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November 2012 - Forget 50 books in 2013, we'll have 50 threads

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StuntNun · 20/02/2013 09:35

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1683927-November-2012-Guess-what-we-were-doing-this-time-last-year

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Pikz · 21/02/2013 21:44

VQ I would like the next one to be a spring baby. However if its anything like this one we will get no choice at all.

I have always known I want another. I think I want a two year gap ish. We shall see. I don't know whether we should try with the time frame this one had (18mnths and 2 ops to conceive) or think it will be short and to try when ready. Suppose scared we could end up with four year age gap...or even scarier two under two!

blonderedhead · 21/02/2013 21:46

VQ I smiled at three little candles.

I would love a Spring baby when L is 2.5. Not sure I can make 'em to order as L took a year but that's what I'm aiming for. My friend is pg with her third baby and it's made me feel quite excited about having another even though it won't be a while. I never got the concept of 'feeling broody' before but I think I do now! I wish I could have 5!

applepieinthesky · 21/02/2013 21:51

Same here pikz. DS was born 2.5 years after I stopped having the depo injection. If allowing for a similar time frame we should crack on with it now. But what if I got pregnant right away? I'm not prepared for that. Don't want to wait 3 years either in case it takes a long time again.

FatimaLovesBread · 21/02/2013 21:53

Arghh why can't DH just accept that he hasn't listened to me instead of insisting I haven't said what I clearly know I have said to him! Angry

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 21:59

Because they are stubborn goats.

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 22:00

Ds1 was early march. Due end feb though! Want may/june next time!

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 22:06

DP and his friend have been building the bed since 7pm So far it has been built, dismantled and rebuilt.

I'm in for another long night aren't I? Hmm

Contradictionincarnate · 21/02/2013 22:13

I have heard tell of a few women planning babies and it happening narrowing them down to beginning of Feb etc but my lesson with dd is that I have to pause the control freak in me...took us a year to begin her and she was over a week late I thought she would arrive on mums 60th but she came 3 days later.
I also am thinking of starting earlier than I ideally would like to incase it takes a year again...probably even longer this time as last time when we could dtd every other day! Wink

YellowWellies · 21/02/2013 22:32

Yeah my family history also makes me doubt I could achieve anything as accurate as a spring baby - my niece was due in November and turned up in august. We seem to be able to conceive pretty quickly its carrying to term that's tricksy. So whilst the hippy in me would like a Pisces, Taurus or Cancerian and an 18 - 24 month age gap - the odds of achieving it? Hmm

Elizadoesdolittle · 21/02/2013 22:35

Haven't had chance to read the thread so apologies for the me me me post but just a quick update.....

Went to my local breast feeding support group. God I wish I went there ages a go. They were so nice and helpful and I've come away with a makeshift supplementary nursing system which I used twice at my mums and it worked. I got an extra 3ozs in her per feed on 2 feeds. It didn't work the third time as she wasn't sucking hard enough but it's a start. I'm going to try again in a mo and see if I can get more in her. So I might say to the consultant to give me a week to work with the sns to see how I get on. I can't use it when out and about but I have a quieter week next week so can concentrate on using it more. So I'm very thankful for my new found support network.

Going to catch up on thread now. Hope you've all had lots to be thankful for.

kirrinIsland · 21/02/2013 22:39

I found going from 1 to 2 pretty hard to start with, mostly because DD1 was way more jealous than I had anticipated - so I felt guilty about that, and then her challenging behaviour made me get cross with her so then I'd feel guilty about that as well. It made me wonder what the hell I'd been thinking when I said I wanted 3! But now it's calmed down a bit I'm back to thinking about a third again (and interestingly, so is DP - he has always been dead against 3). If we do I will leave a bigger gap though.

detective I think you are owed a quiet and uneventful day or two!

MM well done. I've never had a bad reaction to feeding in public, but I'm the sort who would probably think horrible things but not say anything much

kirrinIsland · 21/02/2013 22:42

Cross post Eliza Glad you've gotbsome good support. That sounds good.

daisychain76 · 21/02/2013 22:45

Good news Eliza. Hope it continues to work.

