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Two under 2 SOS thread!

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Me2Me2 · 11/10/2013 21:43

A thread for anyone grappling with two under twos.
Let me start by whinging about the double buggy, or rather the monster great unwieldy tank I take everywhere I go, piled high with kids, shopping, blankets etc. The joy I will feel when I can chuck it on the bonfire

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CuriosityCola · 11/10/2013 21:48

My eldest has just turned 2, can I still join? With a 4 month old I need survival tips and more gin!

I have the city jogger double and love it...despite not fitting through any doors . It's easy to fold and my kids are happy in it. The p&t (2nd hand) was way more practical, but much heavier, horrid to fold and both were miserable in it.

CuriosityCola · 11/10/2013 21:51

My whinge: my house looks like the early learning centre/ earthquake scene. Toys, bouncers, more toys...everywhere! I want to be a minimalist...do you hear me dh, dm and dsis?

Thesimplethings · 11/10/2013 21:52

You need to get the city select! 16 months between mine and its been a godsend! They are now 3 and 2 and I've had so much use out of it. It's still rolled out on long days out... Sadly it doesn't stop the fighting when they are free! No tips there....just survive each day

Thesimplethings · 11/10/2013 21:54

Perhaps room height padded cages are the way to go? At least I'd be able to go for a quick pee in peace

CbeebiesIsMyLife · 11/10/2013 21:58

Hi ladies I just wanted to offer you a light at the end of the tunnel! My eldest turns 3 in 2 week and I have 14 months between them. It does get better and they play so lovely together at the moment.
I walked into our living room today to hear dd1 telling dd2 how much she loved having her as a sister it melte my heart!
Hang in there the newborn haze and difficult days that turn into 2 toddlers do get better

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Me2Me2 · 11/10/2013 22:15

I have the city jogger double. It changed my life when I got it, in that I was able to leave the house again (the whole sling + maclaren thing wasn't working), but after a couple of months of not being able to visit a supermarket without knocking at least one item off the shelves and pissing everyone off I'm no longer celebrating

Room height padded cages sound good

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Me2Me2 · 11/10/2013 22:56

How are you all dealing with your elder's attacks on your younger? DS (21 months) loves nothing more than thumping dd (4.5 months) with toys, esp on her head as that gets the most reaction from me. DD is too resilient and often doesnt even cry. How do I convince him its wrong to stab dd with a pencil or to say sorry for whacking her head with a wooden truck when she apparently couldn't care less?

On the upside I have just about mastered bedtime (it's called gluing ds t

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Me2Me2 · 11/10/2013 22:58

Oops
... to telly for as long as it takes to bath&bed dd

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CuriosityCola · 12/10/2013 05:40

Me2me, we have just came out of the attack phase. Your eldest is a little younger than mine, but hope this helps. I showered my eldest in attention and praise. All play centred around him. Look ds2, he is being so clever, wow he has a car/bus/dinosaur etc. Lots of floor play with ds2 watching. Lots of blowing bubbles. makes both dc happy. Any hitting and ds1 was given a very short time out. I involved ds1 in everything. 'Such a good helper' getting nappies etc.

I also found a thread on here that mentioned new fun things. Like letting ds1 play with bath crayons in an empty bath/shower while doing feeds.

It's exhausting, but does seem to work.

CuriosityCola · 12/10/2013 05:42

Thanks cbeebies. That's really lovely. I love your nick name

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Me2Me2 · 12/10/2013 14:18

thanks. we seem to make progress but then it all goes to pot. like just now when DS started hitting DD with a nappy. once he's told not to do something it's like he desperately needs to and his whole life depends on it.
maybe i should try some reverse psychology. tell him to hit his sister, definitely NOT get out the bath, etc

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CuriosityCola · 12/10/2013 21:50

For those instances I tend to distract. So rather than don't hit with the nappy, I say your so helpful getting me a nappy, but it doesn't go on his head does it? Does it go on mama's head or your head? Nope it goes on the babies bum. Your so good, your so helpful etc... Or his favourite, lets put it on a teddy. Not sure if that makes sense, but I'm trying to turn the bad into a positive. This is an example of us on a good day though

I'm not sure if this is the right way, but I felt like all I was doing was moaning at ds1 and telling him off.

CuriosityCola · 12/10/2013 21:51

Btw, I have no answer for getting them out the bath. Ds1 would happily turn into a prune. I think he was a fish in a previous life

WhispersOfWickedness · 12/10/2013 22:03

Another one here to say hang in there, it gets easier
There are 20 months between mine, DS is 4 in a couple of months, DD was 2 a couple of months ago and they truly are the best of friends
I'd love to tell you what I did during the attack phase, but that whole first year is a blur so I can't remember Whatever it was was the right thing to do though, DD is now far more likely to be the one doing the attacking I suspect it's mostly just an age thing and they grow out of it...

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Me2Me2 · 13/10/2013 00:28

I think you're right curiosity about the being positive thing.
And it's good to hear from people out the other side.

Are all your kids blissfully oblivious to the cries of the other? Mine seem to be, which is a relief. Dd can have a total meltdown in the car and ds will just carry on with his book or sleep. Slight lack of empathy going on but at least they don't start each other off!

I get ds to say goodbye to all his bath toys and help me line them up on the side. It occasionally works!

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Gingerpanther27 · 21/10/2013 18:57

right I probably don't actually fit into this thread but I can't find the post natal thread for July babies. I've got a 17 week old and it's not confirmed yet but might have another contraception booboo. Was on cerazette but it didn't do anything for me so waiting for mirena coil. Discovered today could be another two months til it's sorted. Been using condoms but that's how ds1 appeared. I'm planning a wedding for next year and I'm supposed to be going back to college next year like after xmas. OH doesn't know what's going round my head right now and would freak majorly. I only really admitted to myself as I was talking to midwife about something completely not baby related and basically decided on spot to ask her to check. So I'm really crapping myself right now. And needed somewhere to vent

Want2bSupermum · 04/12/2013 00:55

Joining... I had two in quick succession. Went back to work 8 weeks after DS was born as I started a new job when I was 6 months pregnant. I like the peace and quiet at work.

I have the citi select. It would be fab if SAS hadn't bent the frame. I shop at costco as the trolley has two seats! Sling and stroller never worked for me. DS was 10lb 6oz at birth. No way was I carrying him around. At 9 months he is 26.2lbs and his sister aged 2y 4months is 26.4lbs.

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