November 2012 - Any words yet?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1948944-November-2012-What-are-your-New-Years-resolutions-for-your-baby

One of the Mums at the school got pregnant after her DH got the snip, it turned out (after a lot of discussion) that he'd not attended the follow up appointments so hadn't got the all clear that it had been successful.
It was quite the topic of discussion for a while at the school gates

Brill tits.

I have tolerated the implant since April. Pretty much bled constantly. I actually blame about 80% of our arguments on it as i have been a hormonal angry nightmare. and I have gained weight. My skin is dreadful. I have never had bad skin or problems losing weight (in fact gaining weight used to be impossible).

Right that's it, It's going ASAP.

I was the same with the Mirena when I had it taken out about 5 lbs fell of In the couple of months after without me changing what I was doing. I bled constantly too I couldn't near it.

Bear. Obviously.

Isles maybe try the plain old copper coil if you don't get on with hormones? I bled for a month after fitting but then it settled down fine maybe adding 1-2 days per cycle of bleeding and a bit of bloat at ovulation. I lost 3 stone on it so there's no issues with it interfering with dieting. At least if you're not on artificial hormones you know you're really cross - I get batshit irrational on hormonal contraception! Weight issues might also be related to transitioning from a fast teenage metabolism to your adult / Mummy metabolism? Mine has slowed since having J. Boo!

Now I'm in a position where contraception is relevant again, I really need to start thinking about it. I don't do well with artificial hormones and my antidepressants make me confused enough about which of my emotions are actually 'real' so I want to avoid them. Is the copper coil my best bet?

Chasing I found it was for us. DH and I used condoms initially but once it was clear we were in a serious and totally monogamous relationship we went and got an STD MOT together and once we both knew we were clear we settled on the coil. I wouldn't ditch condoms unless I was with a partner I trusted 100% and if they'd cheated ever in our relationship (and for some reason I'd not instantly ditched him) I'd make him keep wearing a mac. There's worse things than unplanned pregnancy after all and cheating suggests a lack of respect for the wellbeing of a partner and sexual health in particular. But then I grew up in the 80s with the infamous AIDS adverts.

My god how does a one year accumulate so much crap.
I'm supposed to be having a sort out/clear out and cleaning day. So far I've tidied living room and M's bedroom. I wanted to get all her stuff sorted in the loft but each time I start one job I see another that needs doing.

Stressing me out!

I'm thinking of having a week off beginning of feb and still sending M to childcare mon-weds so I can have a proper spring clean and clear out. Good idea or waste of holidays?

How I didn't get pregnant/diseased as a reckless teenager I will never know

I dropped to when i went to uni and my mum thought i was anorexic when i came home

Implant has been fine for me apart from my inability to lose weight. I've been stable at nearly 12 since a few weeks after R was born. I walk a few miles carrying him most days and eat sensibly - we all eat the same healthy stuff with occasional homemade puddings, i mostly have skimmed milk and a smaller portion than df who has full fat with R. Must buy decaf teabags, i have sugar in coffee which won't help! Usually cereal at 8:30, sandwich at lunch then proper dinner about 6:30. Homemade pizza, or beef sausages, or cottage pie, or cheesy tuna pasta etc.

fatima I use a fair few days of hols when the DC are in nursery. Got one coming up on Monday. Bliss! Do it!

lily did you decide on a holiday? We have been to majorca when DD was 16mo. Hard work. Not v relaxing. But she was v well catered for in terms of activities and food etc. New York is top of mine and DH's to do list but probably not with DC just yet.

isles I imagine there are a few people who feel like that

pikz why a long week? Hope all ok.

Hey kyz nice to see you posting epic posts again.

Where's VQ?

pass totally agree about daytime tv. Agree with whoever said about Heir Hunters though, awesome stuff.

sebsmummy that sounds really tough.

msjj I dont think you are the only one to have had quiche inspired dreams! Hope things are ok.

tits I am impressed you taught yourself! I think lydie taught herself to crochet too. I do not have a crafty bone in my body.

BP I am also needing to be a better girl. My lovely DSis bought me some make up for xmas because prior to this I only had a six year old mascara and I have worn it a lot more, and stuck a bit of mousse in wild curls done my hair and it DOES make a difference to how I feel.

stunt is that DH swearing at J? Are things ok? Thanks for contributing to my S&B thread btw.

I'm also up for adoption by sophia sophia hosting mass quiche meet up

Contraception - using condoms at the moment. Because I don't want to go on the pill, don't fancy the coil or mirena, and don't want another baby. except I do, a bit. DH was booked in for the snip on S's birthday but I asked him to cancel it. A bit final. I think we'll use condoms for a while, then he will have the snip. We DTD so infrequently though! YW explains my views v well now, not as a reckless teenager.

