November 2012 - The lurker amnesty fred for our quiche

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Any remaining lurkers, would you like to de-lurk and announce yourselves? We won't bite!

MM that is a very shitty thing to say. Unmumsnetty hugs.

Car hunting - yuck. DH and I know fuck all about cars. Anything to do with their purchase, maintenance etc scares me. Completely dependent on them, know nothing at all useful.

We've got fuck all money to spend, just need something to get me or dh into work every day and back home. Doesn't even need to be particularly child friendly. Just don't want a complete rust bucket that'll fall apart in no time.

I used to have a 206. It was great. I can recommend the yaris though which is my current drive and I love it.

YW yep Magdalen, Oxford, matric '99. I moved to London for 8 years but I'm back in Oxford with DH and DS :)

I always forget about this thread :-(.

DS3 is 16 weeks old today and weighs 16lb 3.3oz. Had him weighed today by health visitor.

Anyone feeling irritable and angry all the time. Any little thing setting them off?
I'm constantly thinking about Charlie and if he's ok. Have to go and check him at least 8 times in 4 hours on a night and then when I wake in the night I'm listening for him breathing.

I suffered PND with my other two DS and i do have health visitor come see me still. She's next here in 4 weeks. I wanted to tell her how I felt but didn't. Cost knew I'd end up crying

Hi mona. I wouldn't wait 4 weeks sweetheart, give someone a ring next week - tears are par for the course, the gp/hv won't even bat an eyelid.

Yoko I loved Oxford so much - lived in Jericho for years before DH and I moved to Scotland. There's another Oxford mummy in the quiche but I have brain fail as to who? Help.

In the grand scheme of things this is insignificant but I am fucking furious.

He went out to get a takeaway 2.5HOURS ago. I just phoned 'have you crashed the car darling? are you okay? are you even coming home?'. He is in the pub. Arsehole. If I had known he had no intention of getting dinner I would have cooked myself something hours ago, I am starving.

Feeling very teary and irrational here too this week. I blame my period. I would have gone to the pub to avoid me but not fucking lied about it . Fucking idiot. (I missed sweary wednesday, can I have it today please?)

What an utter dick he is being MM. Does he like to deliberately wind you up? He sounds like it...

Please do the same to him. Leaving him with M, and piss off out.

I am having a preemptive party in my head.

O whingy at 7.30, gave bottle downstairs. Seemed whingy after it too. Thought fuck it, let's see what happens. Changed his nappy in my room, swaddled him up, stuck him in the cot. Put Ewan on. Ewan worked for 5 minutes. Then he got grumpy. So put white noise on, and blanket round his head to snuggle his face inside in to. So of course, I then had to sit there because of said blanket.

10 minutes, and he was gone. No crying, just minor grumbling, as he was trying so hard to go to sleep.

I was beaming from ear to ear watching him from the floor, in between the prison, er, I mean cot bars. The white noise is off. And so is O.

I don't know if this is just him having a nap. But, I hope not. He may wake at 9.30, and feed again. I reckon he will.

Oh, excited. This could be the start of something good .

Sorry, who asked about drooling??!!

A has been drooling massively for wks (he's 18wo) but its only in the last couple of days that I thought he might be teething. Grumpy, chewing everything & anything - fingers, both his & other people's, toys, muslins. Thankfully not nipples....

Speaking of which, anyone know anything about those amber teething bracelet/anklets? Like a good shop? Thinking it might be worth a try. Compared to DS, DD sailed through her teething.

lily must be the last thing you need in your situation, to have to 'prove' someone you've lost was important to you/your child.

mio so sorry for your loss. Must have been so hard.

mona agree with BPLP, def have a chat with someone who knows about these things.

MM feel like slapping your OH with more than a wet fish. Tell me to f* off etc but some of the things he says seem out of line, if not somewhat abusive. I know we all say & do things in the heat of the moment sometimes, that we later regret or wouldn't say/do other times, but he should love you (maybe not like you/your behaviour at times much, & ditto you him) unless he is seriously in doubt about you two as a couple. Esp as it doesn't always seem like he's said these things "in anger". If he can't be loving & supportive of you well... my first ever LTB?

What a cock mm.

