Jan 2013 Part 4: More noises, movements and more sleep?! Hmmmm

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I leave B during the night until he's making persistent noise - I don't usually wake up til then anyway! He's always wide awake; he's never done the dream feed thing. I tickle under his neck or blow gently on his face to keep him awake...

He's still in with us but will be going in his own room once his blackout blind arrives and we've given it a good Hoover. Probably in the next week or so.

B is still mostly in 0-3 clothes . I've started putting him in 3-6 vests but his other things mostly look far too big on him still (he's 19weeks). Sainsburys stuff is bigger though, as is Asda.

Hubby has taken B out for a long walk so that I can get some of this marking done. Bailey seemed to think that 3 15min naps today was acceptable so he's been doing my head in and I've gotten absolutely nothing done. He's just point blank refused to sleep today.

I feel like the worst mother in the world. C woke at 3 for her feed, settled quickly and easily afterwards, but the moment I put her in her cot, the eyes pinged open and she started howling.

This happened another 3 times over 90 mins before I snapped and told her to shut the fuck up and walked out the room.

I'm awful. DS doesn't want me either. All he wants is daddy, who managed to get her sleeping in 20 mins, whilst DS whined at me that he wanted daddy cuddles.

I'm so fucking useless. I can't believe I swore at my baby.

Oh bunty I'm so sorry you had such a tough night. You are not a bad mum at all, you did what you needed to do and walked off rather than let her see too much of your frustration. I'm not proud of it but I've done something very similar in a dreadful sleep deprived haze. I felt terrible too but really it's not that bad, no harm done and you will hopefully find some more energy. for you.

You're not a bad mum bunty. I'm sure we've all gotten to the end of our tether at one point or another. Like glorious said, it's better that you walked away. That makes you a good mum. And I'm sure DS doesn't mean anything by it. I hope you have a relaxed day x

I've seen a skull and crossbones hood and liner that I'm so tempted by. Or navy and white polka dot. I'd have a different one for every day if I could!

[Bunty] last monday D just would not settle the whole evening, one or other of us was up there every 90 minutes and it carried on once we went to bed. I'm sorry to say that at 1.15am I flipped, refused to deal with him anymore and spent the night on the sofa with just my dressing gown for company. DH dealt with him and when I crept up at 4am they were both asleep on the bed. I didn't have the heart to try sidling into bed so I sloped off back to the sofa instead.

We've all been there.

Skull and cross bones! But polka dots might be a bit less marmite I guess (and very nice too).

at the Bee. Its no good for us in deepest rural Kent but if I lived in town I would consider one.

Its a pyjama day for us today. We went to Brands Hatch to watch the Mini Festival as DH was racing. He stayed overnight at the track as he's racing again this afternoon but we're not going today, I might stretch to the park for an hour and Tesco for some dinner but no more than that.

I slept star-shaped in the bed last night

went to brands hatch yesterday...

Big fans of anything skull/spooky related so seriously thinking about it. My mum will hate it! But the navy and white is prettier. It's so hard!

Pyjama day sounds lovely pascha, enjoy! We're going to a friends for dinner this afternoon.

Nancy has struck up a wonderful friendship with the dog the last couple of weeks. She's aways looking and smiling at him, and as soon as he moves she holds her hand out for him. I'm pleased he's so gentle, it's going to be lovely seeing them play together when she's bigger. I'm a bit thoug because its such hard work to get her to laugh, and all the bloody dog has to do is walk across the room.

Thanks everyone. This is why I love this thread - everyone is so lovely and supportive. Had 2 hour nap with cheeky and feeling more human.

Ah Bunty we've all been there I'm sure, sleep deprivation does terrible things to my temper :(

Barely slept a wink last night as LO keeps rolling onto his tummy in his sleep and at one point was just face down on the mattress without making a sound. It's really freaking me out and not sure I'll be able to sleep tonight either :(

Bunty, I've said that to B several times so I must be a really shit mother! I was calling him a little shit/bugger all afternoon on Friday... In fact, he's just been called that for spewing all over my leg and the carpet...

Allchik, I'm doing the same as you! Back to work tomo for the last 4 days of term so that I get back on full pay for the holidays. Got my mum up for the week to look after him while I'm in as his nursery place doesn't start til the new term.

bunty don't worry we've all done it and you left so you did the right thing so you're clearly a good mummy!

creepy that sounds so cute! Am also at the Bee.

pascha pj day here too. We went out to a party last night. Dcs ate wau too many sweets and ran around like mad things till i had to take them all home at 9.15 after Ivy totally melted down due to lack of sleep! Usually in cot asleep by 7! Everyone tired and out of sorts today so all in bed already! Dp got a lift back later and didn't feel so good today like i care! He let me go home with 3 hyper dcs and a screaming baby

It was good to go out though and for once my anxiety was not an.issue :)

In other news Ivy is tryimg to bum-shuffle off laps tp get to her teddy and chomp on him! I think she is starting to get her top teeth now !

