Dec 2011: Running around after our Cybermidgets...

[Aethelfleda]

Roll up, roll up, it's the Dec 11 new thread.
Prepare to be upgraded (if you can catch them!)

Hi everyone,

Been AWOL as we have been viewing houses We have out in an offer on a lovely 3 bedroom house and it's been accepted, so we need to get our flat on the market and sold ASAP! I have had a huge spring clean and tidy up (with help from DH) and we have one estate agent coming today to do a valuation and another one coming tomorrow!

Keep everything crossed for us!

Ooh cheung that's exiting news!!

DS been up since 6.45 and refuses all attempts at sleep as a result have achieved very little today he won't even wear his hat so we can play in garden very very bored!!

Hope all the D&V has passed, definitely something doing the rounds, DH, DD1 and DS all had it when DD2 came home from hospital.

cheung that's great news, though I'm surprised they've accepted an offer when you're not on the market yet.

faffin thanks for asking, it's actually going very well. Everyone is right when they say going from 2-3 is easier than 1-2 as you just have to get on with it more, though she's a really easy baby which helps. Not getting any more sleep but we've adjusted and coping with it now.

DD2 is a piglet and has gained almost a whole pound this week, today was my due date. DH is already talking about number 4 but I'm not convinced.

Still no oi?

Yikes. Sorry ladies. I need to take a week off work to catch up with the thread.
DH is up with BOi, so I've grabbed a minute. :)
I've been trying to spend less time online and more with DH, but I've also been so busy with work.
Hope you're all well and happy. I have missed you.
We're ok.
I haven't contacted relate yet.
And DH hasn't done anything he was supposed to do either.
Rather than me take his bank card off him and give him pocket money (ha!) he said that he would collect receipts and record expenditure and present it every evening. I emphasised that it must be him doing this, that I wouldn't chase, he would have to make the effort. ...and I've reminded him twice now.
But we're ok.
I'm off to France with work this week, but then we're going to Scotland for 5 days holiday. I'm hoping it will help.
I'm just not that interested still.
In other news I have just had the lightest period ever for the last 5 days. The last time this happened it turned out I was pg.
It would be a miracle as we only dtd once last month (I was feeling generous and making an effort!).
I will let you know how I get on. And I will try and catch up with the thread so I'm not so ignorant!

So, he sleeps in til 7 yesterday when it was DP's turn but today up at 5.55 ...

So pleased to hear DD2 is doing well seven, and that she's pudging up beautifully.

And I'm so jealous of you cheung! We've not found anything we like yet, it's not faaaaiiiiiiir Mind you, we've just done the valuation/de-cluttering/estate agents horror over the past month, so I'll support you through that lovely period How exciting for you though, let us know how it goes.

We're going to look at one today, and then two on Tuesday. The one we really, really wanted to see however, has been withdrawn yesterday...still going to knock on the door though, politely, and just say we're still interested- can't do any harm.

Oooh, cross post (seriously, it takes that long with DS rampaging and pooing, started the damn thing at half 6) Oi!

Glad to see you're back, sorry to hear things are still not brilliant. Go and POAS and let us know

oi welcome back sorry to hear dh still being trying. And not wanting to state the obvious on pg but it only takes once as I found to my cost last month.

Could he be feeling emasculated as you are so in control at home and successful at work? Since my dh work has faltered and he's earning very little he's been more difficult to talk with and he feels like a failure and that he can't provide for his family.

Glad you're ok oi, sorry things aren't great though. We only DTD once in September last year, I'm cuddling her as I type :o

Aaargh DS has just started his usual habit of pulling all the DVDs off the shelves in the lounge. Is 17 months too young to naughty-step?

is probably going to do it anyway

DS would not understand the naughty step concept. He often tries to go and sit on the step with DD when she's on there because he thinks it looks fun!

This has nothing to do with anything but I made the yummiest Victoria sponge today with fresh raspberries and fresh cream. Sooooo delicious. Had sushi for dinner as well so don't even feel overly guilty about scoffing a slice! Think may have to bring some round the neighbours though... can't eat a whole cake between two of UA!

hi Oi ... glad all OK.

My god I've had a random food day mash potato and beans lunchtime a BBQ this afternoon with cake and cookies am now drinking a very disappointing bottle of wine......hate it when that happens!!

DS was at a 3yr old bday party today and about the same size as some of them

Mopsy that cake sounds fab, I want some!

DS has learnt to say DSS name this week. So all week he has been wandering round the house looking everywhere for him saying William over and over! He was very pleased when he eventually arrived yesterday!

Good luck with house selling/hunting to all those doing so. Sounds stressful, I found it bad enough sorting out a rented house let alone buying one.

DS built us a lovely new decking this weekend, I'm off to London for the day while he finishes building steps. Makes a change from our previously unusable garden.

Gluten free not so bad... Gluten, milk, legume and nut free a bit daunting. His RAST tests all came back negative though, so I'm focussing on that!

Have you tried quiet time aethel? It's much like time out (naughty step) but rather than take them out of the room you take them out of the situation but keep them in the room eg on your lap. You can do it for a minute around 18m - 3 (time starts when they're quiet rather than tantruming), naughty step/time out is recommended to start around 2.

