September 2014 Babies leave the newborn stage behind. Thread 2

[SeptemberBabies]

New thread because our initial thread is about to max out.

For babies born around September 2014 - or just before for early arrivals and just after for late arrivals.

KitKat We put ds to bed around 8pm, he's usually still awake and falls asleep on his own within half an hour (most of the times) just with couple of visits by me to stroke his head, put dummy back or to turn on cot mobile when he can't settle.

It's been working for us like that since we started bedtime routine.

Oh,forgot to add. It depends a lot when your lo has last nap before bedtime. If my ds falls asleep at 6pm and sleeps till bath time at 7pm, there's no way he'll want to sleep again at 8pm. Also sometimes he gets hungry before 6pm and can't wait after bath,so then he's awake for couple of hours until his next feed as he can't sleep when not full but doesn't want even little bit of milk.

Eli has begun to start a routine by himself I have had done nothing to help this. It goes roughly wake up 7.30-8.00am have milk awake for 1hr to 2hrs. Sleep between 9.00 - 11.00 always on me can't get him to stay asleep anywhere else. Another milk between 11.00-12. Wake for 30 mins- 1hr may doze but not much. Fall into a deep sleep at 3.00-6.30/7.00. Can some times be put down. Another feed at 7.30/8.00 another feed at 9.30/10.00. Awake all this time refusal to go to sleep till 10.30 -11.00. Sleep till 3.30-4am take small bottle.

On how can I swap the deep sleep he is having at 3.00 onwards to 7.30. So he goes to bed at a good time?

He is 3 months but 6 weeks adjusted!

Emily sleeps downstairs with us until she starts stirring between 8.30 & 9.30 then we take her up for her bath then bottle, she goes in her bed but is often awake for a bit while we potter around getting ready for bed (DH gets up at 5 for work so we've always been early to bed in the week), she's normally asleep before we get into bed and then wakes between 4 & 5 for a 7 oz bottle then goes back to sleep till about 8, if we are having a lazy day I can eke that out till 9 by bringing her in bed with me when she stirs.

So quite a late 'bedtime' as it were, but she has a sleep downstairs normally from about 7-9 so it's just that her bath is in a different gap between naps. She is one of the youngest on the thread at 7 weeks so we aren't really seeing a proper routine yet like some of you.

misog We're 7 weeks as well. Actually 7 weeks 2 days lol. We have some routine already 2 weeks, but don't push it. Just kind of trying if it suits asnd so far does. Always depends on ds.

We have bath around 7pm,then feed,stories,put down with cot mobile around 8pm,8.30-9pm falls asleep. Sleeps till 1-2am,feed,sleeps from 2-3am till 5.30-6.30am. Then it's usually hard to settle him back to sleep and I take him to bed with us for a while. Through the day there's not so much routine but roughly he has a feeds and naps around similar time every day. He doesn't sleep very long through the day anymore. More like having 30mins to 1,5 hour naps max.

A tends to go to bed in his cot between 10-11 and sleeps till 5-6. Has a bottle then goes back down till 9ish. Generally then is every 4 hours between feeds with light napping in between unless we go out on the pram where he sleeps better (and it generally doesn't affect the above too much).

I should say he rarely sleeps between 6 and bed time in the evening preferring to play with dh and stop us eating tea together

we do feed at about 6pm then bath then bed after quiet time and stories. b usually asleep by 7.45ish. Feeds 11.30ish then either 1,3,5 or (I prefer this( 3, 5.30. after 5.30 feed I stay up. if I can I put him back down in crib or in cocoonababy in our bed whilst I take prep machine and steriliser down and swap water etc. then dress him and we have a play whilst dh has breakfast. feeds in day moveable but 8.30, 11.30, 3 ish!!!

Oh God I can't cope anymore. After 4 hours trying to settle Jessica to sleep, I've just walked away in the hope she may cry herself to sleep. It's been half an hour now and she's hysterical up there and I don't know what to do. Nothing is working. She's been fed, changed, etc numerous times, hundreds of cuddles, white noise, etc etc and nothing is settling her, and she's often getting hysterical (through tiredness I think and just screaming). Last night she was the same. I eventually relented and let her co-sleep with me on the sofa but DH thinks this is making her worse, and the more I'm letting her do this the harder it's making it for us to settle her in her moses basket (and truth be told, I don't want to start this as a habit and still be doing it in several months time). I'm beyond exhausted and completely fed up and starting to think I'm not cut out for this.

Oh, and she doesn't have a temperature or anything. Am wondering though if it's linked to her jabs on Monday as she was actually getting better at nights before she had those. Can babies get mega grumpy after vaccinations? I have no idea. I'm bloody useless and have no idea what I'm doing.

holls when you say swap water do you mean you change the water in the prep machine daily?

