November 2012 - Four months? Oh no, the dreaded sleep regression!

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1698894-November-2012-BFPs-Already-You-girls-are-going-to-have-some-fun

Instead of marking place, please could those of us with older siblings post something (positive) they are looking forward to as our babies get older. I think it would cheer us up since so many are struggling at the moment.

blonder seems like we have a lot in common. Good job you don't live near me otherwise I'd start stalking you all the best for tomorrow. Keep us updated. Sending fatty thoughts your way.

detective I'm up for a miracle Monday. I need it to help me get the fuck out of here!

I have to say one of the positive things I can take away from being in hospital is that I've had the time to follow and post on this thread properly. I've loved hearing all your stories and listening to your opinions and advice. When I do get out I know I won't have as much time to follow and post but I will always keep as up to date as i can even if it's just a skim read before I go to bed. I'd miss you all if I didn't.

No he's still here. I'm sitting here sobbing with DS on my lap

Oh apple crossed posts. You don't need me to tell you having a baby is such a life changing thing and very sadly some couples just can't work through it. Big hugs.

How on earth do you think you are a fuck up! You are not at all!

Please do not blame yourself. You must have good reason to ask him to leave. How is that your fault?

I know how you must be feeling when I went through the same when O was 6 weeks. I know you will be feeling sick to the bottom of your stomach, all those emotions and feelings going round, questions about the future etc.

But right now, none of that matters. Just you and your baby. DP is a grown man, it is down to him to deal with the situation now.

Stay strong, and remember, you have a massive quiche to catch your back. :)

Oh apple take care. I know everyone here will be thinking of you.

Happy birthday tits, get well soon yw, hello luis and just and happy mother?s day everyone.

izzy on the sleeping front l think with some babies it is just time. H is only now going a bit longer at 24 weeks tomorrow. l do think a 10 minute massage at bedtime helps though.

apple Have you got some support? There's always a few of us up through the night if you need us.

izzy fingers crossed for some sleep tonight xx

And for you too missm - sorry, I have a brain like a sieve always right now.

sorry to hear that apple
hope you are ok...

hope everyone else is asleep particularly those who haven't had a full night ever or more than a few hours ...

First feed.......

Det
Apple

apple. I hope you have some good RL support at hand. Don't blame yourself.

Mm - I hope your sleep dodger is failing to dodge sleep tonight.

Izzy - we give a supplemental bottle of formula last thing at night (started at 10 days old and we've never managed to drop it) but I'm not sure how much of an effect it ha on G sleeping. We started giving it just for extra calories because of slow weight gain early on but I've recently noticed that when she wakes for her next feed bears no relevance to how much I that bottle she took the night before. We had to move her into her cot bed in her own room at the beginning of last week (on the day she was 15 weeks old) younger than we'd have liked. But it has made a HUGE difference to her sleep. We've gone from waking every 3/4 hours to her sleeping between 6-8 hours now.

Detective - go for it with moany Monday, at least for this week anyway.

Don't know if this is the issue with you guys Izzy and MM when my niece had such crazily erratic sleep / constant wakefulness it was linked to a food intolerance. Her Mum has to avoid dairy due to CMPI but found soy made her baby sleep in hour long chunks. Could it be an intolerance? Babies need more sleep than you're describing so there might be a medical reason? Just a thought from the house of the dietarily damned. and matchsticks and sleepy dust koshes.

Oh apple big big hug x you are not a fuck up either. I do not know what has happened, but a ten year relationship is not just thrown away. I do hope with a bit of time, and possibly space, you guys will be able to work things out x babies do put a strain on even the strongest relationships and it is nobodys fault. It is a major change and a pretty stressful one at that. Thinking of you, and share here if it helps x

J slept 4 hours and I think was woken by DD2. He seems so small tonight in his big cot. He is a big fat lump, but I am reminded of how young he is. I am not sure I like going all night without seeing him, daft as that sounds. He is my last baby and I really must try treasuring moments again.

oh apple so sorry

woken by the cat! grrrrrr

Oh apple I'm so sorry to hear that. Having a baby puts such a strain on relationships. Please make sure you are looking after yourself

Second wake up here. 4 hours then 3. It's no 9 hours, but back to our normal so I'm happy with that.

Ooh contra - I'd be swinging for that cat!

Third wake up here. The second one was only 45 minutes ago :(
She doesn't seem to be in any discomfort - she just wakes up. It seems to be more to do with not being able to settle herself back to sleep - although she has done before now, just not very often. But I can tell straight away now if there's no chance of her doing it, and if I leave her a bit she ramps up to full on crying pretty quickly. I don't know how to help her, I'm just hoping she'll maybe find her thumb soon or something like that. PUPD didn't work - she just roots and then gets upset.

5 hours yay!!! She was a problem to get to bed but seems to have helped her sleep.

Apple I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs and we're here to support you anytime xxx

Izzy moving l into her cot make a massive difference to her sleep. We we're down to about half an hour before and after the move started doing 2/3hours. Not amazing but workable. We we're lucky though that we could fit the cot in our room (however i can no longer get out of bed in a conventional manner!)

Sweet glad sleep is improving.

MM and others with sleep dodgers hope you are all ok and sleep

L has just thrown up all down my neck and back. Lovely

Well done minililliana :)

Wake up four :( I'd love to say this is a shit night but actually this is a normal night. Four months tomorrow - is it about to get worse?

Bugger, I just knocked my phone off the bedside table and now it appears to be dead - grrrr

Wake up 5

Morning,

Huge hugs Apple.

I am starting to think that O has silent reflux. She screams a lot and nearly impossible to calm her down. She eats constantly and cries out often arching her back. I thought she was a velcro baby but the screaming is getting worst. Shall I take her to gp? She also only sleeps for 20 min during the day a couple of times a day and wants milk as soon as she is up regardless when the last feed was.

Apple and (((hugs))) there's always one of us hanging around the thread if you need to talk.

I'm knackered. Project getting DD1 into her own bed starts at the end of the month. I can't co-sleep anymore, as much as I would love to have some snuggly memories of LO, I'm just not doing it.

At the end lf the month she finishes nursery. Everything needs to change from then on, little by little, otherwise I'll not have the energy to look after them both full time. Was woken several times during the night by being kicked in the back.

apple big hugs. I hoe somehow you can patch things up. As vq said new babies put a lot of strain on a relationship but if you can hobble through any which way then you coud come out of the other end stronger. I hope you have some RL support.