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The 10th Gemini bus - 2nd Christmas stop

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peardrop2 · 10/12/2014 20:45

I'm so lucky to continue to have you ladies to chat to Wine Let's all have a merry Christmas and an even happier 2015! Smile

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peardrop2 · 19/01/2015 18:02

Omg I'm having kittens Shock Realised after Christmas that I had stopped looking at nurseries (in total denial about the whole thing) so starting to ring round again and one of the nurseries on our top 3 list have said they don't have spaces next because the 2 year old class is already full. Omg!! Total panic!! And there was me laughing last year saying that this waiting list talk was complete nonsense Hmm

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bringonthetrumpets · 19/01/2015 22:56

Aww sorry to hear about AF, pear Sad That really stinks. And the nursery! Damn, I hate when that happens. Hopefully the others that you liked will be available! Are you thinking of going back to work or just having bpear go a couple of times per week for you-time?

That's so interesting about orange-coloured foods, frus. I'd never heard that before. And no worries, she's not getting outside at all. She was a stray so we have made it a point to not let her outside as she may take off. Although DH said this morning that we should just find a Tom to shut her up (although he somehow missed the whole... then we have a pregnant-cat-to-take-care-of-with-a-bajillion-kittens, point). Hmm We had full intentions to get her fixed ASAP (which costs $300! Geeeeez!) and then our furnace (ie boiler, except different working mechanisms) went out last night and now we'll have to wait until the next pay check and just put up with this stupid yowling and following everyone around with her butt up in the air until she's over it. Yuck. Cat vagina in everyone face right now.

peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 03:08

Thanks bring. To top it all off it feels like the worst AF cramps ever too. So bad that I can't sleep which is v unusual for me. I'm not taking any painkillers because a tiny part of my silly brain is asking whether it is implantation bleeding as things haven't fully kicked off yet Hmm You poor things with the cat Shock You're very good not to put it in a shelter...I can't say I would be that tolerant Blush My sister is now not talking to me. I really wish she hadn't offered to babysit, this is not how I wanted to start the year...more family tension to deal with Hmm

Frus ~ Hope you're having a good nights sleep to help that back of yours! I don't think I could have humanly managed to take down bunk beds on my own...impressive!

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 03:19

Bring ~ forgot to say that we had planned to send him to nursery once he turns 3yrs and 3 months to help him get used to being without me and in a learning environment with other children before he starts school at 4yrs. I think I'm the only mum I know who doesn't want to let my baby go as "me" time is the last thing on my mind Blush I would be quite happy for him to stay at home until he starts school but I really think that transition from home to 5 day schooling at such a young age would be too much. I'm trying to think what will be best for him. After talking with DH tonight we're starting to think further afield and will maybe have to find a nursery that is not local if it comes to it. Not at all what we had in mind but it's a thought. I don't plan to go back to work until DC2 is in nursery if we can help it. We're sort of living year by year on the matter, nothing is set in stone as yet.

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bringonthetrumpets · 20/01/2015 14:49

This is another really interesting difference between the countries- school age starting. They don't do nursery here, they just start straight away into Kindergarten. They do, however, just toss them straight in. In the state I live in they are doing all-day, every-day K (with the option for parents to do half-day, but you have to set it up separately). When I was little it was only half-days everyday. With that said, I still think that some kind of school-type socialization with mum being away for a bit is a really great thing for kids. I didn't have it at all when I was little as mum stayed home with us full-time and I didn't do any preschool and Kindergarten was so blooming hard for me. I remember just feeling so confused and not knowing what to do without my mum there. It took a long time to adjust. Obviously not all kids are the same and some just jump into it... but I remember it being my experience. Do you think that it may be different for BFrus because of a new school area?

How are the cramps/spotting going pear? Any hope?

Good grief, that sis of yours needs to take a chill pill! Find something worth actually getting offended over (ie, world peace, or ISIS, or I don't know, something important in the world!). Sorry to hear about the tension. Unfortunately, I do know exactly how it feels. Haven't spoken to my mum in a couple of months. She doesn't even know about what happened on Christmas or the fact that my husband is in AA. that's what moving 2,000 miles away will do!

Well, off to call the vet for some major cat surgery (thank goodness for credit cards) and to get my sister's enormous hairy cat groomed. FUN days ahead, you guys!

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 16:23

I've dosed up on paracetamol and AF is well on her way now. Feeling slightly more human TG! Don't know why I've suddenly started having the worst AF ever...bizarre!