Thanks janey! what I tend to do at the mo is a combination of distraction if it's just a little thing (forget that, look over heeere! Squirrel!) and if it's something he KNOWS he shouldn't do (you can tell this cos he looks guilty when caught!) then he is picked up and put facing away from me (usually in the nearest corner ie boring space) for a few seconds, with a single firm NO. He then cries and comes back for reassurance, gets a hug and we do something else. It has no time limit (tho I've never been a strict timing with naughty stepping/timeout as it's more a thingy to teach the DDs that some behaviour is not acceptable rather than a do-yer-time punishment).

Relative quiet reigns as the DDs hve just had friends over which has tired them out nicely.

Oh and good luck with the houses cheung and northern, keep us posted!

oooh house hunt cheung...exciting. We decided to put a new (v cheap but nice) kitchen and kitchen floor in as ours is SUCH a state. I think we will make it back. At the very least it will make house easier to sell. But won't be put in until July so will wait til then to put house on market...

Gorgeous sunny day. Minim up at 5.45 (urrrgh) so were out by 8.20 for fab three hour walk. Since then been lazing in garden drinking a cider and then lots of lovely lemonade in deck chairs while minim napped and then ran around playing. Perfect really ...

Hope you're all having good weekends

Back from weston super mare managed to cram in the aquarium, the sandcastle festival, mesmerising ds with the lights and loud music of the pier and then fish and chips on the front ds hates the sand he would cry every time he stood in it so the change of clothes, towel, bucket and spade dragged down the M5 was surplus to requirements.

He has a rash again on his legs hoping it is sun cream rash he is off to the bath very soon!!

Phew...feeling pretty knackered. We've had a day of cleaning and tidying the house, and doing general housework (so piles of washing, etc) then went off on the walk to the country pub this afternoon.
It only takes about 50 minutes but it's up and down hill, pushing DS. We had a lovely time, just had the one bottle of cider sitting outside and for the first time we just let DS go off. It has a great garden, so we just kept a very close eye on him and let him toddle round.
Only problem was when another little boy, about his age, mugged him for his ball

On the house front, just getting slightly narked that we're still not on the market properly; I really want us to be on at the start of this week, especially as we're seeing a house we really like on Tuesday....

That's so cute BJR, and really good to get 'William', that's a big word for the age of our DCs.

And that sounds exactly the sort of perfect day I want mopsy, and will have when I get my garden! Why are they waking so bloody early at the moment though, is this a downside of summer or are they just little sods ?

That's funny re. your DS figgy, wonder what it was about the sand he didn't like! At least he had a fun time on the pier.

Sounds like lovely days mopsy and figgy. It's been lovely here, me and the DCs went to my parents. DS and DD1 spent most of the day playing in the garden while me and DD2 enjoyed cuddles under the parasol.

Interesting to hear what others are doing re discipline. With DS I didn't do anything before naughty step at 2.5 other than a firm no, but he was very well behaved generally. I think I need to find another strategy with DD1, we currently in a horrid phase where every time I say no she screams.

I'm struggling with DH as we're both exhausted. I know I shouldn't moan as he's doing some of the night feeds but he drives me mad when he's tired, constantly moaning about how exhausted he is. DD1 was really crying/screaming this afternoon (shes cutting a back tooth), rather than trying to calm her down he got cross and moaned, she's only 18 months old FFS :(

What's the hold up getting on the market northern? They're not all waking early, DD1 is finally sleeping through until 6am most days though I'm narked she waited until DD2 came so we're still not sleeping

Your weekends do sound nice, long walks, country pubs, house sale excitements...
We visited the parents-in-law's new static caravan yesterday. Oh my god. I felt like I'd gone on holiday to a council estate. (Of course, there's nothing wrong with council estates... Just the masses of the great unwashed... And that's just DH's family.)
So DH's youngest sis was there, with her 4 kids (of 4 dads). Her youngest is one month younger than BOi. And all day she was fed crisps and biscuits.
DH's youngest brother was there with his gf. She's due on Tuesday and was smoking like a chimney... The caravan looked like a bomb had hit it - but that's how they've decorated it, with so much chintzy crap and soft toys.
We were invited to stay for dinner, we felt obliged. I then had to witness mum, dad and brother separating the salad and meat between the 10 plates with their FINGERS!
Oh, and they didn't think to do a plate for BOi. (What did they think he was going to eat? The fag butts strewn around the decking!??!)
Today has been better.
We've done a few odd jobs and played in the garden. I've now got to get my derrière in gear and pack for the weeks ahead.
Oh yes, and there is that other little thing...
I've just POAS.
Seems we'll be adding a new addition to the thread!
(Typical that when we weren't trying and I've been knocking back the wine and vodka with the girls to moan about DH, that I'm pg.)
Well, I'm delighted. DH is delighted. We'll sort ourselves out.
Yippee!!!

Congratulations oi , as we all said, it only takes the once!

And at yesterday's events!

Congratulations oi

Oi Yay! DS was being looked after by SIL yesterday. I'd put snacks .and lunch in his bag. When I collected him he'd had biscuits

We have finally managed to sieve all the gravel out of what will eventually be the lawn in our back yard. Poor DH has done most of it as although I helped when we started about a month ago, sieving and a baby bump do not mix (unless we are talking baking )

Our mahoosive lawn will be 720cm x 273cm. I am very very excited!