JAN 06 - so what's THAT you're eating mummy?

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Here we go then... I've also updated my album of photos on the \link{http://health.ph.groups.yahoo.com/group/mumsnetpix/photos\Yahoo site}, it'd be great to see recent pics of all our angels on there!

Happy Birthday Rach!!!

Hope you have a fab meal.. remember, you are as young as the man you grope.. so toy boys ahoy

Have a fab day!
xx

Happy Birthday Wild Thing Rachey. Only 4 days till my eldest turns two! What a big boy. It must be just about time for Abbie's birthday too, ain't that right SweetKitty?

Lilstarry, I don't think you're the only one who finds motherhood can be lonely. You're not actually on your own very often but the sort of things we do are usually quite limited and repetitive. Obviously that's not true for everyone, I am just a bit lazy. I wish I lived closer to my parents or my inlaws so i could visit them but unfortunately we're the only ones in the UK. That said, my parents are coming this Thursday so that will be very nice, especially for DS1.

Alex did not have too much trouble with his teeth. He had been dribbling and all that for ages but i think a lot of the teething pain was taken away by all the paracetamol and ibuprofen he was getting when he was ill. The actual day of the appearance was fine. He loves chomping on carrots or thick slices of cucumber (push hole through the soft middle bit for easy holding). His scars are still highly visible, and the worst ones are on his chin. Maybe i need to invest in some scar cream for the ones on his face.

Do tell us when Bee is going to be on the telly. I want to see!

Hunker, well done on joining the EBM bank. You will help many by giving a little. I absolutely hated BFing so doing anything extra was definitely out of the question. Respect, girl!

I also just looked at your boy's pic in member profiles. he's gorgeous. So much more grown-up looking than alex and yours is only 2 days older! Must be the hair!

hi all, lizzie is still doing well and not as affected by the heat as i am. she's still sleeping 8-8 with an early morning bf. she's had her first solids yesterday; one teaspoon of mashed banana which went well, she was smacking her lips for ages after. she's starting to really enjoy the baby clubs we go to - loves watching other babes and bigger kids running around.
are we all admitting to age?? i'm 35
ESHAY- i v often use disabled loos (and changing rooms for that matter)- they have more space and lower sinks etc for toddler to use. i've also often just used the loo with the door open so i can see the pram - no pride/dignity left here!!
HUNKER - have you talked to your local milk bank already? i looked into donating when lizzie was born, but my nearest bank was miles away- unfortuneately too far for me to get to regularly. but i do remember that you had to start donating before babe was 6 months. perhaps its different in dif areas.
must dash lizzie getting fed up,
xxx amber

hiya peeps - been a bit manic round here of late what with all the funeral stuff (which sort of knocked me for six) & helping DD with final preparations before her trip (leaving Sat for a month & she's been pretty stressed poor thing - I am going to miss her sooo much) I haven't even had a chance to catch up properly so apologies for not addressing you all individually.
I never thought I'd be so pleased for a downpour though!! hasn't the heat been horrid!
Thanks for all your kind thoughts/words/texts/prayers btw. The funeral went well (Dom was an angel throughout everything) & dad has a fab plot underneath a beech tree with a lovely view of the sea. I still can't believe he's gone but no doubt that'll come in time. It's still pants though

On a lighter note.. Happy Birthday Rach or should I call you WTWTA?(sounds quite amusing when you say that out loud) you old woman you!! (what I'd give to be 37 again - well, actually I lie - I'm really looking forward to being 40 - a good excuse for behaving badly )
Lilstarry - young as the man you grope!!! OMG that makes me ancient (note to self .... acquire toy boy...pronto!!)

Dom slept through!! - one night only though (15th 7.30 - 6.30) but hasn't since. He's down to waking just twice now which is much more manageable and at least I know he can do it so may again somethime. On the food front he's on 3 meals a day & loving them (doesn't think much of peas though but will eat anything else - reacts badly to dairy though, as me & DH do, so waiting on a test appointment)I haven't given him anything to chomp himself yet after letting him suck my banana which then broke off & nearly choked him May get one of those mesh dummy thingies I keep seeing that you can put food in for them to suck without choking (anyone else using them - are they any good?)
Amber Dom really enjoys mum & baby groups too though I struggle as I have to stop myself doing a running commentary on the babies' behalf (a la Johnny Morris in Animal Magic for the oldies who remember - I have such a giggle) - guess you have to be there....