Frus ~ I am so confused about schooling. If legally Dcs don't have to be in school until the term after they turn 5, why don't all the summer babies just start in September after they turn 5....what's the big deal that I'm missing? My friends child who is a March baby (currently 4) will start in September 2015 so she will be 5 and 5 months. Surely Bpear who is a May baby should start when he is 5 and 3 months? I've really got myself confused over all this Shock

Other news...I have now made appointments to see 2 nurseries next week that are a 15-20 min drive so not ideal but doable.

Bring ~ I too had a terrible time adjusting to my pre-school attached to my primary school which is why I'm very keen to try and help bpear learn to be independent sooner since he has nobody else in his life and is very clingy unlike his friends who already go to nursery. My mum now says she wishes she had taken me to more playgroups to help me be around other children but I don't think that would have helped. I just really really missed her and like you didn't understand Sad So, I think a homely nursery 2 mornings a week will be very helpful to bpear long term.

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 16:41

Oh and bring. I totally agree...my sister needs to get a life ConfusedHmm This is what she does though. It can take weeks before she makes contact again. My punishment!! I sometimes enjoy the peace Wink

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 16:42

Once I'm pregnant and announce it she will ditch me anyway...like she did last time Sad

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bringonthetrumpets · 20/01/2015 19:33

LOL, thanks for that frus! Now I am totally and completely confused on the whole school thing over there.

I would LOVE to shave this cat. But my sister will kill me if I do. She keeps telling me that I'm not allowed to shave the cat (even though I've never made any mention of doing so!). And good ol'Paisley is getting big fun, fat, surgery on Thursday. Hallelujah! No more cat porn in our house.

peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 19:39

Frus thanks for taking the time to explain. I kind of get it now. So all the kids who start at 5 go straight into reception so if I delayed bpear they would have all made friends and settled by the time they reach year 1. So, do we need to apply for a school place the September when our children are 3? In theory isn't reception a bit like pre-school then? Maybe my mum only sent me to reception which is perhaps why I struggled as I am a May baby too.

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 19:43

Why don't we all just send our kids to nursery until they're 5. Wouldn't that make more sense? I'm thinking that I will request for bpear to do half days but I've also heard that has its disadvantages as they do all the fun stuff in the afternoon. I guess I'll have a clearer picture nearer the time. Oh and I've muddled myself over my friends daughter. She turns 4 in March. So she will be 4 and 5 months when she starts school. It will be a close gap to bpear but she's a girl so she will probably cope with it differently anyway.

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Lorelei353 · 20/01/2015 20:04

The rigidity of the whole starting school thing here drives me a bit mad. In Ireland you choose yourself when you want them to start so if you have a summer born you can send them when they're four or five depending on how you feel or what the child is like. In fact one schools my friend was going to send herded to wouldn't take her because last Sept because the turned five in Dec and they considered her too young.

Sorry to hear about AF Pear. And thanks for explaining school system Frus. I do find it so confusing as it's so unfamiliar to me!

Bring how is your DH getting on in AA?

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peardrop2 · 20/01/2015 23:15

Ah Frus ~ you're a genius at explaining this! Thank you Smile Where is this lovely rural school your dd is going to...I want to sign bpear up...sounds lovely Smile

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kittykatsforever · 21/01/2015 12:05

Ha ha great explaining frus!
Your school choices have to be in by the jan before they go, I should know we've just applied for tigers! You will know all about it pear come the time, itl be all you talk about! Wink
The other option re nursery/ pre school you are discussing as to putting b pear in I think is a good idea but if you are waiting till he's 3 and your getting the free school hours it may be worth putting him in the pre school attached to the school you want him to go to anyway? That way he's getting used to the environment and possibly meeting friends who will end up going to the same school, our problem now is non of tigers friends will be in her school or her best friends anyway as our nursery has people from such a wide area on reputation and we didn't move he'd as she's been there since she was 1 but if I was only starting her at 3 I'd be going for the school attached choice.
Booo to af
Oh and on the party front I've never done expensive ones but tiger is allowed to go to any that she can, I'll do anything to get out of the house so the more the merrier Grin only problem is kittens thinks she's officially invited to and is having non of the "there's not a food plate for you business" she demands her spot at the table and all the food Blush most of the party's we've been to are the fruit and breadsticks kind, with the exception of just crisps usually and a cake, mine clearly have a much worse diet then all the other bus babies lol

AGnu · 21/01/2015 14:03

Technically, legally they don't have to start school at all... Wink

kitty It seems crazy that you've been applying for schools for Tiger - in my head she's basically the same age as Calf & we'd not have to apply for school for him until next year, if we were sending him!

Just in case the HE thing doesn't work out - it sounds infinitely nicer than our local schools. DH would have a bit of a commute though! Grin

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kittykatsforever · 21/01/2015 14:40

I know Agnu, it's mental isn't it, that one day and she's in a whole different year!