November 2012 - Forget 50 books in 2013, we'll have 50 threads

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Oh Kirin what I would give for a dog that did do that, my dog is such a snob he only eats out of his bowl or what is personally handed to him.

Oh Sophia that sounds awful, are you getting treatment for that? Why is it still so bad?

I had a tiff with DH last night (I know it was my first night back after my holiday.) J woke again at 5 and DH brought him to me for a feed. When he dropped off I hauled myself got out of bed to put him in his cot but he started to stir so I got back into bed to let him settle. Then DH went and dragged J into the middle of the bed waking him up. So he starts saying, "Why didn't you feed him, wouldn't he feed? He needs to be fed." I grumpily asserted that I had just fed him and he wasn't hungry and why did DH keep telling me to feed him, feed him, feed him all the time. Anyway DH stomped off downstairs with J, slammed a few doors and then sat singing to him very loudly. At least I got back to sleep, I'm really on the ropes here when it comes to sleep. DH has had a week of as much sleep as he wants, I've had much less than I usually get with being away from home. So he's irritated at J not going to sleep last night whereas I'm falling down exhausted. I just feel that we're not on the same page, DH's needs are so completely different to mine. He's having a really shit time at work so he needs a break when he comes home. But I desperately need more sleep so I can't easily provide a relaxing environment for him.

kirrin I have a voucher for a hot stone massage and facial but never get round to booking it!!

I keep trying to prepare everyone for when I start uni next month but so far no one is taking up the reins - either they will all step up to the mark when needed or there will be no clean clothes/plates/area, no food in the fridge, no dog food, no where to sit and the place will be a sty - should it go like that I will be leaving for the period of my degree!!! Come march 18th after Dottie my priority lies with getting my degree!!!

In other news it looks like Dottie's left eye has finally cleared up and is gunk free - wooooooo 3 months of cleaning td was a drag!! Now she looks all pretty when she wakes up rather than like lily savage after a night out lol!!!

Witch is sleeping now!!! Daddy has until 10am as he was working until 4.30am - then he's having a Dottie day!!! Bottles made already!!

Good stuff VQ/J.

A went 11hrs between feeds. Yes. The WHOLE night. Except he failed to sleep. Not sure which is worse - 1-2 night feeds of 30mins max each or the repeated 5mins of dummy replacing/shushing/quick hug etc.

glenda nothing to say, just hugs.

Awwwwww stunt it's so hard isn't it? Hugs for you - maybe have a chat and see if you can come to a compromise - take it in turns for say four hours when it's a bad night - that way it's not too long to go without sleep but a 4 hour chunk of sleep for the other person can be life saving!!!

Dh works 2 jobs - main job is 9-5 office based IT manager read say in ass all day on Facebook and 2nd one is fri & sat nights 9pm - 4am as a medic in a nightclub occasionally busy but usually sat in staff room watching downton so we both think the other has it easy!!

stunt just seem your post. That's hard. DH has been MUCH better since our argument/almost-split those weeks back. Even going as far as getting up to deal with DS on Thurs night. I think it took me saying "I know you're having a shit time at work & work is v important to you but..." and explaining why I needed help. They're his kids too, so your DH needs to be helping out as much as poss. Your 'job' is childcare when he's at work - when is your down-time? They don't see it as that hard I don't think. But then, they never do all of it do they? It's either childcare OR housework etc rarely both.

Morning all. Looks like some of you had better nights, and some not. Stunt hope youRe ok.

kirrin I understand exactly what you mean re the canine cleaning team : o

Ooops :o

stunt what cc said

Yes it's important they have 'recovery' time but you also need some time out too. Not a lot but a bit just keeps you sane. And sleep. Honestly I do not know how you guys are doing it.

stunt do you know what? I think it really sounds like you and your DH need some child free time, even an hour just chat to each other. Even if it isn't about the kids, just chat and be together, forget work, forget not sleeping just be together.

The bleeding is Mirena induced. I didn't want it, as if bleeding is a side effect I tend to bleed. I have had PPH with three out of four of my births and not with the first only because it was ELCS. I feel tired and run down which annoys me because before I had it put in I was actually feeling really healthy and pretty damm good for having a new baby. I wanted to be sterilised and then use homeopathy to regulate my periods if I needed to. I have used homeopathy before and it worked brilliantly. Anyway I was too much of a wimp to stick up to the Dr.

The day it stops, if it ever does and I do actually have my doubts, you will here the cheer through your I pads/phones/laptops.

I have taken three paracetemol.

I am having coffee and sausage and scrambled egg and listening to Saturday Live. DH in charge till lunch time!

Sophia out of curiosity, why wouldn't they sterilise you?

My DSis has a friend. She's 38yo, has 1 grown up son, 1 15yo & a 2yo DD. She asked to be sterilised but they said she was "too young". In contrast, if she wanted help to get pg at the same age, she's too old.

Good morning lovely mum chums

stunt you sound pretty fed up this morning. Echoing sophia Is it possible for you to have some down time with DH? Most things are manageable if you feel you are working as a team - some time just the two of you if at all possible could be what you need.

sophia the bleeding sounds horrible. It is extremely wearing - I hope it eases soon.