Hunker - much respect at donating EBM - I'm too lazy to express for DS let alone anyone else (will go & see your pix in a mo - have just updated mine on Yahoo)

was supposed to be a v quick post but I've rambled again - got to dash to collect DD from mates - will catch up properly soon. Take care all x

hello all - long time no post! Just skimmed over to see what everyone is up to, and can't BELIEVE our babies are 6 months old!!! (give or take a bit!)

Congratulations everyone on half a year of sweet chaos

We are up to our eyes in it at the moment. It is the start of high season now, but children have been off school here for 2 wks already. Luckily Clemmie (2) and Hector (5) can go to their daycare things all thru the summer - which is cool cos Christian and I are working 7 days a week, with a very occasional day off. The season is short, so we have to make the most of it, but I start to wonder at my sanity as I stand making lattes and icing fairy cakes with Theo in the backpack!

My stepmother comes on Tues for 10 days, which will be fab, and the children adore her. Yay!!

Theo is gorgeous, and rolling around and can sit by himself for a while before toppling But I have to take him to the mainland hospital on monday to maybe get his bottom stretched (!) He does pencil poos, and the doc here said all was normal and he was fine, but we were still worried. All a bit gruesome, but Christian 'helped' him to poo the other night by squeezing, and he did 20x more poo than ever before. He seems to have too narrow a bottom, so the poo collects in his colon, and will stretch it far too much if we don't do something. All diagnosed by my good husband... sorry if tmi. A bit nervous about what they will have to do to 'dilate' him, but will let you know how it goes.

Iris - I haven't posted since your dad died, but I did read about it. So sorry. I'm glad the funeral went well - love and hugs xxx

Bit of a mega post there
T xxx

oh tickle! (only read 1 post, so aoplogies, not ignoring the rest of u)

poor wee thing. hope all goes well at the hospital [supportive emoticon]

good luck with that tickle, sounds v uncomfortable.
just a quick question really - started just one teaspoon of puree fruit or veg at teatime when lizzie was 24 weeks (only done 5 days so far)
so... fri night she woke at 1am to feed, and last night woke at 11pm and 1.30am to feed. previous to this she has slept 8-8 from being 2 weeks old!! i don't know whether it's linked with the solids or a growth spurt or whatever. anyone have any similar experiences???
cheers, amber

Amber - strangely enough Scarlett too has started feeding much more during the night since starting solids (we're now on day 9 of weaning, and she's having LOTS of puree for breakfast and tea). Last night she fed three times. It kind of goes against logic doesn't it? Could be a growth spurt I guess.

Tickle, wow how clever of your hubbie to diagnose the pencil poos. Hope it isn't too traumatic at the hospital for Theo.

Iris, glad all went well with the funeral. Good to hear from you again.

We're having more night time wakings here too. Alex slept 7-7 from about 10 weeks and now he wakes up at 5 or 6 and last night even at 1am. I think in our case the problem might be that Alex actually takes less milk per feed now. He will stop at about 5oz, while he used to drink 6 or 7oz. So throughout the day that can add up to quite a bit less. He doesn't eat very much by way of solids at all but it must have a knock-on effect for his appetite at the next meal time.

Having said all that, we also think he may be having trouble with his teeth and also be disturbed by my dad's snoring (We've been foolish enough to offer my parents our bed during their visit). And, these night time wakings also coincide with longer daytime naps. Alex used to have trouble sleeping longer than 1 hour at lunch time (while still super tired). Now he is doing 1.5 hours or 2 hours - great for me during the day but not so great if this is the reason for his night time behaviour.

So, as usual, it can be one of a million things and it is probably just another phase. Mighty annoying one though!

Iris, I am glad the funeral went well. isn't it funny how little ones sometimes just know when they really need to behave? They are so clever!

Tickle, have a good time with your stepmum. Hope you get to enjoy some time with her or at least get to offload your precious cargo for a while while you make lattes. Hope all turns out ok with Theo's bum.

