October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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Ana - . When it's all over you will really enjoy having your baby back. We had lots of people here today and I just excused myself for one feed and went to a room by myself so we could have hugs and cuddles and quiet feeding without my mum watching me gimlet eyed and asking whether he is still sucking or not...

Thanks mnippy and orange. I'm excusing myself more and more to feed him but I can't hide upstairs all day.

I think my breast problems are in large part caused by a tight bra. I'm learning the importance of trying on bras before buying, especially if they come in small/med/large sizes.

Ana - good luck with Christening! And with everyone wanting to hold baby. I have ILs staying this weekend and, as nice & helpful as they are, my FIL drives me crazy with his constant need to hold baby (I've barely taken A off the boob before FIL's asking to hold him) and then incessantly uses whiny "baby talk" (babbling nonsense) with A... Nowhere near as bad as what some of you've had to put up with but it drives me batty. So I'm feeling your pain Ana.

As for another LO, I would love a second but it took us 5 years & lots of fertility treatment / MCs before we succeeded. Plus I've just turned 40, so another one is highly unlikely; and my DH doesn't want to adopt. Makes me sad to think this is it for us and that A won't have a little brother or sister but I am so very, very grateful that A arrived safely and despite all the difficulties (BF, lack of sleep, colic, massive life change) I just keep reminding myself to enjoy & relish every second, even the sh*tty ones.

Hmm hope that doesn't come across as sanctimonious. it just reflects our situation.

I always thought I would want 2 dc, but during labour I made a mental note to myself to never do it again (pre-existing back condition + back to back baby + dilating in under 40 minutes + no pain relief = very painful birth). I'm still suffering now 7 weeks later with an ulcer where one of the tears was and fissures which are borderline as painful as the labour! DH only wanted one, but has already mentioned that he would maybe like another one. DH is 40 this year, so we'd want to have another sooner rather than later, but I too am worried about how I would cope with a newborn and a toddler. However, I would ideally like a sibling for A. But then I think what if the newborn was another velcro baby! Or what if it was twins?! They run in the family so are a possibility. legally every time things get hard with my one baby I think of you and it makes me man-up a bit!

Mostly it's the idea of the labour itself that puts me off. But then I have to consider that I've survived it once, I am sure I can do it again. It'd be 9 months of willing D-day NOT to arrive though!

I thought I'd never want another after ds1 was born. He fed hourly for weeks and was Velcro......here I am with ds2! I always wanted a brother/sister for him as didn't want him to miss out on sibling love/hate!! DH is much much younger than his sister and felt like an only child growing up and he often says how lonely and quiet it was at times. Having two is amazingly hard but I just keep thinking how lucky my boys are to have each other and be so close in age. Just hope they don't grow up to hate each other!!!

I have to add I was another one that didn't think id do it again after DS was born, I had an awful pregnancy and labour with him and ended up back in hospital with him for 10 days afterwards with a douboe kidney infection was awful. This time I feel so lucky to have had a pretty easy pregnancy and my dream labour but having to look after DS every day has been exhausting. I dont feel like our family is complete yet although DH only ever wanted two. it makes me sad though that at the grand old age of 23 I could be finished having children. in an ideal world we would wait 3 yrs till Isla was at funded preschool part time and have one more. So have 3 yrs to convince DH .
Good luck with the christening today ana hope your feeling better and not brewing mastitis x

Finally caught up but can't remember what you were all saying.

I definitely done having children. Twins run in both sides of family and don't want to end up with 5, both DH and I wanted 3.

My DC are very calm and well behaved when it's just me but as soon as DH is about they turn into screaming roaring terrors.

Took baby J into work for a visit yesterday and he slept through full visit. So I fed him at 10 and he then slept through till 1.30 where he got fed and slept through till 4. Does anybody else's baby sleep all the time?

Legally I think you asked about cot napping the other day. We started putting DS upstairs to nap when he outgrew the Moses basket (7 weeks). Used to feed him, swaddle him, nurse for a bit till he looked sleepy then lie him down. After a while we could put him up wide awake and he would settle to sleep himself. DD never napped unless in moving pram or car

I definitely want to have at least one more, all being well, but being breech I didn't have to to go through labour which I can imagine might have put me off. Both DH and I are one of four so we are used to having lots of people around, there is no way I could cope with that many but 2 or 3 would be great.

soup sorry to hear lo is struggling I'm sure you'll both quickly adapt and hopefully the time will fly.

roofio glad you've seen such good improvements.

ana I really feel for you. I had to ask fil twice if I could take my baby to feed him. He had been crying as our car journey went on longer and was really in need of a feed. I couldn't believe how selfish he was being esp cos he sees him all the time. I also get 'god he's always hungry' which I know are bf digs. I hope you have a good christening. Also can you explain your itching. I really suffered over the first 2 weeks mainly on my stomach (stretch ms).

