June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

It's secret, so only the members can see the posts. :-)

PM me details of how to find you on there and I'll get it sorted.

Having done both work and not working with kids, I think I am finding staying home (with 2) harder, although saying that I am mostly enjoying it. With just 1, then I would personally have found that easier than working, but being home wtih 2 it is just so non-stop and intense. I think with DH working from home that helps sometimes but can also be hard as there is never a time when I can hand them over and have a break as he is never not working. I can't see myself going back to work just yet though as DH tends to do quite a few work trips of 1-2 weeks away, and I can not see how that would work for us if I was working too Different for everyone though.

We managed to sleep in till 5.00 this morning so that's progress. Maybe by next week we'll be back on track!

Have read through this thread now so feel a bit more up to date!

Congrats on all the new little people currently growing! Very jealous. But also couldn't imagine a second right now.

Things have started to settle for dd and me. We are now in our own place, and starting to get things the way we want. Her dad is ever the same, manages to see her once a week time permitting but he has been a bit better recently
I've been seeing a lovely chap for a little while. Going very well and very happy.

Working two days a week and home with dd the rest, I quite like it that way on good weeks. Very occasionally work is better!

Dd has quite a few words and a very firm look of no. Her sleep over the last few weeks has on the whole improved lots. Teeth popping up all over the place and this week she knows when she has done a wee and wants a clean nappy! Potty has taken up a corner, we had a successful poo on it my slippers have been the target for wee's followed by 'uh oh'

It's amazing reading back through your posts and seeing that everything is happening at pretty much similar times.

Hello Pink So pleased that things are settling down for you after so much change earlier.

Can I ask a boob question please? Those who stopped bf a while ago, did you find that your boobs changed shape/size again once totally stopped? I could really do with new bras, my pre pregnancy ones don't fit all that well (boobs have shrunk!!) but don't want to get new bras prematurely...

Mrs81 - I think when I finally stopped they didn't change any more as by that time I was only feeding once a day, and they never really felt 'full' of milk. They definitely ended up smaller than pre-pregnancy. Very annoying as I had to get rid of loads of really nice bras I had

Glad you're doing well, pink.

So the stopping bf was successful then, Mrs. I'm still doing the before bed 'feed' but just on one side as the other gets rejected after two seconds! So I don't think it'll be long now. I'm still wearing my bravado maternity/nursing bras; I won't even get a chance to go back into normal ones for a couple of years now, so they were worth every penny!

ah no. Bedtime feed was easy to stop. Haven't tried ditching the middle of night feed yet - but will soon. We've been staying with friends for 2wks while we get work done on the house - didn't want to upset the applecart more than it was already!

Ha, I'm finding there's always a reason to carry on - it makes for an easy life. Hats off to you for still doing a night feed!

We've just stopped bf in the last week. Was bedtime and night feeds. She has thankfully taken it well. Possibly the worse week to do it with me being poorly and dd having more teeth appear! it has also coincided with her only waking once at night now and happily self settling in her cot.
she stayed at my parents last week and slept thru... I live in hope!!

Yes, you're right cuphat. To be honest it's been as much about not disturbing our friends (who have young children) at night more than we have to. And up until very recently his night feed has been hunger but I think it's tipping over to comfort which is a signal for me (when he's this age) to drop it.

Well hello again everybody, I have being lurking but never found the time to post!! Congrats to all the pregnant mummies, hope you are all having good pregnancies so far.
Struggling a little with dd as she appears to hate people and going places, dd1 was always so confident and sociable so not overly sure whats going on?? If we are at home she is a wonderful little person but going out is becoming a real battle

Hello Madame I don't have any wisdom re dd2 I'm afraid. What happens when you're out with her?

I am hiding in the kitchen DS has conjunctivitis again, again. The house rewire stalled today because of a wasp nest in roof. We are living in chaos and I have lost my sense of zen. Sob I have to perk myself up before going out tonight to parent's night at nursery.

Madame what does dd do when you go out? Has she always been like it or just recently?

Mrs you have my sympathy. A chaotic house and poorlyLittle people are not good.

You have my full sympathies Mrs81 - packers are here today and starting the move.

MadameJ, sorry no wisdom - we tend to have the opposite. How is she acting? Do you think she's jealous that she isn't gettin your full attention when out?

Thank you both

Good luck with the move Aloha!

I am in better feckle today. Rewire just about done now - just lots of plastering to do now. not by us, a man will come and do clever things And then decorating.

We are all knackered, DH and I are both run down and DS seems to have a canine on its way (which explains the horrendous nights) but there does at least seem to be light at the end of the tunnel. Phew. Not sure I could go through all that again any time soon!