Iris - so glad to hear that the funeral went as well as these things can, how are you feeling now? It takes such a long time for reality to set in, I hope it doesn't hit you all at once! Your dads plot sounds beautiful!
Has Dom slept through again? I shouldn't even ask, it'll just make me jealous Bee has now moved into her own cot in her own room, which I think has helped matters a little... I've worked out she simply isn't getting enough milk (they are meant to have 30 ozs during the day and there's no way she's getting that at the moment). We've upped her formula feeds from 1 to 1 1/2 - 2 bottles a day, I'm still Breast feeding often, but she isn't as interested

Tickle - poor lil man! I hope whatever is needed to amend the situation isn't too painful for him! Go your DH tho' what an amazing man! How is your stepmother visit going? My mum is hoping to come up without my sisters at the end of July for 10 days too! I am really looking forward to having sometime with her, it gets a little monotonous being on my own day after day. Not that I don't love spending time with Bee, but I'm sure you all know what I mean!

Amber - Bee has never slept the whole night through (grrr), but after introducing solids she did become a little more wakeful, and she definitely started waking earlier As Eshay says, it could be a number of things, I was told to expect all sense of routine to fly out of the window when they start teething, so that's another thing to contemplate..

Eshay - I too wish I lived closer to my mum, glad I'm not the only one who finds it lonely sometimes, which is madness as I've never had someone with me so much! I'll definitely let everyone know when she makes her TV debut, heehee! As far as I know it'll be a very very brief one, but I still potentially get to hob-nob with the stars, so I'm excited

Hunker - Have you had any luck with the milk donation? What a wonderful thing to offer, I might consider it when Bee stops BF, am happy to keep it up.. unfortunately I'm simply not making enough at the moment to donate some!

Where the Wild things are - Hope you had a fab birthday?

Aside from that, all here is well. Bee is currently having her afternoon nap! She wasn't very well last week (only for two days), she had a high fever and just wasn't her usual happy self! She's learned how to roll back from rolling onto her tummy, which has made her happy! Oh, and she was a little swimming star on Saturday, I worried she'd get really upset/cranky if we took her in the pool for too long, but 40 minutes later she was still smiling away! She's such a socialite!

Right, going to go get the washing in, it was so sunny this morning but now it's rather cloudy!
Love to you all x

hi all! Went well at the hospital today... seen v quickly by a very nice lady doc. She wondered if it might be just normal constipation, but I showed her photos of him straining (that's one for the family album ) and she tried to get her little finger ahem up there... and agreed there was a problem.

Next step is a an x ray to see what the whole canal looks like, but they couldn't do that today, so we'll get an appointment letter. But she didn't see it as too urgent, and we just have to give him some lactulose to keep everything 'soft'. Phewww - had visions of all sorts of nasty procedures.

Can I admit to not weaning Theo too much cos I haven't got time? He gets a bit of baby rice/porridge type stuff in the morning from DH - he won't eat if it I'm in sight, as he finds the milk bar distracting. But when I watch DH feeding him, he seems to love it.

Amber & all broken nighters... I think weaning can upset the rhythm a bit. I'm sure it will settle back again soon tho

Had my hair cut today (first time in 5mths ) - is anyone else feeling unbearably frumpy?

Stepmum arrives tomorrow
t x

hi everyone just trying to catch up on all the posts there has been so many takes so long to catch up and then reply to you all. Both babies sleeping so I should be in bed but ho hum. Well we have started on the purees, I forgot how much I hate this stage want to progress quickly past it onto finger foods. So far we have tried banana, carrot, sweet potato and apple. Don't think she's been too impressed so far. She's still up twice in the night for milk usually 1 and 5am no matter what time she goes to sleep at. It's knackering and I'm hoping that once she's on 3 meals a day and having some protein that it will calm down a bit. Talia is so different to Abbie who was so quick and easy at feeding. 10 minutes once side and that was her, slept through 11-6am from 6 weeks so this one has been a bit of a shock. She's rolling too and bum shuffling backwards until she hits something. All very cute.

