December 2012: This too shall pass, this too shall pass

[HoneyMumandSon]

keep repeating the mantra...

ISpy that does sound good

Nutella dp never tells me I'm a good mum or he thinks I've done well bf this long (even though I couldn't start until ds was a week and a half old, did I mention that?!) sorry mini rant

Re nappies I say go up a size when the tabs are really far apart/it's leaving marks on their legs/it's leaking

Dd is at MIL's today my only chance for a nap and ds won't sleep!!

Nutella i agree with what spotty says about nappies but i also look at the length of the nappy on their back and abdomen. If its under the belly button i'd consider swopping sizes. But H is a chunk and is in size 4 nappies. The nappies also have a weight guide on them not sure if all brands go on the same fittings.

Hales dd is 3 in June and in size 4! Definitely agree with looking at the back

No nap yet for me, though T has had two. I'll try and get an early night tonight with DH taking the baby for a couple of hours.

Nutella, I moved up a nappy size as soon as T was within the weight range for them. We moved to size 3 at about 4 weeks maybe, as it was the only size in stock at the time. They worked fine, just crossed the tabs over at the front. The same nappies still fit him now, at 12 weeks (we moved to cloth nappies, and just have the old pack of disposables as emergency backup).

I moved up to size 3 when C leaked through size 2 about 4 times in one day.

Sleeping Velcro baby again. Stick to sofa. Had friends with their babies over for lunch and they tidied up for me as she's been asleep for 2 hours now. Well, that's what they get for having babies who nap on their own...

Yes Ispy I have twats for neighbours who have loud teenage children and a dog but who like to complain about us. The mum even admitted to me the other week that they'd never even heard J cry once.

I think I've made a mistake on the nappies. There were none left in the supermarket last week so I had to buy the jumbo box of size 2s. He;s now guarantee to grow out of them.

I am ignoring the baby. He's had 20 mins nap all day, is teething again and keeps going into meltdown for no reason. I need to go to asda but when I put him in the carseat he hits the roof! Hoping he falls asleep on his playmat but I don't dare sneak him out once he's asleep just in case. Going to have to go at 9:15 when DP gets in. Ugh!

We're in cloth so i just go up a snap setting when it looks like his legs might turn blue

We got a swanky running buggy on Monday £40 off farcebook and dp just took R out in it for two hours! I've made chilli, run the dishwasher and had a soak in the bath. I feel almost human again

Yeah, i know, you're not supposed to put them in till 6 months. But we don't actually run with it so it's a bit of a Chelsea Tractor at the moment :o

Well after a crappy dr appt this morning and coming to the conclusion that I'm going to put all my issues back in the box they belong in and ignore them I was feeling fairy rubbish. But D just rolled over for the first time and cheered me up a bit [proud mummy emoticon] he also enjoyed some tummy time for the first time

Honey, love the video.

Very sorry to hear of your struggles in finding a psychologist you click with - it must be hugely frustrating. To give another perspective though, I'm a psychologist and one aspect of ethical working that has always been drummed into me is not to work beyond one's expertise. Could it be that by referring you on, the psych was protecting both you and her? I would always refer someone if I thought I didn't have expertise in their area of need. Different, though, if it's a matter of fitting into the 'right box' within the NHS. Would it be possible to ask around for recommendations for a private psychologist? Many operate a sliding scale of fees if money is an issue. Whatever happens, please don't everything in a box, you're worth so much more than that.

This child won't. stop. pooing.

Yay congrats Honey the video if dash is adorable!

J's been hysterically screaming since 2pm. My docs closed now but if he carries on I might have to ring ooh. Not sure if its teeth or bum. No poo for 48 hours, screams accompanied by trumps but it may be the exertion making him trump. These babies always keep you on your toes.

thanks mama - no, unfortunatly the psychologist would be perfect, she even said we would really like to work with me as she agrees the people I've seen in the past have been useless not right but that her approach would suit me. But I'm not in her remit...

Well bollocks, honey, that's a real shame. I really hope you can persevere.

Willyou, you're having a tipsy turbulence (oh autocorrect - i meant topsy turvy!) time at the moment. Up until we both had gastro on the weekend C regularly went 48+ hours between poos without any discomfort. I'd guess teething but who knows. Is he feeding ok?

Ish Mama he always has to be forced to finish a bottle. Do far today he's managed 20oz which isn't really enough. He's quite warm and fast asleep on me now and has been for over an hour

WillYou I feel your pain dd always took forever to drink 3 or 4oz and it was really stressful. In the end we had to wean her early, which I didn't want to do, but she thrived once she was on solids. I'm not saying you need to do this I just want you to know that it won't last forever

Ds straight to sleep tonight, a little too quickly for my liking!

