November 2012 - The first fearless steps and the rest of us hoping our babies remain stationary for a bit longer

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Cheers mm Am in shopping mode today so will get on their website. Now the weather has changed I need to buy E more clothes as all her 3-6 months are summer, bar a few items. Felt so funny buying stuff for 3-6 months when she's 10 months old! Still will be nice to see her in new clothes. I am so bored of all her stuff since she's been in it for what seems like forever, and a lot of it is DD1's hand me downs!

SO for an hour and a half today as I was in sole charge of 3 children. I looked after my niece for a bit who is 6 weeks old. She was absolutly perfect. DD1 was a bit of a pita as she kept wanting to hold her and generally playing up and E whined all the time I held her as she was jealous. Was so funny to see E being like that as she doesn't really view DD1 as competition. Have utmost respect to you GT for having another on the way with such a small age gap and to those of you with 3 DC's. I would really like a third but it did make me realise I would have to wait a while until DD1 is at school which means E will then be at pre school.

We had first steps!

LO showed her first signs of jealousy today too. I was holding a whiney dd1 while lo was in her high chair, eating, and lo started throwing her food and holding her arms up to me. French children aren't supposed to throw food.

My cold is horrible this evening so am off to bed.

Night quiche.

Hurrah, Pass :o

I've got 2 friends interested in me doing some ad hoc nannying now. One with twins a month younger than R. Now that could be fun

I'm so sorry peaches but that really did make me giggle (the throwing food bit, not about your cold). Bless your lo. Sleep tight and hope you feel better tomorrow.

woop woop for P pass. I bet she looks so cute toddling along. I wish I could meet her. I think she's so adorable.

Disclaimer...I think all quiche babies are adorable but I do have a soft spot for wee p.

I'm jelous pass n just dosn't want to walk.

N and I have stated manly at home, as he slept 730-0810, with a few wakings. He then got very tired at 10 ish, and would not sleep to 11, and then woke at 1. So a sleepy restful day.

Tomorrow I have to work nights, so ill go into town and have a nose. Then sleep in the afternoon.

chasing glad to read things are looking up for you.
big hope the pox goes soon.
gt good luck
det hope your work is better.

E il

Thanks for the vertbaudet code MM - I love their stuff.

No experience of sweeps GT but if you're nervous of internals then I'd steer clear unless you have to. You're well within your rights to ask for an induction, and you're being closely monitored anyway. What the doctor said to you was vile and unfair :(

Yay for first steps pass :)

Ad hoc nannying sounds good PP are you going to take them up on it?

That's the sort of age gap I was thinking eliza A friend just announced she's expecting her third today and I realised I was actually proper jealous! So I guess I can conclude that I really do want 3. Which is a shame as DP doesn't!

Well done P!! Now the fun really begins pass?!

O was practicing his walking today. He decided he wanted to keep one foot in the same spot, and walk around it?! Weird child, just walking on the spot round and round!

Then he was walking between me and DP. Except he would only walk to me. Not to DP. He would turn around and grab hold of me and refuse to go anywhere!

I definitely have a mummies boy on my hands there.

Despite mammoth napping, he went to bed just after 8. No problem.

at LO peaches! The dog is the jealous one in this house .

Evil How are you finding nights with having a baby? I have my first one's in October. Dreading it. Mostly due to DP not waking to O.

MM Thanks for the tip!

I would like advice on DS1. I will do a separate post!

det he has to wake, cause the babies will only get louder. I do worry when N has been difficult, but apart from that P does the nights anyway so it's not different to any other day.
The only things that does bother me is the amount of milk P wants to give n, and weather P puts n to sleep at his bed time. I'm only doing one or two nights a week, so dosn't hurt.

Since being back at work, p is taking more interest in n and interacting with him more. It's not loads, but it's a start.

Evil

kirrin I remember that feeling from when I had DD1. Everytime someone told me they were pregnant I was so envious. I have lots of pregnant friends at the moment and so far haven't felt that way. I think the fact that although E is 10 months, she's so tiny so seems like a baby still so the thought of having a newborn now just doesn't compute. I think your DD1 is a bit younger than mine if I recall. My DD1 is 4 in Jan so will be starting big school next Sept. But my DH also doesn't want another although I reckon I could persude him too, somehow.

yw I have been thinking of your cousion and looking out for news from you. Hope alls well.

Okay, so since starting high school last week, DS1 has made one particular friend. I think this is because he is in his form, and lives close, so they walk to school/home together.

Monday night I got a text from this boys mum. To cut a long story short, it was DS1's night at his dads (his Dad lives in the town centre, about 2 miles from me). The mum thought the boy was at mine. Obvs he wasn't. I rang her to speak to her as I assumed she would want to know where her son was.

Turns out that both this boy, and DS1 had walked back to the boys house after school, and had wanted to walk to town together and go to subway . DS1 knows he would not be allowed to do this. As far as I was concerned his Dad should have picked him up directly from school at the end of the day.

I rang his Dad to clarify what was going on, and where they were. His dad was quite short with me, but they were at his flat, and had not walked to town thank fuck or anything else. I didn't get any more answer than that. His dad knows I wouldn't allow DS to walk/hang around town at this point.