YW you nver know re carrying to term. My family has a history of prematurity and ds1 arrived at 36 weeks, but then dd stayed put til 39+2.

DS1 was due Sept, arrived Aug. l would definitely not recommend planning a late summer/autumn baby ~ l have never been so hot in my life!

MissMummy1 · 21/02/2013 22:47

Our next one is a puppy. M was NOT planned, and I must be super fertile seeing as I was on the pill and we only did it once that month Blush (in our relationship's defence we were working at opposite ends of the country at the time!) I wouldn't swap her for the world now she is here but she had changed my life in more ways than I could ever imagine. My life is not my own anymore and she has changed every single aspect of it. I used to be really selfish and reckless, so I suppose in many ways she has changed me for the better? I don't resent her one bit, although - and I've neveer vocalised this before - spent most of my pregnancy worrying I would. Despite all of that though she really is the best thing that has ever happened to me, I want to enjoy her before I even contemplate another, and if we only ever have her, I won't be disappointed in the slightest! not parting with outgrown clothes yet though

kirrin I am normally quite quiet and reserved in these situations. I am bolshy and argumentative when I've had a drink (in fact I'm a total arsehole when I'm drunk Blush ) but normally a total shrinking violet when not. I avoid confrontation at all costs. I saw red today though Blush.

MissMummy1 · 21/02/2013 22:48

Fingers crossed for you eliza - glad things seem more positive tonight! Thanks

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StuntNun · 21/02/2013 23:26

Well done VQ's J for chugging your formula like a good boy.

That's great about the supplementary nursing system Eliza, it would be brilliant if it makes a big difference to calorie intake.

I have 3.5 years between DS1 and DS2 and found it difficult to get enough sleep as when DS2 went to sleep DS1 was always awake. With J there is a 6 year gap so DS1 and DS2 are at school for 6 and 5 hours a day which makes life a lot easier as I theoretically have time during the day to spend with J or have a nap although I seem to spend it cleaning up after DH and the boys. There is the danger though that children get much easier at about five years old and you may not want to go back to sleepless nights and nappies at that point.

Sorry to hear about your car Detective. You do seem to be having a tough time of it financially at the minute. Could you get your DP to sell a kidney? Wink

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TheDetective · 22/02/2013 01:06

I'm going to get him to sell his knob stunt. It's the only thing he has of any value Hmm. Perhaps he could sell sperm. Grin

ValiumQueen · 22/02/2013 01:55

4 hrs. Having a nice feed. Hope he settles quick.

Clarella · 22/02/2013 02:22

grrr burps totally avoiding me. hope he doesn't get double pain at 5. he's just going out for the count after each feed, I just plonk him down no bobbing or swaying. was hoping a burp would unsettle him when down but nope. Hmm

.... ah got a tiny one!

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StuntNun · 22/02/2013 03:01

Yawn. What time do you call this J? 4 o'clock I can handle but any time before 3 is waaaay too early. Shall I take bets for a 5 or a 6 o'clock start to Friday?

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Catbag · 22/02/2013 03:12

I think I might refuse to out of bed until seven am We will see how well that goes...

Pikz · 22/02/2013 03:38

Fed at 10.15 and 3.30.... Doing ok....

Fucking sodding snot.... Poor boy :(

ValiumQueen · 22/02/2013 04:04

Fucking bollocks. 1.5 hours. Fuck.

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StuntNun · 22/02/2013 04:47

1.5 hours to settle VQ or between feeds? Either way it's hell isn't it? I was reading a study about babies and sleep and one of the correlations with poor sleep was being male! I should have had a girl. Wink

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MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 22/02/2013 05:06

Well, our 5am start to the day is an improvement on yesterday's 3am. Interestingly we dropped the dream feed and he stayed asleep for longer Confused. Ah well, have a head start on today's chores, although why all the washing up is still here after DH stayed up to 11pm is beyond me lazy knobhead Angry