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November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

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StuntNun · 08/02/2013 23:19

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

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BigPigLittlePig · 12/02/2013 20:14

yw I was just thinking the exact same thing Blush

PetiteRaleuse · 12/02/2013 20:21

Big advantage of puke in bed - lovely new sheets.

Pig are you emetophobic? I have a friend who has it so bad she won't have children as she is scared of morning sickness. And won't drink.

Good luck Pidj I have my fingers crossed.

Pikz · 12/02/2013 20:21

Can I be in gardens boot camp too please!

First swimming lesson went well. He swam under water...he looked very shocked.

I am shattered!

glendathefedupwitch · 12/02/2013 20:26

Chunky - it's s'posed to be a tribal design but looks more like a fucked up pineapple - it's only the outline and in black ink so should be the easiest kind to remove - fingers x'd and I hope it doesn't hurt lol

Vq I do so want to feed - when its right it's so right and I feel fabulous and really proud of myself but when she's pulling off and getting upset like I'm poisoning her its heart breaking - I'm bf'ing for me so we'll see how we go.

After a mammoth 6 hour nap she woke up all smiles and gurgles she had a 5 min feed then pulled off, there was plenty left in so winded her and she went back on for another 10 mins then fell asleep for half hour!!! This so means she's gonna be up all night doesn't it!!! She doesn't see to have been at all snuffly today maybe it's just night time lying down on her back??

Right upstairs for a film, munchies and wine fingers x'd for a good night all round!!!

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 12/02/2013 20:33

Hello ladies and babies. I fell off the last few threads. I've not read all of this one only the last few pages or so.

Sorry to hear that some of you are feeling down. Please do seek help from GP or HV. I had bad PND with my daughter and with the right tablets I returned to my normal self. I'm scared it will reoccur this time around. Im not sure how much of my history I've shared here but I was extremely ill after DD and was in a mother and baby unit for a month with puerpural psychosis :( I'm currently on meds to prevent it and have stayed well which has been so nice. The only down side is the medication has weight gain as a side effect and I've already put on 10lbs. I'm hoping to be off the meds this week and can work on losing the weight then.

We are still BF and I sympathise with those who are dealing with fussy feeders. DS has been a nightmare recently and does the tugging at nipples as though they are elastic! Not fun!

We are nowhere near weaning yet I don't think. He is one of the older babies and is my chunky monkey as I've said before. He still wakes in the night for a feed, or two or three?! Not really sure how to rectify this?

PetiteRaleuse · 12/02/2013 20:34

VQ in response to your earlier question I am fairly sure it's respiratory now. Listening to her breathing she's breathing at 55 per minute. Crap. I'm so worried she's going to end up in hospital again. My poor baby. :(

I remember you teling me about your hospital trips before Chunky I just don't want her to have to go down that route. At least she's not coughing. Pneumonia makes you cough right? Last time she was coughing.

BigPigLittlePig · 12/02/2013 20:35

pr not quite that bad although as a child - yes with hindsight. If I saw someone puke I wouldn't eat for at least a day. Working in a hospital has made me a lot better. The thing that scared me most about labour wasn't the pain but being sick. And luckily I wasn't sick whilst pregnant although I had near constant nausea from weeks 3-14. I guess you have to just toughen up for your kids though eh!

I can't imagine not having kids because of it though, how Sad

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StuntNun · 12/02/2013 20:49

Chunky I'm only on ep. 3 of TWW but I'll catch up once I've got my assignment in next week. Maths is hard. Confused

DH is cross with me for being sick and pathetic. I'm currently lying exhausted in bed with a crying J but he won't feed and I don't know what's wrong. I take it he feels like I do. I haven't been this ill for years, I take it that's because of the lack of sleep. Hopefully there was lots of vitamin C in the lemon juice on the pancakes that it took DH over an hour to cook.

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Evilwater · 12/02/2013 20:49

Well it seems that N is still on his feeding strike Sad. He has been so fussy! I phoned the HV and they said someone would phone me back. So no one has phoned. Sad
It weighing tomorrow I hope I get to see someone!
Everyone says "seek help when you need it" but it's a bugger to get any help.

Evil

horseylady · 12/02/2013 20:54

stunt maths is easy. Follow the rules. What are you doing? I'm still concerns with your dh and his comments. I think he needs therapy before he hurts you further.

ValiumQueen · 12/02/2013 21:02

PR not caught up properly but saw your message about her breathing. It is likely to get worse overnight as these things tend to. Can you call a medic or get her seen tonight? I know it is a PITA but last time you were berating yourself for not getting her seen sooner. Little prayer said for you and DD x

PetiteRaleuse · 12/02/2013 21:03

Evil that's bad, they should phone Angry

Stunt sorry your DH is angry at you for being ill. I had an ex who was always unsympathetic when I was ill. While I was with him I had flu once, real flu, and then glandular fever. He made both illnesses so much harder to get over. I agree with horsey he needs to realise the damage he is doing to you. You can't be happy and you deserve to be.

