November 2012 - The first fearless steps and the rest of us hoping our babies remain stationary for a bit longer

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1833979-November-2012-Teeth-Dont-talk-to-us-about-teeth

QQ - we've had shop bought fresh lasagne for tea and we've got a portion left for M's lunch, should I just zap it in the microwave tomorrow or give cold?

Hi quiche,

O was at my parents' on fri night than I spent sat night there too, just came back. It was lovely, she adores my mum and dad. Sadly their dog disappeared overnight, it's a 14 year old puli, we searched for him everywhere. I think it is under a bush somewhere in their garden but couldn't find him, he is probably dead:(. He couldn't escape, the garden is secure. Just feel so sad although he was old and blind and quite fragile.

O is in 6-12 and 9-12 clothes, she is really long. I got some eBay bundles for her and my sister also gave me tons, I only have to buy vests and socks for her.

pr can you do jam? Or chutney?

pidj that's very cheeky. My brother asks his MIL to have my nephew every weekend as they are so tired. All they do is complain. His wife doesn't work, nephew is in pre school from 8-3 every day. I mean wtf? He also sleeps 7-8 hours per night than sleeps an additional 2 with mummy and daddy.

Thank you pennie. So frustrated with all of it.

The hv said oh it will get better when he walks!!

I'm knackered. Mad weekend. Too many adventures. Four hours of baby free speed gardening topped it off and has potentially pushed my back over the edge. Garden looks fab I can barely walk and couldn't lower the bear into his cot tonight! DH and Jonas played in the garden whilst I got the garden ready for winter. Jonas loves eating soil. The house looks like a shithole as a result as we had far more fun things to do this weekend.

Oh and I've been eating dairy traces this weekend and its not gone pear shaped I got to have curry sauce with my fish and chips!

Struggling again today. I'm rubbish at this. I hate being alone. Really really hate it. And at the moment, I hate being a mum too. I feel like I have messed my life up. I don't feel like I can contribute on here anymore - all I do is moan and reading about everyone's family life is hard. I don't know where I fit in life at the moment. I don't want to do the mum thing, but I have to. Usually when I'm newly single I'm out and about enjoying myself but now I'm trapped. I knew the depression would come back at some point so I had been expecting this, but it is my turn to take a break from the quiche now. I just want to hide inside my head.

Sorry to hear about the dog lily

pidj yes it's a bit cheeky. Especially if they never reciprocate.

C had no teeth a month ago. He now has four at the top and two down the bottom. Surely he can't still be teething? His sleeping hasn't improved much but I'm used to being permanently knackered.

One of the reasons I want another baby now is to get the sleepless nights out the way. We saw a newborn when we were out shopping yesterday. DP couldn't stop looking. He's worse than me! I want to lose some weight first or I fear I'll never lose it. Actually not so much weight, I'm back to my pre pregnancy weight, but I'm bigger round the middle. If I could get rid of that I would be happy.

Now have to get my work clothes and C's bag ready for tomorrow. In for one day then a day off. My mum has Tuesday off too so we will do something together. I feel like I haven't seen her since I went back to work.

X-post.chasing please keep posting. Sorry you are having a tough time. Will you consider seeing a doctor about it? (((Hugs)))

Hi new thread.

Had a lovely afternoon/evening at mil for her birthday. Both girls charmed everyone and crashed out when we got home so a success all round. Just catching up on last nights strictly. I do like the new pro dancer yum, not sure of his name. Not the one called Kevin! Can't wait for it to actually start now.

E has been forward facing in her pushchair for quite some time. I also have a baby jogger city mini and love it. I have a quinny too and although that does parent face she hasn't been for months. She prefers looking out and being nosey.

Very kind of you to offer out the vests chasing. E is still quite comfortably in 3-6 months and I probably have quite a few 6 months plus vests in the loft from DD1. I keep meaning to get out the next batch and sort it out but as E still seems to be a long way off I haven't bothered yet. And yes, agree about bastard top 4 teeth. I guess at least it gets a lot of teething out of the way at once but having all 4 come through is a killer.

lily Sorry about your dog

Don't leave us chasing. You and o have a family life, thoug yours is a particularly challenging one it is just as valid. All of us find it hard sometimes even in less difficult circumstances so don't be hard on yourself. You jave come so far it is amazing. Do go to your new Gp (have you registered yet?) and your sure start centre to get help. You can do this. You are awesome.

Hello, found you all! Time slipped away from me and gave up on last fred.

Chasing hugs.

No walking here but plenty of crawling, cruising and teething.

