November 2012 - GTbaby is back! Hooray hooray!

[StuntNun]

And she only missed 10,000 posts!

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1717592-November-2012-Were-ready-for-Spring-any-time-now-please

I'm off to bed now, really hoping for a better night tonight.

Thankyou for everyones support today - dh doesn't really get it, so it's lovely to have people albeit virtual strangers who do, and who have been here and lived to tell the tale.

Tomorrow, I am going to try to enjoy the good bits - and make her smile and giggle (I'm the only person who can do that).

stunt not redundant - redeployed as bottle washer

xx

solitary take out porn?

Domino night on mumsnet antenatal threads, I remember Tuesday nights well. Funnily enough was telling hubby and kids about them the other day.

LO must be hungry but long may the poor lil blighter sleep. Am slightly embarassed at Not having closed the shutters before my successful skin on skin experiment. Neighbours, I hope you enjoyed the show.

Sleepy dust pleeeeease. DD1 definitely out for the count after her zoo this orning and shopping expedition this afternoon.

Bplp- is lo possibly poorly with water infection? Worth checking out - I had no idea we had one but being unsettled is a symptom. I went to doc questioning reflux . He's different following the antibiotics but was better after some gavisgon too. It's apparently v common but hard to spot. Huge hugs it sounds so wearing.

I'm so very sorry Fatima :( hope something turns up soon.

B and b for the night - wow what a good idea!

Hope lo gets well soon .pr
Hugs to you too sophia

Chasing, do contact a women's group at least for all the practical advice . It will also help you if he does try to manipulate you through official channels as you fear. I'm glad the meds are helping, I feel you will begin to feel stronger. Great you went by yourself to docs!

I had a lovely day. The weather helped. And since cosleepimg and not getting hung up about the whole official sleep training thing airs like a weight has been lifted. So didnt feel quite so tired and could juggle housework with entertaining g (though v chilled today) plus was able to do my version of sleep training which is similar to stunts ( - basically common sense -) and preceed naps etc. My sling allergic baby is possibly cured of his allergy!! Then a lovely off the cuff foot painting sesh and tried him with some guided painting which he really liked! Its now in a frame :) We didn't manage to get to bed before 8 though but still progress and I ate dinner down stairs with dh and watched some tv. Plus lo's thrush and my boob thrush is definitely a lot better today. And I sat on the sofa to feed and he did both breasts and I watched a bit of tv! Tongue tie is so much looser now. And to top it al lo just self settled back to sleep

I was worried my depression(anxiety) was seriously coming back earlier in the week (had it in pregnancy) but today has shown me that I can turn it around. The art stuff is particularly meaningful as I did art at uni and am very visual person better than obsessively googling sleep regression, thrush and cows milk allergies as earlier in the week

Oh blimey.

Hello!!! Fuck me this is gonna be a very long 5 days. :( dads wife doesn't like kids. O has perfected the over excited squeal. It. Is. Not. Fun.

And easyfuckingcunts have ripped the buggy bag to shreds.

Then when we got to Geneva I had to walk a good 10 min walk to baggage with no fucking pushchair. There were tears and snot by the end. My fanjo was not up for that at all. I was raging. They told me the buggy would be at the gate. Yeah. Thanks for that. Cunts.

Can I come home now? Just pick my cheese up and I'll be on my way....?

Ps. My plan worked to perfection. O fed and slept at the right times meaning he fed as we took off and slept rest of flight. Awesome!

I wimped out and had toast Feeling a bit sicky and yucky anyway. We will have chinese on Sunday

Chasing you need to do what is right for you and your gorgeous wee boy. Both of you deserve the very best at least xx. Are you alone tonight or is he back?

sophia sorry about your crap day and Matilda's flare up . Funnily enough my Matilda's skin is looking a bit dodgey tonight so we had a porridge bath together and she is now caped in aveeno. Much better than the steroid creams they prescribed

Will share my queasyjet horror stories one day soon....

Enjoy the cheese detective

sophia you are a blimmin trooper. You really are. I was just thinking the other day that I can't remember the last time you complained about anything. You just seem to together and happy with your lot. You are a bit of an inspiration actually because you always seem to measured. Anyway, given that I know that today must have been a total arse of a day if you complained. I am sorry it was shit but I am not surprised you have such lovely, well-behaved and ginger children. My sister has always said "I'm not ginger, I'm strawberry blonde"

Cheese is delishas! Over excited babies are nice! Penelope proper squeeeeeeeled at the cat yesterday because the cat sat still to be stroked. If an ancient rescue cat can cope then your dad's Missus can

Why does my phone replace so with to? And gave with have?

You have no idea a) how annoying it is and b) how long that sentence took to type.

Ok reaching the 2 hour mark...... that sleepy dust had better have reached the toon!

film with the DH and chocolate:

you stay classy San Diego

vq I luvs my iPhone. Wish I had had one with DD1. The long nights of bf wouldn't have been nearly so bad. You can't see bold with the mumsnet app, very annoying! Although I still do the * to bold things which is a complete waste of my time.

lily what a lovely post. You have such a beautiful relationship with o.

chasing nobody here will judge you, you know that. We are just all concerned for you and o's safety. I really think you have the strength and fight in you to leave, you just don't realise it. I just can't imagine what you are going through but please don't think that anyone here or in rl will think of you as a bad mummy. As someone said being depressed does not make you a bad mother. I can't put these things as eloquently as other posters so I'll stop rambling. I'm just concerned for you.

bigpig hope you have a good night my lovely. Am sprinkling some of E's sleepy dust on you.

