November 2012 - The run up to our babies' first 'proper' Christmas

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Zorsted. Had otherdc this morning due to gunky eyes and nursery wouldn't take till after eye drops then rush home to collect the sling my mate wanted me to rake back to the library for her - whishe hadn't dropped off - and collect another mate who wanted to come - she changed her mind then off to a town 25 minutes away to the actual meet. In my car which is playing up i didn't get a drink or pee between breakfast and R's dinner but miraculously survived with two napped and fed babies and some shreds of sanity

Now drinking Ting with cherry vodka

Good news Lily. You sure could use some. Hopefully it will take the edge off the car seat fiasco.

Thank fuck it is the weekend. Bad day at the post office. I got chastised for knocking on an office door. Apparently it is a door that should never ever be used. It has always been open since I came back from work. I nearly lost it big time. The office has two doors and I usually use the other door, but that one had been locked, I knocked with no answer, so went to try the other door. Fucking pathetic. And I had to take 2 hours annual leave to go to the dentist. And I should have given more notice. I have now given 6 months notice for the next one. I hope it is enough.

You knocked on a door? vq you should be SACKED for that. :o

The more work stories I hear the more I want to go freelance.

That is outrageous vq! I knew you were a sassy lassy but knocking on that door?! You are a scandalous wench!

Sorry about the post pr. Really annoying.

I also thought that gt!

Well, p is in bed and I should be slurping birthday bubbles but DH has 'food poisoning' so is very tender. Hopefully a quiet night and good sleep should sort him out because this is our weekend away! P is all primed for bossing granny around and hopefully we manage to take everything we need - DH got down the road last time before realising we had forgotten to pack the travel cot

Pidj I looooove Ting. Reminds me of the Caribbean .

Today's new achievements include climbing to the top of the 3 step IKEA step stool and trying to climb from it onto his high chair. And plummeting off twice with no tears. And pushing the footstool across the lounge to the sofa next to the tree to allow himself to climb onto the sofa and stripmine the Christmas tree of decorations. This is his response to me removing decs from the parts of the tree he can reach yesterday. He is either going to be in the special forces or a career criminal.

At the playgroup Christmas party we met Father Christmas again. Much weeping again!

BP I stole your idea and made dairy free ham and mushroom mini quiches and they are lush! He had 3!!!!! I had 5

Happy birthday Pass. FC DH recovers super quick!

VQ get thee to the naughty step - go on, I can see you!

What is this Ting you speak of?

this is where we are staying. I suppose if DH is still poorly the baths looks bag and handy.

Are you having a good birthday pass ?

Looks lovely

Wow, pass that looks lovely! Have a wonderful time. FX for DH feeling better.

It's quiet tonight.

Oh, I asked nursery about the shrink. Said I saw a schedule on the wall about group sessions with the psychologist. She said it's for the staff, not the kids. Every week they pay for the staff to have a session with a child psychologist to talk about any questions they may have about their experiences of the week vis a vis child development. A kind of ongoing CPD. Which kind of rocks.

Am v glad it's not the kids.

Hoping sophia is having a lovely reunion with her girls this evening.

Hello all.
The HV said all was fine.she seemed in a hurry to get out thou. Oh well. It seemed a black mark that I have a night tipple on a Friday nite. The phrase she used was "not excessive use"

Had a nice day at home. I'm trying to do my x mas cards but I've done 3.

Evil

They ask you if you drink? Wtf?

If I had barged in then she could be forgiven for snapping at me, but I knocked!

If I get an interview, when they say any other questions, I am tempted to ask if I will be expected to morph into a cunt on promotion like everyone else.

So spirits then?
Yeah,

chasing do you have to remind your self not to put the ex's name in the x mas cards.

Evil

There is a lot of money being thrown at Alcohol Treatment in the UK, and afaik all health workers are meant to assess everyone for alcohol use.

Ah that explains then. She also said to visit the clinic too. I'm fine, I told her I'm having support.

Evil

vq you know that I of all people support kids of alcoholics (and partners/parents of) but a mum shouldn't be made to feel bad for having a drink or two.

I do also realise that there is a real drink problem bubbling away under the surface in the uk which needs addressing but...

It's a cultural problem. But not going to rant about it here...

Hiya.

Evil there's nothing wrong with having a few drinks here and there. Like others have said, just asking the same Q they ask of everyone to pick up any problems.

Chasing glad the concert was fab. Hope O is feeling better now, poor boy. And stunt - how was your concert?

Glad you had a productive day GT. And sorry to hear of missed post PR.

Sophia enjoy your girls.

SS arrived today - thankyou. Just need to get a tree up to put the present under now!

Puppy. Puppy puppy puppy. Is mad. Bonkers. Batty. Incontinent or so it feels Cannot wait til she's had her jabs and we can wear her out on a walk!

And, even more exciting. Tomorrow, me and F are going to my parents - just the 2 of us. Now I love dh and dsd, but this trip-for-2 means that I can SLOB and LAZE and CHILL THE FUCK OUT, and be pampered, for a day, without worrying about entertaining dsd. I am so so so excited. I haven't had anything like this for over a year, and it is long overdue!

And, to rival GTs MIL (well not quite), my MIL has morphed into a total monster. About once a year she turns into a busy-body, meddling psycho. That time is upon us. And I can do no right. She told dh today that I was lazy, dump the children on him (er, his kids too!?! and technically dsd isn't mine?!), overwork him (like fuck I do!), have made F too clingy, etc etc. If i had been there to witness this, I would have collected my belongings and left with F, plus/minus dh. She is going to push me too far before too long and sparks will fly. I am normally placid but. Do not mess with this mummy bear.

BP not nice things for ur mil to say. But glad you get some times with your folks. Know exactly how good it will be for you.

Mil has been today. Nothing I can pin point and say. But just a moody day. I feel like her being in the kitchen for hours cooking is to point out how I'm not doing it.
She kept going on about how FH had been up since 4am and hadnt eaten, which I felt was a dig at me, like why havnt you made him anything. FH did tell her he wasn't a child and IF he wanted something he would, but he wasn't hungry so didn't want anything.
She Spent ages cleaning kitchen tonight but tbh I don't care.
I told FH I hate living here. I felt sorry him actually look on his face was lost. He told me he didn't know what to do, he can't leave them. Asked me what she did to upset me, but its all dumb stuff that sounds insignificant. Told me even his dad tells her to stop complaining "if they leave it will be more difficult for us alone". And with fh knowing his dad feels like this makes FH want to/feels he has to stay. He keeps saying they will leave for India soon, feb at earliest not soon enough.

Argh. Can you tell I can't sleep and am just thinking to much.

bp enjoy the time off with your parents. I love going to mine cause I can just sit back and they take over everything. Mil sounds horrid.

gt you are still a saint.

evil I have a glass of wine every now and than. No ones business. It's bloody hard to be a single parent, you need to wind down in the evening. I don't do Xmas cards but still sometimes want to write his names on birthday cards.

vq it never was about the money with the car seat, it's all about her doing what she wants and not giving a second thought of my feelings. But I'm stubborn enough. She and my brother already think I'm making parenting mistakes, what they not realise is that I'm on my own all the time and have no back up whatsoever. Of course o is a sensitive soul, of course she is attached to me. There is no one else to be attached to. I can rant about them, as much as I love them, they annoy the hell out of me sometimes .

Going to my parents today as they have my sister's kids until lunch time, I absolutely adore her kids so will get there early.

Can I ask you about the chicken pox vaccine? Who is doing it? What's the general consensus? Here they recommend giving it to kids but I'm not so sure just yet, need to do a bit more research.