October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Check in here. Do we still need the stats?

Flyer I am sorry you are feeling rubbish. I agree with Roofio, it is hardly surprising that you are finding it tough given everything you and A have gone through.

Good luck with appointments today, hope they go really well and doctors are helpful.

Thanks all. I might wait until 6 week check too.

Flyer ditto what others have said. and I hope today goes well.

flyer I really hope you feel better soon. I can't really add anything to what the others have said, but my sister had quite severe pnd and although it doesn't feel like it now, you will come through this. It is a great start that you are looking for the support now.

orange and pink, I have exactly the same problem. Pooing is agony, but it doesn't seem to be piles. Altogether I just don't really feel right "Down there". Thought about Dtd last night, but just couldn't.

flyer

Thanks all.

I have awful pain when pooing also I thought it maybe my piles (lovely) but it may be an anal fissure. Could this be what you ladies who've had natural labours have I believe it's quite common after childbirth.

My god I literally have to hold onto the towel radiator when I'm pooing as it feels like I'm passing razor blades out of my bum

Looked that up on nhs website this morning flyer and yes it sounds like anal fissures. Oh the glamour.

Oh my god what's an anal fissure - I have razor blades poos as well.........

nhs info

I had a fissure last time. Ouch! The doctor gave me local anaesthetic cream (lidocaine?) to apply before and after pooing.

We ate a tiny piece of the leaf that makes lidocaine in the rainforest on honeymoon and it numbed my tongue. I was cross with our guide as everything else had been yummy plants! So I presume it would do a good job of numbing anywhere.

I'm getting a bit worried about how much C is sleeping - l know that will really annoy some of you! He never seems to have a period of calm wakefulness, its just asleep of crying. He's 4 weeks today, should he be more alert by now? He has an evening fussy period, usually between 10 and about midnight but very little other awake time. He occasionally is awake after the morning (8:30 ish) feed but usually ends up crying so I put him in the sling which calms him and sends him off to sleep.

Everything and Halle it's awful isn't it? I was so scared I wouldn't bond with the little guy especially as at his birth (induced due to waters being early) which for the most part was quite a nice experience ended up with me having my only shot of diamorphine when I was 10cm dilated. I'd been measured 2 hours previously at 2cm and had genuinely been expecting (along with the midwife!) to be in labour for a day or so, not 8 hours. When he was born I was in a complete opiate haze and felt quite disjointed from the whole scene. Especially not being able to hold him I worried it would all go to shit, but we just about held it together and I melt now when he opens his little eyes!

Still feeling a bit institutionalized now, can't stop writing down his feed times and lengths (although doing it on an app now), hoping he will have gained/maintained his weight when he's weighed tomorrow, will help me relax a bit I hope.

MrsH - my C is 5 weeks today and is only a bit more awake these last couple of days if that helps. Still more asleep than awake though.

mrshoratio
H is 5 weeks, and I can honestly say she sleeps 23 hours a day, she wakes regularly for feeds, but asleep within 5 mins till the next one. Evenings she's a bit grumpy/awake, but still keeps falling to sleep during then.

Checking in!! Going to make an effort to post more. I'm exhausted though and want to go back to bed, now that the baby is finally asleep!!

It's my third fast day on the 5:2 diet today, and my weight has gone down again so I'm feeling more and more human. Although breastfeeding, I don't have a hunger feeling at all any more which is so weird, I was starving during pregnancy. Now I get feelings of dizziness before I have a hungry feeling. So weird.

to flyer poo related problems are the worst and on top of PND. So glad you're aware of it though so you can ask for help, that's the first step and it will be so much better with help. I haven't read far back as on phone but more to mothers with babies in special care. Such a worrying time.

I have a constant need to wee that started when A was about 6 weeks, could that be a weak pelvic floor? I was feeling a bit smug about how unscathed my pelvic floor was, so it would serve me right if so!

Also, could anyone who's had their 6 week appointment let me know what happens? They don't do it here but I am going to make an appointment to ask them to check my battle wounds and disastesis, just wondering what else to ask them to look at.

Still using nipple shields to feed even though A 6 weeks now, he still doesn't have a clue what to do with a nipple. I think we've missed that boat to be honest. And I really am not loving breastfeeding, it doesn't hurt or anything, and it's great that it's so instant, I just find it a bit boring and a faff. My mental target is 6 months though, if only to save money on formula! We have only bought the ready made bottles as the powder looks so complicated, so of course the bottles cost a lot. Plus the general public seems very anti formula here, total strangers keep coming to ask me how I'm feeding him. Weird!

