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Dec 08 - The One where they take on the world (school)

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DeidreBarlow · 17/09/2013 19:59

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JumpJockey · 18/09/2013 19:55

Hurrah hurrah! Well done Beans Grin Wine

Vagolajahooli · 18/09/2013 19:56

Woohoo yay Beans, crikey that was fast she was 10mins at 6am! Well done Beans.

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DeidreBarlow · 18/09/2013 20:01

Woo hoo!! Congrats lovely Beans - you don't half labour fast. Clever you, can't wait to hear all about it x

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Rubena · 18/09/2013 20:06

Congrats beans!! 33 mins earlier than predicted! Grin Do we have a name??? Look forward to hearing details!

Rubena · 18/09/2013 20:11

And I said 8lbs! Crikey I'm good. Grin

Mckayz · 18/09/2013 20:14

Yay Beans

Mckayz · 18/09/2013 20:15

I said 1039!! So close

JamInMyWellies · 18/09/2013 20:20

Not long after my time I said girl. Woo hoo so happy for family Beans.

Honsandrevels · 18/09/2013 20:20

Hurray! Another girl to add to Bean's brood of little birds. Can't wait to hear the birth story and the name.

Vagolajahooli · 18/09/2013 20:44

Is said 8lb & a girl too, oooh maybe they will call it Vagola Bogrolija Helmet.

Vagolajahooli · 18/09/2013 20:46

Ooops Helmet haha

ShadyLadyT · 18/09/2013 21:17

Oooooooh, how absolutely lovely! What super news!

Arrtttiiieee · 18/09/2013 21:24

Yay! Congrats Beans. Can't wait to hear the details.

Nolda · 18/09/2013 22:17

Congratulations, Beans. Well done!

poisondwarf · 18/09/2013 22:40

Congrats Beans! What a superstar! Hope you're all well.

Hiya lowrib. Good to see you. Whereabouts are you these days? How did DS get on at school?

LadyT get yourself down the pound shop pronto. We are down to our last photo Dec 08er with Jam are we not?

Well a bit of a shock from school today. Apparently Ds's teacher is talking about getting a special needs assessment for him. Blimey I knew he was allergic to picking up a pencil but I didn't think it was that bad. Anyone got any experience of this kind of thing? I'm glad he's finally got a teacher who has actually noticed that he's not fulfilling his potential in class but on the other hand I was kinda hoping his lack of engagement with school work was relatively normal at that age, at least for boys.

poisondwarf · 18/09/2013 22:41

photo? I meant pg

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DeidreBarlow · 19/09/2013 07:14

Blimey PD they're quick of the mark aren't they for a SN assessment! Did his previous nursery ever raise any suspicions/thoughts about SN? I would have thought it was way too early as he is still settling into routines there, which for lots of children will affect their learning. Also who are they suggesting does the assessment? I don't mean to sound flippant but it it's just someone with an NVQ in child learning I wouldn't say they're opinion is remotely valid!

Not sure if you read my many posts about DS & his 'behavioural issues'. I think his nursery were heading to the SN route. We had a mtg with just such an NVQ type person, she was a joke!! didnt have a clue about DS. but I had a meeting with his school prior to him starting, inc the SENco teacher and they gave the impression DS was quite okay and that nursery had over reacted. Anyway that may be a bit off point but try not to worry and get as much info off the school as to who & what they are suggesting. And exactly why is required at this stage.

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Mckayz · 19/09/2013 07:22

PD, DS1 is having an assessment done soon. It has come from us rather than the school though, as we are worried that he has ADHD. So far the school don't think he has, just a little overactive. Which is good.

The SEN is usually one of the teachers so hopefully your DS will know them a bit already.

Mckayz · 19/09/2013 07:23

Also PD, I think your DS and my DS1 are the same age. So maybe it is just boys of that age. Fingers crossed.

ShadyLadyT · 19/09/2013 07:24

I know it's worrying for you PD and as you say, a shock but I can tell you the following story about my youngest beloved nephew. He was assessed for special needs aged about 6, and was 'statemented' or whatever they call it. My sister was really upset about it. He may have had some one-to-one for a year or two. Well fast fwd ten yrs...he got stellar GCSE results and is now doing 3 sciences at A level. The 'special needs' stuff was a pile of cack. He is a bit left field, it's true, and a bit shy. And school resistant. So nil desperandum. My advice is to ride it out, let them assess him and even if they give him some one-to-one coaching for a while and keep a special eye on him, so what? He may actually benefit from it. You know him the best. I do think it can all be a lot harder for boys. Like my nephew, I bet it will be something that he just shrugs off and leaves behind in later years.

Vagolajahooli · 19/09/2013 08:11

PD we had, and to be honest still have, concerns with ds1's concentration at school. He had an assessment of his focus in class. Basically someone sat with him and watched him over an hour and noted down what he was doing every 20 seconds. Basically 60% of the time he was staring into space. Basically it's not unusual as at that age 6-7 years the work can become very repetitive and it is difficult to engage boys in particular. We know he doesn't have problems with concentration as he can concentrate on things like violin and jigsaw puzzles or topics he is interested in, for ages. Also he got easily distracted by some of the louder kids in the class so they took steps to give him a way to literally block them out. Don't worry about the name special needs, they use the same person to assess children who are gifted and they also get statemented. Statementing just means the LEA has to make provision for extra funds to the school to hire extra help for one to one help for the child.

ZuleikaJambiere · 19/09/2013 10:56

A new baby so soon into the new thread, huge congrats Beans Smile. Also hoping to congratulate LadyT this time next week ...

Honsandrevels · 19/09/2013 11:01

I would panic PD, as others have said it might be helpful to get some extra attention. The term SN is wide ranging and doesn't mean a specific learning difficulty.

ShadyLadyT · 19/09/2013 11:03

Grin Just for you lot I will text next Wed or Thurs. NO EARLIER.

Hope Beans and her DD3 are now at home!

TheInvisibleHand · 19/09/2013 11:43

another lovely girl for beans! congratulations, that's wonderful.

PD, I wouldn't fret too much about DS, the label doesn't mean much and ultimately extra resources for him. I think there are quite a few kids with extra support in dad's class for various reasons and it is mostly pretty positive. I'd agree with lady, it tells you nothing about how things turn out in the end. my sis basically didn't speak till 4, didn't read till she was about 7 but ended up with stellar academics and is a highflying doctor. I'm sure she'd have been statemented etc if they had done that kind of thing back then.

all good here. DS very excited about being at school, though their settling in is so gentle he doesn't do a full school day till October. both head and deputy separately commented that DS is very confident, which I take to mean he doesn't shut up...!