Eshay - Happy Birthday to Thomas I know I cannot believe our big babies are 2 (Abbie is 2 on the 20th July) doesn't seem 5 minutes ago since they were chomping on the purees either. Abbie's driving me mad right now as she has decided she doesn't like wearing nappies anymore so wants her nappies off, will tell you pee-pee but hates sitting on the potty. Oh the next big thing toilet training! No teeth here yet on little baby front although they are so close under the gums and giving her hassle, the Ashton and Parsons powders seem to be helping though.

lilstarry - I wouldn't hold onto the 30ozs of milk rule too much they are all so different some need more some less. If you are upping her bottles of formula then your supply of breastmilk will go down thats why she doesn't seem to interested. Also they are little devils and they seem to like the bottle more as they don't have to work as hard to get the milk out. If you really want to keep on BFing the best thing to do is to drop the formula feeds and feed her more yourself. Take a few days where you offer her the breast really often and she will boost your milk supply herself. There are loads of threads on here about it from wiser peole than myself. I'm also with you on the feeling lonely front. I found the first 6 months the worst, all your friends are at work and your at home with a baby who although adorable doesn't do very much. I was bored stupid (I didn't have any friends/family in the area either). Try to get to as many mother and baby groups as you can also baby massage classes etc it's as much for you as the babies. You will meet other mums and hopefully make a new circle of friends to do things with so to speak. I found them a godsend.

Tickle - sorry to hear about your little man, hope it all goes well at the hospital. I am totally in awe of you, making lattes etc and having 4 kids to cope with, you sound like superwoman

Iris - glad to hear the funeral went well (as well as these things can)

Rach - don't know if I said Happy Birthday to you but Happy belated Birthday hope you had a lovely time.

Nappiesgalore - good to hear from you, hope your not too bogged down with nappies.

I do think they go a wee bit funny starting solids, must be their little bodies adjusting after months of just milk, it must be like wow whats this? Their nappies get a whole loads more interesting too, banana is frightening the first few times, I remember a friend asking if small black strings were normal? Talia's bum has gone a bit red too, poor wee mites between that and their teeth too

Anyway hello to anyone else I have missed, hope you are all doing well.

SK x

Just read your post tickle - hope the little man gets sorted soon bless him x

hi all -
am insanely busy here; moving out of house for 6months in prep for building works to start next week agh! love it but am daunted too.

rocking gus to sleep w one hand so aplogies 4 typos

have started hred asking 4 advise on potty training archie and max who have both decided to start together, now. havnt a clue what im doing so any advise v much appreciated. please!

does anyone else ever want to just run away and never come back? Sorry! shouldnt be morbid, its just really hard doing this respectable mother of 3 lark. what i wouldnt give for just one week of the summer of '99 again...

thread link here

SK? Hunker? anyone???

SK - bless you and thank you for asking about me. i really appreciate it, thank you.

Hi girls
I'm so sorry I've not been keeping up much. We were in Glasgow for a week visiting the family and stopped off to visit an old uni mate of mine in Cumbria. Got home Saturday night after a horrendous drive, overturned lorry on M6 meant 4 hours to go one junction. I was convinced poor Lola's routine would be up the spout as she slept so much in the car, but thankfully my wee angel has slipped straight back into her 8 til 8 routine (so sorry all of you who are having probs with baba's waking in night still, thoughts are with you, don't know how I would cope with that).
Sunday was a bit of a blur really as we tried to sort stuff out for Andy going into hospital yesterday. He's having his cleft palate/lip redone. The last op on it was when he was 12, but some fistulas have developed in the palate that they're going to try and close and they reckon they can make his lip scar look better too. The op is this afternoon, and Lola and I are going to visit him this evening. He's hoping to be home in a day or two.
This morning I also got my letter from the hospital telling me my gall bladder op will be 2 weeks on Thursday! So my mum's now looking for flights to come down and help out, as we're not even sure Andy will be back to full functioning by then.
NG - Good luck with the move hun, you will still be online while de-camped won't you? I so know what you mean about wanting to run away sometimes. For me it would be to the summer of 91. I was 18 and working in upstate New York at a summer camp for disabled kids. One of the best summers of my life. My thoughts are with you trying to potty train 2 at once while moving house!! Can you email me with your new address, got a little something I want to send you.
Lilstarry - 30oz of milk a day?? Lola has never had that much. She has 4oz first thing, some porridge stuff an hour or so later, 6oz lunchtime, 6oz 4pm-ish, a wee bit of veg puree 5.30ish, then 6-7oz bedtime (think that adds up to 22-23).
Apologies to anyone I've missed, not getting much time to keep up right now. Gotta go get stufff sorted out to take up the hospital and make some attempt to tidy this bomb-site.
Lis xx

Very quickly, as Bee is waking.. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks the 30 oz rule sounds insanely hard to achieve!!

