January 2014 - hoping for more sleep

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I am soooooo tired today. Archie has been really unsettled the last few nights from about 4am onwards. Sometimes he's hungry, sometimes he wants to play, sometimes he wants his dummy. The last two nights he's ended up in with us as it's easier to replug the dummy, pat etc.
YAWN.

becca sorry you've been so ill and fx you're fully recovering now. What a nasty shock but great they found it.

Glad work is going ok million and ignore those nasty comments. If we were in the US most of us would be back now anyway as mat leave is so short over there.

felix you absolutely haven't wasted your youth. You'll get some degree of 'life' back sooner than you think. Even though I'm 32 I still feel I didn't make the most of my childless days and still have a bit of envy at my friends with no children going off on lovely holidays, to nice restaurants and having lie ins. I think it's a case of the grass is always greener and pining for the good parts of the lives we once had. Having spoken to some of those friends, they'd love to swap places with me, and most of this 'new' life is fab just the sleepless nights, shitty nappies etc and I wouldn't want to swap it. Not sure the above really makes sense, but I so know where you're coming from.

We're off to another 2 year olds party today. Then straight down to my parents for the night and tomorrow. DH has gone to a rugby match today and then he's out for the evening. Knowing him he'll be a drunken mess, which I'd rather not see as it will just annoy me, hence the trip to my parents!

I've started weaning Lara. Just some carrot yesterday and parsnip today. She loved the carrot but wasn't so keen on parsnip. Will try banana tomorrow I think. She didn't take much: a few spoonfuls each time. That was how it started with DS though, and we gradually built up. He's a right fussy bugger now, but was a great eater until about 16 months. Seems quite common amongst my Nct friends. Luckily he loves pasta so I make a multitude of nutritious pasta sauces.

You can hide all sorts in a red pasta sauce! I grate veggies into dishes too - bolognaise has grated carrot and courgette in it, for example, when I make portions for my toddler. Let it cook for a bit and she's none the wiser

Hope you are having fun getting!

I am feeling very teary and panicky about leaving all of a sudden. I was very unhappy in Egypt by the time I left last time, and am worried about the perfect storm of zero personal space, everyone having an opinion and political and economic crisis pushing me over the edge. We have a flat, but won't be staying there at first so will probably be at PILs very small flat for a month at least. Not sure I can cope. DD has been crying for her friend again, and his mum has just sent me a lovely text which has made me feel even worse about leaving.

I don't think the issue is even really Egypt. I moved around a lot as a child and I think I missed having the same friends around as I was growing up. I really didn't want that for my DD, and I know I am being stupid because she is only three, but I feel like she will end up just like me.

Need to pull myself together before DH comes home.

Oh, altered, I don't think you're being stupid. We moved a lot when I was a child too, and it's hard. DD will make new friends, though, and she'll be fine. Good luck with the move

becca I have just caught up on this thread having not seen it for ages...so sorry to hear you have had skin cancer. I thought I'd say hello as about four months ago I found out that I also had skin cancer....a nasty bleeding lump growing on my eyelid (right where you put your eyeliner). Anyhow, I was 8 months pregnant and had to have it removed under a local. Thankfully it was just a bcc, same type that Hugh jackman has had (twice now, poor thing, probably doesn't have much nose left) but it was pretty scary. I can imagine miles scarier for a melanoma, so huge huge hugs and I am so impressed at how positive your posts are! I was totally self absorbed during that period.

Quite interesting (from a statistical point of view) that two of us in this group have had skin cancer.

As for weaning...Lucy is only 19 weeks so I am way off starting all that jazz. Quite happy sticking to milk for now. I weaned my first born at about five months and he has had terrible digestive problems from the age of three...no idea if it was the early weaning, but I am going to stick to govt recommendations with Lucy, just in case.

We're famous! BBC news website does a "your week in pictures" thing every week for Scotland -presumably other parts of the UK have their own. All my arty landscape photos have been ignored, but a really lovely picture of little puggle and DH got picked this week. Forgot to tell DH so first he knew was an email from a colleague taking the piss oops
Its got real world names so I haven't posted link but its bbc.co.uk/news/scotland - click on "your pictures" on the right hand side
Or am I just being paranoid and should post the link?

Puggle just looked and it's a lovely pic

Ta Felix! I'm a bit jealous its such a good picture of DH to be honest...

puggle the beach shot? So cute!! Love it!!

That really is a lovely photo :)

Lovely picture Puggle!

Beautiful photo puggle.

altered hugs. Your dd will adapt, they're very resilient. Wishing you well with the move.

Weaning wise I'm not sure what to do. Cals only 17weeks so it seems too early (and family history of allergies). But we're going away for 2 days in July with PILs looking after the boys. It'd make it easier on MIL for Cal to be on food. And he does seem less satisfied after his feeds. I'm just worried about the stupid allergies from me. I think I'll give it a few days to see if his feeding settles down.

Not much going on here, except for Dp getting a ridiculous new hair cut (and colour). We're off to a barbecue tomorrow and if the weather's good DP will blind everyone with his new hair.

Becca that must have been an awful time. Hope your patience is surviving the bed rest and hopefully you can put this all behind you soon. Hugs!!!

Enormouse I saw your thread on S&B When I first met my DP he used to get his hair dyed full on golden blonde and it was HORRENDOUS. So glad I convinced him it was a terrible look. Hopefully your DH will go to a good stylist!

I can't seem to find the picture puggle. Might be because I'm on my phone and it's directing me to the mobile site I think.

