DECEMBER 2012: The start of crawling and the end of maternity leave

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Sorry to hear that. You know what to do Spotty hot flannel and massage.

Bloody interfering ILs WL. Next time send them on their own and sit back with your feet up.

Sent DP up with DS at 10. He's asleep.

Oh spotty you and your boobs have the worst luck.

Ds keeps half waking, so I boob him back to oblivion, but not sure why. He used to be quite reliable waking at 2 and 5, maybe the hot weather throwing him off, or teeth I'm not aware of?
Dh suggested a dummy might help but is that safe overnight? Also (and not judging or trying to be contentious) I'd really rather steer clear of them..

Milk given and he was still writhing about and moaning,hand a major fart and burp but then needed to be cuddled to sleep. Is there a way round this that doesn't involve letting cry? If he was in his own room (and therefore I was less worried about him moaning while asleep) would he be likely to resettle or is that a foolish idea?
I also have a major tummy ache so he may be feeling the same I guess...

I couldn't clear it last night, it's massive, so I just came to bed. Now I'm lying here willing ds to wake up

Utopian I was wondering the other day how many of the babies who self settle/sleep well either have a dummy or suck their thumb. I know ds has slept so much better since he found his thumb again. I'm not a fan of dummies but I would use one if it meant that I got more sleep! Plus they're much easier to take away and use for sleeps only than a thumb....

I will weld settle at night (not at bedtime), no dummy, no thumb. Utopian dummies are actually recommended at night as they reduce the likelihood of cot death. But if you've got by without so far I'd try to avoid as it'll soon be weaning off time.

J's in his own room, we started to disturb him. He's much more likely to resettle himself in the night in there than in with us. He does moan for 5ish minutes and he's gone again.

That should be J will self settle!

At you and your boobs!

God Spotty, again! Poor you! Have you ever had a good explanation from anyone why you're so susceptible to blocked ducts? What a pain. I hope DS woke up and drained it all clear.

Utopian, we weaned off the dummy - TBH it wasn't very helpful, most of the time she didn't want it and once her hands were free from the swaddle she just kept pulling it out and wailing. I think they can be helpful but you may replace rocking/cuddling with finding and replacing the dummy. It may be worth a go, but consider that lots of people i know are hoping to wean off the dummy before age 1. It's really up to you. If last night was a one-off (due to sore tummy) I wouldn't start it as a quick fix.

Spotty, C self settles now and doesn't suck her thumb. She'd be lost without her monkey though. It's a flat cloth comforter with little head, arms, legs and tail. She rubs it on her face, chews on the tail, and generally flings it about the cot. Sometimes when she's crying she's just lost track of Monkey and once I give it back to her she can settle herself.

Mama I hope you have a spare!

Blockage still not clear and really sore

Well DS was up 3 more times after I finally got him down at 11.30.

He doesn't self settle, at all. He will when he's bigger though so I'm not worried. Surprisingly for somebody who loves their sleep, I can survive on very little of the stuff! Lol

His last wake up was 6.30 but he went back dorm until 8. So he's now had his 2hrs 'awake' time and I'm feeding him to sleep. Hopefully he'll stay asleep until 12 as we're heading to mil's for lunch at 12.30 and it'll be nice if he's refreshed.

Mil has been on at DH that she 'never sees' DS. other than the 1-2 times a fortnight she actually sees him I think it's because bil and SIL are always getting her to help out, babysitting, running them here and there etc etc. whereas I have the other dcs to consider in our free time (as we only have them 1 out of 2 weekends) and I don't want to leave DS with a babysitter (not even my mum) and we don't need her to run us around. She keeps hinting at coming and taking DS for a walk in his pram, but he only tolerates the pram if he can see me or DH, he hates it otherwise, so tbh I don't fancy taking her up on the offer. It's just annoying she does the 'I'm always here to help you just never take me up on my offers'. Maybe that's because I don't want to urgh! Rant over, sorry ladies.

Spotty, I tried to but a second monkey from jog lewis only to find they'd sold out! Luckily I found it online and bought another. Given it never leaves the cot, I'm hoping 2 is enough.

I'm still ill anyone want to swap lungs? Mine appear to be full of green gunge.

We have finally cracked the naps! I don't know how. It's more by luck than design. I literally take him up, lay down next to him, quick whimper and out he goes. I am amazed!

Watch out mama dd1 has a comforter that she's had since birth - she's 6 and he still comes everywhere. We've had 5 over the years which allows for 2 lost ones and 3 on wash rotation so that they are all the same level of thread bare lovedness!

Ds gets sooo excited when I put room on the broom on for dd. He loves it and will sit and watch the whole thing!

Dear DS,

Paddys about not being tired at bedtime generally work better when you can open your eyes.