DS just slept for 5 1/2 hours which is unheard of andhe only woke because I tried to change his blanket as I had a panic about him being too hot. Our bedroom has been a little cooler all week so I had a thicker blanker on him. Im now wondering if I was being pfb or and should have enjoyed the sleep! I get so worked up about temperatures, tummy time etc.....

Excuse typos!

holls Eli was very unsettled for days after his injections although he only had a temp the first evening. I gave him calpol to help settle him. It took about a week for him to go back to "normal"

hope u r ok kitkat & she eventually went to sleep. pleaee don't be upset with urself, u r doing a difficult job really well and sometimes little babies can just be nobbers!! she was probably overtired, & it is so hard to settle them when they get like this. it is good to be thinking about avoiding bad habits, but it is still such early days and in desperate situations, it is ok to just do whatever works. I am currently trying to get ds to sleep on bouncy chair as feeding, cuddling and cosleeping have all failed. bouncy chair not ideal, but needs must. I used to worry about getting into bad habits of feeding dd1 to sleep, but as she got older, I couldn't have done that even if I had wanted to

kitkat Im dreading the vaccinations for this reason. DS wouldnt settle/sleep on Tues night, we were pulling our hair out but eventually he had a poo (lots of straining), downed a bottle then burped and passed out - typical man! He just had a bad belly all along. Dont feel bad , this is bloody hard x

Kit kat hope you are ok. Barney had a few dreadful nights and HV suggested he was finding it restrictive, so we bought a crib from kiddo are - he is pretty much back to his pre dreadful nights/clock change routine, and sleeps with his arms through the slats. I struggle to get him back down after thus feed and often he falls asleep on me...anything for an easy life at the mo. When he is 18 and still needs snuggling to sleep I will regret it :-)

We are now on the comfort milk. Despite taking bigger feeds he hasn't had a sleep through yet. AND ITS FOR SODDING CONSTIPATION AND HE IS YET TO HAVE A SODDING POO. The colic does seem better, touch wood, and his wind is still there but gentler. Just no poo. I am becoming obsessed by poo.

Polka no, I meant changing steriliser water. However I am getting dreadfully sore hands from it so may need to buy an electric one.

We started off cold sterilising but it was bleaching clothes if it splashed and I didnt fancy DS ingesting that. We bought ab avent steam steriliser second hand and its great.

DS struggled with constipation on comfort formula and in the HVs advice we gave one diluted feed a day (1 less scoop of formula). Now he is constipated due to gaviscon!

Also, we havent been to baby massage yet but youtube the 'I love you' technique. I do a variation of it to help him sometimes.

Sorry my early post was for kitkat not holls I blame the baby!

Eli suffers constipation, not that it is ever particularly hard but he definitely struggles to go :( Dr put him on lactolose. !

Yup done the I love you and..drum roll please.......WE HAVE POO!

I am considering electric steriliser. Hands agony and if it's doing that to my tough hands what's it doing to his tummy?!?! Dr browns doesn't get great reviews on amazon though...and once I open it isn't that them unsterilised again? Or am I being a bit thick?

Once you open you are meant to use straight away! What I do is, sterilise 4 and then put them together and store. If i did it when needed I would most likely forget and Eli would be screaming for a bottle as it takes 45 minutes to cool after a cycle. Also it does stay sterile for 24hrs if you don't take the lid off!

I use a mixture of Dr Brown's and nuby.

Glad he pooped :)

If your microwave is a decent size, the Tommie tippee microwave steamer is cracking. It only just fits in ours though.

Feeling a bit better this morning after a melt down at 10pm. DH had been out for the evening, and by the time he got in I just cracked. He took over and talked a bit of sense into me. The last few days he's been massively busy so I've not seen much of him (away overnight on Saturday, busy most of Sunday, out on Monday night and last night plus normal work). I also think I'm not getting enough sleep at the moment. As crazy as it sounds I felt better when DS was waking through the night than since he's started sleeping through. I actually think I'm getting less sleep too, because of where my pumps fit in with him and sleep.

I don't think I can face trying breast feeding again after last time. I've done as much as I can. The prospect of going through the stress of a support group and trying to get him to improve his latch again so he doesn't shred me is too much. It nearly sent me over the edge last time, and its the last thing I need right now. As much as the expressing is stressful it does allow DH to take a turn.

I always let DS fall asleep on me, it's my understanding that they can't get into bad habits at this age and tbh I'll do anything to help him sleep! He went through a phase recently of only sleeping on me but is now sleeping in his basket again for 2 hours a night

No jag reactions here and it's been a week but I think it can make a lot of babies grumpy and irritable.

He's one for your amusement.

DH has a colleague who is about to have a baby.

He has told DH that the baby will be sleeping in his own room from day one so that it "doesn't get any bad habits".

DH is currently pissing himself laughing.

Lol red, make sure you let us know how that one works out! Surprised the mother is even entertaining the idea!