November 2012 - Roll call!

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2109948-November-2012-Bring-on-the-summer-fun

Calling all lurkers! If you're reading but finding life too hectic to keep up then please check in and give us a brief update.

Hiya Kyz!

Wanda I would be in tears, can I offer Gin, a new sofa and a pile of mags and a hug x

I'm getting ready to go out for dinner and then to see Wolf Hall. Never did get round to finishing the book! I hope the theatre has air con!

I would cry salty tears if my freezer broke. No doubt.

Weirdly we have never shut the upstairs stair gate and have never had a downstairs one as it would be very difficult to fit. We figured it was more dangerous for her to get to the top and be forced to come down. We very occasionally let her go on up herself but we always follow her up. Actually, we rarely get a choice as she stands at the top and yells for us. Sometimes we find her sitting mid staircase like kermit the frog's nephew. Similarly if we are upstairs she can go down but for a very few seconds alone. We have wood downstairs and it is great for racing around on.

We had the dentist this morning - all good. Nothing else exciting. We went to the park. I anxsted a bit about some boys turning up with golf clubs and balls. The half heartedly putted them around a bit after spying us then nobbed off. I felt a bit sorry for them actually.

Tell me about wolf hall?

I am reading an Icelandic crime novel just now. I have no idea who it is by and what it is called - an issue I find with the kindle. It is pretty good though

I've fallen out with DH who's in Germany until August. He was asking me whether his mum was coming round to look after the kids tomorrow while I take his car to be MOTd and I said I hadn't heard from them. He then gave me a row for not phoning her. I didn't ask them to look after the kids, he did! I had said I would leave DS1 at home, leave DS2 at his friend's house and take DS3 with me. They're not really interested in us or the kids so why should I go out of my way to contact them. FFS my childminder has invited us round for dinner because she knows I'm on my own with the kids for a couple of weeks. Afaik my in-laws couldn't care less; it's not their problem. Although they're always happy enough to come round for dinner here when he invites them. Why are other people's families so strange compared to your own?

Putting J to bed after DS1 and DS3 worked after a fashion. DS2's story was a bit disrupted by J but they were all in their beds by 9 so I think that counts as a win. It does eat up the evening rather a lot but it seemed to be less stressful all round. Fingers crossed J sleeps tonight cos I is knackered.

Fingers well and truely crossed for you stunt. I would count a less stressful but longer settle as better than a shorter but highly stressful one

Actually it might not have been longer Pass because we didn't start until 8 p.m and they were all in bed at 9 p.m. (although DS2 has already been up again because he accidentally kicked himself in the penis!) Whereas it would often take 90 minutes to get J down and then I would have to hustle the other two to bed.

The HV is coming round tomorrow and I don't have the energy to clear up this awful mess.

I would imagine she is coming to see you and the boys rather than your house . . . Leave it and relax. Or do whatever the minimum is which helps you feel better. Have an early night

Thanks for all the hugs, empathies, gins and sofas. I am almost there on that sofa. It looks lush. I appreciate it so much when everyone says 'yeah I am there with you on that one'

So. The outcome was. I spent half an hour on the phone resulting in me handing over my address and Samsung telling me an engineer would contact me. Apparently they are coming on Monday.

I cleaned out the mouldy fridge freezer in the garage that is meant for beer and decanted all the saveable stuff from the freezer and cleared out the fridge too.

I categorised all the recyclable rubbish in The house, skimmed some off the top of the blue bin which I thought should be emptied this week given that it was black bins last week when it should have been blue because they were on strike the week before.......and went to the tip.

The boys were super stars, the tip at 26 degrees can not be described as fun. And it took about 20 mins for me to sort everything out once we were there.

Sprinkler out for the boys which they both loved.

The the rock pool for mummy to calm down. 30 lengths and I feel epic! It really has wiped away the stresses of the day.

Funny isn't it how big crisis can happen and you bottle everything up and cope, everyday irritations or things that throw my routine can have me In bits.

Tell me about Wolf Hall too.

stunt I agree with pass don't worry about the house she won't notice. Put your feet up on pikzs new sofa and have a bin, I mean gin!!!

It is funny wanda. Like how we can cook three course meals with appetisers and nibbles no problem but cooking a fry up ends in tears! I think our bodies need to prepare for the possibility of genuine badness so it turfs out the day to day stress really quickly - sometimes too quickly for our heads to keep up.

I am glad you are feeling better - I would have been on my knees and weeping with that day.

Pass is so right on everything.

Stunt come for gin and sofa squishes. As pass said HV is coming to see you and your boys. Not the house

Night quiche, FC they all sleep tonight.

Sleep tight lady stunt

Stunt not sure if rules are changing where you are... Statements are being removed In September. We had a training session on it and it made me think of you. Should help in that you don't need a statement to access help.

