 4 weeks early) to 91st centile & counting. I am EBFing & it is tiring! He feeds every 1 1/2 - 2hours & doesn't sleep, I'm not sure what to do?
Sorry for indulgent post but I've lost it a little today, I just want to step off the merry-go-round for a minute. :(