SK - thank you for the reassuring words, I do intend to BF as long as possible, she was only having some formula at night as I've been poorly with kidney problems and simply couldn't keep getting up.. I keep offering her a boob, and she'll frequently feed but my supply just isn't increasing in line with her needs DR reckons it could be the medication they stuck me on a while ago, I've stopped taking anything.. and my supply was better, but now she seems to have lost interest again , I guess I just have to persevere and sleep more when she does!

Babelisa - any tips on getting our LO's to sleep through Bee isn't too bad, and I appreciate she may be disrupted since she's only just been moved into her own cot, I think DP needs to be firmed and more loving with her, he often relents and gives her some formula, perhaps if I stopped that she might stop waking for a comfort suck.. Mmm.

Tickle - so glad your lil'en is getting some help, you have a picture of him straining? That's one for the 18th birthday party

Nappies - I know exactly what you mean, I don't think it's uncommon for most parents to just want some of their own space, and you have more than one so in my eyes that makes you super brilliant! Can't help on the potty training front, but I hope it doesn't tire you out too much! Good luck with the next few weeks!

Right, Bee's been sleeping for far too long, I don't think she's still in full health, but I hate waking her.. Ag, it's so hard knowing what to do!

xx

Hi all, just got back from a hot week in the lakes with the family. After having 3 adults and 4 under 5s around all the time, the house seems awfully quiet today D's cousins were there, including the youngest who is 3.5 months older that Dom ... was so funny to see them together. My boy is bigger and much balder! He also sleeps a good 2 hours more every night and doesn't ever wake for night feeds - made me feel a bit smug in an evil sort of way, teeh hee !!

Lisa - fantastic that the op is so soon Lola does sound lovely.

NG - yeah I sometimes want to run away too. I love D to bits but sometimes it's like life has changed a bit too much. I quite liked it before all this responsibility! I think you said you live near me, send me a note and we'll get together if you fancy a trip to the beach.

Iris- glad the funeral went well, sounds like your dad has a lovely place to rest.

Rach - Happy Birthday from me too!

Tickle, good luck with Theo's problems. The straining photos sound funny !!

Better go, he's waking up I think! Love to allxx

Aaarrrgghhh. After running round like headless chickens before he went into hospital yesterday, then me running around today trying to get stuff together to take up the hospital this afternoon, trying to pack everything Lola would need for the journey to and from the hospital for visiting(2 buses each way), running around town doing my errands quickly so that I wouldn't miss the bus, all in this sweltering heat....I'm stood at the bus station melting and as my bus pulls in the phone rings...they've cancelled Andy's operation at the last minute. Apparently, despite being told nil by mouth, he had "a few sips of water" today and the anaesthetist is now refusing to do it. MEN! He'll now have to go back on the waiting list.
Sorry, just needed to vent!

Lilstarry - re tips on getting LO to sleep thru...I don't know really, I think we just got lucky and got a very mellow and contented baby. Other than that we just follow a strict routine every night of solids 5.30-6pm, bath at 7.30pm on the dot, get her into her jammies and 1 tog grobag, give her a bottle in her room in dim light(which she generally falls asleep towards the end of) and very gently put her in her cot if she's asleep. On the odd ocassion when she doesn't fall asleep on the bottle I keep her upright for 10 minutes after the bottle in the hope of stopping her throwing it back up when I put her down. I read her a story or something then when I'm sure she's not gonna puke I lay her in her cot in pitch darkness (blackout roller blind, blackout curtain liners, and a double duvet thrown over the curtain rail to block out light at the top!). She moans and groans a wee bit but eventually nods off by herself. I keep her room door shut to stop TV noise etc waking her and she just sleeps til about 8am. Oh, also she has number 2 Aptamil (for hungrier babies) for this bedtime feed only (no. 1 rest of time). Hope some of that is of some use, but as I say, I suspect it's more to do with luck than good management.

Hiya, today has been quite an exciting day here in Farnborough. The Airshow starts next week but it seems today they've started their practice sessions. All sorts of jets doing crazy stunts over our house. I keep running out into the garden to see if they haven't crashed behind the gate - that's how loud it is. Amazingly, Alex just sleeps through it all. Maybe he likes the vibrations.

