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June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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BeanCalledPickle · 15/08/2014 08:36

New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

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HungryHorace · 07/12/2014 17:16

Congratulations! :-)

How do you feel about having another girl?

BeanCalledPickle · 07/12/2014 17:26

Incredibly relieved. I have always had a major hang up about having a boy. It's always made me feel weird. I've done my best to re programme myself but I've never been able to truly get on board with the boy thing. I'm sure I would have done eventually and when I have two teenage girls who hate each other and me I will think back to this moment!

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HungryHorace · 07/12/2014 17:33

Very good news then. :-)

All teenagers hate their parents...but let's hope they get on with each other!

SunnyL · 07/12/2014 22:08

Congrats Bean. I was the opposite - was flipping terrified of having a girl because I never really understood little girls. All my friends when I grew up were boys.

Now I've got a girl though I'm a complete convert. Wink

Olimoss · 08/12/2014 09:03

Good work, Bean! The universe clearly knew it was to bend to your wishes...

cuphat · 08/12/2014 09:51

I'm glad you got what you wanted!

BeanCalledPickle · 08/12/2014 16:56

At least now I don't have to give thought to whether Atticus is too pretentious a name even for North london. Or whether people will think my thirty seconds to Mars obsession is out of control if I called him Jared:-)

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Mrs81 · 09/12/2014 18:16

Congrats on another girl Bean :-)
I remember, pre DS, having a slight preference for a daughter. For no particular reason other than I could get my head round that more easily than having a son and having to understand mystery boy stuff Grin Now that DS is here, I can't imagine anything different to who we have. He's adorable (obviously I'm biased), stupendously cuddly and forever climbing onto my knee with a book to read. He's gentle by nature and is always the toddle at play groups who wants to share toys with whoever will notice!

In other news, his understanding of instruction is clearly fine. Make a rooster noise to him and he scuttles off to find the specific book with a picture of one in it.

Hope everyone is staying warm and dry amidst the grotty weather x

cuphat · 09/12/2014 20:57

Aww that's lovely, Mrs. It's all girls in my family at the moment; my dad in particular is really excited about the prospect of me having a boy so it'll be lovely if I do. Therefore boys are a mystery to me too! I don't have a preference personally, I just want a sibling for DD. My dad is so confident it'll be a boy based on the scan that he's already told my niece it's a boy. I think it is too though. Seeing how close my DH is to his mum has shown me how lovely the relationship with a son can be.

I took DD to be weighed as she's turned 18 months and they did her 18 month check at the same time. She's still on the 91st percentile, as she has been since birth and she passed the checks with flying colours. They got her to look at a book and she named some of the animals and said the noises they make. Then they asked her to point to different body parts and she got those all right. Thank goodness she liked the HV is all I can say; she warmed to her straight away.

Mrs81 · 09/12/2014 21:20

There's an 18m check?? I don't think we get one here. In fact now that I think about it, there hasn't been an official development check since c8 wks. Hmmmm.

Glad DD got on well with hers anyway Cup Smile DS needs to get weighed before Christmas as we have yet another reflux review in the new year. Last time he was just below 9th centile at 9kg. I expect that will be much the same to be honest. I quite appreciate his dinkiness now as he is easier to carry than friends' babies of the same age!

cuphat · 09/12/2014 21:40

Thanks. It's mentioned in our red book. Apparently if I hadn't gone to the clinic they'd have written to arrange a home visit! DD hasn't had a development check since the 8 week one either. Another one (10 mths I think) was mentioned in the red book but when I asked at the time they said they don't do that now.

cuphat · 09/12/2014 21:46

Just checked. The other one mentioned is 8 months. I think some of you had them on here but when I checked, the GP/HV said they didn't do them now.

Mrs81 · 09/12/2014 22:02

Thanks for checking. I guess something will materialise in due course. I don't really mind as we're not unduly concerned about his development anyway. I've had such iffy experiences with our HVs that I tend to just nod and agree to whatever they say and flee weigh ins as quickly as possible! We have a couple of bloody good GPs and I find them infinitely more helpful and supportive.

cuphat · 09/12/2014 22:21

I'm like that too, ever since DD lost weight just after she was born (it took a week for my milk to come in after my c section) and the HV wanted to check her far more than was necessary even though her weight loss was within the normal range and after she'd started to gain. She was 9lb 10 when born so hardly wasting away and I will not be worried about it this time (midwife was great though).

