Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

I'm in the middle of a full-on nursing strike. He won't take any AT ALL now, it's got steadily worse since Monday. I expressed and put it in a bottle and he won't even touch that.
I don't know what to do :(

Oh Octane . Have you tried sleepy feeding quietly in a dark room? Nurofen 10 mins before in case of teething pain? Go talk to Tiktok on the breastfeeding board. One think I do know is its unlikely to be the end. Its very rare for babies to self-wean this early. Not much help to you right now though.

octane some useful ideas here

Nothing useful to add, but to octane

octane you poor thing. Good advice already, I'll just add that the helplines are great so you could call and have a chat through with someone.

I was just coming to ask if your routine was still working octane because mines sodding not... so it looks as if we are both having a crap time. Dexter will drink but if he cant sleep he'll only have a bottle and theres no was I can expree that much, I get an ounce at most. Im getting desperate to get him back to sleeping 7-7 hes waking up later because of later nights so I think I might have to just leave the lie in sob and wake him up earlier

Thanks guys... I've tried Calpol, tried the quiet room, dark room, in bed, on the sofa....tried expressing and giving him a bottle (he wasn't even particularly into that). Also called the breasfedding helpline and they said all of the above.
They suggested not offering him the boob for 24hrs but I'm worried if I do that he'll just go off it altogether.
Lora yes I'm still on the routine and it still works perfectly in terms of sleep....so am even more mystified as to why he's gone on strike. Nothing has changed.

What about a candlelit bath with him, octane. It's one of the things they suggest for a reluctant feeder in the early days, they call it rebirthing?

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I don't see why you couldn't give it a go for an older baby. Nice and relaxing.

Nothing useful to add octane but hopefully it is just a short term thing, maybe teething?

On the drinking/feeding subject, Darcie still doesn't grasp the sippy cup! She only has 2 bottles a day now morning and night so I offer water during the day, but she just spits the majority of it out! It's literally a complete change of clothes after any sort of drink, ive tried adding a bit of juice or warming it up but nothing works, any suggestions?

octane I hope you get it sorted too.

X's teeth are really causing me pain, but just on one side. It's only just started happening but she's had her teeth through for ages. Maybe they are just too big for feeding now. Although the left side is fine

Does everyone put baby in a sleeping bag for bed? I read last night that it's mean to do that because they can't stand up in the cot. Surely it's not mean?! I can't put blankets over her as she moves about too much. What does anyone else think?

Birdies DD sleeps in a sleeping bag, and every morning I go into her she is stood up in her cot! I don't think it's mean at all, I think it's better than them being cold in the night

Daniel also manages to stand in his bag without any problem at all. No way am I faffing about with blankets now, they would end up all over the place. DS1 had a sleeping bag til he moved to a bed at 2.4. Didn't stop him standing. The key is to make sure the bag is big enough ie feet don't go all the way to the end, then there's plenty of material to fidget in without curtailing their freedom too much.

Danny stood by himself without holding on to anything for at least 15 seconds today in the bathroom. He looked a bit shocked when he sat down again

Aw he might be walking before he's 1 at this rate pascha!

Ah well I might get a bigger sleeping bag then as she sits up in her cot but never stands. Although not entirely sure I want her standing up during the night!

lolli I meant to say - have you tried cups with valves in - something half way between a sippy cup and a bottle?

On the topic of water - how often do people offer water to baby during the day? I often forget to outside of meal times, although she's never that fussed when I do.

I'm terrible at offering a drink unless its with a snack or meal.

DS1's first steps unaided was a run across the kitchen 3 days before his first birthday. Dan's milestones are very very close to his, looking back at the red book so I do expect it TBH.

Off to Bedgebury Pinetum tommorrow. They have a Stick Man trail to follow. Its DS1's favourite book so hoping it will be great fun. No pushchairs. Just sticking Danny in a sling and going for it.

She slept 8 hours straight last night! Why?! How?! And why couldn't I?! After months of hourly waking it was a miracle

Yay glorious but how annoying you couldn't sleep!

octane hope

Grr Ivy helping back later

DS is refusing to nap. He has had 20 minutes all day, despite me feeding, rocking, and waking him for a 2-hour walk in the buggy. He is miserable and so am I.

Been waiting for a call-back from the HV all week as I'm not coping with this, DS just gets worse and worse and DH won't help as it would interfere with his sitting on his backside doing nothing time. Does anybody else feel like they've made a massive mistake?

DS can also stand in his sleeping bag.

Hugs to cupcakes, and . Sounds like you're having a shit week. It always gets better but when you're in the midst of it it feels like it never will. You're probably only feeling like you made a mistake because you're so fed up and tired. Surely DH can give you some help so you can take an hour or two off? Does your DS have reflux, is that why he's so unsettled? Can you go back to the doctors?

birdies he was diagnosed with reflux last month but I'm not so sure any more, the gaviscon seems to make no difference. Hard to get to gp as I have no car so it's basically a whole afternoon out - an hour each way plus a good hour waiting. DH is always either working or out with friends. When he is here he's too tired to help and it's not worth the effort arguing with him.

birdies he was diagnosed with reflux last month but I'm not so sure any more, the gaviscon seems to make no difference. Hard to get to gp as I have no car so it's basically a whole afternoon out - an hour each way plus a good hour waiting. DH is always either working or out with friends. When he is here he's too tired to help and it's not worth the effort arguing with him.

Oops, sorry, I'm moaning in stereo.

birdies floss still manages to stand up in a sleepong bsg

hope u are ok octane xxx

Oh cupcakes I'm so sorry.

On reflux I've no experience but I've heard gaviscon often doesn't work and you need better drugs - ranitidine or omeprazole (or something like that, not sure of exact name).

Your DP is being an idiot Can you just tell him you need a break and go out for an hour or two? Don't listen to any excuses.

cupcakes sounds like u arehaving a rough time. hugs to u x