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Jan 2014 - And lo' there appeared a star: Our babies start arriving!

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AnotherStitchInTime · 30/12/2013 22:02

Hello ladies,

Thought I would start you off. We can just keep this a stats thread until we all deliver and then move across if you like.

AnotherStitchInTime Dc3 Mason Oliver born 23rd December at 9.57am, 34+5 weeks, 2.976kg.

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AMillionNameChangesLater · 06/04/2014 20:49

I feel bad. He showed me his phone and a text saying "blah blah I'll be home for 8" didn't send. So he genuinely thought i was pissed he got home 30 mins late

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 06/04/2014 21:08

million I've been there; DH rang at 7.30 to see how A was being, promised to be home by 8.30. Rolled in at 10.30 too pissed to take her off my hands (as it happens, she was asleep by then, but it was the principle: I'd asked him to come home in a fit state to give me a break). I was furious. He had 'reasons', but tbh, there's no good enough reason, short of life threatening injuries!

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 06/04/2014 21:09

Also, he stayed out on a Sunday from 11-8??? When do you get a day off? Not fair.

AMillionNameChangesLater · 06/04/2014 21:32

It's just shit really, the assumptions. He is a wonderful dh but every so often he's a twat. I told him he made me feel like all i do is take care of the kids as i don't have a social life. He said it wasn't like that and he's off all week so i should go do something for me.

the trouble is, all my mates work full time or don't want to go out. Sigh

TobyLerone · 06/04/2014 22:08

Still out of order, million, and as for "I don't go out very often and I've had a really good night before you start..."?
He could shove that right up his arse. How dare he try to make you out to be the nagging ball and chain?

AMillionNameChangesLater · 06/04/2014 22:13

Exactly Toby!

it isn't resolved. I'm in bed pissed with him and tomorrow we'll inevitably talk it out. Right now i think he's being a twat

Pidgy · 07/04/2014 01:10

I'd be pissed too million. I'm really impressed that all your. DH's are out. I'm really not laid back, especially at the moment! DH is travelling with work this week so he'll have nice meals out and good sleep which is his break I figured! We've had his family and friends round but I know he'd like a night out. Problem is, he can't do anything by halves and the whole next day would be a write off too.

Hope you work it out million and he treats you to a night off another time. He should have kept to his time but I suppose if he'd had a few and was having fun, times seem to go out the window.

This probably sounds mean, but it was reassuring that others are having sleep problems too. I got the impression from other posts that most babies were sleeping through. I really need to chill out about it I think as it's stopping me sleeping even when she is asleep. Don't think using this phone us helping either. Saw something on tv about the light affecting sleep. Eek!

We had a nice day anyway. We drove to Northampton and met my uni friends for lunch. The place had a soft play for the toddlers. DS had a big tantrum when we had to leave which was embarrassing but predictable. He was tired and over excited.

Going to try to sleep so I'm ready for messy play tomorrow (today!).

TarkaTheOtter · 07/04/2014 05:10

pidgy just in the last week Alex has gone from waking every couple of hours to, tonight, sleeping 9.30pm-4.45am. I have done nothing different. Sadly dd did the same but it all went tits up at 4 months (she still wakes in the night at 2.2) so not counting my chickens but even as a one off its amazing!

beccajoh · 07/04/2014 06:37

Pidgy we don't have sleeping through here, although not doing too badly. He does bedtime (6.30ish) until 12-1am when he wakes for milk. Then he wakes again four hours later. So he often does a 7 hour stretch but not at the right time of night! I'm toying with the idea of dream feeding him - have tried a couple of times - first time he took 2oz and then woke up as normal anyway, and the second time I couldn't get him to take anything at all. I think I probably need to give it a good go for a week or more though to see if it'll work.

Archie woke up for the day at 5.15 today and has just conked back out Brew but I'm enjoying the cuddle Smile. I wouldn't normally get up with him that early but DH has the mother of all job interviews this morning so I didn't want to wake him? He's on the last leg (hopefully!) for a job in the Middle East, which, if he's offered the position, will mean we'll all be moving there and our lives will be very different!

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 07/04/2014 06:44

puggle I have the bumgenius 4.0 these ones, which have a pocket for a flat pad insert, looks like a mini long thin towel. Prob you have a different model?

million can you go for a spa day/shopping without kids/to cinema on your own as your version of his night out?

pidgy glad you had a nice day.

TobyLerone · 07/04/2014 06:53

No sleeping through here, either. A couple of times Meredith has gone 10pm - 4/5am, but it seems they were flukes as she's back to 10pm - 1am, then waking again at 4am and 7am (if we don't have to get up before that).

TobyLerone · 07/04/2014 06:54

I should say, though, that I'm ok with that. It could be much worse, and I don't feel especially hard done by.

Naturegirl82 · 07/04/2014 08:59

What time is everyone's little one's going to sleep at night? O doesn't fall asleep until between 9-11 as she spends the evening cluster feeding. I wouldn't know how to go about getting her to sleep earlier or even if I should bother until after this dreaded 4 month regression. Had the first 4.30am feed for a while last night and this morning I feel shocking! I'm in awe of you ladies that are continuing to function on little sleep. Can't remember who asked but O is still with me for all naps except when I nip off to make a cup of tea!

Humpty does A still need changing straight away with a wet nappy even in cloth? Switching to cloth seems to have helped O and she doesn't cry everytime she has a wet bum now thank goodness. We are using a mix of smartipants and then pop-ins for overnight. Do you use a disposable insert?

million hope you are feeling better today. I would have been annoyed at that too.

TarkaTheOtter · 07/04/2014 09:14

When he was waking every two hours Alex seemed to start the night at 7/8ish.
Now he refuses to settle til after 9 but sleeps til 6/7 with only one night feed.