Weight. Hmmmm. All v interesting. Nice to hear some of you being happy in your body image. I am the quiche resident fatty I suspect. I could do BP's aimed for calories in a day in a snack. MsJJ I have much, much more more like double that than that to lose as I weigh almost three of chasing. Was a fat bride, fat pregnant person although lost weight when pg, same as fruit, put weight on when bfing (WTAF - oh yeah, cake), still fat. The lack of sleep and working FT and DH working whenever I am not leads to a viscious cycle of no exercise, no motivation or time to do any exercise, too much quick and easy sugar, too much grazing at work, eating late. Gah.

We started SW last year, DH almost immediately and almost without effort, dropped 2 stone the fucker, and det was amazing and shared her tips which was fab. But we fell off the wagon. DH is back to old, bad habits. We need to get back on it. MFP might be the way to go. I have a strong suspicion my lovely DSis is about to get engaged and I'm fucking dreading the bridesmaid invitation which I know is coming. Fruit I totally get how you feel.

I have a final MIL anecdote. I was chatting to DH this lunchtime and said, you know what, maybe she'll apologise.

He revealed that he had received a text msg from her earlier this week but didn't want to stress me out before my Appointment yesterday. Before I read it he said you'll get that she will never apologise.

It was a msg to him using the singular you, saying she loves HIM, and HIS girls, and if HE ever needs her she will be there for HIM.

Very blatantly omitting me, therefore blaming me for the whole melodrama, and of course a very long way from an apology.

He didn't answer her. So that's that.

In retaliation I have removed her (but not FIL) from my fb friends. That kind of petty gesture goes right over my head but I know she takes that kind of thing vair seriously so is a nice passive aggressive final fuck you from me to her.

Now, scheming, which I referred to last night is of course related to the Other Situation. I will update on FB.

Haven't decided on holiday yet, my younger brother said he and his girlfriend might come with us if it's Barbados. It's actually not too expensive but I need to make a decision fairly soon.

chasing stay with condoms for a while pls.

Just finishing 7:39, it's a bit boring and long?

Am quite interested in aps re weight gain/loss although saying that my issue is notmy weight but my separated stomach muscles. Abloke atwork asked if I was pregnant again just before christmas. It wasn't my best day! I've started pilates but massively fail on actually getting round to doing the exercises daily. I suspect the broken elbow won't help with that either. I have all my fingers crossed tge fracture clinic is optimistic about my recovery tomorrow. I rang F's nursery today and my day at home (weds) is their busiest day so there's not much chance of them being able to take him if I can't lift him for a while. Need to find a Plan B if not. Oh well.

Sebsmummy - that's horribly stressful. Both mine fell through centiles naturally and it's really hard not to blame yourself. But kids are really resilient and will bounce back to find their natural line - as far as i know anyway.

Sophia - love the sound of your food planning. Anytime you feel the need to have a quiche party would be fine

Jims the iPhone Fitter Fitness Calculator is really good and it's free. It calculates BMI, BMR, body fat, waist/hip ratio as well as tracking your weight over time.

Isles I can't use hormonal contraception at all which is possibly why I have three children lol as it gives me constant PMT.

Sebsmummy that's awful advice from your GP. My pharmacist wouldn't even let me have sudafed as it suppresses your milk supply - how rubbish of your doc to ignore something so important when prescribing to a nursing Mum! Are there any contraceptive pill brands you can take when nursing? I thought they all worked by conning your body that you're preggers?

Will my new doc talked about a progesterone pill and assumed that was the one I was prescribed. When I said no and told him which one he looked pretty shocked.

Next time, assuming there is a next time, I will not be jumping on a contraceptive at all. I can't believe how much I'm struggling to conceive for a second time now and I'm cross that I even went on it at all. All anyone kept telling me was how easy it would be to fall pregnant again. 7 cycles later I can inform them that that really isn't the case.

Thanks jims.

My son is on the 80th centile now with a really good appetite so I really hope those lean months didn't hurt him

Are you still nursing? That can suppress fertility too especially if LO still has night feeds. Fingers and toes crossed for you - don't despair

No I gave up in November because I knew it could suppress my fertility. Luckily he had lost interest by then anyway as he was very interested in his food.

Thank you xxxx

Ahem...cough cough I caught when still feeding, especially night feeding when dd was 7 months old 5 weeks to go :)

sebsmummy just re read your post....don't mean to be boastful....shit !! Sorry.

One of the NCT mums is pregnant again. I have just had a massive pang of jealousy and broodiness all at once should probably keep implant where it is

Yes, isles. You should :).

Going to sleep, night night quiche.

One of dhs work colleagues is about to become a dad, I am a bit broody sometimes but I just cannot imagine having to share my time with F with someone else yet. The right time will come.

Sebsmummy, sorry uou have had such a bad experience. Although you've had periods for a while, could it havebeen that you weren't ovulating whilst bf? It still must feek like forever, waiting for your bfp though.

Ooh donna exciting, have you got everything ready? Are the rest of the brood excited?

I had a little chuckle about that dream someone had. Who would have thought it, a resident tailor in the form of pidjy!

Have done dreadfully on calories today. Need another 1100 before bed. Shall crack out the icecream in a bit!

Roll on the weekend.