December 2012: Now they're all 1

[Barbeasty]

We needed a new thread!

Things I have learned today: I look just like Jamie when I cry

Bless you willyou. Poor you. Go to the meeting but say you've got a horrible cold brewing - hence the red eyes and nose, and then phone in sick. I can't imagine what you're going through but I sat with a colleague for half hour today while she cried about her split-ish with her DH - sounds similar to your situation.
hales if dn is keen to learn to read/write/count I can thoroughly recommend the reading eggs and maths seeds programmes - we've got the iPad apps and dd2 loves maths seeds. A friends little girl who is super bright did the programme and could read fluently before going to school.
nutella It would be nice to know ds was happy and safe while you're having the baby. I was quite possessive with dd1 after I had dd2 though and so was keen to have with me asap and as much as possible afterwards.

Willyou the feelings you are having are completely normal and the sobbing is perfectly acceptable- don't best yourself up about those things.. Work might surprise you. I always find going to work in bad times almost helpful cos it forces you to distract your mind. You know that you have to be professional and I'm sure you will be.. But everyone is allowed off days at work so try not to worry too much.

I'll have whatever Beasty is having with all these job offers, well done!

Hope baby (toddler!!) Nutella is feeling better.

Hales I'm impressed you can manage 2 toddlers- I could never do that in a million years. I still go back to bed when DS naps I'm so tired!

willyou giant hugs for today. I'm sure you'll manage at work. Like wl said, if you need to say you have a cold coming and after the meeting call in sick, go home, cry, shout wail, watch movies that make you cry do whatever you need to. It's normal. It's absolutely allowed.

willyou hope it goes well today. Once in work mode hopefully you'll be ok but lots of excuses to use if you do get weepy. To be fair think people would be understanding of even the real reason- impossible for people not to have some empathy.

nutella I clearly need to come work in Germany! Although that's prob just primary care & guessing they'll prob be doing shifts covering the ooh department even if the surgery closed.

& people forget that even when docs not seeing patients doesn't mean they are not working- at some point referral & clinic letters need to be written, results chased and acted on, audits done, academic work done to stay up to date etc. mostly the audits, presentations & academic stuff gets done in your own time at home as not enough time during working day. Same way as with other professions seeing the client is not the only aspect of the job although obviously a greater proportion is seeing patients!

Ddas one of our GPs has a waiting list of patients he's booked up as far as the rotas go (end of May). We get a lot of walk ins saying 'it'll only take two minutes' but they don't understand all the paperwork that goes with it.

Ds is having a strop because I won't let him put his shoes on I've put his slippers on but apparently they're not good enough.

We're going, with a friend and her dc, to a butterfly farm today

Well I've shouted already today. I've got a cold and feel crappy, have had very little sleep due to T apparently deciding that 10 hours in a 24 hour period is fine, dd2s asthma and dd1s very noisy cold. T was in my bed on the boob, dd1 was on the other side of her, cue dd2 melt done that she couldn't go next to T. Cue dd1 rubbing it in and virtually laying on my head. Loads to do before go away tomorrow and not much chance of doing it. Major grumpy alert!
nutella poor little ds, that sounds awful. I hope he feels better soon.

At least you don't get the long holiday comments that teachers do Ddas!

I didn't sleep that well last night, although A only woke up twice. Being offered a job shouldn't be stressful! I think I'll ask the person who has offered it what they are offering as salary and take it ffrom there- given that I'm asking for quite a hike that's probably the best delaying tactic there is...

WillYou if you can trust them then tell your boss that DP has left. Say you don't want to let them down so want to work, but that if you feel that you aren't coping and might embarrass the company in front of a client you'd like to be allowed to go home ill. And that you'd appreciate them sending you home if they think you need it and aren't quite judging it right.

That way you are being super responsible. If they want to keep you dealing with clients and you can't keep it together..... well, you warned them. And maybe they'll let you go home and cry!

Oh no. Poor little (and big!) WLmums, and poor baby Nutella.

