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January 2013 Part Two: Coos and smiles but not always so much sleep...

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SpringFlowers · 04/03/2013 15:02

Our first thread has almost finished so I thought we'd need a new one!

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BuntyCollocks · 10/04/2013 14:34

pascha you're a saint. Slings are excellent.

Angielka · 10/04/2013 16:29

pascha DD1 was exactly the same. Molly has made me realise again how much personality is already there when they pop out. DD1 was a screamer - cried through pretty much everything. We thought all babies were like that. I've just given Molly a bath and she cooed and smiled her way through the whole experience. Same parents, same kind of labour abandoned for emergency c-section birth, same parenting experimenting approach and yet the two girls are SO different. Some babies like to scream. It's quite comforting when you get to the point where you realise it's them not you Shock

bugsy I have some sticky blackout blind things as a temporary option - they're good but real blackout blinds are lifesavers. I hope we'll be putting something up at the weekend too. We moved into this house when I was 8 months pregnant and most some things are still waiting to be dealt with...

Wuxiapian · 10/04/2013 16:30

No, mrsbugywugsy, I'm not BF - try as I did! I know they say BF babies get antibodies from breast milk.

Takes 2 days between contamination and rash, says dr google, so guess we'll know by the end of tomorrow!

I stopped bubs' night feeds last week, but he's stirring and grizzling 2/3 times during the night. I pop his dummy in and that has some effect, but it's still a broken night's sleep, so, wondering if I should feed him again... I dunno. He's 10.2 weeks and yesterday's weighing put him at 13lbs 6oz.

Talked about his sticking after feeds with HV yesterday, too. Was advised to see dr as it could be reflux. But, if bubs is happy enough, do I really need the gaviscon?

I think sometimes there's nothing actually the matter, pascha, and they just want company. I put DS in carrier when I really need to get on.

How's little one, lollipoppi??

Angielka · 10/04/2013 16:31

btw, do these discussion threads have limits? have we nearly got there?

glorious · 10/04/2013 16:50

Go pascha!.

Yes there is a limit, I think it's 1000 so nearly there.

I've just been for a meeting at the hospital about my complaint about postnatal care. They are taking it really seriously which is great. But it's brought back some horrible memories and I'm all sad now Sad

glorious · 10/04/2013 16:51

And fingers crossed wu

Birdies · 10/04/2013 17:15

Back from the doctor and her legs are different lengths so referred for a scan. Excuse the swearing but am fucking fed up

Birdies · 10/04/2013 17:15

Stupid incompetent doctors not doing hip check when they should have done

Pascha · 10/04/2013 17:21

Oh Birdies! How bloody awful of them to miss such a fundamental check. You must be fuming.

glorious · 10/04/2013 17:23

oh birdies I'm sorry. Will the scan be soon?

Birdies · 10/04/2013 17:44

In 6 weeks. I just feel really upset :(

glorious · 10/04/2013 17:54

I'm not surprised birdies. I guess everything could still be fine, lots of adults have different length legs but no hip problems (like me). But it must be very worrying and so frustrating they didn't pick it up sooner. What made them remember?

BuntyCollocks · 10/04/2013 17:56

Oh birdies, you've had a time of it :( hugs to you my love

Birdies · 10/04/2013 18:09

It was when I phoned them after I asked all of you if they were meant to do a hip check. I just assumed they didn't do them anymore. I wish I'd mentioned it earlier.

The awful thing is that's the third thing now that's been worrying - first head growth, then rapid breathing and now this. I'd googled and found a hideous syndrome that I thought she might have. Well I'd stopped worrying about it but now stupidly I went to check that uneven leg length wasn't also a symptom and it is. So now I'm terrified. Maybe I'm being stupid.

glorious · 10/04/2013 18:36

Oh I see, sorry, I'd forgotten that. You're not being stupid, it's totally understandable that you're worried, though I'm sure it's very unlikely she has anything awful. Could you go back to the GP to discuss your worries? Or any chance of going private on the scan if you're really concerned?

AppleCrumples · 10/04/2013 19:20

Just did huge post and phone died and i lost it :(

birdies i'm sorry your going through this i know its essier said than done but try not to worry -or google- as its most likely nothing to worry about. Would second talking to gp about your worries.

