November 2012 - To sterilise or not to sterilise (bottles that is)

[StuntNun]

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Massive hugs chasing and O. Can you go for a walk. Fresh air and change of scenery for you both.

I've just made stir fry for dinner for us both and he is wolfing it down so he's certainly a bit happier. Early night for him tonight.

Hugs to chasing and O. It is another first for you so go easy on yourself. Even getting out for a walk and a coffee would be good and break up your day, maybe try for at least getting out of the house once a day even if it is to just to go and get your favourite tea.

We have been to the house. See FB. It looks great, I haven't been up there since Feb so was brilliant to go and have a look. Am absolutely knackered. O in pyjamas so just needs milk and bed. DS1 being super well behaved, jus needs pyjamas and milk and bed. Mummy has a cheeky courtesy of DH and dinner will be also courtesy of DH.

Sorry about that I just had to deal with a child.

stunt qq. You have an English accent? Does your DH have an English accent? How ave your docs turned out? Do they have strong NI accent, if one at all?

Not your docs! Your dcs!

DH had an NI accent albeit a mild or 'posh' one. DS1 (10) and DS2 (7) had English accents until they started school, now they have very mild NI accents with a bit of an English twang to them. They were both born here though so I expect they'll end up with pretty normal NI accents eventually. I moved from down sarf to Stockport when I was 3 (dad has a London accent, mum has a Caribbean accent) and I never quite got the Stockport accent whereas my younger brother did.

I will be interested to see, DS1 doesn't seem to have an accent. I never picked up a really strong Brummie/ Solihull accent (honest) despite living there all my life, I think as my dad is from Cheshire and um was from Kent. Although perhaps . DH will go more bread now he is back.

I'm excited about my new life.

Broad. Oh dear.

DH called me last week from Lancashire and I did not know who it was at first as his accent was so strong after being there a few days.

I hope you are feeling a bit more settled now Chasing x

Thanks for the :)

VQ I'd cross my fingers but they're occupied. I'll try and cross my toes!

Sophia how exciting, hope it goes smoothly :)

Chasing we're here, lovely

Pennie R likes aLah aLah he's cruising but only with support, no solo flights yet! Dp was 10 months and skipped crawling

R napped 8:15-9:35, 10:45-11:45 and 2:15-3:15 just as i got the buggy up the Stairs Of Doooooooom and was rubbing his eyes through dinner. I'm praying to all the deities i can think of that sleep breeds sleep and we have a good night. Walking the 3.5 miles to my parents and the same back produced good naps, 2lb blackberries and very sore feet...

vq I slip into the same accent as your DH very quickly either on the phone or when I'm there, but only with people with that accent iyswim. Has your DH picked up a Scottish accent? I can't quite imagine that. I went quite posh when I left Lancashire. Accent-wise that is.

A really bad day here. Started well, I made a yummy brunch. Then found three large spiders in my shower, including one in my towel. And it just went downhill from there. The cat somehow pissed on my fresh bread, LO has been a nap dodging whingebag, DD1 has been a terror and DH and I have been bickering like never before.

It's been horrible. I took a full xanax as the half dose doesn't seem to be working anymore and it made me feel drunk and moody, not relaxed and happy.

In fact if I wasn't already planning on seeing my GP tomorrow I'd certainly be planning it now. There were moments today when I honestly believed I should walk away from the girls and DH as they'd be better off without me. I know that's ridiculous, and I would NEVER do it, but there are moments of real darkness and pure despair.

PR that sounds a lot like depression talking to me.

It's PMT. I'll be fine in a couple of days. I get it so badly nowadays.

pr.

I think some types of antidepressants, like the ones I am on, are prescribed for bad PMT as well. Over here anyway. Worth thinking about?

Thanks. What makes it worse it that I am no longer on a lively four week cycle. It seems to be getting shorter and shorter. But I will not go back on the sodding pill.

Talking of which, am so strung up tonight I'm going to take one. sunday nights are always the worst, sleep wise.

Ooh I heard yesterday that national TV have been back in my village filming something about the most beautiful villages in France. Missed out on an opportunity to be famous for two minutes

that sounds like anxiety relating to your ongoing work situation not depression at all oh no definitely not that

We hosted my nephew's 4th birthday party today. Was hilarious with 9 wee folks running around, bashing merry hell out of a piñata, pass the parcel, musical statues etc proper old school. Brilliant. Jonas troughed on the 95% dairy free party food made by my sister - the only thing he couldn't try was the plate of cheese sandwiches. Not bad eh! He had sarnies, sausage rolls, scones, banana muffins, jelly and some fruit and veg honest!! DH and I collapsed after everyone had left and tucked into the leftover Chinese from yesterday and he rolled over to DH, tried to grab his bowl and went 'omnomnom' whilst making puppy eyes to demonstrate what he was after. This was after 1.5 EK pouches for tea and shit loads of finger food. It must be a growth spurt.

After having a house full of people to impress, he has decided saying 'hiya' is the best fun ever and gets him lots of attention. He was still rehearsing his successful moves at bath time when he responded to everything DH said with 'hiya'

A good day here so am really to hear of tough times for others.

PR I just want to belt you gently with the quiche fish and remind you that you are the heart of your wee clan and they would be lost without you and that this shitty stressful time will pass. Am glad you're off to the docs tomorrow.

Chasing I'm still super proud of you whether or . You're doing an amazing thing - keep going hon. I echo the wise words of others to get out of the house every day and just descend on others for company.

Yep , worth thinking about. Will ask GP tomorrow.

Sarcasm pidj ? Don't get it.

Though I am slow and a bit thick at the moment :)

PR I don't think pidj was being sarcastic but maybe suggesting you've been burying what you're going through in an attempt to be strong.

Evening all!

We've ended up having a nice day, been to a friends for a BBQ. As soon as M is with other people/children she's not bothered about me and DH, she's off playing and barely gives us a glance.

More or less sorted for work tomorrow, just watching the MotoGP while I write my "M notebook"
I'm going to write emergency contacts, likes, dislikes, rough routine. I'm sending her with food to MILs tomorrow so should I write what's for when or just tell her or just leave her too it? Also, I want to write some don'ts but don't want it to look too PFB, should I just leave them put and hope she doesn't do them. Just things like just water, no juice or milk. No sweets/chocolate. That kind of thing. Don't want to look too bitchy though so may just leave it

Ohhh pr you are having a rough time you have had a lot to cope with no wonder you are anxious. Infact if you lived here they would prob be talking about a touch of pnd because of the stress of everything that has happened in the last year, and before that by the sounds of it. It is ok sometimes not to be able to cope, to buckle under the strain and to go aaarrrggggghhhhhhhh. It doesn't sound like you get enough time to nurture yourself, I think ou should prioritise a bit of nurturing madamme! (((hug))))