Yours sincerely,
Mummy

Spotty - hope your boob is better soon.

Willyou - glad that J is doing better. Will keep fx he gives into sleep soon!

Have had a really nice weekend just doing nice, chilled out things with the boys. Went to a farm with activities, play area etc yesterday. It's the same one we went to with DM a little while back, and it was interesting to see how much more interested in everything N seemed even in quite a short space of time.

This afternoon DS1 and I went for a walk in the woods next to our house. He was sporting his Fireman Sam rucksack and wellingtons, and carrying his fancy dress Knight sword and shield. We had a great time slaying dragons, cutting our way through the forest and finding treasure (a discarded feather). Such a lovely age, just so much imagination and nothing is dull.

Ispy that sounds lovely.

Spotty hope your blocked duct has cleared and didn't ruin your night to much.

Willyou i'm glad J is better and hope he is asleep for you now.

I'm having a horrible hormonal day today. I feel like H doesn't like me and she'd prefer to be with anyone rather than me. She doesn't try to come to me when i finish work, if i go to take her off someone she physically lies flat against them on the shoulder farthest from me. If i swop sides to get her she goes to the other side IYSWIM. If she hurts herself i pick her up to comfort her and she puts her arms out for DP or my dad. I don't know what i'm doing wrong and its making me cry loads today. I'm sorry about the me me me post but DP doesn't understand why i'm so upset today.

Aw Hales . Of course H loves you, and would not want anyone else for her mum. Think all children probably have random times where they have specific people they want to be held by etc but it's only ever a very temporary thing. I'm sure you're not doing anything wrong and before you know it she'll be reaching for you again. It can be really upsetting while it happens though, so totally understand why you feel sad.

Oh hales you poor thing. It's exactly the opposite of her hating you - it's because she loves you and is miffed about you going out to work and leaving her. Most kids go through a phase like this and then come out the other side. What if you didn't try to take her as soon as you come in? I bet if you just went and sat down quietly she'd be after you very soon. It's hurtful I know but she's very little and just feeling new emotions and attachments.

I'm a very hot and tired grumpy mama tonight.

Thank you Ispy and WL. I'll definitely try the leaving her alone when i come home from work i hadn't thought of it that way.

Oh hales i'm sure she loves you! Ds went through a stage just like that with dh, but it was just a stage, like ispy and WL say.

I know it's very belated compared to a lot of babies but he's in the nursery tonight for the first time. He's slept from 10.30 - 2.30, fed and just gone down again now, so seems to be fine about it, but I feel like something's missing from our room! Never would have believed I'd be like this before he was born, crazy how well hormones work..

utopian I felt like that when DS moved a few weeks ago. Which is crazy as dd moved to her own room at 5 days.

hales ds1 was like that when I went to work, I'm really sorry I can't remember how I dealt with it. But I can promise you at 6 it's definitely not the same :)

DS2 just woke for a feed after 6 hrs but his tummy is now gurgling like crazy and he's really fidgetty :( I hope he's ok.

Does anybody else still wind their LO? I just realised I don't wind ds2 anymore although I have no idea when I stopped .

Right hrs finally stopped flailing. I'm going in for the transfer.

Not posted in ages

hales as others have said its probably just a phase she is going through. My dm has already told me about it to prepare me.

Sorry to hear about your blocked ducts spotty, hope they've cleared.
Loved the sound of you and ds' advennture ispy

Just put ds back down.after a good 5 hour stretch. Off to see if I can get an hours sleep, will.catch up properly later.

I only sometimes remember to wind ds. Tbh if he needs to burp he does without my help these days, quite loudly.
Also noticed that the sick has radically reduced in its own - a lot of people told me this would happen when he started solids so guess that's why. I feel happier for him more than anything, he was v Sicky as a little baby.

Speaking of little babies, I'm awake and he's asleep still! having his own room obviously made way moreddifference than I thought. My little man is growing up already... happy for the undisturbed sleep but I'm sure IABU for feeling a little sad?

Thanks everyone ds finally cleared it on his last feed before bed which is good as I didn't want to go another 11 hours before getting to feed from it.

Hales it's definitely that she misses you WL makes a good suggestions.

Utopian YANBU at all. Ds is still in with us atm I don't want him to go!

ISpy sounds like a lovely day.

Our day yesterday consisted of buying a new toilet seat and light shade and me being very grumpy

Aw poor you Hales I hope she gets past it soon.

Yay Spotty

DS would not settle in his own bed last night so he and I slept in the spare room and transferred to ours when I heard DP's alarm go off. I secretly loved it

He ate nonstop all last night but is still refusing daytime milk feeds. I think it's time to get tough. I shall be withholding breakfast until he takes a bottle as I cannot hack another night like the last few.