The 7th Broadly Gemini Luxury Bus - Now with highchairs!

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Old thread here

Bibs at the ready, things are about to get very messy!

It's moments like now when he won't let me put him down and I think it's unfair on both of us. Most importantly his sleep gets disturbed when I try and put him down and I'm pulling my hair out because I can't get anything done. Kitty I'm so tired from getting up 4 x in the night...I've just got to bite the bullet haven't I!

You don't have to do anything pear plenty find co sleeping or the odd bottle etc fine but if it's effecting your time and quality I.e you resent them ( not in a horrible way but you know what I mean) your tired and unhappy because of it and it's getting you down I would but I like to feel in control.
Either way for most unless the child sleeps through at an early age I think its unlikely they will just start ( or from my experience with friends) usually it goes on till they are 2 or the mum does something, I think the pick up method is what I did but without the picking up as I found it upset her more, it's essentially to reassure them you are there still so they don't feel abandoned!
My dh went on his Xmas do on sat though and his work collegue still gave 2 bottles a night to his 18 month old, they didn't even give it to her just put it in her mouth in the cot
The hv actually told my dsis to do control crying at about 8/9 months as she was weened as was do heavy 99percentile lol and still wanted to be bf all night, she hadn't liked to until then but being told to made her feel like she could, it only took her 2 nights and that was it

All I have to say on the matter is; follow your instincts pear.

Lol about boys frus! There are just such huge differences even at such young ages. I'm learning about girls. M can put on quite the show if she doesn't get what she wants!

Haha yep! Sounds like the typical boy toys. Wow, he's just getting so advanced! Can't believe we already have a crawler on the bus! Nannies are awesome. So nice to be able to come home to everyone being there and being taken care of in their own environment. Definitely worth the expense.

It's a big day when the wee ones move into their own rooms. It feels so liberating! Maybe baby pear will sleep better because of the lack of distractions and sounds that are going on in your shared room? DS2 was a lot like that and was a really light sleeper as a baby. He slept so much better after we moved him into his own room at about 6 months. He also slept really well with a white noise machine.

Yep, would agree that baby pear will sleep better when we move him into his cot. I didn't do the dream feed last night and he woke at 12 for food and slept until 5 for his next lot of food
but then we couldn't get him back to sleep so he was up by 6:30

Frus ~ I had a question for you and now I've forgotten!

Making butternut squash risotto for myself tonight :-)

Frus ~ with the pick up put down method...you never let them cry do you because you pick them up when they cry? Do you just stand there with them in your arms until they stop crying and then put them down again? I can imagine baby pear going nuts if I put him down wide awake so when do you put them down again? Would I have to rock him to sleep and then put him down as he's drifting off (rather then fully asleep)?

Do you all think I should move baby pear into his room and continue rocking and then introduce sleep training of some kind or should I move him and introduce sleep training all in one go? Hard to know whether I should introduce one thing at a time or rip off the plaster all at once! Someone just tell me to get on with it and stop dithering

pear I found this website really useful when I was looking into shush pat and pick up/put down methods:

www.mybabysleepguide.com/2009/01/pupd-tbw.html

Lor ~ thank you. I'll take a look at it now

It's recommended to put them down when they are still drowsy and are on their way to falling asleep instead of putting them to bed fully asleep (as this can lead to them waking up and being confused why you're no longer there and they are alone).

So... now M is rolling and getting herself stuck on her tummy with no idea on how to roll herself back over. It's just a frustration for her all day and me having to go and flip her back over She also had a teeny tiny bit of banana a few nights ago and hasn't pooed in like 3 days but is giving me all sorts of constipated grumbly noises.

Banana is abit of a cloggy food anyway, I remember dsis thought it would help when Dneice had constipation and was giving it to her everyday with avacardo poor thing, a tiny bit shouldn't make a lot of difference though? They do sometimes go through bunged up stages don't they, don't feel bad
How did you teach her to do the big girl thing bring? I'm still in awe of it lol

Yeah, it's weird. It's clogs some people up and gives others the runs! Stupid bananas....

I have no idea how she picked it up! I used to put her arms up and say it, then she put her arms up on her own and I started laughing and saying it.... and now she just does it! my cute little trainable puppy DH used to be able to get her to do it like in the vid and now she just tries to headbutt him when he says it to her {like STFU dad, I ain't doing it anymore!}

Really stalling on the babyfood over here. She's feeding like it's going out of style so I know she definitely needs to start getting some substance to fill her belly, but I'm so dreading the cleaning up food all the time phase!

Ummmmm I must admit I'm not looking forward to the stage where they start chucking it and knocking the bowl out of your hands my house at the mo looks like a bomb site after 5 mins anyway with dd1 and she's more messy an eater then dd2 at the min so doesn't really make a difference lol dd1 has now started an obsession with cleaning, using all my wipes and saying I just clean it, I just making it nice, I think I must spend a lot of time doing it for her to have picked it up lol

Haha. See, that's why I'm going to just keep having children. Pretty soon I can just have a little army of cleaners blitzing my house

I feel like my marriage is going down the toilet.

Oh dear bring You okay?

Just constant fighting for the past week. I don't know what's wrong with us

Bring ~ it's pre Christmas stress xx

We've gone through phases like that since ds was born, and we never fought before. Every once in a while we have to acknowledge that we're being rubbish towards each other and reel it back in. It's so hard.

I'm sure it's a passing stress phase bring

How many of you have been able to go on a date with your DH since your LO arrived? I've got to put my hand up...I did think that we would have one night alone after 3 months. How wrong was I Another good reason for sleep training! It's much harder to make time for each other then I realised!

Sorry what I mean is...I've got to put my hand up for thinking that I would have at least 2 date nights in the first 6 months me naive...never!

Thanks gals. We had a chance to talk through it today. It's just been really stressful and having a puking child waking us up at 11pm and then 4am (and not going back to bed after that) with me having to do the brunt of the clean-up did not bring out the best in us me .

But... 3 good things happened today that I would love to share with you all. 1, I got to go to an antenatal apt as a student midwife this morning. Slowly getting back into this calling of mine. First time mama planning a homebirth. Oh to be a first-timer again... 2, M ate some avocado this morning and some egg yolk this afternoon. This kid was actually really hungry! She gobbled it up. 3, My friend had a baby girl today and it's so cute and she's over on that side of the pond with you lovely ladies and I so want to just go give her a hug and meet this sweet little one. Pix on fb will have to do I guess!

Always, always appreciate the place to come and digress to you all!

Sorry pear got carried away and forgot to mention...

I hope you and your DH are able to get out together soon. Maybe even for a lunch date while baby pear is taking a nap?

Glad to hear things are back on track bring and all your lovely, good news!