January 2013 - part 3 - where we have to stop them rolling off the changing mats!

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Ok, here we go with the new thread - we got to exactly 1000! Hope everyone enjoyed this balmy day. I got Felix out loads in the buggy :)

Ha! Apples that made me laugh out loud with recognition. Molly in a dress looks a little like a fat bald old man in a dress, but you've got to do it haven't you?!

Sorry about the lack of sleep and disturbed nights everyone. Bunty hope the ear infection clears up quickly.

Birdies you're not actually trying to understand what goes on in the mind of a baby are you?? Down that path lies madness...

Aw sorry to hear about the LO Bunty, hope she feels better soon.

Thanks for the swim tips all, really looking forward to it now!

I wondered if there was a growth spurt coming up. LO has been cluster feeding like mad in the evenings, pretty non stop from bath time til whatever time I am knackered and hand him to DP to administer the dream feed bottle. I love the fact we call it a dream feed when in fact he is very rarely asleep by then!

Bunty I hope she gets better soon. Ear infections are the work of the devil.

I've had enough this afternoon and feeling really low. I can't remember the last time I felt like DH actually wanted to spend time with us, I've barely seen him the last 3 days. When he is with us, he's too engrossed in the telly/his phone. Every morning, I get up at 7 and do 2 hours of housework while N sleeps. He's just gone in a massive strop because I asked him to put the lunch plates in the dishwasher on his way passed the kitchen. To be fair, he does all the cooking. But he doesn't clear up afterwards.

I just need a vent. I wish my mum didn't live an hour away. I didn't think it'd be like this :(

Sorry you're having a bad day Creepy. Vent away, that's what we're here for :)

Sounds a bit rubbish of DH. Can he take LO tomorrow for a bit to give you a break to make up for it? We spend a lot of time now on weekends going: "Mummy time!" "Daddy time now!" and shunting poor LO around so I can sort the pooey clothes wash get my nails done/ he can play on his guitar.

Thanks meringue, I'm feeling a little better now. We went and sat by the beach for half an hour, worked wonders! Everything just gets on top of you sometimes doesn't it?

It's not even that I really want a break. If anything, I think I'm too 'attached' to her. I get quite anxious if anyone else holds her. The longest I've been away from her is when I have a shower. What I'm trying to do is leave the room when DH is playing with her so that she hasn't got me there constantly.

Yes, I feel things are getting on top of me on an almost daily basis! Natural world is lovely, lucky you being near a beach. I've taken to park walks first thing every morning, lovely and soothing.

I know what you mean about the anxiety. A friend offered to push LO round the shops today so I could take care of some personal stuff. I was too scared, kept thinking "what if she isn't as careful as me crossing roads and gets run over!"

Am much better with DP, my mum and sis tho. DP had a go at me for always rushing in if he was playing with LO and I heard him crying. He said "do you not trust me?" I realised if they were to have a relationship I needed to step back a bit so now I'll leave it and DP can soothe him as quickly as I can. Now we have a rough sort of routine and he goes 3-4 hours between feeds I know I can feed him then hand him over to DP for a bit and have some me time.

I'm exactly the same, it's awful. I worry aswell that Nancy will think I'm bored of her so have just palmed her off. Which I know is silly, I just can't help it. Pesky maternal-ness!!

Thanks for the sympathy everyone. We've had a nice time in the sun today at least, but no nap for me as she wouldn't be put down.

Sorry about the ear infection bunty.

creepy sorry you've had a bad day. It does all get a bit much sometimes doesn't it. I've realised we've fallen into me doing pretty much all the baby care, which isn't good for any of us. Now DH isn't very confident. Need to work on handing her over.

urgh, we've also had a crap day, dd decided to wake every two hours last night, then refused to nap all morning, finally had a meltdown at 3pm followed by a long sleep that she's just woken up from.

sorry to hear others are having a hard time. I was so tired this morning that I put the cat's biscuits and water in the same half of her bowl so she had soggy biscuits for breakfast

3rd imms today. He did so well at the surgery smiling away at everyone but he's cried pretty much constantly since we got home, about 3 hours or so. Last night he had calpol and nurofen and teething gel for teeth and still couldn't settle. I foresee another crap night ahead.

Commiserations to everyone else with rubbish days. Hope C gets better soon, Bunty.

Hi all. Bunty hope your dd gets better soon. Sorry to those having crap times. We've had a shitty few days too, ever since dd's jabs on Tuesday. Feeding every 1-2 hours at night and then puking most of it up, then crying. She's not a puker normally so have been worried.

Creepy I know what you mean about feeling 'too' attached. I do too, and although my DP is fantastic I get stupidly and irrationally jealous when dd is all smiley and happy with him It's ridiculous. I also feel on edge when with his family, but that's probably because they don't see dd often so just swoop in and whisk her away from me immediately and I don't get a look in again until it's feeding time. I need to get over it.

