November 2012 - Forget 50 books in 2013, we'll have 50 threads

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Thanks Horsey! Gives me a bit of info to have before I go to the GP again! Am thinking I'll take him Thursday if it is still the same. You literally can't move him without sick :(

He is only small and I worry about him enough as it is!

It's so cold!!!

apple and pikz

I used to feel real pressure to have P 'sleeping through'. My absolutely lovely MIL used to repeat ad infinitum that her first slept from 7-7 at 6 weeks, her second at 4 weeks and (said with narrowed eyes pointed at DH) her third at bloody 12 weeks! The bugger!

I was always a little dubious of this. A 4 week old sleeping 12 hours? Seems unlikely.

Anyway, even though P has slept like a sleep champion I always felt it wasn't quite long enough or early enough. This was until my FIL asked, again, how she was sleeping and I told him, again. He responded with "eee! Well, that's great! Ours took months to sleep like that" He was shot down by MIL who claimed he was misremembering.

I don't know why I tell this story but I felt a sense of relief when FIL hinted that all had not been so rosy.

I think my point is that they all get there in their own time. And patterns can change daily. It really doesn't help with the sleep deprivation but this to shall pass . . .

Eight hours!

Eight consecutive hours from 9.15 to 5.15, awake for an hour, then asleep for 3 more!

Morning everyone, crap night here too. B woke every half hour all night! She didn't want feeding, settled instantly with her dummy, but I am knackered. Might be the 12 week growth spurt, she's 12 weeks tomorrow.

Everyone has different definitions of sleeping through I think that is the problem pass!!

Fuck I am soooooo cold There is no heating in this places and it's shocking!!!

Last years MOT I was sat in the garage after a night shift. The night before I had just got my BFP! My appetite had ramped up already and I was starving continuously! What a difference a year makes!

If I freeze to death here, I'll miss you all!!

Wow VQ!! :)

FUCKING GET IN VQ!!!!!!

Party time in the VQ household! Get the flags out, I'm coming for the party!!!!

Amazing ValiumPrince! You must feel brand new VQ

All the sleep dust went to VQ's last night! Explains the rest of the shit nights! Not enough sleep dust to go around everyone!

A website I read recently suggested "sleeping through" is 5hrs continuous sleep. I think of sleeping through as not needing a feed after you've gone to bed & before an hr you deem acceptable to get up. Perhaps 11-6 or similar...

Fed up with DD getting a fever. She was at 39.9 last night... :(

The coffee made no difference at all that I can tell, except it helped me feel less self blame.

The granules are helping him release the wind, and he cheers up as soon as he gets them as they are yummy.

The formula is helping me as I am not having the awful constant feeding in the evenings. Last night he had 200 mls at 7 and went up to bed at 9, with a 20 min bf.

Hugs for all who had shit nights

Great news VQ

I was up most of the night hallucinating with my fever, DH has had to take the day off as a in no fit state to look after the children. The worst has to be over by now doesn't it?

Woooohoooo VQ

Not again chunky

I will not apologise for having all the sleepy dust as it is About Fucking Time! He is 4 months today. I am hoping we have already had the sleep regression. He certainly seems over the growth spurt bit. Could that explain your situation with sleep detective as our boys are technically the same age, except yours stayed womb-side longer?

PR when we had flu it was two really bad nights with fever, but had a couple more rough nights.

I feel fab today, but know that he may not do this again for a while.

Morning/evening everyone.

Congratulations VQ that's ace news.
PR Sorry you're sick
chunky Sorry DD is sick

I'm sweating my bum off here. The mornings are lovely and cool and then by 9pm it's so hot that I feel sick. Actually, that's a lie it's not the heat, it's the humidity. It's just VILE.

DS is still bloody awake and has had a massive acid attack today poor lamb. I had hoped that his reflux was getting better but obviously not.

Anyway, I'm planning to go cold turkey (from tomorrow morning) on MN for the rest of this week. I'm spending TOO MUCH TIME on here and it's impacting my parenting. I feel like if MN was an alcoholic drink then people would be calling SS.

