May 2013 thread our new and not so new arrivals

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Hi ladies

Just thought we could all really do with this. Rather selfish a its mostly for the thousand odd questions I have and things I'd like to share/ vent that no one else would understand.

We've all been together so long I even talk about you all to DP

Congrats lolly .. Welcome to the other side

Can I ask how people do happy changing? We're using cotton wool and water, but that means I don't want to put a clean nappy under dd as soon as the dirty one is removed, as the new one will get poo or wee water in it from the process of cleaning her, so we put a couple of sheets of kitchen roll under her - also works well for soaking up the inevitable nappy-free wees and poo shoots she does. Her little bum does seen a bit red though. I give her time to air dry, try to be gentle wiping her down and use sudocrem. Am I missing anything?

Happy changing! Ha.

Lol! Happy changing! I wish! She hates it! I'm yet to master this and usually end up covered in wee or worse x

Aww Bunny! I know what you mean, I feel like I could do with 3 hands for nappy changing, sometimes it's like trying to put a nappy on a sprinkler. And why does she always seem to dip her heel in her pooey nappy before I managed to whip it away? Ew!

What is happy changing?

tiger it's when you grin madly whilst wiping poo off your trousers and wee off your face whilst dropping the dirty nappy, loosing the clean one, and sitting on the open pack of wipes (or on the wet cotton wool). Not forgetting to chant the mantra "happy changing happy changing"

I love the whole 'changing time is a wonderful time to bond with your baby. Play with her, tickle her belly and talk to her'. I read that when I was pregnant now it's a case of whip a new nappy on before she starts weeing or worse again. This is combined with DP & I getting stressed as she kicks her legs and wails like a banshee whilst we change her lol x

Frustrated Brilliant! Just laughed so hard I sounded a bit like Jimmy Carr. Absolutely brilliant.

Advice pls- I was banned from BF by consultant last time due to DS weight issues. This time in theory seems to be working - ie DS putting on weight, sleeping etc. however we had latch issues initially that caused sire nipples. I sought advice and that is much improved - wk 2 was painless and nipples virtually healed.unfirtunately they are agony again! Both are bright pink and feel raw. I rang gp out of hours and was simply told 'BF' hurts! I think it's prob thrush due to the cracks. I'm happy in theory to BF but I'm fed up that these issues seem constant- ie get over one thing for another to happen! And with no medical support it'll just get worse! Anyone else similar?

Oh scooby doctors with that sort of attitude make my blood boil. Breastfeeding isn't meant to hurt.

Does your ds have a white tongue? If it is thrush ds will need drops for his tongue an you will need tablets. (The external cream does not work if it is in your milk ducts) with the right treatment thrush can be treated in a week.

I fed dd1 for 18mths with no pain. I won't say no issues, but I had no pain. (I had oversupply and forceful letdown- but that's something you either have or dont have from the start)
Breastfeeding can be lovely. Do you have a breastfeeding support group near you?

We had loads of poop nappies to. My tiny girl smells disgusting. Prob is the heat thinking about it.

A had a really sore bum, and had poo'd every time we changed her - in the end, she had ABs, changed the nappies, switched to formula and started using bepanthen - def helped. Also plenty nappy free time. Currently suffering with constipation (only been since yesterday morning but know she's struggling) - hopefully only the heat, but have been giving her cool boiled water to try to help too. She has been v v grumpy, especially in the mornings but hopefully will pass!

Very stinky trumps too!!! I nearly gagged when I cleaned up her poo explosion a couple of days ago (which resulted in me having to throw away some shorts & a vest!!)!

Frustrated- no DS oesnt have it - yet.! But I gather best to treat both from outset. My midwife said BF hurts nd nipples have to toughen when I had the initial latch issues! Great help !

I have been to BFcounsellor twice at drop in but there's no help at weekend and I'm away for the week from tomorrow, I do rate her but can't do much without seeing her and she can't prescribe.

I'm happy to BF but not if its gonna hurt forever- that would be stupid! I also seem to missing out a lot with DS1- if I FF there would be a routine and DH could help to enable me to spend more time with DS1.cant believe I'm contemplating it as on paper I'd rather BF!

Ugh. One hour of sleep so far tonight. If its not my coughing keeping me up, it's poor DD and what I think is wind, or reflux. Sleeps really well on my chest, but not so well on her back. Really wanted to get out of the house today too, but so tired just standing up makes everything all wooshy. Really really hoping that DD doesn't have colic, she doesn't cry round the clock, I think it's constipation? Anyone else having sleep troubles?

Yes purr, no sleep here either. DS will only sleep on me unless he's in a deep sleep and I just can't stay awak that long, so I keep jolting awake and finding DS asleep on me or on the bed. Got the bed set up for co sleeping but still worried I'll smother him

Oh no tas you must be shattered :(

Oh crap, that sounds like what we're dealing with. I have The Fear of colic because its always talked about in hushed tones... Time to do some googling :(

scooby I feel exactly the same. My LO sucks so hard and it does t help my already sore nipples. I keep bleeding, she keeps being sick and is very windy and unsettled. I thought Breastfeeding was supposed to be an amazing experience but it's reduced me to tears over the last two days x

Bunny don't beat yourself up about bf. I have two perfectly healthy children who weren't bf for long and I haven't bf T at all. With ds1 I produced so much milk and was constantly engorged and in pain. The health visitors were vile and said I must persevere. In the end I gave up because I figured happy mummy happy baby. If you can get support and it improves then continue but if it is getting you down and hurting you then don't feel bad about moving to ff.

Purr if you suspect colic start using Infacol ASAP. It takes a little while to work as it builds up with each feed.

Ok so what is everyone doing for Fathers Day. I wanted to get DP something really special but have no idea what

Hi all,

Purr, ds has had some colic, I've found being very consistent with winding him has helped. Dd had awful colic so i don't want to go down that road again. But it does pass and we all survived it!

Bunny, poor you and your dd. are there bf counsellors where you are? You can also get telephone support from the breast feeding network and la leche league, they have helplines. I used the bf network and they were good. But like beaut said, don't beat yourself up about formula, as long as your dd gets fed, and you stay sane, those are the important things.

Scooby, hope you're feeling better, I've heard thrush is awful, hope you get some help ASAP.

I went to a la leche league meeting this am, it was nice to talk about co sleeping, I feel a bit more confident I'm not going to kill DS. I also Managed to get some more sleep this am, shamefully when dd was watching cbeebies in bed with me. No parenting awards for me. The one plus is that DS went to sleep in his cot for once!

Re Father's Day - took A to one of those pottery painting places & made a mug with her foot print on for DH, for him to take to work: he's going to love it, can't wait to give it to him!!

tas the support worker came today and was amazing! Helped with correcting positioning and latching on and really explained it well. She's restored my confidence and reassured me that my nips will heal quickly now x