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StuntNun · 20/02/2013 09:35

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Evilwater · 21/02/2013 20:34

I went to the nursery and I liked it, N screamed for a good deal, but he wanted to join in at the end. Which is a good sign! I mentioned it to DP and he is still in the " No nursery" camp. Angry why is he so against! Just makes me mad!

Off to the drs, and I'm going to make a complaint.Angry I phoned up asking for a appointment, when the lady on the phone "needed to know what was wrong, and she couldn't give me a appointment till I did" grrrrr.........Angry I do not want to tell her about my sexual health!!!

Right off to read previous posts and there are lot of them.
Evil

Evilwater · 21/02/2013 20:39

Oh and N not so keen on cuddles, and he wants his milk lying down. Werid.
Evil

daisychain76 · 21/02/2013 20:50

Grrr phone has just lost a long post! Gist was Pass it is definitely worth saving stuff ~ after ds1 l hardly had to buy anything for dd and ds2. I think VQ is spot on about having to. l also thunk the leap from 2 to 3 is easier than 1 to 2 as you are used to the juggling/mummy guilt!

MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 21/02/2013 20:51

OMG there is so much to catch up on!

evil sorry to hear your DP is still against nursery. Has he come to look at any with you?

YW congrats on the mortgage Grin

bigpig DS is partial to a bit of Estelle ft Kanye. I do Estelle (badly) and DH and I do the rap (also badly) in manner of Smithy and his sister in Gavin and Stacey. DS loves it!

detective I feel your pain. Car going in for MOT tomorrow. Have about 50p to cover repairs.

MM well done. I think you were rather restrained, myself Grin

horsey we have a 21 month gap, is pretty good. A couple of months before DS was born DD was very hard work, but she got a lot more verbal which helped. You just manage with two, in a way you cant imagine before the second arrives, exactly like you manage with one in a way you cant imagine before you have your first. Although "in a minute" and "I just need to do x first" are two of my most oft repeated phrases at the moment.

In my news, DS in in sleep regression hell. DD finally sleeping willingly in own bed for at least half the night. Did a KIT day at work including a v technical presentation, for which I had done little prep. Survived it. DH is not yet buried beneath the patio, although he deserves to be. DS screamed in angry raging cries for a fucking hour, I was tired, stressed and in desperate need of assistance/encouragement as I could feel my patience being tested. DH had fallen asleep putting DD to bed. Angry

daisychain76 · 21/02/2013 20:54

Oh and good for you mm.

Shelly l have been back at work 3 weeks (but did start mat leave at end of Sept when H appeared)

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 20:54

Good on you MM and shame on DP! I'd of done the same.

I'm afraid I also lost it today. Well, in a rude gesture way.

After limping to aforementioned garage, Oscar started to scream as we got there. He wanted feeding. I'd told DP to get there urgently, as there was nowhere to warm feed up, and he was going for it, and there was only so much fucking Donald Duck noises I could make to stop him screaming for more than 2 seconds.

As we were driving home (was only 5 minutes away) with said screaming baby, there is a bit where the road narrows, and only one car can fit through. It is our right of way, as is clearly marked by the signs on the fucking road. So some knobhead BMW driver decides to try and force their way through, stopping us. I might have flicked a v and mouthed some naughty words their way. As they sat open mouthed driving past us. Fuckers.

Sadly, I realised after I had O's dummy in my mouth (you know, how you put the handle bit between your teeth so it doesn't get dropped in shite). I must have looked crazy. Confused

Ah well.

I must learn to let shit go over my head! Really.

Evilwater · 21/02/2013 20:56

madam- no he hasn't. Even if I paid him! I think it's a talk to his mum.

YW- yay morgage, welcome to the ball and chain!

Horsey- I hope your bourse behaves better soon. I went for a wonderful walk the other day and they allow horses, so I thought of you.

VQ- I can't even think about child 2. Confused

Evil

Evilwater · 21/02/2013 20:59

Wow dectecive, hopefully your woes will be over soon.

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 21:00

horsey Sometimes I wonder if I was a really really really bad person in a past life. I feel punished enough!

I'm still going for a 3.5 year gap. I would like less, but I don't think I'd cope, 2 in nappies, double buggy, it is hard enough now! I would like this one out of a buggy and out of nappies, so would have to be at least 2.5. But I want 9 months off next time, and in order to save enough, I need the 3.5 year gap. Plus I want an early summer baby! Winter has been a shit time for a new baby! And so close to christmas, was I mad?! Possibly!

And I need time to heal, lose weight, and get fitter not fatter!.

Physio appt today was kinda a waste really. No new exercises, just PF's Confused and no one can explain the pain when I wee, or the pain of the epis. Going back in 6 weeks. BTW. I had to squeeze another womans fingers with my vagina today. Bet no one else here had that pleasure!

Fed up dot com.

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 21:01

Evil I doubt it. It's always been the same. Life is rarely kind to me. 12 years of this shit now!

blonderedhead · 21/02/2013 21:08

MM I am proud of you! Good work in the doctor's surgery. I haven't had any bad responses although I did have a young (8-ish) boy who came over to my table in Costa several times and openly gawped.

VQ good news about the formula, hopefully you are on route to getting a break every now and again? How are you feeling re sore throat etc?