Calm thoughts calm thoughts calm thought calm thoughts. Fh is winding me up. It's my morning to have lay in. He wants to switch days. He has been drinking. Enough said. Calm.

Awful night here, she was awake every hour. She seemed to have lost the ability to go back to sleep since she stopped sucking her thumb. It's been 11 days now... She slept well in her big bed next to me, can't wait for the bed guard to arrive and we can make the transition.

Hope you slept well stunt and hope you can lie in gt

J is resisting bed too. I think his teeth are bothering him, and he is definitely in spurt territory, for growth and development. He is stringing two words together, very basically, and is playing with toys differently. He is also eating me out of house and home, and poor Iggle Piggle has been chewed to a soggy lump.

Stunt please do not worry about the state of the house. They are coming to see you and the boys, and if your house was like a show home, it would worry me even more. Obviously if there are discarded needles, rotting food, nappies and empty vodka bottles around, then that would be a worry, but I am pretty sure your house will just look "lived in"

Sorry for the bad night Lily, and the freezer Wanda. I have not caught up properly - did you lose much food?

J was "sleeping" on my head from 3 as his skin is sore due to teeth - the bigger molars at the back, which I am pretty sure should not be coming through yet. Bastard teeth.

Thanks VQ, it looks more like there was an explosion in a toy factory. At least the dog keeps the floor relatively clean of dropped food if only she would eat sweetcorn.

J did not sleep. And neither did DS2 in fact I had both of them in my bed between 3 and 6 with J lying horizontally across the middle and DS2 and I squeezed on the edges. Today I will be very grumpy. No chance of a nap either as I have to take DH's car for its MOT at naptime 3.

It's not all bad news though, I have had a drop on the scales this week and reached a new lowest weight, only two pounds to go until my target now.

I feel strangely and scarily serene this morning. Despite yesterday's events I went to bed thinking that perhaps this is the best summer ever. Of adult life anyway. (Kid summers are just on a different plane)

I had to chuck away a load of frozen fruit, lollies, a hake, a homemade piri piri chicken and some ice cubes I have made of lime juice and mint to go on top of chilled soup. I managed to save my chicken pieces selection, my soda bread collection, the boys can have the homemade shepherd today for lunch and I defrosted the milk because it was time anyway. It was the stuff I. The door that had gone beyond repair by the time I noticed it, which is a lesson to what you keep In The door I suppose.

The engineer will prob tell me off and tell me the fridge is too close to the unit that surrounds it/oven/lights or all of the above. But most other people I know have a unit surrounding their fridge and potentially have their fridge next to an oven and a light near it. So pah.

Good night sleep here. The heat might not be helping lily is hard to go back to sleep when is so hot. Xx

I am not surprised you have had a drop on the scales with all that hairing around like a mad woman stunt would you like to pack the car up and drive down to spend the day here Weds or Thurs next week? If was a nice day we could spend the morning faffing around here, have lunch then go out to The beach for the afternoon. (Food on the beach always sounds lovely but in reality is just a pain and means mummy's get less fun time)

That's great you managed to salvage a lot of the food Wanda. My freezer is bunged to the gills and it would kill me financially anyway if I lost the lot. Surely your fridge-freezer wasn't that old?

I have been counting everything in My Fitness Pal this week in trying to lose the holiday weight so I'm now half a pound below the weight I was before I went on holiday. I'm trying to up my exercise a bit now that my pelvis and lower back are fully recovered so I'm hoping my weight will start going up again if I can build a bit of muscle. I was doing the Shred and a few other DVDs before I went on holiday and seeing good results with that. I find exercise is really good for my mood and self-esteem. I went for a two-hour walk up the Cave Hill with J on my back on Tuesday which is amazing when you think I could barely walk half a mile 18 months ago.

A road trip next week sounds luvverly Wanda. I'm free either day.

Let's go for Wed them. I will PM you closer to the time. Fab.

I need to start my fitness paling again. I loose 3 put it on, loose 3 put it on, loose 3 etc.

Is I know it. And maybe crisps. But I only have both of those on the weekend. I just and crisps binge.

I think we should lobby for a crisps emoticon.

I agree!

That's funny Det we are thinking of putting the stair gate on at the top. We have been completely fine not having one on the stairs, but now H thinks he's a big boy and doesn't need to go down the stairs on his belly and can walk like the rest of the people in the house. We now have to watch him like a hawk.
Stunt you were saying that ds1 reads too fast or exaggerates words but would J really notice and it could give ds1 a bit more practice and maybe a bit of responsibility if its his job to read J a story at night. Does he enjoy reading out loud, if no, then ignore all I have said, lol.