Post natal thread!! Thanks mrs hn

Welcome squirrel and stinker

ana I hope you can get some rest today. You must be excited though to have your parents arriving! I got very emotional when my dad and sis came over. It was great having them. Hope you have a lovely time and the prep for the baptism goes smoothly.

flyer as roofio and others said you have been through sooo much it's no wonder you're feeling down. From the delivery to time in scuba to feeding issues any one of us would be floored. The sleep deprivation is unreal and no one can describe what it's really like! Please try and get to gp tomorrow. Good luck with appt at alder hey. .

To the ladies whose little ones were in nicu you did a truly amazing job of looking after them in such a difficult environment. Glad you're all getting on well and bonding ok once home

For those with anal tears/fissures/ razor poos are you on stool softeners?? They should be OTC or could get prescription from gp?

Mrs hn I have a very sleepy 5 1/2 week old here. I was a bit worried before but I'm trying to go with the flow as she's feeding and growing well. Still waiting for more calm alert times and for my smiles..........

Anyone know about loads of green poos in a bf baby?? My dh was concerned about it this morning and has now stressed me out! Will look on kellymom

Sorry for massive post.

I'm sure I've forgotten loads so and to all xx

To the ladies with anal fissures.......ouch! I had one last time, you need to keep your toilet trips as soft as possible and it will heal up but it will take weeks as every time you go to the loo it re-opens a bit. Take fybogel and lactulose, lots of water and lots of fibre. Gp can give you stuff but it's not overly effective.

Ok, thanks, I will just count my blessings for now and wait for the trouble to start more alert phase!

PS if its any consolation to those of you with less sleepy babies, i am sitting in my kitchen with one boob out, trying to let my cracked, slightly pus-y nipple heal a bit. I have a blocked duct on the other side that has been there a week and wont clear and a cold and my diamond shoes are too tight

So its not all wonderful with a sleepy baby...

morning Afternoon all!! Wow, we've graduated to a postnatal thread. We're all finally in 'the club' LOL

Just checking in and joining those with babies who sleep well-ish during the day and fuss through the night. BF is better but A has a lazy latch -> can't get him to open his mouth wide, which leads to very sore nipples. Hope to get to BF clinic this week for tips on getting this right.

Sorry to hear about those anal fissures ladies :-( sounds horrid. Fx things improve (get soft!) soon.

And to those with feeding, sleeping, health problems - hope you get some sleep and signs of improvement.
(Sorry, using phone so difficult to read back & name check).

Chickie - HV told me green poo can be a sign of dehydration and/or not getting enough fatty or hind milk. I was told to call my HV to check if A's poos didn't become mustard yellow soon (which thankfully they did).

PS I expressed and topped up A's in-take for 3 feeds which seemed to sort out green poo. My own idea, not medical or HV advice.

MrsH relish in that sleepy baby! I have a Velcro baby and what I'd give to be able to put her down without her screaming the minute I do.

Umlauf good to see you back on here. I was thinking of you this morning and wondered where you'd got too. Your diet is going well I'm gonna look up that 5:2 diet a friend does it and swears by it.

So Alexandra was tongue tied and had it snipped there and then at Alder Hey, although they reassured me that I was like a small scratch it wasn't nice to watch. Hoping this helps the feeding issues.

Dp and I are off for a meal tonight, with A of course. Hoping she doesn't scream the place down. Quite nice to go out again for food.

flyer glad they got tongue tie done and hoping it improves bf for you!!

Just been for my 6 week check at the hospital. was the same dr I saw throughout my pg re:H's heart so that was lovely. all seems to be healinh well down there, she had a good poke around. just told me to take it slow with dtd as it will probably hurt at first!! my bottom looked fine and she said it will just be painful as the scar tissue is still new and sore so poo pushing against it will hurt. makes sense!!

flyer great news they have sorted the tongue tie but can't believe it took so long. Hope it helps with feeding.

It's amazing how far we and our little ones have come since those early ante natal threads. The waiting for the 12 week scans and the worries over lack of movement are a distant memory.

N clearly took against the suggestion that he has a pattern and has now been cluster feeding since midday

Hope you enjoy your meal Flyer, let us know how it goes. I'm not brave enough to take LO out for food yet - things like feeding in public are a bit scary for now.