Hello all,
chasing are there any baby groups you can go to? They are a lifeline in RL for me. I feel like that sometimes, that I've fucked everything up, but you haven't. Your a great mum,and your doing it on your own. Look at what you've faced, and come out for the better.
Give your self break, great mum.

Sorry to read of the missing dog.

N has been chilling most of the day, he's had two suppers tonight! He's also whined alot, and been very tired. I've bathed him, so he is squeaky clean, and he's dropped off to sleep at 730 ish on his own.

Evil

Sorry chasing That was a cross post. Please don't leave or take a break from the quiche. You don't just moan all the time, you really contribute and have also sounded very positive of late. I'm sorry the depression has come back but we are here in good times and bad.

I just bought E her first birthday present. A fisher price say please tea set. Was on amazon for £10.99. I kept meaning to get one for DD1 when she was small and never got round to it.

Chasing i get pretty fucked off too, reading about all the lovely things people are buying, the days out, holidays etc. All i do is get ignored whinge about how R's shit sleep is getting shitter.

But don't go. I like hearing about your adventures, and the first excitement of meeting a new man, and your lovely new flat :)

Chasing hugs my lovely. I love hearing about your fav new life too, and all the adventures you've been having. And pidj too - I love hearing about the ever more frequent positives (and they are there, even if you don't feel like they are).

As for moaning, it's good for the soul. Get it off your chest here where you can pretend that people read it, then you don't have to do it in RL

VQ glad to hear things are ok.
Evil sounds like a fab day.

Thank goodness for hot showers and very very very strong coffee. 3 hours sleep was all I got in the end. The consultant dared to comment on my being 10 mins later than he wanted me in work (but still 50 mins before I was supposed to start) - he got a death stare. I would not recommend getting ill in the southwest this week, you may encounter a frazzled and brain-melted doctor

See, I like a good moan too!

I think we all have stuff we can be envious about - the trick is not to let it eat you up. But that's easier said than done isn't it? OK we're financially comfortable now after long years of slog after DH's PhD and our relationship is pretty solid (but his ex was a prima donna and mine a sociopath so we've not always been lucky!) but I still get envious hearing about folks' Mums taking their babies and regularly giving them time off - selfishly because I'd love a day or night off to break the grind and won't realistically get one for years yet some seem to have one every week and take it for granted; more sentimentally because I'd have liked my Mum to have been able to meet J and DH before she died. No ones life is a total bed of roses. But to Chasing and PP and others who are feeling a bit glum. Don't go - we'd miss you xx.

Morning all. I agree with yw we all read the thread and feel slightly pissed off or even envious about something or other that the others have but we don't. Or don't have but we have that we don't want to. It's human nature.

LO insists on holding her own bottle for every feed now. When she's sleepy she will hold my hand too. I'm torn between being glad that I have etxra time, and sad that she doesn't need me anymroe. Even though she does, as she can't exactly make her own milk.

I'm going to wean both girls onto cows' milk in a couple of months. We are spending ?30 a week on ff. I would in theory be able to buy enough organic, microfiltered, fresh, gold dusted full fat milk from freaky smiley dancing cows in Jersey and have enough saved at the end of the year to buy my own dancing cow at this current rate. Though DD1 has cut down on her ff habit.

I want a dancing jersey cow to entertain me

PP and chasing don't go. I completely agree with YW and ginger. We are all differing situations and there is something I'm sure we always feel sad/envious about.

Another night of up and downs 7.00-12-1-2-6.45

No idea!!

pr O holds her bottle too. I feel so sad. She doesn't only hold the bottle but wants to lie on the sofa/carpet/wherever but not in my arms. My girl is growing up.

chasing Please don't go. It is very hard to be a mummy. Especially in your case. When I feel down a bit than I always imagine holding O's hand when she is a bit bigger and skip on the pavement. You are a great mum of O and you will make such wonderful memories for him. Sending you hugs.

I can't wait to finish with formula. I have 1 box left so my brother is sending me enough to last me till November. You can't buy formula here without prescription and we still don't have NI number here so he must send us some.

I have an assignment due tomorrow. Yep, did it again and just read the instruction today. Oh well, I will muddle through somehow when she goes to sleep. Feel really bad that others struggle on this course and I don't give a shit about it. Exam is in month time so better change my attitude.

We have the pox I feel horrible that I have to go to work and leave her with dh when she's poorly. Accounts for the bad nights. Poor baby [weep]

Shitter of a night - think hour long crying then 40 minutes sleep - till 1:30 when i checked his nappy. It was barely on, and he was basically peeing into the velcro not the absorbent bit. Thanks dp, that was really worth it

Oh, and i worked bloody hard at my degree, postgrad and professional qualifications. Dp worked his way up to middle management in a large company. Illness and redundancy don't care.