So best wishes and sleep dust to all. I'll - hopefully - be back next Monday to see how you all are.

XXX

pikz DS is also 14, nearly 15 weeks.

chunky I read something like that too but I have the same idea of 'sleeping through' as you - going to bed then not waking up until a reasonable hour in the morning when you would start your day.

contra my mum can be a bit like that. It is horrible, and very undermining. With my mum though, it is about her feeling better, not necessarily making me feel worse.

When DD1 was 6 weeks old, we stayed with my parents as at the time lived a long way away. Mum really wanted to bath DD, so I set everything up, and left her to it, saying to shout if she needed me. A while later I heard DD crying a funny cry so ran in to see DM struggling with a very upset baby. It took me moments to realise that the water was far too hot as DD was getting rather pink. I took over, and mum was in tears. Afterwards she said she had drunk a fair amount of wine for her, in order to give her confidence!?! It was very hard not to wring her neck. DD1 still hates baths.

vq OMD well done little man - now vq remember exactly what you did every moment of yesterday and repeat lol - fingers x'd it continues x

kyordz hugs - I'm on my 3rd and have a strapping 13 yr old whom I haven't broken in fact he's rather gorgeous polite clever considerate and a 7 yr old who is one of the most amazing kids has the maddest imagination, chats for England, is confident and will give anything a try yet with Dottie I feel useless, and also feel like she prefers her child minder to me sobbed my heart out last week when she came home smelling of someone else yet last night when we went for a meal she was a bit of a stroppy overtired cranky moo who would only stop crying for ds but when me and dh walked back in at 10pm her bottom lip quivered until she was in our arms then snuggled into me before giving me the best smile!!! We will see all of their best and worst moments!!! Do t worry about anymore yet - I wish mine weren't such big gaps but that's how Mother Nature deemed our family to be!!! Also you can have 2/3/4..... good kids - all 3 of mine have slept through around 6 weeks - I consider sleeping through to be 7+ hours at night time - others don't consider sleeping through until its 12 hours but I didn't get that from any of mine until they started playgroup!!

Right now for my woe is me moment - it's about sex so sorry if its tmi or not appropriate to post her but I've no rl people I could talk to.

Last night we had a lovely meal with a bottle of wine and nice chat, came home fed and settled Dottie who went down at 11pm so we got jiggy!!! Must be 4/5 time we've done it since dd was born and each and every time has been crap - not for me but for dh!! We used to always get to the finish line together - perfect both happy roll over and sleep but since baby, I get there but he doesn't, once I'm done I want to go sleep but then have to lie there for ages - last night I just burst into tears, it obviously feels different to him and considering we dot have it that much I would have thought it would be over sooner but I've obviously got a bucket everything feels ok down there, I had no trauma, no incontinence and still do my pf's. he kept asking me what was wrong but what can I say? He probably thinks he's done something wrong but then again I'm sure he realises things are no longer the same!!

So sorry for such a topic but I'm still in tears that sex is now crap for him!!!

About Fucking Time indeed.

Good luck with the MOT detective

Heehee pass that's hilarious! Good old FIL! My sister's MIL is competitive like that - its crackers!

Ta for the info horsey you're right I do need to be careful how I reintroduce dairy as after such a long time off it I'm likely to have become intolerant myself. Gawd I hope I'm not off chocolate permanently!!!

Oh glenda that sounds horrible for your self-esteem. The first thing that occurs to me is that he was asking you what was wrong. This makes me think that he isn't aware of anything taking longer. And if it is, why are you assuming that is you? You have to chat to him about this - don't let it fester.

Also - please don't apologise for posting anything. I mean, what on earth could be TMI for us now?

VQ I reckon your wee man has cracked it!

Glenda I think you two need to chat about this before it becomes a major issue or barrier to your relationship - I wonder if he's maybe scared of hurting you? I put money its not because he's no longer able to enjoy your body. It really won't be that hon xx