December 2012: This too shall pass, this too shall pass

[HoneyMumandSon]

keep repeating the mantra...

Well I've had a bath and massaged until I cried but it's not made any difference

Oh no Spotty is it just sore or do you have a lump now too? You can feed on the other side, just pump on the sore side if you can. When this happened to me it took well over a day to clear the blockage, and even after it had cleared (I knew because it felt soft again) it was tender for a good few days after.

DS did a 5 hour stretch between feeds last night. And I got to the supermarket and back with him in the pram and he was quite happy, and fell asleep sucking his thumb!

Off to catch up on the thread now.

No lump just really sore. I'm not sure how I will tell if it's cleared as there's never been a lump? It doesn't hurt to feed at all so I'm happy to feed on it

DH took ds2 to his mums at 7. They're still not back and I'm not able to sleep! I miss my baby!

I hope all sore boobs feel better!

Sorry to hear of breast-related complications - hopefully they all resolve soon. Spotty, that sounds so painful. Paracetamol?

Seymore, I hear you about celebrating a simple trip to the shops!

As for cleaning - we have a cleaner. My husband is rubbish at and hates doing housework; we worked out a long time ago that our relationship wouldn't survive unless we paid for a cleaner. I think it's money well spent but I do know we are lucky to be able to afford such a luxury. I love our cleaning woman, she just loves baby C and always asks after my milk when she comes!

C woke up just as I put her into her crib tonight. I got frustrated trying to settle her again with the dummy while still in there (she whipped her head back and forth and got agitated) so I just put Ewan on and came out of the room to stretch and moan to my husband, planning to go back in after a minute. My husband made me sit down and relax, and lo, she fell asleep! He has good instincts, I should challenge her a little more.

Eggs my dog had bladder crystals too - he ended up in Edinburgh in intensive care (we're in Newcastle). Terrifying.

I've had a crap week- just feeling really low and down on myself. I keep apologising to D for getting stuck with me as a mum instead of getting someone good. He's been a little bugger too but uts prob my stress effecting him. He's dropped from 25th nearly down to 9th centile but hv doesn't seem concerned but I just feel like I'm failing him :(

Oh honey what a horrible way to feel, you poor thing. He is not stuck with you, he is blessed to have you. Could anyone else love him like you do? We mums are so hard on ourselves for not having all the answers all the time. I know how you feel though, I felt the same after dd1 was referred to a paed after 'failing to thrive'. I felt it was all my fault despite running myself ragged trying to do the best for her. Is D doing well apart from slipping down the centiles? Settled? Wet and dirty nappies? Happy? Alert? Milestones? If yes, then I guess I'd agree with hv. If no, maybe time for some changes.
Please don't be so hard on yourself, think of all the a-holes out there with kids, and then think of how he is your no 1 priority - he's a lucky little fella even if his mummy isn't the almighty!

Honey Trust me, you are a great mum and not failing D in the slightest. I'm sure D agrees, he'll only have eyes for you! I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry about centiles. DS1 was similar, he was born on the 50th centile and by 4 months he'd slipped all the way down to the 2.5th centile. But he was healthy otherwise so the HV wasn't concerned and at that point I decided to stop getting him weighed because it was stressing me out. He's almost 5 years old now and is still very slight but he's also very tall. I'm doing nothing different with DS2 and he's way over the 100th centile. They're just all so different.

Honey - think WL and Seymore have already put it brilliantly but totally agree that you sound like a fantastic mum. If you could ask D, I'm certain he'd say he doesn't want anyone else as he's more than happy with the mum he's got.

Spotty - hope boob issues are sorted soon, it sounds v painful.

On housework, I tend to go for the short bursts to keep on top of it approach. Managing to do the basics each day and it appears ok on the surface, but would be mortified if certain cupboards/drawers were opened due to accumulated clutter . Also agree that floor and surface wipes sre your friend.

Honey i agree with what everyone else says. I bet your a fantastic mum, you strive for the best for your little mister. You keep him warm clean and happy but more importantly you love him and he loves you. For you to even be worried about this shows your a brilliant mum.