I'm watching a couple of stokke Tripp traps on eBay. Couple are quite local to me so hopefully I'll get one and save some cash. DH will be pleased...although he still can't see the point in getting another one but I think they'll last for years. chunky yes DD1 is just over 3 but she still loves her chair. She's not been in the high chair bit of it for ages, she just thinks of it as her special chair. I did see these things on amazon join which looked quite good. Can't remember what they are called but it basically raises the chair up higher rather than needing a booster seat.

Sorry to hear of shitty days. Mines been ok, DD1 still pushing her luck and trying my patience...in fact my patience is long gone! Got a nice weekend lined up though and am actually out tomorrow night, woo hoo. Not been out since Jan I think so looking forward to that. Will deffo have a glass of wine or 2

Bugger. Like bloody clockwork. 2 hours exactly. Feeding like he's never been fed. Wish hed do this in the day. We'll be 17 weeks on Monday, 19 adjusted. When does this end?????

Chasing - I know it must be so hard for you, but I think you are believing your partner's press.

1. No one is going to judge you or take away O because of self harm or depression. Neither of these things mean you are a bad parent, though you do need help with them. If you were being violent to others on the other hand...

2. You will always be loveable, even if you are a depressed single mum (though with the right help you won't be depressed). You may or may not meet the right man one day, but you have to find a way not to make your happiness contingent on that. You do have a beautiful son who needs you. Which is worth more than pretty much anything else.

3. It is not in the least reassuring that your p wasn't aiming at you. In fact it is petrifying as it means that the bottle could just have easily have hit O. And his head is not as tough as yours. Try as I might I can't comprehend of the kind of person who would fling a bottle and risk hitting their baby. I really am worried that you can't be sure of keeping O safe.

4. The whole 'using dv as an excuse' thing is a bullshit red herring. No matter how you leave, your ex will use everything he can to hurt and intimidate you and get to O. Do not for one second think he will play nicely if you pretend it isn't happening. If you call womens aid and say why you need help he won't be able to get to you as easily and you will be in a much stronger position.

5. Good relationships exist, you just don't find them if you get sidetracked by bad ones. Even in a good relationship people get irritated sometimes, but they come and bitch on mn talk about it instead of throwing bottles. A bad relationship is categorically not better than nothing.

Please don't feel embarrassed out of posting. We are all here for you. But know that while you stay, O is not safe. Please call womens aid tomorrow just to talk it through. It doesn't committ you to action.

Pr glad your man is back safe if waddling. Did he get any grapes? Seriously, what a superstar. I really felt for him in the taxi and you with the poorly kids. Glad the b word isn't back.

Sophia sorry to hear your day was so tough. Well done for getting through it. Great to hear your dd's nursery did makaton. I do like babysensory but am beyond irritated that they have bodged together their own sign language. I keep wanting to explain to g that their signs are wrong (in our world).

bplp well done on surviving today too. Hope you are asleep.

vq and kirrin hope you get more of the same.

I'm off to sleep too - but before I do, 2 small victories to report. G learned to roll front to back today - and was screeching raucously with delight at himself. Modesty is not his strong suit. And r said 'tap' a lot when looking at one, while ferreting through a box of things starting with t. Small steps but happy ones,

Night all. Hope the sleep dust is in the dung spreader and the tractor has enough diesel to get round the lot of us. Liked your sleep tips btw stunt - thank you.

Yay for G and R bryzoan :)

clarella N is coming up for 21 weeks, and I hope we are now coming out the other side though I've thought that before

I'm sure there's more but my brain is shutting down.

Thanks for the sleepy dust pass - it certainly worked last night :)

J was up 7 times last night. I'm done in. He is still awake having last fed about 9ish for a pathetic few gulps. I want to go to bed but if I do he will need to get expressed milk and normally wakes for a feed sooner if he has that! Dilemma! I'm actually tempted to get DH to give him formula!

Evening all, just read back to p7 so can?t remember all the things l wanted to say but chasing no wise words but l am one of the many here who, even if we don?t always post, are thinking of you and sending virtual hugs. Sorry to all those with sleep and other issues. That?s rubbish news fatima. Might be worth getting legal advice if procedures weren?t followed.

Not much happening here, except H got his first taste of icecream! Dh had H on one knee, bowl on the other, looked away a minute, looked back and H had a chocolate icecream moustache! BLW has definitely improved his co~ordination!

And we are up...

pennie I have both. I have the Tripp trap at home and the antilop at the in laws. As much as I love my Tripp trap and am in the process of getting a second one, I have to say for the money the antilop is fantastic and I know is well approved by the quiche. If you aren't that fussy about having a wooden chair (as I was) then save your pennies....pardon the pun and go for the antilop.