JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

[justhayley]

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies xxx

Great tips for night time feeding. I've found videos on YouTube really useful this time - definitely worth a search if you're looking for inspiration...

Daddy has been trying to give me a break so I can sleep since 11 am... I have fed ds 3 times since then and he has been playing up all day - he's just said to me he doesn't know how I do this every day! To be fair he isn't as bad as this every day but at least dp now can see why I don't get anything done!

ismarah we have this (second hand)
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And it's brilliant!

have you seen this? gimmick or worthwhile?

ds is asleep on me and keeps smiling in his sleep and his belly keeps going like he's chuckling :)

DD is doing the same Maggie! I think she is secretly plotting to take over the world in her sleep.

elliejj hope you are OK, just saw your thread on chat. Ask for as much help as possible from friends and family. Wish I was nearer.

moresnow not lazy at all, bed is where we're supposed to be at night after all .

thanks liquid. Just had a chat with MIL who phoned to check I was ok and told me to ring her work number if I get stuck. It was nice to have that acknowledgement that I'm still recovering as I was worried that would get side-lined with DH being worse off now.

For those of you who haven't read my thread in chat, DH is in hospital with suspected appendicitis. It never rains but it pours in our house it seems. This year seems to be the year of operations in our family with 4 happened already and at least another 3 to go not counting if DH needs his appendix out.

So sorry elliejjtiny I had my appendix out just before I conceived the key hole surgery was quick and easy to recover from but an operation all the same! Thinking of you !

Well our return to society went well, we managed to time the feeding right so that we could walk into town, registry dd birth and do some shopping, which was a success. She slept most of the time, had a whinge at the registrar but settled once we were outside moving again, we managed to do some shopping ( new nursing bras!! Dd impressed by m and s) and then we headed home at which point she started screaming, took us 15 mins to walk home, she screamed the whole way and the promptly fed for AN HOUR AND 46 MINS!! I think she thought I was going to starve her forever more so just went for it!! Bad move though this gave her such bad tummy ache and wind she didn't settle til 10, it was upsetting watching her wriggle around in pain, have her some infacol and soothing and she finally fell asleep whilst being fed ! She's just slept for nearly 5 hours!

Another challenge tonight as DH is away overnight in cardiff to watch the football, he is my champion baby soother and often prevents me from losing the plot! Is it wrong that I'm jealous that he will get an uninterrupted night of sleep and I won't !! Green with envy!

howly screaming in pain so they can't sleep...every night. Also not wrong to be jealous of good night sleep- dh gets this every night because ds just feeds and sleep and I haven'tstarted expressing yet. He also went for a run after work...don't worry about spending time with me or your son whilst hes not screaming dear...sorry hormonal and annoyed...sleep time!

Well ds was obviously planning how to keep us up all night - took just over 3 hours to settle him in bed after I woke him up carrying him upstairs :( now he's awake feeding after 3 hours sleep

howly gripe water is my friend in that situation - I don't give it very often just on bad nights. And I am both jealous of a nights sleep and annoyed at dp being able to do other things while I'm here with a screaming ds!

I was wondering when the best time to start expressing and storing some milk is? Baby is 10 days old, which time of day would be best too so as not to interfere with dd feeding, I want to leave enough for her!

Hope your DH is OK ellie and your MIL helps out if needed.

Thanks for the lying down description moresnow - we're still having difficulty getting to grips with that one!

howly I think the morning is supposed to be the best time - that's when I've had the most success at getting the most out (100ml which still wasn't enough for DS - boo!)

After a horrific crying session (8 - 11pm) DS slept until 5, fed until 6 and slept until 8. It's like a normal night's sleep! However - he pulled something similar last week and then followed it with the 48 hour feeding frenzy, so I'm slightly wary of celebrating too soon...

howly I started a thread asking for advice and that was in the morning or at the same time as feeding.

DS went back to sleep just before six and woke an hour later... now I'm feeding him. I dunno what is wrong with him but he's hungry and wants feeding but fighting it and getting angry at the same time.

We have the cranial osteopath today so fingers crossed or I might sell him on ebay!

Hope your DH recovers quickly ellie and you get the help you need to get through the day.

Baby Kiwi slept in her crib all night, even after DH changed her nappy. I put the pyjama top I'd been wearing in her bed and she settled immediately. Actually feel rested today.

Attempt to put limpet baby down No. 158: fast asleep in my arms laying on the bed. Gently, gently rolled over so he was on the bed, stayed there for ages and then slowly got up leaving him sleeping in the nice warm, mummy scented spot I'd been sleeping in. Did it work? Did it heck. Managed a pee and cleaned half my teeth before the screaming kicked off which then took half the morning to abate.

So this selling babies on eBay thing...?