I'm glad to hear that Spotty, he used to take ~1h to take an ounce. I upped his teats and that went to 15 mins and I may need to up them again. He's still asleep, he must be poorly but I don't know what's up . Making my tea now, guaranteed to wake him up!

Need a rant about DP's work. He works for a little family business, it used to be him, the boss and bosses wife for 4 years. Recently they took on 2 more men and put them on shit rotating shifts. The one on DP's shift is shit and lazy. Yesterday DP arranged with boss that he'd leave 1h early, other man took advantage and left just after DP without DP's knowledge. But he couldn't work out how to lock up and rang boss to ask, thus tipping off boss that he'd left early thicko. Now the boss' wife has checked all security tapes (and found that thy've never left early before) and when leaving told DP "Don't forget, the cameras are on"!

DP is the hardest working soft touch going and they're treating him like a fucking thief. He's asked around for other jobs as he gets offered one every other week, but I can't believe what arseholes they are being.

honey the clip of dash is adorable!

I go up a nappy size when she is approaching upper end of weight range - which as I understand it is to do with absorbency and likely urine output rather than size or shape of the child, or when we've had leaks. I mostly only use disposables at night though.

Very tired baby tonight - doesn't feel like she's drunk much milk - hope that doesn't mean a crappy night ahead. Fx for good ones for us all!

Thanks for the nappy advice! I'm off to buy size three tomorrow there are often marks left on his legs by the nappies but I just assumed that was clothing or how he was lying or sitting.

pidg I'd like to try out cloth nappies but my midwife could only show me the old fashioned towel ones that you fold. Reusables really aren't popular here and I haven't really looked into it very hard DP was very unconvinced by them and I'm worried about DS's skin (DP and I are both rather delicate ; my mum keeps telling me how my bum was often really sore when I was a baby)

spotty I think you're a great mum! The fact you've managed to BF DS through all the problems & scbu is very very impressive!! UnMumsnetty ((((hugs)))) and

honey would you be able to pay for some sessions? Whatever happens I hope you manage to get it sorted and find someone you are comfortable with. DP has seen various psychologist type people in the past and I understand how important it is to trust them & feel confident they can help. ((((Hugs)))) for you too! And a nice or if you prefer

Aww thanks nutella you may have a banana muffin.

Trouble settling ds now think he's finally gone.

Don't forget itv tonight at 9. One of my sister's friend's is on it.

Honey dash is sooo clever! Tbh I think it was a 'er excuse me I don't want to be on my tummy and you can't make me!' roll!

Spotty, I am with you - suspiciously easy and sleepy baby tonight, who maybe didn't drink enough and went straight to sleep with no cuddling, dummy, rocking - nothing. She just pulled off after her feed and was zonked. I am all suspicious, but she's been asleep for an hour and a half now, so I guess she's out.

Anyone else really nervous about the approach of 4 months? I need to just roll with it but each night I'm wondering whether her sleep will go to shit.

Can I ask you guys about bedtimes? For a long while I've been putting C to bed at 8.30pm, because if I tried to put her down any earlier she tended to wake up. Then I thought I might try shifting it a little bit and making sure she didn't nap after 6 (which she had to, in order to try to wait until 7pm for bathtime after my husband got back from work). So the last few nights my husband has been working late (actually, quite insane hours) so I have been bathing her between 6-6.30pm. I've managed to get her off to sleep at 8pm, then 7.30pm, and now 7pm. So I guess I'm wondering what time your little ones get off to sleep?

Once ds has has a his bath and feed its usually 7pm that I put him down for the first time anyway

Dd always went to bed at seven and still does.

What time does she wake up?

She had a dream feed at midnight and has tended to wake for feeds at 4 then 6.30. Rarely she'll sleep again after her 6.30 feed but usually she's up for the day. We barely are, though.

normally 7:30, this week whenever i've wrestled him to sleep with extremely vigorous rocking i.e. ~10:30!

Ds wakes for the day at 6:30 usually too. I think 7 is a good bedtime. You know her best though

I guess I've just been weirded out by how easy it has been to add an extra 90 minutes to her daily sleep. Perhaps she has been overtired all this time, poor munchkin.

Glass of milk and some chocolate. Husband still at work. Considering going to bed. I feel like such a nana.

There's a bottle of cava in the fridge winking at me. DS has just gone down, do I fuck off ASDA and drink it? Things to bear in mind, 1. store cupboards and freezer are full, 2. we are forecast 5 days of heavy snow from tomorrow but 3. we are within walking distance of Sainsburys and a mini ASDA if we get desperate.