Maybe a few days wearing dirty pants will be what is needed glenda!

I have posted on Facebook re a Scottish meet. I want to slobber over your babies.

Wrt shit h's and p's, i have been taken aback at how useless dp is at entertaining a baby. Before R, i honestly believed that keeping a baby occupied was purely an application of intelligence - read the body language and act accordingly. No reason dp should be any less competent than me, we're both beginners.

I was wrong. And it's shocked me. He really doesn't know how, and he really does need me to teach him. And that's not unwillingness, either!

Worst. Night. Ever.

Ok night here, after fearing the worst. It was actually an alarm clock that woke me up, rather than a hungry baby.

Dh is in an argumemtative mood today - think I'll send him out with the pressure washer to clean the car. Bless him, he has bought me the Saturday paper though. Not sure he realises I still haven't read last weeks

Can't remember what anyone said, but sympathy hugs to those who need them, celebratory high 5s to those who want them...erm...emjoy Saturday!

Oh pp the recipe you did (lentils/chicken) - presume it all ends up in one pot? Might give it a go...

Meant to say, we had a tragedy in the pig household yesterday - dsd's fish (vanishingly rare pink guppy) died. Cue floods of tears, and a fishy funeral. Ariel is now buried in a matchbox in the flower beds, with a peg princess marking the spot, and prayers said.

Just hope the cat doesn't dig it back up

Thank God the 4 month sleep regression thing may have by passed our house. The girls are 21 weeks today and I didn't notice any of this. Their sleep pattern hasn't changed, they do seem to be eating more though.

Don't worry too much, it may not happen to your baby.

GT I still wonder if someone is playing a trick on me. I have two very contented babies who sleep well. I keep waiting for it to all go tits up but it hasn't yet.

Ah well.

DP is being pretty amazing and I feel so thankful he has finally woken the fuck up! I am going to lunch with a friend and he is looking after both of them on his own!

My DH is currently singing 'I like to Move It' by Reel 2 Reel ft the Mad Stuntman to the baby. He doesn't seem to mind.

We had an ok night overall, asleep at 10, but after feeding for an hour 3.30-4.30am, I put L back down 90% asleep and he sneezed seven times and woke himself up. He then kicked and wriggled and whined FOR ANOTHER HOUR despite much feeding/cuddling/shhing from me. He did sleep in the end though so I think I had it better than some of you.

We're now onto Ebenezer Goode. Dear DH.

pixie I was like that with DD1. She was just an incredibly easy baby. Slept well, cheerful when awake. She's a bit more, erm, spirited now. LO other than illnesses has been similarly easy. I feel very lucky.

Right. I will definitely cook those carrots today.

So after weeks of sleeping 10 hours with 2 15 minute feeds last night she slept:

11.20-12.30
1.10-3.40
4.40-5.45
6.00-7.15
7.30-8.30

EVERY time she woke up she cried blue murder before feeding back to sleep. I thought she had wind as she was farting like a trooper each time she yelled but couldn't get any burps up through her crying. No idea what was wrong or how to help her get back to sleep without feeding her.

I'm exhausted. She's sleeping in her swing now and I went to head back to bed but our new neighbours next door are decorating and I can hear every scrape and knock and their loud crappy music through the wall

And DP is working today so I'm on my own.

Sorry for the self indulgent post. Is it wrong to have biscuits for brekkie?

Biscuits are an excellent breakfast. Enjoy.

Pcked up a leg of lamb this morning for dinner tonight. Am going to buy the ingredients for a fondu later on for tomorrow. Yum. Or raclette. Can't decide.

Sounds like a lucky baby blonde! eezer goode, eezer goode, he's ebeneezer goode woahoohoohoohhhhh!!

I've now got 'naughty, naughty, very naughty' on loop in my head arghhhhhh!

Stunt :( bloody husbands :(

Am quite shocked. DP asked me if I wanted the pram out the car and I said yes just in case unlikely! I go out. Well, he forgot. As per usual! Except at 7.30 when I was getting ready with my baseball bat and various blunt sharp instruments he came back in through the front door with said pram having got almost to work with it! Awww! Impressed that he came back and then had to rush back to work! Just a shame about the heart attack I got when he came back in!

O got up for the day at 9.45. Impressed. He seems to register Saturday as lie in day! He hasn't been up before 9... yet.

He is currently feeding and is almost asleep. I might get an early lunch!!!

Sophia if it is still the same after 3 mths get the bloody thing out! Sounds shit for you. I wish I could tolerate contraception better too.

BP if the cat does, stick the Lion King on and tell her it's the circle of life!

pidj DP didn't have a clue how to play with O too. He is doing better at it now but it took him 7 weeks or so.

Nothing wrong with biscuits miss fuck that sounds like a real shitter of a night. DP can take over tonight yes? And you head to bed early?

I'd have some crisps and chocolate as the perfect accompaniment!

chunk she said lots of women get sterilised and end up with Mirena anyway inst forties to sort out issues with periods. What I should have said was, I don't want artificial hormones because I know it will mess me up, sterilise me and I will use homeopathy.

detective I think I will just give it three months. Feel like a crock of shit today!