SK-funny you mentioned about your friend asking about black stringy bits in baby poo. Thomas didn't like banana until he was much older so I never saw them with him - I was wondering what those black stringy bits in Alex' nappy were just the other day.

Nappies, I feel for you having to try and potty train two kids at once while you're being uprooted. Not an ideal time. DS1 is now 2 and is showing some interest in the potty. he has even done a little poo on it twice. So far all we've done is have a potty available to sit on when he feels like it and daddy shows him how daddies do a wee. I guess the trick is to ask whether they need a wee VERY often and use a star chart. It might actually work quite well with 2 kids, as they will learn from each other.

Lisa, that's awful Andy missed out on his OP. I guess he'll listen a bit better next time.

Lilstarry - I'm with Lisa on just about all she describes re. night time sleeping: very clear routine, sleeping bag, number 2 formula for last feed, blackout lining and duvet over the top of the curtain rail to block out the rest of the light. Alex also has two washcloths in his cot that I've carried round in my bra for a day so they smell of me. He's almost always holding one in the morning. He probably thinks he's cuddling me We still do a dreamfeed at 10pm. I think the most important thing for continued good nights is a sleeping bag. DS1 is still in one and he has never woken up cold or climbed out of his cot. I hear it can be quite tricky getting babies to sleep in one once they are a bit older so get one now! ;)

The planes have started going over here too! Cool! I think it's the Army Show here in Aldershot this weekend too, we'll most likely go to that for a day out.
Know what you mean about the black string post-banana, icky!
Lola will be 6 months old tomorrow, and she has finally rolled over by herself for the first time last night. Now that she knows what to do she keeps on doing it today, then when she realises she's on her front she doesn't like it and wails til you roll her back onto her back, 10 seconds later she has rolled back onto her tummy again and is unhappy. Wonder how long it'll take her to realise that if she doesn't wanna be on her tummy she shouldn't roll!!

BabeLisa - isn't it kinda cute when they start rolling only to realise they don't want to be where they are? Bee started rolling a few weeks back, and within a week had worked out how to roll back, so I shouldn't worry, she'll soon be rolling all over the place!! How annoying that the op was cancelled, blooming men! I hate the days when I rush around trying to get everything done, seems so silly because the next day I find myself sat twiddling my thumbs (well, not really.. but I certainly seem to have oddles of time one day and none the next!)

Thanks for the advice re: sleep, we had a better night last night, the only thing I changed was putting her in her sleeping bag. I've had one since she was little, but thought it might be a bit warm for it, really need to get a 1.0 tog one too, but haven't seen any I like! We have a good bed time routine, but she goes down at 7, is that too early? I thought it was better to get her into the routine I plan to use when she's a bit bigger. I think it might be teething related, she started dribbling loads again at the weekend and maniacally grabbing at anything in her reach!

Eshay - awww, your little one and his cloth sounds ever so adorable! Bless!

I might try switching to the second stage formula, she only has one bottle at night now (after I've breast fed her), is it suitable? We use Cow and Gate, I don't want to make her poorly.. That said, we've had to switch teats, the stage 1 don't let enough out, but the veri-flow are too fast, so I've brought two different bottles (Tipee ones), and they seem better!

No airplanes here, although it is the Lord Mayors festival this weekend, might go out and join in the festivities Anyone else up to anything much? We're also hoping to go to Ely on Sunday to see my family, lets hope the sun stays out. Although it is very much looking like rain here at the moment!

How is everyone else? For those of you with school-aged children how are you feeling about the impending summer hols? Best dash, Bee is awake and eating all manner of non-edible things (my book mark at the moment )
Love and sunshine vibes to all!
xxx

sorry not a lot of time, ds great but a hungry guts, ate 2 jars of food for dinner one savoury and one sweet. Don't know how he can eat so much he isn't very big.
SK/NG dd has been toilet training, not too bad, run around with no undies, we did the reward system that she works to, she got a soft lolly when she did a wee and a malteser when she did a poo in the potty. Once she started going some full days with no accidents she now gets a treat at the end of the day.
We packed up the nappies, put them in the cupboard etc as she was getting confused about when she had a nap on and when she didn't so we got rid of them and that helped.
A friend just said after he child peed on the floor for the first time ' maybe next time you can get it in the potty' and she did 3 x that day so sometimes that way works too.
Good luck, hope you are all coping well.