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December 2012 Babies Half a year already and still kind of sane.

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halestone · 01/06/2013 21:02

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SpottyTeacakes · 05/06/2013 19:33

WillYou YANBU who puts a baby to bed without changing their clothes and nappy?! I'd be fuming and I'd wake ds up, change him and hand him back to dp.

WLmum · 05/06/2013 19:42

I did wonder about that myself hales. Think ill see how it goes.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 19:44

J's woken himself up. DP has gone to change him and feed him. He said he fell asleep feeding him and that's why, but obviously nappy change eat al is down before last bottle anyway. I'm willing to bet he's up all night as the routine has been changed and muggins here will have to deal with it.

WLmum · 05/06/2013 20:01

Yanbu. As spotty says, surely changing his nappy is the bare minimum common sense? (Although i wouldnt put it past my dh who once forgot to give dd1 lunch when she was weaning) I would be pissed off too. I'd be too fuming to give him J back and would tell him to do the grotty jobs like bottle washing PROPERLY!

SkiBunnnnny · 05/06/2013 20:01

Arg! That's so annoying WillYou! Hopefully he'll know better for next time. Maybe he thinks if he does it wrong you won't ask him to do it again so make sure you not let him get away with that!

SkiBunnnnny · 05/06/2013 20:58

Actually, that just reminded me of the first (and only) time DH ever gave DS a bath by himself. He had got him dry and was putting him in some pjs when I walked into the room "oh," I said "do we not feel like wearing a nappy tonight?"
"Oh yeah...!" DH said "oops"
Was pretty funny.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 21:16

Well he's still up, has had 4 screaming fits and DPs majorly pissed off Wink I've taken over now. It is 25 degrees in our room. What would you all let him sleep in. He's in a long sleeved vest and a 1.5 tog grobag and feels okay.

SpottyTeacakes · 05/06/2013 21:18

Ds has woken twice already Hmm not for a feed though not sure what's up with him....

SpottyTeacakes · 05/06/2013 21:18

That sounds fine to me WillYou Smile

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 21:37

Is it maybe too hot in your room too Spotty?

FriendofDorothy · 05/06/2013 21:37

Oh, I go back to work in 3 weeks and I am just not ready to go back in any way.

I popped into the office this morning and my return to work seems to have just crept up on me. I feel especially resentful that my inlaws are visiting again next week and that means that I will have to spend time with them when I just want to spend it with The Little Mister and The Mister.

I feel stupidly hormonal and horribly dramatic today :(

WLmum · 05/06/2013 21:39

And so to bed on the lilo! So far she's been peaceful but we'll see!

WLmum · 05/06/2013 21:41

It's 25 in our room and T is in a short sleeved vest and 1 tog bag.
fod you can get signed off if you're really not ready. Could you ask the I laws to delay their visit?

FriendofDorothy · 05/06/2013 21:43

I definitely can't get signed off because I am not ready to go back. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that over here.

Wish I could delay the visit but my BIL is coming over too and he lives in the States. The annoying thing is that we saw the inlaws only 3 weeks in Jersey, but they are insisting on coming over again. Angry

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 21:52

You are not being overly dramatic at all FoD, it's a massive thing going back to work.

I think WRT your ILs boundaries are your friend. Are they saying with you? If not agree to meet them on x, y and z occasion and try to head off them just dropping in whenever they feel like it. Especially so you get your evenings/mornings as a family.

Good luck WL you stay strong Smile

FriendofDorothy · 05/06/2013 21:54

My BIL is staying with us my parents-in-law are staying at my parents house.

The expectation will be that they spend every waking minute with us. I have pretty much said that The Little Mister and I will be sticking to our normal routine for the week. It hasn't gone down well.

I just want to cry :(

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 22:06

Tough luck to then FoD, if the choice is pleasing them or pleasing yourself it's no contest. If I were you I'd have lots of "appointments" booked in - doctors, baby clinic, NCT meet up, baby class and then just bugger off with the little mr for a bit

WLmum · 05/06/2013 22:20

Ooh that's good thinking willyou
Where are you fod?
I'm just trying a dream feed to hopefully stave off a wake up. This is the longest she's gone since bedtime in a week I think.

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halestone · 05/06/2013 22:20

Willyou i've bern putting H to bed in a sleepsuit and no vest and just putting her covers over her. Hopefully your DP will understand now J isn't happy.

FoD i think Willyou's plan sounds like a good one Grin

Hope F will sleep well 4 you tonight Spotty.

Hope your sleeping WL and that you get a really good sleep

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halestone · 05/06/2013 22:21

X post WL FX the dream feed works.

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WLmum · 05/06/2013 22:31

Well she had some but who knows how much?! She's gently snoring back in cot now so fx.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 05/06/2013 22:44

He has apologised profusely Hales Grin he very much gets that he has done wrong! I told him he can do bedtime tomorrow and I'll talk him through what to do. He said he just forgot cos he's been on lates for the last week.

FriendofDorothy · 05/06/2013 22:54

I am in Guernsey.

WLmum · 06/06/2013 01:02

First wake up so am feeding as its nearly 3 hours since dream feed. Perhaps she knew I meant business! We'll see what the rest of the night brings.

WLmum · 06/06/2013 02:14

Hmm, 20 mins feed then down, up 5 mins later. Initial patting didn't help so picked up to wind (if she's got wind and I leave her she's sick). Nope. After 40 mins of trying her in her cot and then holding/rocking/patting I put her back on the boob where she drank lots and fell asleep. Not sure about progress but hiding out in here us def helping me to observe calmly rather than desperately trying to get her to sleep. Speaking of which...