Hope you're feeling better honey. Dash always looks so happy in all the photos you're definitely not failing him.

Not such a good night here first wake up already, still good though and probably better for my boob.

Crap night here - so fat been up 12,1.30 and now 2.45. Made worse by not going to sleep til 11.

Sorry you're having a crap night WL. Ds won't go back to sleep so ours is turning out to be rubbish too

spotty sorry to hear about your boob (!) I'm in the same boat still if it helps? Doesn't hurt to feed but have heat padded and massaged all day and still hurts like buggery, esp if I pick up O and rest him against that side.

stacks that's awful; I don't know what I'd do to someone who hurt one of our cats.

honey as the others have said, D couldn't have a more loving mummy and that's exactly what he needs or he wouldn't be such a happy little man in your photos..

Oh Honey I hope you're feeling better. Maternal guilt is a terrible thing. Look after yourself, you're doing a fantastic job.

Sorry tonight's not going well WL, it must be hard when you have two big DDs to look after too.

Persevere boob-wise Spotty & uripian it'll suddenly just feel better. Unless it gets worse obviously

I've just scared the crap out of DS by sneezing while he was in that drunken milk haze they get! Mean mummy!

Clearly I meant Utopian instead of that nonsense!

First wake up good boy DS! (Although I've leaked through a couple of breast pads!)

honey you are the only one he'd want and you are doing brilliantly. Maternal guilt sucks, try to give yourself a break!

2nd wake up

Glad toy got some sleep IsThat

Thanks utopian hopefully our boobs will get better soon!

Well we had a 10pm dream feed, woke at 3:40 (I put him back down but he was noisy for a while I fell asleep though) and he's still asleep. I'd better get up though because dd's up and dp is about to leave for work

Don't feel bad about the percentiles honey, the difference between the 25th and 9th is so so tiny at this point and all of the percentiles are normal just different normals. No one grows at exactly the same rate all the time, i am sure you are a fab mum!

I am in awe of those of you who have been cooking! I tend to do a couple of big batch meals at the weekend, curry or stew and freeze them and eat them in the week. Cleaning is not going well in our house either, ds wiggles and moves across the floor I left him under the babygym last week and went to unload the dishwasher, when I came back he was under the radiator bad mummy so now I need to watch him whilst he plays so he doesn't get into danger.

I think Ds is teething. He had been really dribbly and chewing on his hands and anything that comes into contact with his mouth. I spent yesterday with MIL and SIL and they said that all the babies in their family got their first teeth at 3-4 months. I just hope it comes soon so he gets a little rest from the pain poor baby. I gave him calpol last night but I am not sure if I should continue to give it to him at nights, teething could go on for weeks is it ok to give them calpol for so long?

honeytea if its only once a day it shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Red nose 'mad hair' day for big dcs! just what I want to be doing at 7 am!!

Hope you feeling better this morning Honey, and all those boobs have sorted themselves out.

10 solid hours last night! I feel exhausted from having such a good sleep. Just hope he does it again tonight, we are going to see Stereophonics and DH has an early shift tomo, so we would both appreciate a nice sleep again tonight.

Need to go clothes shopping for him again today, he is too fat for his 3-6m clothes, he wore his dungarees with the sides undone yesterday! And he is starting to get too tall for his 0-6m sleeping bags, I have no money :(

Goodness eggs ds is still swamped in 0-3!

Actually my bad boob is feeling a bit better today. Ds only just woke up too.

Going to dd's nursery cake sale today for Red Nose Day hope there's some chocolate rice crispy cakes as I really fancy some!

Honeytea I tend to only give calpol as a last resort and used the gels and teething powders first, that's just me though ds is showing no signs of teething yet but dd's first two only erupted at six months (five corrected) so I think we have a while yet...

Oh dear hales! Best not to do any housework

Sorry that was honeytea again not Hales bloody baby brain

Spotty - glad you're feeling better. Hope you're on the mend soon too Utopian.

Eggs - I was just thinking we might need to get the 6-9 months clothes out, we're having tight dungaree issues too!

Isthat - was it you that mentioned squirting milk after a growth spurt? Has started happening here, which really livened up the 1.30 am feed