Im half tempted to find out about extending my ml a bit. I dont think ill be ready at 9 months. I think I'll only be going back for two days though but right now I dont want to. Does anyone know the rules?

Hey Allchik glad you found us again!

I'm watching Daniel lop-sidedly trying to hold banana in the highchair. He's really not big enough for it but he's so desperate to be with us at the table that I've got cushions behind him so he can reach the tray!

Just doing the nappy order online. As a household we appear to be using 3 brands in 2 sizes which is getting expensive so I'm looking for any good deals online. Can't wait for DS1 to potty train properly sometime in the next few weeks I think.

Bum-shuffling? Oh god are we nearly there already? Dan is rolling round and round and getting himself in trouble, he tries to lift his bum up if he's on his tummy, but can't quite get there yet.

Oh bunty huge hugs you are a good mummy, it happens to us all

Welcome back Allchik, good to hear Eleni is doing well.

Bunty big hugs, I have had many of those moments and have been known to shut myself in the spare room and shout obscenities and sob into the pillow on numerous occasions. That's why they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture it's hideous.

Creepy enjoy your bee, I love mine bit still want a baby jogger citi mini gt, even though I don't really need it I'm too old and boring for the customising though.

Apples well done on your party venture. My DH always leaves me to go home alone

Pascha, Go Dan, Lois is no way near bum shuffling (can only sit for about 60 secs) but on her tummy she is manoeuvring herself mainly backwards. I keep finding her off the play mat and legs under the sofa or tv unit.

Busy weekend here again, wedding sat and drama and school funday yest. Have done diddly so far today, but must go food shopping before school pick up.

DH away again this week so lots of time for Internet shopping in the eve

Back from our holiday, hope you all missed me haha. Had a lovely time. X is now sitting quite nicely (supported) and so far has rolled once. No sign of more rolls but she is chatting a bit now rather than just grunting!! Is 6 months old this week, time has flown by!

bunty don't beat yourself up, it's tough enough being a mum as it is without being hard on yourself too. I can't talk though as I constantly think I could do better! I read though that its actually better to just to be a good mum rather than perfect, as they need time left alone to learn things (something like that anyway).

Going to start weaning this week. Sleep isn't much better than before with X being awake and chatting/singing at 6am every morning having only gone to bed at 9pm and then feeding two or three times. Maybe solid food will change things. Though she used to self settle nicely and now I feed her to sleep - not sure how I got into that habit.

I'm waffling anyway. Good to read everyone is well. I love Bugaboos. I've got the Donkey and its great. Can be used as a single and a double. Cost a small fortune but nevermind.

Hi all

welcome back birdies. Glad it was good and of course we missed you :)

Forgot to say welcome back to allchik earlier sorry

Things looking up, Ivy only got up for feeding at 5.30am! Thats practcally sleeping through isn't it? On the downside i nearly drowned her with milk!

She seems to be constantky shuffling around now in one way or another. Thankfully she can't sit for long before toppling so only bumshuffles on laps IYSWIM.

Right off to get the rest of them from school :(

Oh bugger...fat fingers meant :) not :( i do love them really!!

Glad you had a good holiday birdies
Welcome back allchik!

Bunty it happens to us all at some point don't worry!

DD is refusing milk again and was wide awake at 3am this morning, got her back off to sleep at 4.30 and DS woke at 5.30! Little buggers!

Took them both on a bus ride to town today, but the double buggy didn't fit down the aisle of the bus! Had to get both out and fold it down whilst holding DD, 'twas not fun!

Welcome back Birdies, glad you had good time.

Lois has developed the moan its doing my head in already

bunty hope you're feeling better today. I've done the exact same thing as you, so if you're a bad mum then so am I. it is so hard to keep it together when you are sleep deprived and the baby is screaming for no apparent reason, but as others have said the important thing is that you walked out of the room, which is the best thing to do if you feel like you're losing your temper.

we are trying to do baby led weaning but dd is getting very frustrated when she can't get food into her mouth. the most success we have had is with mashed potatoes, as she could pick it up easily and shovel it into her mouth.

lora I posted a link on extending mat leave for creepy a few days ago. Basically up to a year is your legal right but you need to give notice of the change in your plans

Loving the image of mashed potato shovelling bunty !

Grr that was meant to be welcome back bunty and loving mash bugs

Or 'welcome back birdies' glorious hahaha, glad I'm not the only one losing it!!

lolli that sounds awful, it's the sort of thing that would stop me ever going on a bus again!

lost lol at the moan

X has taken to squealing very very loudly today. It's quite sweet but not good for the ears!