DH is snoring on the sofa. Dsd and LO are in bed. I am sat in my dressing gown on the sofa with a flatulent cat on my lap. Drinking cocoa. When did Friday evenings become this??

Detective Dd is rarely dressed (about once a week) she is put in a lovely little outfit but the rest of the time she is just in baby grows all comfy and warm

MM He just seems to be deliberately doing horrible things. He needs a kick up the arse.

Would you ever be able to get him to relationship counselling? He is going to ruin your relationship the way he carries on. You both he need to find ways to communicate and compromise on stuff.

He is being a cunt.

Ps. Have a lovely clio for sale. Hahahahaha! If you like shit on wheels!

MM I would have to agree with Chunky. I am in no position to lecture advise anyone about relationships, and please take this in the spirit it is intended - which is purely to support you - but from your description of your OH I see a lot of the same traits as in O's dad. He seems to undermine you a fair bit, and whilst you sound a lot stronger in character than me, I really wouldnt want him to wear you down.

My nails are in such a state. They're bendy, soft, splitting. Why??? Hope this is not a reflection of the condition of my bones

detective believe your clio is sadly too far away amongst other reasons, can't think what

Donna he wears babygrows a lot. We are foraying in to outfits dungarees! for some of the time! But he averages 2 hours in them!

Am just surprised he has stayed in the same one and has just gone to bed in it again! as I really could do with the break from all the washing and ironing!

YW ahhh lovely Jericho :) we're in cheap Risinghurst

Yes. Too far. So unfortunate!

BP AFAIK that is normal after having a baby. Shit hair and shit nails.

Thanks motherfuckingnature!

On a teething tip, F has been teething since birth but no sign of any teeth yet (the top ones look close). He likes Sophie Giraffe and my poor knuckles :(

How on earth will I catch up after my day on M 40. Drive was ok, i think the worst of the snow missed south of Brum in the morning and I managed to squeal away leaving just the smell of burning rubber, but that was because I left the handbrake on before the second lot of snow hit.

DH kept the boys for me and I got a frantic message " the poo has gone right up to his head" and thought that braving the snow was possibly the better option.

Shit nails here too. Due to lots of hand washing and barely eating for days on end rubbish diet.

O lives mainly in babygrows. I have started putting him in soft trousers and long sleeved tees if we are going out, but comfort wins out every time. Why the fuck do baby clothes need pockets anyway?

How are the other southwest mums? I hope none of you are flooded out? I'm bloody sick of all the sodding rain.

Detective- read that article, and found it very interesting. We all should be fighting for better services.

Sorry to read about the car woes. I've got a skoda. So far, all is good.

More good news on the weaning. N took some creamy rice pudding (it's a jar) and loved eating it. He still hates water.

See you all about 0400, evil

chasing for the same reason that baby shoes exist in newborn size, which is, er.......

sophia think that trumps the poosplosion from the other day (parden the pun)

Think I might go to bed soon. I have nothing better to do except eat sweets

Waves at all the delurkers. Welcome. Sorry mio what an awful thing to happen. Sorry for your loss. I hope there are much happoer times for you ahead.

mm What a twunting thing to say. I am so shocked at the amount of arsehole men there are out there! Forgive me if I'm getting you mixed up with another poster but didn't you decide at some ridicoulous hour of the morning once that you were going to leave him? With comments like that thrown at you I'm surprised you stayed!

chunky E was supposed to be born at DVH (you do mean Darent Valley Hospital?). She arrived at home so never got there but that's where we spent 12 nights recently. Room 17 on willow ward was my home from home. Was very impressed with the facilities and all the staff but I'll be happy if I never have to go there again!

For the last 3 nights E has gone down like a dream somewhere between 7.30/8pm. I've done a tube feed around 11pm, she wakes for a small bf at around 3.30/4am and I do a tube feed and she's back down till around 8am. Fucking marvellous. Sorry to all the shitty nighters, I don't want to come across like I'm bragging. I've probably put the kiss of death on it now. Self settling is something that she learned in hospital and so far is still doing it successfully.

I can't remember which poster asked about drooling babies but E is very much one of those. I use those dribble bibs as otherwise her clothes end up soaking. She is constantly munching on her hands. I've tried her with theething toys but she just drops them and then shoves her first in her mouth.