Det the laughing/crying modes do seem closely related. DH often says when I am hysterical with laughter, oh dear she's going to cry in a minute (which I inevitably do) and it seems L has inherited this tendency. We were playing "Where's Mummy? There she is!" with a muslin yesterday and he was giggling every time until suddenly it was hahahahaahahahaaahuhuhuhuhuhuhhoohooboohoo hoooooooooooooo

Thankful that we had poonami earlier (always seems to get DH, shame) after several days of straining. He'd passed a couple of tiny hard pellets so I was getting worried but suddenly it was like playdoh through a sausage machine and didn't stop. By the end it was much looser (sorry tmi) so hopefully he may be over the worst. It's quite green but I think that's the formula, it doesn't look like ill-poo iykwim. Anyway far far tmi. But a relief for the entire household. Hope we get a good sleep.

Evilwater · 21/02/2013 21:08

Big hugs, (yes I know it's not mumsnet like).
Evil

horseylady · 21/02/2013 21:09

Lol!!! Sorry you're having a bad time of it!!

I don't know what the gp will suggest for my non existent pelvic floor. Just 17 weeks post birth I would like to feel mended!! I don't!! It hurts to go to the loo and my bladder I swear is getting worse. Im thinking uti along with destroyed pelvic floor.

Poor body.

My horse is ok. She's just a bit opinionated. And has to be in the mood for jumping/dressage/going on the trailer. Kind though and when she goes she's bloody fabulous. Shame those moments are rare!!

ChunkyChicken · 21/02/2013 21:10

pp glad things went 'well' for you today.

mm I would love someone to give me shit about bfing but they don't. I think he deserved everything he got, for being mysoginistic and so v wrong.

horsey et al. I went through a v low time after DS was born, as my posts no doubt reflected. Guilt, worry, stress, resentment, the works. I do think I was teetering on the v edge of PND, which is the first time I've been properly miserable since maybe the BFP that was to be DD. I loved life after she was born, which shocked me as I've never really been maternal. And yes, there were hard moments when DH got to go out for a drink after work, for example, & I was desperate for adult company. But general gist is it was great. So feeling so blue after the good pg, & birth going to plan, & DD taking to him like a dream, was a huge Shock. But now I'm on the other side? I'm seriously contemplating a 3rd. So much of me says "no way" but part of me is unwilling to accept I won't be pg again etc etc. DH is v much of the "Wtf? No way!!" camp though & keeps saying he's doing the vasectomy route. We'll see - perhaps its just hormones on my part. So, yes its a big leap & changes everything again, but its SOOOOO worth it.

DD makes DS giggle by leaning over him to kiss him & her hair tickles his face. He also smiles when she talks to him. She also shushes him when he cries, but it comes out more like "sooooossss" or "hisssssss".:)

detective worst luck ever.13; unlucky for some??! Hopefully things pick up soon.

Tried out a few songs on DS tonight. He likes wet wet wet good night girl, but not so much bon jovi livin on a prayer. Hated everything changes take that, smiled at joleyn dolly parton. :)

TheDetective · 21/02/2013 21:13

I love hugs! Grin Thanks!

blonde Ha! Yes, O also the same! Having his jabs he was smiling away at the nurse, when she jabbed him, he broke his heart, then looked at her, tried to smile because he just LOVES smiling at other people (he will give any fucker a grin!) but it melted back in to cries and screams, then tried to smile again, then cried... etc! Over and over. Was quite funny, if a bit loud!

ValiumQueen · 21/02/2013 21:20

3.5 years is a nice gap. I thoroughly recommend having a baby in april. No summer heat with a bump but you get to enjoy all the summer with your baby, plus they get to eat christmas dinner. Miss the fucking bronchiolitis too.

Evilwater · 21/02/2013 21:22

I don't wanna do the bottles tonight, and Dp is fast asleep again.
Evil

Contradictionincarnate · 21/02/2013 21:29

I am an April baby and I am the BestWink

ValiumQueen · 21/02/2013 21:33

blonder yes, delighted about the formula although was very glad he wanted to feed from me two hours later. My throat is odd. Sore evening and night but fine in day.

2 to 3 was a lot easier although it is more tricky logistically. Both girls were used to having a sibling, I knew I would adore the little scrap, and considering he was not planned, and we cannot afford him, things are pretty good. The sleep has been the biggest issue, and snot. I think with age gaps a lot depends on the older child. DD2 is a bit of a nutter, and is a bolter, and could use the toilet if she put her mind to it. With her it is physical risk, whereas her sister it was psychological guilt stuff that was the hardest thing. Thankfully she did not relapse with boy. If I were younger, I would have gone on to have more I think. But I am happy with my three little candles.

Contradictionincarnate · 21/02/2013 21:33

madame " now in a minute "is a common Wenglish phrase! I say it often but probably much more with two lo's!

horseylady · 21/02/2013 21:35

I'm a Capricorn

Like Jesus

BigPigLittlePig · 21/02/2013 21:36

Have skim read tonight - 4 pages in a day?! So much for slowing down...
Lovely day out at various friends, not sure they believed me when I said LO feeds most of the evening. They believe it now though!

YW congrats
Evil sorry dp still being a pain
mm well done for letting rip at perv
detective sorry to hear about your bad luck still
pp glad the funeral went ok

Sorry if I've missed anyone off, bloody knackered tonight - so off to bed Blush Night all x

PetiteRaleuse · 21/02/2013 21:40

DD1 was a March baby. Spring is a good time to have kids. Animals and birds got it right.

PetiteRaleuse · 21/02/2013 21:41

Ooh watching Dexter. Love love love.

applepieinthesky · 21/02/2013 21:44

Yep April babies are great. I'm one Wink I want a spring/ summer baby next time too. Not sure yet what age gap I want. Before having DS I said 3.5 - 4 years but now I'm thinking perhaps before that.