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June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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BeanCalledPickle · 15/08/2014 08:36

New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

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BeanCalledPickle · 22/03/2015 20:24

Kind of depressing that so many people do this without help. Though when I read the threads about people descending en mass I do think I wouldn't cope well with that! I like company but not overnight endless company!

Cuphat what will you do with your daughter- I can't remember her name!! When you are having the baby? Polly will hopefully be in nursery the Friday, and then we are paying her babysitter for the whole of Saturday or until I'm home and then somehow making do from then on if I'm not. I just don't know what we'd do if it's longer. Well I would just be on my own I guess. A friend had elective section last Wednesday and she's still in, with a baby that is jaundiced and won't feed. That's a long time to be alone! I don't really want polly in the hospital. She will just be scared and also will be a terror!!

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cuphat · 22/03/2015 23:00

We are very very lucky as DH's parents will be staying in the area at the time and have offered to have DD. The timing of them moving back to the UK couldn't have been better and as they have now retired they have the flexibility to be able to travel around and help (they haven't put down roots yet - they sold up before they left). They didn't even get to see DD until over a month after she was born. I dread to think what would have happened otherwise as there's no way my family would have been able to help. Although, one of the lovely ladies who runs the local tots group asked what we were going to do a few weeks ago - she was going to offer to help. Can't even put into words how that made me feel. I'm hoping for a 24 hr discharge but you don't know what's going to happen, do you?

I would hate to be alone in hospital during the day, and I'm someone who's happy in my own company (never got bored on mat leave - reading for much of the day every day was bliss!). I found the nights awful, there's no way I could do it day and night and stay sane. But when I say I'd hate to be alone I mean I'd hate to be without DH; I'd quite happily have no other visitors other that DD (DH was my only visitor last time).

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BeanCalledPickle · 23/03/2015 07:14

Absolutely. You need a plan that covers everything and then hopefully you won't need it. I want to go within 24 hours as well but get that it's not just about me!

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BeanCalledPickle · 23/03/2015 09:20

You should get that woman's number though. If things were to kick off randomly in the middle of the night at 34 weeks it's good to have a back up plan!

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cuphat · 23/03/2015 11:33

That's a good point actually. One of my friends was due to have an ELCS and her parents were supposed to have her child but couldn't due to illness! She didn't have the ELCS as planned and ended up with a natural delivery a week later (she had just picked the ELCS through choice). And it was a horror story.

I've a feeling I might go early, actually. And baby has been transverse which isn't good.

I've been to the lady's house at least as she did a summer group session there (so would I if I had acres of land and a swimming pool! Envy Grin ).

Can your childminder be flexible if required and do extra/ different days?

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BeanCalledPickle · 23/03/2015 12:19

Don't have a childminder, have nursery! The girls there will babysit for us but they can't drop Her off or pick her up etc. I have two local friends who will be my in an emergency contacts. At least polly knows them so it minimises any trauma. I'm thinking that if it starts early then I won't be an emergency as such and we will probably have time to get things sorted. It's the middle of the night major drama thing we would struggle to deal with. Push comes to absolute shove our neighbours are ok and could probably help. Or I will be on my own. It wouldn't be the end of the world I guess! Our Nct woman said that in those circumstances ask for a student midwife who would stay with you throughout.

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cuphat · 23/03/2015 12:33

Sorry, I meant the babysitter that you mentioned before. Fingers crossed it all works out ok. Actually I do have friends who have said if I ever need help that they would be there, and I know that they would be but I don't think I would take them up on it unless it was an absolute emergency.

SunnyL · 25/03/2015 07:31

Ach if you were in Edinburgh I'd offer to help Smile

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BeanCalledPickle · 26/03/2015 06:50

It will be fine! I'm pretty sure I'm not the first person ever to have two. There will be a way! Next door but one are a nice Christian couple who are always very sweet to us and polly. Revkon if we banged on their door in the middle of the night they'd be ok. I'd do it for them!