Evilwater · 12/02/2013 21:06

Pr- I hope things better soon.
To all those that a having difficulties, I hope things get better soon.

Evil

PetiteRaleuse · 12/02/2013 21:08

VQ I'm taking her in first thing. It's too late this evening except ER, and I really want to spare her the stress of hospital. Last time she wasn't eating or drinking, and was coughing. This time she's just got a fever and breathing fast tonight. She needs rest and fluids, but has eaten ok today. I'll see the paed with her tomorrow morning though. Just need her chest listened to for peace of mind.

Evilwater · 12/02/2013 21:11

I'm thinking of you PR.
evil

GTbaby · 12/02/2013 21:12

Omg. I feel like shit. Haven't left bed for two days. But DH is at work tomorrow so don't know how ill cope. N LO has his jabs in the morning Sad this is gona suck big time.

Evilwater · 12/02/2013 21:13

Oh no! GT
I hope there is someone having a good time.
Evil

blonderedhead · 12/02/2013 21:20

Glenda if its any consolation I know exactly what you mean about acting like they're being poisoned. It is heartbreaking isn't it.

I yelled briefly earlier (at dh) and L burst into tears. I felt like the worst mummy ever. I picked him up and gave him a cuddle and for a moment felt like I was acting a part, I have got so used to speaking in a particular way, shhing and singing and rocking, it was a shock to suddenly snap out of it into anger and I couldn't snap back iyswim. The only reason I was angry was because I feel like everything is out of my control, I thought by now we'd have a bit of routine and I'd be managing the household stuff whereas actually I barely manage to get dressed some days and DH is still doing all the chores because I'm too shit to get on top of them. L's feeding/tummy issues are getting on top of me I think. I might try and get a drs appt tomorrow, we can't go on like this.

ValiumQueen · 12/02/2013 21:22

Good to hear pr hope she makes a remarkable recovery and is a little rascal for you tomorrow.

izzy thank you for sharing. You are very brave to have another - good they have looked after you with preventative meds. The weight will go and is a small price to pay for peace of mind - literally.

Just giving bedtime feed. Almost done.

Pikz · 12/02/2013 21:24

Night everyone. Sending hugs and sleeping dust to all xxx

PetiteRaleuse · 12/02/2013 21:27

So do I. She was a rascal a good part of the day today once calpol or brufen took effect. Had another dose 30 mins ago and breathing slowed to 40 ish. Last time she was much worse, but want to nip it in the bud this time, if taht is possible

Kyzordz · 12/02/2013 21:29

Finally, Internet! Haven't had any since the other day because of stupid wanky virgin!

Sorry to everyone feeling crap, have skimmed thread so far. Hope your dd is ok pr have everything crossed she won't be going back into hospital.Interesting reading about weaning over there, I'm not sure when they are ready, I shall scuttle off and read something in a mo. Ds watches us eat and chews on nothing, and puts toys in his mouth, but that's about it that could resemble wanting food! 8oz is only lasting him 3.5 hours now instead of 4 but he sleeps through the night fine. It's just a hv at weigh in told me not to give more than 32oz in 24 hours and he has usually 37-40 (usually the 40) as it is so I haven't put it up to 9 :/ wasn't sure what to do really!

How are you feeling now glenda? Your LO loves you, I'm sure of it. I have felt the same, my ds wouldn't latch, just too lazy (as passme described p, that type of behaviour) but it doesn't mean they don't love us, honest!

stunt your dh sounds like he's really unfair with you :( hope you feel better soon, it's hard enough work when healthy never mind when not

Awesome about the free shopping garden and wow at getting ready so quickly! I'm rubbish and end up taking a full car of stuff just for one simple trip anywhere! Its like moving house every time we go out!

That sucks gt might the in laws help a bit?

Is Oscar still possetting alot detective? What did you try in the end?

Phew! Sorry if I've missed anything/anyone!

Oh, happy belated birthday toomany :)

BigPigLittlePig · 12/02/2013 21:34

I'm getting the impression that quite a few of us will be glad of sweary Wednesday?!

ValiumQueen · 12/02/2013 21:36

blonder you are doing really well. You are not shit. You have had a lot to deal with x a dr appt sounds like a good plan. I too feel I should have a routine and more control, but I need to be kind to myself too. This is not easy. There is a reason why we can take a year off.

Dondoon · 12/02/2013 21:38

blonder try not to beat yourself up ...I struggle to run a brush through my hair most days...I give myself a pat on the back if I get one thing done each day, for example washing my hair one day, hoovering the whole house the next day picking all our dogs poop off the lawn etc etc. It sure is a busy time but you will regain control of your life one day...until then just muddle through...and sod routine (what's that?)