Then, yesterday they both turned up at my house after school. DS1 knows the rules. The rules are that he must check with me in advance if he can have a friend over after school. He didn't do this. I was stood upstairs trying to get O to sleep when they arrived. I was in my PJ's and braless . Also, it had been my first day back at work!! I wasn't very happy.

I let his friend come in any way, as I didn't want DS1 to not have a friend.

Well. Fucking hell. The boy is so INTENSE. In your face, rude, smart arsed. Larger than life, and speaking way past his years.

His parents turned up a few hours later to collect him - I had made him ring his mum to tell her where he was and check he was okay to be here. He was so rude to his mum, properly cheeky. And they just let him act like it. I was cringing in my fucking PJ's still as O wouldn't stop whinging yesterday afternoon.

The boy is very intense, doesn't stop talking, and I find it hard to believe that my DS1 likes him. But it seems so.

So, they arranged to meet down the road to walk to school this morning. Except at 7.55 the boy turned up at my house. While I am in bed, DP is walking around the house in dressing gown. Luckily O was up. I'd of gone mental if he had woke him up (the dog barks when any one comes to the door).

DS1 spoke to him on the phone after school today I say spoke, I don't think he got many words in... and has told him he can't come in the morning. He is to ring DS1 and meet him down the road or outside. DS1 doesn't leave til 8.15-8.20, and at 7.55 certainly isn't ready - not even dressed usually!

So, my question is - how the fuck do I get this friendship to 'calm' a bit. It seems so intense. He was supposed to meet him in the park today after school but I said no in the end as DS1 had homework, and it was raining.

Tomorrow DS1 is going for tea. Saturday night they are having a sleepover.

What do I do?! I have no idea how to calm this the fuck down! With DS1 going to school so far away before, I've never had to deal with children just turning up at my house and I don't fucking like it!!.

Det that sucks.
It's a hard time making friends in secondary school. However just because they are friends now doesn't mean they will be later this school year. Friendship groups change SO much when they first start and get to know each other.

I would talk to ds and explain all meets must be arranged at least a day in advanced. So this kid can't just turn up at the door in a "can x come to play" kind of way. And if he does DS knows it will be a no.
Maybe limit week day meeting. He can see him all day at school so home time should be homework/family time.
I had a year 7kid tell me "I'm not aloud to sit nxt to x, my dad says I'm not aloud to be his friend" 3years on, he still says same thing if sat anywhere near him.
I'm sure you wouldn't go to this extreme. Please don't! Lol

Oh and det. If you find he is rude to you call him on it. Sometimes kids need to be told they are being rude, as they honestly don't realise.

Haha! No, I wouldn't go to those extremes! Ds wouldn't listen any way!!

When DS started, we wrote the 'rules' out. This caused a meltdown the night before he started because one of the rules was actually that all meeting with friends must be arranged 24 hours in advance. And the parents must get in touch with me, or me with them so that I know where he is, and the other boy's parents know where their child is.

And so that if the other parents aren't interested where there child is, then DS1 won't be going to their house!!

He also isn't allowed to roam the streets. That caused another strop .

I text DS1's dad earlier voicing my concerns. I got a text right back saying 'I totally totally agree' first time he has agreed with anything. Ever.

He also mentioned that the boy had been given a detention already. And that he was on his last 'warning' (I'm not sure what the warning is as he didn't elaborate on it to DS's dad!).

My DD1 is 3 in Jan eliza I'd need her in school before I could even think about another!

Nothing worse than an intense 11 year old det Hopefully the friendship will just fizzle out as they each meet new people as term goes on. Fingers crossed.

Yay P!

Det he sounds a nightmare!

Oh and Eliza baby girl arrived safe this morning after a tricksy labour (manually turned baby, waters artificially broken, induction, g&a, diamorphine, then she went transverse and an EMCS was needed in the end - so they got their monies worth from the NHS!) but bar Mum being very sore, all is well and baby is BF like a pro.

Oh gosh yw Sounds like mum went through the mill and then some. But I'm so pleased there was a happy outcome.

I know so much for second time being easier - her first was all natural, no painkillers, no intervention and this baby was smaller - random eh?!

Glad I did it but don't think I will again. Film was good but sad. I cried. Surrounded by fucking couples.

Ha, the couples weren't fucking. Wasn't that kind of cinema. Or film.

Hello all, just had my first night out at a “proper“ show (ie not involving an adaptation of a Julia Donaldson book or Mr Tumble) for years. Went to see Cabaret with Will Young. It was fantastic!

Well done pass‘s P.

Thanks for the code mm.

det l think l‘d keep any opposition low key and see if it fizzles out.

At being awake.

I know it's the middle of the night over there but just wanted to share with the quiche - my DD is the most awesome baby in the universe and I am so utterly blessed to be able to spend every day with her.

To those of you who "know" me, you will know that that is not a boast or a soppy spewfest, but me finally having lots of good days (pnd and family/IL ishoos :() and being much more able to enjoy her. So I hope you'll indulge my soppiness just this once and be happy with me.

Hope you are all asleep and all the quichelets are behaving - yay to wee p for walking pass, hope you are feeling better det (can you talk to the union again about your work adjustments?) and thinking of you gt I am so that doc told you you weren't looking after your baby or whatever it was - I am about that. good luck! stunt glad to hear J is sleeping better, hope tonight is going well and yw glad to hear the news from your end, did it make you broody?! Can't remember any other news so will sign off now.