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Mrs81 · 28/03/2015 07:10

I spent yesterday looking after 3 children (6, 4 & 1). It was exhausting! Quite how people manage that on a regular basis is utterly beyond me. But the age gaps between the three of them would be quite normal if you had 3 of your own Confused

DS was clearly exhausted by it too as he is still snoozing (unheard of for him to sleep past 7am!!) Grin

SunnyL · 28/03/2015 20:14

DH broke my child. I went away with work for 4 days last week and she slept in his bed 2 nights and the 3rd she fell asleep in his arms on the sofa. Now the little rat bag won't go to sleep in her own bed without lots of howling.

He's in trouble Angry

HungryHorace · 29/03/2015 14:08

Oh no, Sunny. That's not good. :-/

We've had 2 nights out of 4 with utter hysterical, can't-be-calmed, crying due to DD's bloody lower canines. These teeth are evil. Hope they come soon as she's chewed one of her fingers raw. How bad must it be when mauling your own finger is preferable than dealing with the teething pain? :-( My poor baby.

cuphat · 29/03/2015 15:20

Hope she gets back into her routine soon, Sunny.

Your poor DD, hungry. DD has also been suffering with teething for the last couple of nights, chewing her finger badly. She was inconsolable for a few hours last night before we went to bed. She's also been snuffly at night. I'm really hoping that's due to teething rather than a cold on the way.

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BeanCalledPickle · 29/03/2015 16:20

I think Polly's teeth will be done just as the process starts again! Wouldn't be impressed by that Sunny though I do see the merit in the path of least resistance. A girl I know has her kid in with her EVERY night. She's pregnant and plans to co sleep with both. I always picture Charlie and the Chocolate factory when I think of them all in bed together:-)

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Mrs81 · 29/03/2015 20:34

Did you give DH a clip round the ear Sunny??

Sympathies with teething woes. And I will come and join you...DS has a v v late incisor coming through (but has the teeth either side, ouch). Tonight there has been a lot of grumping from DS Sad

But now I have a glass of wine, and have sat down with Poldark on catch up (gratuitous nonsense that is oddly watchable) and am painting my toenails Smile

HungryHorace · 29/03/2015 21:01

Ah, DS is teething too...not sure which is worse, two doing it together or consecutive teething. Maybe the latter as it goes on longer. Though this way means they tag team with crap sleep.

I don't have the only finger chewer then? Her finger is scabbed and red raw. Ouchy.

cuphat · 29/03/2015 23:02

No, DD does it too. But only at night-time and when she's really suffering (she does a really frantic movement of fingers in mouth). Why is everything worse at night? All the teethers we bought were a waste of time too as she has never used them to bite on!

Mrs81 · 30/03/2015 07:54

I wonder if teething etc is worse at night because there's fewer distractions from it? I can't imagine it actually hurts more?

cuphat · 30/03/2015 08:14

That's the only thing I can think of.

But then again, when I have a cold it is always worse in the evenings too. I used to be constantly stressed at work and when I had leave I'd often come down with a cold straight away. As though relaxing properly let it take over.

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BeanCalledPickle · 30/03/2015 09:14

I can only imagine it's like wisdom tooth pain. That was always worse at night. And painful in a way that nothing made better!

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SunnyL · 30/03/2015 21:19

After 4 nights of whingeing and refusing to sleep anywhere except on me I was beginning to lose the plot. Tonight however her godfather has come to stay for a few days and the rat bag happily went to bed for him after 100 times reading the jolly postman

Guess who has been asked to move in?

Mrs81 · 31/03/2015 11:52

I've not seen that book Sunny but will look out for it...we need some variety!!

DS's nursery is awash with chickenpox. 20-odd were off on Friday with it. I just saw one of the babies from DS's room coming down with it at lunchtime when I picked him up. He is a ticking bomb isn't he?? Confused

SunnyL · 31/03/2015 14:38

Ah yes the Jolly Postman is entertaining but the child has ripped most of the letters and envelopes.

Magically we've managed to dodge chickenpox about 4 times now. 3 times its gone through nursery and once through one of our close friends. Of course it has to happen at some point but I pray that is a week when we're quiet at work Wink

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BeanCalledPickle · 31/03/2015 16:08

Chicken pox vaccine!! Quickly!!

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PeekABooPinky101 · 01/04/2015 17:41

Oh bugger. Thought I posted this morning.... Clearly I didn't. But I have caught up.

Not sure what I was posting is overly important to try and remember, so I'll just say hello all!