At home she is adorable, lots of talking, dancing always smiling. When out she just seems unhappy and will get very upset when people try to interact with her. Unfortunately certain people seem to see it as a challenge to make her like them which usually makes her worse. If people ignore her she is fine and will usually approach them eventually. My approach at the moment is to offer her lots of support and follow her lead but it's tricky due to my very outgoing 3 year old who obviously also needs me.
I had a shocking day with her at a large family gathering on Sunday but thankfully she has had a good couple of days since x

madame I guess it might just be her finding her confidence while out? easy to be ok with everything at home. Not sure I have any thing helpful to say - but hope you find a rhythm that works for all of you soon.

Aloha good luck with the move. I still have far too many boxes in rooms I need to unpack. One day!

Dd seems to have hands that are constantly frozen, mittens while out are ok, but indoors is proving a bit more difficult. I have no idea how to stop them being so cold, she's warm everywhere else.

Today has been a nap refusal day on her part. so now begins the battle of keeping her awake until bedtime now.

hi all. Sorry I've not been on for a while. I've been in a bit of a bad place and like others didn't want to just come on and moan. While my child has been sleeping for 12 hours straight since MarMarch my sleep has got progressively worse til I was sleeping no more than 3-4 hours a night and was destroyed. I had a chat with a lovely GP though who took me seriously and gave me some tablets in the short term. Last night I slept 10 hours. that's more than I would have slept in 3 days previously. I feel amazing

anyhoo Lily is great. We
Her words are really coming along now. yesterday's word was bubbles.

only problem seems to be is she wants to call most men daddy.

I'm off to Ethiopia tonight with work for a week. I'm massively excited and have told everyone I know!

Sunny I was exactly the same. When polly woke I would as well and then get back to sleep as well. Once she started sleeping through I stopped. I got prescribed promethazine which made the world of difference. Does give me a hangover but that's better than the exhaustion. You can buy it over the counter as sominex. I'm allowed to take it while pregnant, thank god, as my sleep is even worse now without. I have just made peace with the fact I need a push with sleeping and it's actually ok.

Bean that's massively helpful. I've always suffered from occasional insomnia but it seems like it cranked up a notch first when I was pregnant then even worse once baby got here. I've been trying to avoid pills but feel so so much better I'm willing to use something in emergencies now.

Hi everyone! I've been lurking forever but not posted for ages. Excited to hear of the new pregnancies and all the developments of our June '13 lot! I've started working again after my extended maternity leave due to redundancy. I have been so unbelievably lucky and am working two days from home doing pretty much the same job as I did before (commissioning in publishing) but for a different company and more money (pro rata, anyway). I started in September and really enjoying it. DP is looking after Keir on those days and taking him out all day both days to Tumble Tots and the like so we are handling all childcare between us. Sleep till evades us unfortunately as K still does not sleep through. He always wakes at least once, usually about 3am and we continue to give him milk when he wakes as it's the only way he goes back to sleep. A mistake, I know... Considering using Millpond Sleep Clinic at this stage. Is anyone else in the same boat? Don't want to be moany though - everything else is great and we are getting loads of chat now. Tractor is the word of the day, and twit-twoo is a favourite. And 'no mummy' to most veg...
Hope everyone is well and starting to think about our second Christmas with them!

Sunbeam V still wakes at least once most nights, and having only recently stopped bf I do offer her a bottle of milk, which she often takes and finishes. I figured she must be hungry if she takes it, and I would rather a 5 min disturbance than a long wake up. Maybe wrong, but it's working, and there have been nights she's refused it and settled back without, so I'm going to take her lead on it I think.

DD went to bed without a bf earlier - of her own accord! I'd already given up on the left side, but I offered the right side and she put her mouth on and took it straight off. Finally! I never imagined she'd self-wean.

Nice to hear from you all. Though still waking in the night seems to be the norm on here which worries me - I hope this baby takes after DD (I don't cope well being woken up as I often can't get back to sleep afterwards)...

Darker mornings seem to be having a positive impact (and DD has blackout blinds so I didn't think they'd make any difference). Current wake-up time is around 7.30am each day which makes a nice change, though my husband can no longer use her as an alarm!

I am working away at the moment (in Huddersfield, with no time to get out and see some of the beautiful countryside) - am away Tues-Friday and so Joe has been dumped with the childminder four days a week.

Actually I think he's probably rather enjoying it but I do feel guilty. Not so guilty at my husband having to do mornings and evenings before and after work though - nice for him to have a go at single parenting! Only problem is Joe has been sleeping till 8am recently - AMAZING - and am worried that after a few weeks of 7am rises he won't remember how to sleep late!

If only I were staying at a nice, plush hotel and could enjoy this time away. No. I'm in a £50 a night hotel, with a disabled bathroom and a loo with no seat. Imagine the glamour.

greetings from Ethiopia! Oli I raise you a $25 a night hotel with weird glass doors across the front that look onto a really noisy bar with drunk men shouting at each other til midnight. Strangely I sleep really well under these conditions and there is no sign of my crazy insomnia!

Missing my morning cuddles though. It's fine when I'm busy during the day. It's just when I finally get some time on my own that I miss home.