Aww, H and mr puggle are so cute

I just got up to change Persephone, which I usually do around this time when she starts thrashing about. Put the changing mat on the bed, and she's fallen asleep again! I don't want to wake her, so I've been sitting here for half an hour like a lemon in the hope that she'll wake up and I can get back into bed. I wonder if it is having me next to her that is waking her up?

Enjoying the sling/carrier talk on Facebook. Is there a maximum time for forward facing on all carriers, or is it just the Ergo? Percy loves being forward facing and will only let me carry her that way now!

I don't know what to do about Archie's dummy. Poor DH was up every hour last night putting it back in He doesn't nap much without it either. He's lost the ability to self settle the last couple of weeks too, although we were v lucky to have that to start with! I'm too immobile to get up at night, so DH is doing it all, but he has to go back to work on Wednesday. He can't be up half the night and go to work. He's already exhausted poor man

becca Henry went through that too. It does pass. He slept in his cot until 5.30am last night which is first time for a while with just 1 wake up :) he was doing the same and literally up every hour. Can you teach him to put dummy in himself yet? Hen almost has it but not quite

No he's not really grabbing stuff yet (think he's trying), although apparently he's an expert at pulling the dummy OUT

I managed to stand up long enough to change his nappy this morning. Go me!

becca whoever invents a dummy that stays put will make their millions. We have the same issue, but it has got better, or she is more used to doing without it. In her sleepiness she always manages to pull it out.
What might have helped here (who knows) is of she falls asleep feeding I used to lie her down and then give her the dummy as she would semi awaken. Now, I just lie her down and hope she can resettle without it, which mostly she does. It seems to have helped with the number of night dummy awakenings.

altered hope your move goes smoothly. Is it later this week?

Bit annoyed with DH. He went to a rugby game on Saturday which meant I had to take both DC to a party on Saturday. That was fine, but quite difficult trying to be in 2 places at once supervising DS on the soft play and calming Lara after a mega meltdown (think she was too hot in hindsight). We then drove to my parents and DH went out and obviously got shitfaced. Didn't get back until gone 9 pm last night. I sort of hoped he would have done a few more things round the house but it seemed he sat and watching films all day!
He did wash the towels and vacuumed the kitchen floor but that would have taken all of 10 mins max.
I just hate it how he can ignore or doesn't notice things like the bin overflowing, airing cupboard overflowing, or things that need to be filed away piling up. Grrrr...rant over!

Pidgy I hear you! I took myself off for a nap yesterday for 4 hours (glorious!) as i was absolutely shattered and left S with DP. Came down at 8 and he had done nothing at all. No rubbish taken out, no bottles washed and made up even though he'd used the last one, he hadn't fed her any of the purée I made which he knows she has at around 6, no bath or anything. He just sat on the floor looking at shit on his laptop. I have to physically ask him to do something around the house, and he takes so long to get round to doing it that I end up getting pissed off and doing it myself anyway! I'm sick to death of having to do all of the housework all the time. But if I left it it would never get done and I can't live in a messy house as it makes me very anxious. Sorry for the rant

Puggle what a lovely picture.

Pidgy and Felix I would just start leaving to do lists. I spent all day yesterday cleaning DH will tidy up but he just doesn't clean IYKWIM.

My mum was telling me the other day than when we were young and my mum wanted to do anything on her own she had to get a babysitter because my dad wouldn't watch us by himself. Had to take the three of us shopping while he stayed at home. She really should have just ditched him she was pretty much a single parent anyway. Made me realise how lucky I am to have DH although I totally lucked out with him. I have left H with him loads. Trust him 100% although feel like I am always telling him what to do with H, just know her routine more and her moods.

Went to see Wicked last week. It was awesome and good to catch up with friends.

Don't think I will wean H until six months or as close to 6months as she will last. She still seems content with her milk and like enormouse I have loads of allergies so want to be careful about that.

H almost has a tooth on the bottom, it has broken the skin, can feel the ridge. She is in so much pain, trying to keep her distracted most of the time so she doesn't notice it, the dentinox seems to be working ok only had to give her calpol once when it just wasn't helping. It's a shame she will be laughing then all of a sudden remember the pain and start breaking her heart.

Just markibg my place to catch up, it's been crazy busy:-)

becca sorry to hear about how hard things have been for you, I hope you make a speedy recovery.

Been so busy these last three weeks I'm exhausted. Would really love to have a nap this week but I've got people in doing my garden at the moment. Was hoping it would be finished this week but they are now having to do extra work so will still be here next week.

I'm another one waiting as long as possible to wean. I was reading that the gut and kidneys may not be ready earlier and I don't want to risk it with O's kidney. She isn't showing any signs yet so hoping we can wait till 6 months.

My dh is the same. He tries but if he does do anything it's half a job and often he just doesn't notice that things need doing.

Is there some sort of idiot academy we could send the DPS/Hs where they would learn how to clean properly in a non half arsed way? Dp is irritating the fuck out of me. I gave him the kitchen as his allotted house job (his only house job) and he hasn't kept on top of it or ever cleaned it thoroughly. It's a tip. I'm trying not to say anything as its his area but it's driving me crazy.

And how is it the Ps and Hs manage to watch shitloads of films/play on consoles/internet whilst looking after the kids/house?

I am completely shattered right now. Cal is having a growth spurt or sleep regression and is up on the hour through the night. And DS1 needs me to work through his speech and language activities during the day.

If only there were 10 of me.