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June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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BeanCalledPickle · 15/08/2014 08:36

New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

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Mrs81 · 11/03/2015 14:57

Cool. Definitely Smile

Beats camping in a tent surely??

SunnyL · 11/03/2015 22:12

Immensely cool Sunbeam. A camper van is my 5 year plan! Only way i reckon we'll be able to do any skiing when the kids are older Wink

Sunbeam18 · 11/03/2015 22:36

I'm on a countdown to the day when the boy is old enough to start ski lessons, Sunny!

SunnyL · 12/03/2015 07:50

See you at Hillend then Sunbeam? I started lessons at 4 Grin

Sunbeam18 · 12/03/2015 12:52

Definitely, Sunny!! Wish I had learnt at 4 instead of early 30s! The boy will !!!

PeekABooPinky101 · 13/03/2015 19:20

Found you - but with my new name - I was a very pink bear!

Will catch up soon. Hope everyone is well

Mrs81 · 17/03/2015 11:02

If anyone needs a giggle today, I can thoroughly recommend the 'wish you were two' thread in Chat. It's hilarious. And spot on Grin

Mrs81 · 17/03/2015 11:05

here

SunnyL · 17/03/2015 21:25

Oh my - that thread if fabulous. Ive just laughed out loud and read bits of it to DH.

We spent 20 happy minutes on Saturday morning watching a lorry deliver a skip across the road from us. Never have I ever taken such interest in a skip lorry but she was right - it was great Grin

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BeanCalledPickle · 21/03/2015 08:02

so have all yours got their teeth yet? Polly has two canines and four molars to go. Was really hoping to knock through all teeth before second child arrives but no such luck!

I do not recommend being 33 weeks pregnant with a sick husband, chronic insomnia and a child tearing the place up. This week has been utter hell! You totally forget how awful late pregnancy is. I've been waking up at two and struggling to get back to sleep, going to work on just a few hours sleep. Horrendous!

DH normally steps in but he's been really poorly too; he went to the corner shop on the way home from dropping polly at nursery. He hadn't washed his hair or shaved for a few days and he normally channels Dave Grohl at the best of times so was looking quite dishevelled. The guy saw him looking for cough sweets and asked him if he wanted the beer shutters opened! At 8am! So clearly they thought he was some manner of tramp looking for an 8am special brew.

I am such a lucky girl.

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cuphat · 21/03/2015 08:11

DD has four molars and three canines left to come through. She had no teeth until 12 months, then loads came through at once and she was stuck on 12 teeth for months until last week.

Sorry you've been having a bad time bean.

I'm 30 weeks now and want time to slow down. Have got lots I want to do before baby arrives.

cuphat · 21/03/2015 08:12

I still can't believe how we'll have had both of our babies within weeks of each other, bean.

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BeanCalledPickle · 21/03/2015 09:56

I'm actually surprised there arent more of us! Two years ish seems to be a popular age gap!

Last thing I'm wanting is time to go slower. Really want to get it out the way. Miss being able to do stuff with polly. I have five days on my own with her pre baby and while I'd quite like to try and enjoy our last days as just us it's really hard to know what to do with her!

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Sunbeam18 · 21/03/2015 12:32

Loved the beer shutters anecdote, Bean!!

HungryHorace · 21/03/2015 13:51

Same as cuphat here, 3 canines and 4 molars left to go after 3 came in 3 weeks. She's still crying in her sleep so I think there's more imminent.

I'm quite surprised as well, Bean. Only 4 additional babies / pregnancies since the first lot (that we know of).

I have to admit than I'm glad I have the small age gap as at least DD was more or less immobile (and at least compliant!) while I was pregnant with DS. It's manic now, but I couldn't have coped with DD now and being pregnant. I feel for you, Bean.

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BeanCalledPickle · 21/03/2015 14:03

Yes I can see a tiny age gap would actually help in that respect! Though the good sleeping etc is helpful at this point. Work has been the killer as well. It's so full on I tend to bring it home a lot.