Felt horrible yesterday but better now! Tbh the biggest prob was a huge mcdonalds dinner which just sat in my stomach and made me feel.sick which reminded me of hg and then made me anxious as already a bit achy and my boob hurt but anxiety makes me feel sick... I'm not a basket case really! Boob still a bit sore so just feeding anf pumping ans hoping it doesn't turn into anything. Honestly think its just because it got over full after huge sleep from Ivy as its always been over productive lol Grin

Wuxiapian · 10/04/2013 19:34

Very sorry to hear that news, birdies. How remiss of the Dr! :(

6 weeks is a long time to wait - did the Dr you saw today offer you any words of advice/reassurance?

Birdies · 10/04/2013 21:07

Thanks everyone. No, no words of encouragement. I asked if it could ever be normal and his answer was 'no'. How nice. But from googling (I know I shouldn't) I've seen that it can be. I've got one foot a bit bigger than the other so why not a leg. And it's a subtle difference. But he pointed out the leg creases and now that's really obvious to me, even though I've always thought they matched.

Am going to look into a private scan as I can't wait 6 weeks, thanks for the idea. I'm just not sure if you can get private scans for babies or if that's only for adults.

It would break my heart if there's anything really serious wrong with her. Going to try to think positive though.

happyhow · 10/04/2013 21:33

Birdies - it could be nothing to worry about. If she's healthy in all other ways and happy then she'll be able to overcome anything.

Had 2nd jabs this morning and they don't seem to have affected him too much apart from making him hungrier.

I think the 12lbs theory is a myth! Had Bailey weighed this morning and he's now 13lb 2oz and not sleeping through. He will eventually though...

With regards to the germs etc, I'm all up for Bailey being exposed to things within reason. He needs to build up his own immunity and the obsessiveness about cleanliness and using 99.9% antibacterial cleaners etc has helped lead to the increase in superbugs and antibiotic resistance. Obviously they are not entirely responsible but they have significantly contributed. Maybe it's the biologist in me... Rant over. Smile

AppleCrumples · 10/04/2013 21:45

Happy send Bailey here then as after nearly 2 weeks of hols housework gone to pot like herding water we are definitely not obsessively cleaning! However i do have a grand plan to tackle it all as soon i have dropped them all off at school!

Birdies wow your dr sounds awful! What a horrible thing to say.

All dcs in bed again! Really hoping this will become a habit though will.be even better if i can get Ivy going up earlier but i'm not going to push my luck! :)

glorious · 10/04/2013 22:00

birdies it is quite common in adults, though I don't know about babies but presume it is the same. Your Dr sounds extremely insensitive, could you see another at your practice? I'm sure you could get a private scan but you may need to have an appointment as well.

Very jealous apple, we are having a scream fest here.

Pascha · 10/04/2013 22:27

Started bedtime at 6.30 with a bath in which Daniel proceeded to scream and scream, followed by massage and pjs which he giggled through, fell asleep on the boob, put in crib, woke up, screamed, cuddled, bounced, boobed, fell asleep, put in crib, woke up , screamed, etc...

Gave up on dinner in the end (was going to be prawn stirfry and noodles), had peanut butter on toast at 9pm instead while DH went to take his turn. Finally asleep at 9.45pm.

Happy the 12lbs thing doesn't work here either. If anything his sleep is getting a bit worse. We're back to 3 or 4 wakings a night after midnight. I am knackered.

lollipoppi · 10/04/2013 23:12

Oh birdies, what a horrible doctor, I hope you manage to get a private scan and I'm sure everything will be ok, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

DD is doing great since being on the gaviscon, she has kept down all her feeds - so relieved!
I can't remember if I mentioned but they also picked up a heart murmur (which was obviously missed at her 8 week check!) so she has to go for an echo scan.

In other news, I seem to be missing my period, if anyone has seen it please tell it to hurry the fuck up and put me out my misery ..... 4 days late!!??
Should it be irregular after having a baby? I can't remember from my first?

mrsbugsywugsy · 11/04/2013 02:13

birdies your doctor sounds awful. I had hip problems myself as a baby but they resolved without treatment and I am fine now so try not to worry.

re. the 12lb thing being a myth - I am pinning my hopes on this so la la la I'm not listening

lolli I haven't had my period yet at all!

theboutiquemummy · 11/04/2013 05:12

Wide awake after giving in n feeding lo a night bottle sleep training my foot !!
Oh birdies huge hugs try not to
panic easier said then done I know but it could just be that one hip is slightly looser in the socket then actually longer sounds like an arse of a Dr to me how can he tell !

Went for jabs sat for an hour only to find out lo had a temp so came all the way home grrr only to find out there's a measles epidemic !