Hearing c cry makes me feel so sick, he's so easy going usually, so cries always mean his distressed and everyone else seems to think he's fine. He much prefers to be upright when held but people keep wanting to cradle him, which starts him off they know this too. I just don't get it.

Another q. Any tips on how to ensure boob doesn't cover nose whilst feeding. I feel like I smother. Lying down helps but not too good for spontaneous feeds or out and about. :)

Hope everyone has a good, peaceful weekend.

So at 4 weeks tomorrow it doesn't look like E is going to fit in the moses basket for much longer, my long little man! What is everyone doing with regards to keeping them in your room (I half co sleep with him in week as DH not here) not sure we can fit cot in comfortably x

3blondies not sure if you saw my post on fb but I have the kiddicare space saver cot. It's 90cmx54cm and will fit then up to 12-18 months. It was £52.48 with mattress, not sure if that deal is still on, with free delivery x

Gah, am supposed to be going to get my hair done this afternoon, but madam won't take a bottle of formula. We tries her with a little bit of expressed milk a week ago which she took, but I haven't been able to express enough to cover the feeds. I should have tried earlier, but I assumed she would take the formula. Want to cry,my roots are a disgrace

We have the nct bed nest which is meant to fit until 6 months or even they sit up. Expensive though. If you are a member you get a discount.

Thomas was in pain last night with wind he hasn't done a poo since yesterday morning. So didn't sleep in his bed at all, only in our chests. It meant we each got a 4 hour sleep though and I feel much better for it despite back ache. He doesn't wake up on us, only when we get up or decide to wake him. Trying to feed him up and massage legs and tummy now.

I was reading about tongue tie last night and wondering if Thomas has one, all the symptoms fit eg fussing, pulling off, wind, reflux, painful lipstick shaped nipples with blanching and white line, prolonged jaundice, small mouth gape, difficulty latching. Never managed to poke his tongue out to copy us - not sure if he can. Going to ask at the breastfeeding drop in on Monday.

Jelly even a little bit expressed would keep her going the length of your appointment? Hope you still manage to go.

Baby B will go straight into his nursery when he outgrows the basket. Although to be honest as he spends most of the night in our bed I don't think it matters!
We put ds1 in his own room when he was 12 weeks old. He slept perfectly well in his cot and to be honest we got more sleep as he was a noisy sleeper and I'm sure he woke up more as could smell the milk on me!

orange Isaac has all those and more and it TT. I would certainly get him assessed x

Argh we have smiles! Hooray! Happy mummy. Today will be mainly spent madly grinning trying to repeat it.

Bowlfull - with DD (she never would take a bottle) I got DH to bring her. He pushed her around while I had my hair done and just brought her to me in the salon for a feed which I did while sitting there with foils on. Is your DP around today, or anyone else who'll push her about? Might that work?

I'm not sure what we'll put H in when he out grows his moses basket. I want him in our room till 6 months, even though it might not be the most practical. its just what I want to do, so will need to have a good think about it!!

Ahh, lovely orange, enjoy.

Unfortunately I have been v lazy with expressing and currently have 1 oz in the fridge . I did think about doing that legally, but it takes so long to do my hair - I'm normally there for 4 hours - plus it will be so busy today that I have cancelled. I need to get my lazy arse put of bed in the eatly hours and express, and then persevere with the bottles then will try again in a few weeks. The terrible roots and tatty split ends are a good look on a mum of young baby right ?

I read somewhere that you shouldn't try to look too good too early or people will think you are fine and start expecting you to do things you used to again.

They're definitely not an unusual look - do you remember all the fuss the other week about Kate Cambridge's roots? You're in good company

I desperately need a haircut, but I can't quite get round to booking it...

I heard a bit about it Mrsh, but didn't see the pics. And no danger of looking too good here orange, though I am back in the jeans please ignore the massive, wobbly overhang

I just realised in about 6 weeks there will be an October 2014 thread, how weird is that.

Omg bowlful that's super scary just think when there babies are born ours will be nearly 1! I was reading the august 2014 ante natal thread and was thinking to myself baby flyer will be 10 months when their babies are born.

A had tongue tie and is still fussy on the breast I think she's just a fussy girl tbh. She wants what she wants when she wants it not when I tell her to have it! I think she's a stubborn little mule like her daddy.

I know its very weird isn't it, they might be walking!

Also flyer a fussy baby doesn't necessarily mean a fussy child. I will admit to not really liking ds very much when he was a young baby. I loved the bones of him, but I used to cry because 'I got a miserable one'. But he changed so much at about 6 months. He hated being a baby - as soon as he had more independance, crawling, eating solids etc he became SO happy, it was like a complete personality change. And he still is a very happy little chap. A complete handful, but such a character and everyone that meets him absolutley adores him.