Hi all, for some reason I've only just discovered the post-natal thread, even though ds was 6 weeks old yesterday! I'm really lucky, as DH is a teacher I've only had to manage 1 week on my own so far, but I am dreading him going back to work. However, he's way worse with sleep deprivation than I am, so I've tried to do as much in the night as I can without waking him up, which means I am now completely exhausted. Ds is also a limpet baby, so plate I feel your pain - he will only fall asleep on my chest and getting him to stay in the crib is only possible if I've let him sleep on me for at least half an hour first, then I have to stand hunched over the crib with my arms under him for a while, and even then this only works some of the time. When you throw in the breast feeding problems and the screaming every evening due to wind, I feel broken! Please someone tell me this get's easier at some point!

Sorry for the major moan everyone! I know I have it far easier than a lot of you.

And elliie I hope your DH gets better soon - dbil had an appendectomy last year and recovered really quickly. I hope you get some support too.

Hello all for some reason got stuck on the antenatal thread to like you Becky have only just arrived here at postnatal HQ despite DD being 4 weeks now!

So sorry to read of the (all too familiar) issues/challenges everyone facing :(

Ellie thinking of you!

Everyone having sleep/settling issues it will/should get slowly better, then take a dip when teething starts but unfortunately all little ones are different so some will always find sleeping/feeding/winding easier than others - sorry realise that may not be much help!

Over here in Casa Blue DH goes back onto shift work on Monday after 2.5yrs of non-shifts which we're not relishing-hoping it'll be short lived though. Also, TMI alert, I had some fresh red blood after pooing on Sunday so wondering if there's still some healing to do where I tore. They didn't stitch it as said it was v small though right at the back. When MW looked at it at 10 day check she said it was a bigger tear than they'd first thought but that it was about a third closed up/healed. Debating going to docs but the only female doc at our practice is utterly useless and without my labour notes the docs won't know how big the tear was to start with so debating whether to give our lovely homebirth MW a call?! No more bleeding since Sunday but did unnerve me somewhat!

Sorry for long post! Look forward to chatting with you all again :)

Worried mummy here, had 10 day midwife visit today and DD has lost another 10g, I know it's very little but she's now lost 6oz, 7% of her birth weight and we have to be monitored! I thought the feeding was going fine, she has a good latch , is sucking and swallowing and feeds for at least half hour at a time every 2-3 hours. The only thing is she falls asleep on the boob every time and it makes me wonder if she's getting enough, she never stops cos she is full, she just falls asleep first, if I wake her she's straight back to looking for food! I try and keep her awake by blowing in her so she actively feeds for at least half hour. The flip side is when she fed for nearly 2 hours in 2 sittings yesterday and gave herself such bad tummy aches we had screaming for hours! Gggaaaahhhh, this is so hard getting the balance right! Feel like I'm starving her, bad mum!!

Oh plate am right there with you so hard to get them to settle in basket and just when you think you have cracked it doesn't work next time!

becky know the broken by screaming feeling all too well. It can't last forever!

blue def speak to midwife- if its started to heal my experience is they then won't stitch after. I have 'overhealed' skin on top of each other not just joining (sorry if tmi) but really helpful when same person keeps an eye on it-i had 2 midwives and was nightmare to see healing rate!
Hope dh shift work isn't too bad

howly I have no advice but keep going to breastfeeding groups/speaking to health visitor. Sounds like dd should be getting enough yet from time feeding yet weight is dropping- worth checking latch?

hey everyone! I have just found out there's a post-natal thread for us so here I am.

MW came yesterday and BabyZing is now put on enough weight to be above his birthweight so he's been finally discharged from hospital.
he is feeding a bit better, and is more alert now so definitely heading in the right direction.

Again congrats on all babies, sorry if I missed anyone but well done all. We made it!

Howly

has she been checked for tongue tie? it can look that they latch on and suck normally, but not all as it seems.
and posterior TT is not always obvious!

No she's not been checked for tongue tie, we have health visitor tomorrow so I will ask her then! She seems to eat fine with lots of dirty nappies, oh well see what happens tomorrow and thursday!

I'm doing some skin to skin tonight with DD and it feels great, reminds me if that first ever feed after she was born! All warm and lovely!

My DM bought DD a Ewan the dream sheep and she settles in her Moses basket with that switched on, it has the red glow and heart beat sounds!

DH is away tonight and I'm really missing his company! Feels wierd just DD and I! Hopefully we will have no screaming matches tonight as DH is usually the referee on those occasions! I may lose the plot!

has she been weighed on different sets of scales? The difference between them could mean a weight gain/loss of hundreds of gramms!

The worst I heard was baby "lost" 500g from one week to another.
distressed mother, worried HV.
next week baby "gained" 700g.
turned out usual scales had been swapped briefly.
nice, huh?