No true. No school holidays comments- although my sil who's a teacher & I nearly fell out when she complained about a long day which was till 5pm & I'd just done an 8am-10pm oncall shift when our salaries are actually not that different when worked out per hour. But we've come to the conclusion that no job is perfect and will have good & bad bits. As long as it brings in some money & you enjoy parts of it then that's good enough to put up with the rubbish aspects of all jobs.

wlmum you must feel like you need 3 separate pair of hands sometime. I struggle with 2- don't know how those with more manage. Nice that they both are so fond of t though :)

nutella hope ds is better this morning.

I went, I held it together, I feel like shit now. Oh well, each day will get easier I suppose.

Well done- can you phone in sick tomorrow?

We thought A would struggle going down, with DD staying at MIL tonight and hopefully tomorrow but he went down with no fuss at all.

I'm looking for him sleeping through for the first time ever, with no DD to huff, puff and wriggle through the night. ... or maybe not!

Can't but working from home so will do fuck all and lounge around feeling sorry for myself.

Fx A is compliant.

I'm pleased to report that after this mornings outburst, all 3 dds have been impeccably behaved. We had a lovely 1.5 hours at a garden centre this morning admiring all the tat beautiful stone animals and the big 2 chose a 'smell me' (lavender and rosemary) plant each. They've got some seedlings that are ready to move from their bedroom windowsill too so we'll get busy in the garden next week.

T is still maintaining that sleep is for wimps and despite getting up at 5.30 and only going down now, has had a one 20 min nap today. She has at least eaten really well today, oh and I discovered a surprise molar today!

Well done willyou. As you say, each day will get better by degrees.
Fx beasty!

A quiet night for everyone then!

A woke twice, but with just 20 minutes between wakings it's almost 1! Can I whisper that I think we're getting there?

WillYou I hope you're "working" in your pj's, with a big bar of chocolate at the moment.

I'm looking forward to a couple of lie ins this weekend. It's my birthday on Sunday, but most of the day will be taken up with the last swimming lesson of the term.

I'm "working" while checking out mortgages, CTC and maintenance payments Beasty.

I slept 10:30-6:30 and feel much stronger and more together. Just need to keep going I think.

That sounds practical Willyou :) and useful!

Has anyone used amber necklaces/ bracelets? If so can you recommend where to buy from please?

String a rainbow, made by amber, or ebay for amber. R's first two teeth were a nightmare, he was in an anklet which kept falling off. Got him a necklace and the rest have been relatively ok (just nappy rash, nasty poo and hand chewing) so I don't know if it works or not but I daren't take it off to check!

Thank you Pidj- had the same feedback from other mums so worth a try :)

Ddas- you're a doctor or healthcare professional yes? Is it arrogant/ inappropriate to ask for alternative treatment options when you're offered treatment but want to know what else is available?
A friends little girl has a condition called tuberous sclerosis and they're struggling with talking to docs and getting answers to their questions and not being offers many options.
Thanks for your help :)

Evening ladies. Just checking in to offload a bit. Sorry

The packing is going pretty well I think. DH is getting stressed about every detail but not really sorting them out because he is too stressed to sit down and form a plan.

DS is poorly. I think it's a combo of teeth, cough, our stress and etc etc. Poor tiny was such a pain in the arse today. He was all over me at playgroup this morning and then when we got home all he wanted was daddy. When daddy tried to go anywhere or do anything he screamed and cried and shouted. DH doesn't see much of DS on his "bad days" because he is usually at work. He was really getting wound up by DS.

Fortunately DS has only ever had a couple of days like this so I'm hoping after a decent sleep (he went to bed half an hour earlier, had calpol in the afternoon and ibuprofen before bed) he will be a bit brighter tomorrow.

He is really pale at the moment and I really want to cuddle him all day. I will try and wear the ergo tomorrow but I'm not sure if I'm going to be much use it is really frustrating!!

Oh well. It will all be over by this time tomorrow - one way or another .

Sorry. Just needed to get it off my chest. I have made tiffin and a loaf cake for our troops tomorrow (used up bits from the cupboards). The fridge is almost empty and the freezer... Well it's emptier than it was at the start of the week.

Oops that turned a bit epic. Sorry

Nutella, back carries are best for both mobility and pg persons - you can clip the chest belt just under your boobs and therefore over your bump area :) have a look on youtube for tutorials.

FFS R go the fuck to sleep. He's been chatting to himself sleepily for 10 minutes now, and I want to go to bed but if I do I might disturb him and I don't want to go in!