AlohaMama · 10/12/2014 21:56

Hope we don't get an 18 month check any time soon. Based on those questions she would fail :(
Give her a climbing and mischief making test though and she'd pass with flying colours ;)

Mrs81 · 11/12/2014 14:18

We would completely 'fail' too Aloha. Just goes to show how different they all are.

Now, please could someone invent a way of knowing in advance roughly how long ds will nap for? Today's is 2.5hrs and counting. Which is great, but I've spent the last hr+ anticipating a wake up!!

HungryHorace · 13/12/2014 11:53

If you got DD on a good day she'd 'pass'. But if you got her on a miserable day then she'd just run around and ignore you!

cuphat · 13/12/2014 16:23

We were lucky DD liked the HV; if it had been the other one she wouldn't have done anything for her!

As predicted, baby is a boy! Nub theory was right! Very happy. Had a loveky scan experience again. Went out and bought the first outfit, as we did for DD on the day we found out she was a girl.

cuphat · 13/12/2014 16:24

Lovely, rather!

SunnyL · 13/12/2014 19:46

Aw bless. Glad scan went well.

Roughly just how many times do you have to pick up a glove and shove it back on your small persons hand a day? Getting bored of glove wars already and it's only just started getting really cold. Angry

curlyclaz13 · 13/12/2014 19:59

Hi all, just found you. I have been terrible at keeping up. Ds was 18 mo. Yesterday. He is still a rubbish sleeper, 40 minutes today and still rarely sleeps through at night but he is happy and seems healthy. Not seen a Hv since about 11 months as I'm working ft so miss the clinics. Nursery think he's doing fine though, he loves ducks and points them out in books and on tv, there are a lot of ducks on Fox's socks.

pinkbear82 · 14/12/2014 09:41

Sunny I have been forced to do the old elastic thru the cost to at least save only having one mitten by time I notice they are off! And I have to say, once her hands get cold, she does tend to keep them on. But holds her arms so stiff, and refuses to move them at all. According to dd mittens mean stick like arms!

Curly, dd is still a rubbish sleeper at night too! I'm pleased when it's only two wake ups.

Cup magical moments buying those first outfits. Enjoy the rest to come.

I haven't seen a HV for ages with dd, since we moved there was a mix up with them and I keep getting forms to register with the new ones, which i fill in and send back, on my fourth lot not tho, so guessing something somewhere is a miss. I should probably take this new lot back in person and sort out.
Her understanding is much better than her communication. I am very aware that it being just us mainly I need to make sure she doesn't become pointy and 'uhhy' over everything but try to make an effort to get her to communicate properly. Such a sign they are growing up.

Having a bit of a Sad day, have decided I have to rehome my dog. I can't give her everything she needs and we are in a smaller house now. She deserves more and although I know this I feel utterly awful at having to even consider this. But it will be better for her, and I hope she will be a lot happier.

Mrs81 · 14/12/2014 10:25

Oh Pink, that is sad Sad But I also think it is an incredibly honest and selfless thing to acknowledge and act on. Not easy at all xxx

We have mittens sewn onto ribbon threaded through sleeves. DS hasn't worked out how to pull off mittens if he has them both on so we are lucky in that respect for now

BeanCalledPickle · 14/12/2014 12:13

Bloody gloves! So she clearly confused them with medieval torture devices and wouldn't go near them. I haven't tried to force the issue as nursery is only a five minute walk so can't be bothered and how cold can she get?! But yesterday we were going out for a while and it was COLD. So she was held down and they were velcroed on:-) she spent the whole trip with her hands held out looking at them suspiciously!!

Cup hat good news re boy. You sound as pleased to have a boy as I am another girl! Was that your preferred outcome??

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cuphat · 14/12/2014 13:17

Sorry you're having to do that, pink, I really feel for you Sad

Bean, we genuinely had no preference, we would have been happy either way! There are pros and cons to both. We just wanted a sibling for DD (and we know brothers and sisters who are just as close as two sisters or two brothers so that didn't matter).