Who is the fourth? You, me and Cuphat and who else? Though I know sunny has ideations in that direction:-)

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HungryHorace · 21/03/2015 14:32

I forget her new name...Little Pea Pods? I may have just totally made it up!

And yes, DD wasn't a great sleeper til I was 5 months' pregnant and had pregnancy insomnia. I've not slept well since before she was born!

I was glad I was on secondment during my last pregnancy as it was nice and easy. Stressful work is awful when you're pregnant. :-(

SunnyL · 22/03/2015 06:55

If i had won the lottery I'd be bare feet and pregnant by now. Sadly we're holding off til I've saved up enough for mat leave. I only get statutory pay which doesn't cover the mortgage. They keep talking about reviewing the maternity pay at work - bet that doesn't happen until our female financial director plans to have a baby which I reckon will be next year.

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BeanCalledPickle · 22/03/2015 08:39

Could you offer to lead a working group tasked with designing a package?! I don't know how people survive on statutory. Tis nothing! I'm off work only for the time I am paid this time, which with annual leave takes me to the new year. I had too long off last time and was bored.

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Mrs81 · 22/03/2015 11:32

I only got smp too. It's not a lot. Now I'm in a different job and it would be better but my contract isn't permanent at the moment and I am wary of arsing up a brilliant and rare opportunity to develop my work in that area.

Life is complicated sometimes!

That aside, I doubt we'd be ready for another baby now anyway. I'm jolly proud of how ds is turning out and we're enjoying it/him but the reality of diddlysquat support from any family means that we need to feel very ready to embark on the baby thing again! I don't mean that to sound brattish...we didn't expect support, it makes me sad for ds and our parents more than anything else. I would love for ds to recognise his grandparents soon but that seems unlikely Sad

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BeanCalledPickle · 22/03/2015 11:52

I feel a bit like that. We don't have anyone to help. My mum is seventy and will watch but absolutely won't help. If I call her she's two hours away and just wants to chat on arrival. No nappies etc. DHs parents are also elderly, hours away and wouldn't be much help. I don't have many friends locally, as is the way in London. I'm quite proud of managing so far but in the absence of a medal I would rather have the help!

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Mrs81 · 22/03/2015 12:04

In lieu of a medal (and who wants one for parenting their own child?): Brew & Biscuit Bean.

My parents aren't that old but are too far away and/or it simply wouldn't occur to them to change a nappy/ever make their own cup of tea, etc. Which is fine but it always slightly puzzles me as they got a lot of help when I was a baby. PIL are in their 70s and so it's different for them anyway.

Part of our diffculty is almost all our friends with young children have very regular family support and as such have a different experience. Of course you need to be careful what you wish for! So whilst it's tiring sometimes, we have nobody trying to instil weird old fashioned routines into ds and he really is a product of us Grin

HungryHorace · 22/03/2015 12:19

SMP only here too. Amazingly crap (and the reason I went back when DS was 5.5 months' old as we were utterly broke by that point!).

We get some help from DH's family (though DS has only ever been cared for by us). We probably could have more, but I'd rather not be beholden to anyone! My parents are too far away and wouldn't / couldn't do it anyway, even if they weren't.

cuphat · 22/03/2015 14:24

We live away from family too. My family rarely even visit Sad (we are a close family, but distance and other commitments get in the way). When we visit them they don't help with DD. We feel proud that we've managed without help so far but help every once in a while would have been very welcome! After living abroad for years DH's family have moved back to the UK and closer temporarily so we should have some support once this baby arrives.

No maternity pay at all for me this time. So DH's promotion came at a good time! I was lucky to get six months full pay last time.

SunnyL · 22/03/2015 17:15

We made the mistake last time of getting pregnant as soon as we started trying which was the week we moved into our new house. This meant the mortgage was still v high and i hadn't yet saved up enough for mat leave hence me going back to work at 7 months. This time I want the full 9 months off and if we're canny DH might get to take a month or 2 off.

Like you Bean i got a bit bored on mat leave but then i did more kit days than i was meant to relieve that boredom which just so coincided with the hell that was month 4 of no sleeping so this time work can shove it!