Angelesque · 07/04/2014 09:20

F goes down somewhere between 7.30 - 9pm, and sleeps until about 4.30am, wakes for a quick feed then sleeps till 7 ish. In the last week he's slept through a couple of times but think he was teasing us!

Angelesque · 07/04/2014 10:42

PS note I have said nothing about his sleep pattern in the day. Because he refuses to sleep in the day. rolls eyes

BookTart · 07/04/2014 10:48

Persephone goes to sleep downstairs with us at 7.30, and we take her up when she wakes at 9.30. She then goes in her sidecar crib until 12.30, then co-sleeps with me and wakes at 2, 4 and is up at 6ish. The longest stretch she's ever done is 3 hours and she's 12 weeks. At this point I'm used to it and don't see any point trying to change things until after the four month regression. I'm slightly worried about that though as I'm not sure what she'll regress to - she's been the same since day 2! I always feed her to sleep, and luckily she never needs changing at night. I'll think about self-settling after 4 months, but there's no real rush.

million it sounds like he needs the problem to be spelt out for him. I'd be livid too, mostly about the food.

TarkaTheOtter · 07/04/2014 10:55

book that sounds exactly what Alex was like until this week when out of nowhere he started doing a longer stretch of sleep.

TarkaTheOtter · 07/04/2014 10:55

He's 14weeks btw.

alteredimages · 07/04/2014 11:18

Thanks everyone for the cloth nappy info. I know it will save lots of money, but trouble is that we are broke now, so I am trying to keep costs to a bare minimum. I like how cheap the LL OSFA pockets are, but am not sure the fit will be good or the elastic will hold up. Also a bit grossed out by the idea of only ever being able to wash at 30 or 40 degrees. I think a lot of the more expensive bamboo nappies can be washed at 60. How have you found the fit on A humpty and do the colours run in the wash?

million I would be pissed off and I try to be very very patient with DH. I think it is the attitude that it the worst. DH has just pissed me off now by waking me and N up, ordering me to put N to sleep in his own bed and spend some time with him. Of course N screamed and woke up, I had to get up to look after him, asked for some help, DH told me no because he is too tired, and now he is snoring and I am wide awake. Are idiot DHs contagious?

pidgy N sleeps quite late, not before 10.30pm, but that is mostly because we stay up late and his bed is in the living room! He will sleep through then until around 8am. He has been doing this since around 6 weeks, but like tarka I am waiting to see what happens with sleep regression. Even so, I wish DD would take the hint. She still wakes up most nights and she is 3 and a half.

book I completely sympathise because DD was just like that and I know what you mean about being numbed to it. Whatever happens with sleep, it does get easier after this, I promise.

beccajoh · 07/04/2014 11:28

naturegirl DS goes to sleep around 6.30/7pm but my daughter spent her evenings cluster feeding until she was 20 weeks exactly when she suddenly stopped and started wanting to go to bed at 7pm. I think most babies are done with cluster feeding a bit sooner, though! I've never heard of any other babies carrying on for that long.

AMillionNameChangesLater · 07/04/2014 11:57

Thanks everyone. Today i had a lie in until 9:30 and he got up with the boys, I'm also out tomorrow with a friend to Manchester to look at the museums and art galleries, and I'm hoping to be working on Wednesday doing a KIT day. After almost two days flying solo, he will see differently. I just don't think it occurs to him. Stupid man.

AMillionNameChangesLater · 07/04/2014 12:11

We got our appointment for the paediatrician. 3 June. Which is when he will be 23 weeks. Giant waste of time. I know this means they aren't too worried, but I've been made so anxious about his weight for the last 5/6 weeks that I feel crap, to get this apt after the whole experience makes it worse and makes me wonder why the hell i bothered

curlywurlyllass · 07/04/2014 12:27

Wow poo in the face and wee in the mouth, what delightful babies! We keep getting poo seepage when least expected (my dad found this out the hard way haha)

Million I hope dh can see he has done wrong and makes up for it

What's the 4month sleep regression? We have only got wee James sleeping 10ish-3/4 am (then grizzles for dummy or cuddle on and off till 7)
If this goes back to the hell of the last few months I will greet!

We had James christened/baptised yesterday, was a lovely service and we packed out the church! Party afterwards was great and we were all shattered. Had spent the last few days making the food,favours and organising decorations so after all the stress it is a big relief it all went well. James was so well behaved and everyone wanted cuddles. He is now grizzly and Choked with the cold

Hope everyone is well

enormouse · 07/04/2014 13:06

amillion, it might just be that his growth/development catches up by that appointment. Can really understand the pissed offness though, bureaucracy is shite.
I got a paediatric referral through for DS1. Well not exactly a referral, a letter saying I'm on the list but the next letter they send will be an appointment and there'll be 6 weeks notice for that appointment from the date of that letter, at least. DS1 seems to be having a growth spurt or just eating me out of house and home for the hell of it and may well not need that referral by then.

Re sleep times I take Cal up to bed at 7.30/8.00pm, the same time DS1 goes to bed. He may or may not settle then but he usually goes to sleep around 9/10ish. Theoretically.

I feel utterly, utterly shit today. Cal was up all night and I am knackered out. My skin is so dry and itchy (feels like bfing is sucking all the moisture out of me). Plus I have patches of ezcema where he's thrown milk up on me. I hate having flare ups, I feel too ugly to even open the door to the postie.

Oh and I forgot to stay on top of DS1s nappies and were on his last 2 today. I have all his potty training stuff in but he just doesn't seem ready yet. He's scared of the toilet and looks at the potty with a look of 'what the fucks this mummy' and clambers off it and squats next to it. He seems ready in every way but doesn't seem keen enough on the actual equipment yet to go cold turkey on nappies iykwim.

Sorry for the epic me me me ness, just don't feel great right now.