What's everyone doing for the bank holiday? Hope the sun continues to shine!

We're off to the seaside! Shame LO has been up since four and refused to settle . On the other hand we had a lovely pub meal out last night and he slept through it nicely so I'll forgive him :)

Morning all, hope you had better nights?
Meringue have a lovely day at the seaside, you could catch up on some sleep on route!

DP arrived home last night and announced a surprise holiday to centre parcs Monday-Friday!! Cannot tell you how excited I am!
Didn't sleep last night thinking about how on earth I'm going to pack everything for baby and toddler in the car!! The buggy takes up the entire boot!
Off to make lists.... And lots of them!

Very at you going to Centre Parcs lolli. We went there for our honeymoon and it was the best holiday I've ever had. I had a sulk on the last day because I wanted to live there. Enjoy!

Have a lovely day meringue.

We had a good night last night, 9-7:45, so feeling much better today. My mums popping down so think we may do some window shopping and have some lunch.

Have a lovely weekend all

I know exactly what you mean with the attachment thing. I just can't believe anyone knows what she wants/needs the way I think I can! Everyone likes a cuddle, but when she starts crying, whether it's a friend, SIL or DH they ask me whether it's for milk or because she's tired. I got more poseessive over DD1 when she was a baby though - this time I appreciate having my hands free for a few minutes.

Was last night any better for you all? We're off for a family day out in the sun. lolli how lovely of your DP! Good luck with with the lists

Thanks everyone. The antibiotics seem to be working wonders already as she had a much better night - apart from eating so much she promptly yacked half of it back, resulting in a new babygro and grobag at 4am, which woke her, then a massive poo, so she was awake for 2 hours through the night. Before that it was looking promising for a quick up and down!

Sorry to everyone else having a shitty time, poor dan, pascha :( hope your night wasn't too bad. Sounds like you're also having a time of it, tugs. :(

I know what you mean about too attached. I left her to go to tesco by myself for the first time since she was born, and felt like my arm had been cut off. It was nice to have 5 mins though!

Going for a massage today as I've been feeding in increasingly bizarre positions to try and get her to eat, so my shoulders are goosed.

I think we may be at the beach Monday, and a little BBQ tomo perhaps :)

I'm so attached the longest I've left her with anyone is 1 hour! That was a first trip to the pub with DH. Practically ran back home!

Worst night yet for us so far. Now 2 hourly wakings plus an hours wide awake time. And was also up for an hour at 4am with DD1. I just wish I knew how to help her sleep for longer.

Ooh we're thinking of centre parcs very soon! Could those who've been tell me a bit more about it - do they have different cabins and are some better than others? Which one did you go to? What if we get there and my DDs don't like swimming is there much else to do? Thanks :)

I fairly skip out the door with just DS1 on a friday morning for swimming class while MIL has D for the whole morning .

I've worked out that Dan settles much better for the night if he's not fiddled with, rocked, cuddled or distracted with music, white noise, projections on the ceiling or anything else. He just wants to be left alone to toss and turn for a few minutes first so no I just leave him and wander in/out of the room putting washing away/running a bath etc. He still wakes up around 9pm though no matter what we do.

Never been to Centre Parcs. I know there's one next door to Longleat though so maybe you could incorporate a day there?

Exhausted ive got a snotty cold, dexters got a snotty cold, dps got a snotty cold. Least we can share the love ...everyone at my sisters bbq who eats the cake i made may get a cold. Its good to share right?

Birdies, we went to the Longleat one and spent one of the days there. I think there's a whole range of different cabins, we stayed in a pretty basic one, but it had 2 bedroom and a big kitchen/diner/living room. We had 5 squirrels, some ducks and a deer visit us every day. There's loads of activities to do, I think you have to pay in advance for most of them. But the whole is great, if your DDs don't like swimming leave them with your OH and spend the day going down the rapids ;)

I love Centre Parcs :(

Birdies, fingers crossed for a better night tonight!
Lora hope your all feeling better soon!
We're going to whinfell forest, I've never been so I will report back, but it does look like there is lots to do there other than swim think il need a holiday to recover! X

lolli when are you going to whinfell? We're going at the end of the month for my 30th!

Bounty were going Monday! would have been nice to meet! We could have left OHs to babysit and enjoyed a night off

Stoopid phone, bunty not bounty !

Terrible nights sleep. Up every 2 hours and now I can't even sleep in between. Am thinking of doing a formula feed last thing at night to see if that makes her sleep longer. Has anyone who's been breastfeeding tried that and did it work?

Am getting desperate now, feel as tired as in the early weeks :(