November 2012 - Don't forget the tummy time

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PR don't you need an exception to prove the rule?!

PL oops

gazelle don't think you're a shite mum. Two is hard. She's finding buttons to push to get your attention tis all. It's horrible, but will pass when LO becomes more interesting to her and when LO will need less full time attention. Which will be sooner than you might think. I've taken to putting LO in her bouncy chair and letting her watch me and DD1 read a story or whatever.

I have also found that when dealing with DD1, if LO starts to cry, DD1 is visibly relieved that I don't rush straight to her. We have the time to finish our story, or our song, or whatever we're doing at the time. At the beginning I would dump whatever I was doing with DD1 and with hindsight that sent out the wrong message. Not insinuating you may be doing that, at all, just putting thoughts to paper. So to speak.

As they get older it will be easier. It's just that right now we have to remember to male time for the older kid, and I think they pick up on it. Doesn't help that they are at tantrum age anyway.

PR, good advice. DS spends a fair amount too much time in a chair watching while DD and I potter about. She does like to sit by him and "help" him play with his toys too. His eyes follow her around, so am sure he is content doing that. I think the comment about not rushing to DS but getting to him when I can is a good one - will be reassuring to DD, but goes against the grain somewhat, doesnt it, to let them cry? Still, as long as he isnt hurt or whatever, it wont do him any harm I guess. Thanks

It does go against the grain, plus it's a bloody irritating noise, but a few minutes, just enough to show DD that she is no less important than her little brother, won't do any harm.

Same as Pennie (6lb3 born 11 days early, now tipping 9lb at not quite 10 weeks) except he's a front sleeper...

Glenda I rub the Aveeno into the cradle cap just before J has his bath then wash it off with a facecloth in the bath. Don't use shampoo or anything because it dried the scalp.

Tiger for sleep training I will watch for sleep cues such as yawning then put J into his cot with the cot mobile going. If he cries I will give him a chance to stop by himself then pat his tummy and make shushing noises. If he falls asleep while feeding I will wind him to wake him up enough that his eyes are flickering then put him in his cot. If this doesn't work I'll try something else. He sleeps pretty well and will fall asleep in the swing, he just needs to learn how to self-settle and then it will be easier to put him down for daytime naps and hopefully he will wake me less frequently at night.

Oops. Lost track of time and DD1's 90 minute afternoon nap went to over 3 hours. Tonight is going to be fun. Not.

Thanks VQ

Thanks stunt VQ and GT for your info. I need to toughen up!

pennie I wonder if they are on the same stag do, haha!

I've just remembered that there is a baby at the wedding who is similar age to DS so am becoming convinced mine and pennie's DHs are on the same stag!

These sleep training posts are making me wistful. Another day with her in my arms but at least she fed. :)

gazelle please don't beat yourself up. Being mum is hard enough and you're doing a great job.

I've had the familiar feeling of period pain for the last 2 days started as I dipped one toe in the pool yesterday!!! but no period still. Definitely feel like I'm about to come on any second! Stupid body, either do it or don't! Don't just tease me!

Oh, the swimming was okay, forgot to say. GT I held him under one arm while using the other to climb down the ladder. Was okay.

He was due a feed any time from the start of the session to the end, plus I woke him up when we got there so he had only had about 20 minutes sleep. I changed first while he slept. I then got him ready. We went and sat on a bench near the pool as we were a bit early, and that is where I left the pram. You can keep them in the viewing area and changing room, although they have a room to put them in (someone was supposed to meet me in the changing room to do this but no one came, so did what the other mums did!). He sat bolt upright on my knee, nosing at everything! Then when we got in the pool he gave me his 'wtf do you think you are doing woman' look, personally I felt the pool was too cold for little ones. He kept having little shivers and had blue arms by the end!

He seemed happy enough for the first 10 minutes, until I slipped on the floor and splashed him!! After that he just kept getting grumpy, but easily cheered up with a bit of jigging! I took a swim seat, and he kept alternating between wanting to be in my arms, and in his seat til someone else nicked the bloody seat as I was wanting to get out, so had to wait with tired baby in the pool for them to stop using the bloody thing. We did about 45 mins in the pool. Not sure if I'll take him to one of those sessions again until he is much older. Was basically just a pool with toys chucked in, and nursery rhymes on. Not what I was expecting .

Anyway, i'll give swimming with him another go, at a time where he is fed and slept! As soon as we got out the pool, he fell asleep in my arms just walking back to the lockers! I then ended up having to sit in my wet costume feeding the little sod, as he screamed when I tried to put him down, and I knew he was both starving and tired!!

I think he will enjoy it given the right circumstances!

I could murder a roast dinner right about now. I can taste it. I want one. Bad.

Damn it.

pennie castle is best of both worlds is quite trashy.
Me and dh been watching ep after ep of American office cos they are only 22 mins long.
in other news my dd been up since 8 am! (she was semi snoozing since 6) and didn't sleep til 1 am before that. she normally naps for at least 2 hrs in afternoon so told my bestie to come over and dd was grizzling!

Hope your DD is ok VQ

I've had the most boring day ever. I really need to start getting out more!

I'm having the same problem as tiger this morning N went for a nap in her Pram for all of 5 minutes. She sometimes drops off in her bounce seat but any attempt for me to put her down awake generally ends in tears (not just hers!) I not going to force it just though - she's only 11 weeks

DS has taken a bottle! 100mls of aptimil! Feel both happy and sad. Bloody hormones. He took it no trouble at all, but wanted pudding as soon as he as mummy. I can now go out if needed without worrying he will starve.

DD1 is now poorley. Not related to teeth I think. I hope.

Well done MiniVAliumKing! Good boy!

I have another one here who does fab at night but only likes me or car seat for daytime naps. Need to start work on that. Nighttime cot sleeping seemed more important though.

Well done J. Understand the mixed feelings, they will go though as you gain your freedom a little!.

I came to post I was bored too. On account of a baby who has been asleep since his last feed. He has been asleep since 3.20. Normally he sleeps up to 90 minutes in the day, but averages 40 minutes, awake for an hour or so, then nap again...

I don't know what to do with myself. If I wasn't with just the boys I'd run off for a bath.

But I can't! Instead I'm resigned to trawling the internet for bargains for DS1's 11th birthday which is in 6 weeks.

Great news VQ

Detective do you want to come round for dinner? I have a roast in the oven. It smells yum. And it's not duck. It's piglet

Went to tescos to stock up my biscuit tin on stuff for dinner. M fell asleep on the way home so left her snoozing while I cleaned the kitchen AND bathroom, (I am very FLY today with my steam cleaned sparkling sink and sideboard [bwink] ), sat down with a cuppa and above purchased biscuits and she wakes up. Sods law that is! But hey, my bathroom is cleaner than it's been before I had her (DP's bathroom cleaning also not up to scratch...)

VQ glad DD1 seems to be recovering. Can you give her calpol if need be later?

I too could murder a roast. I bought steak in tescos with the idea of recreating a steak in red wine with pasta readymeal I had the other night, but DP's phoned saying he fancies a chinese takeaway. [bhmm] PR you are not sad, or if you are I am too, because I'm delighted this means my kitchen - and in particular sink - will remain clean until at least the morning!!! [bgrin]

Well done J. And VQ. Strange feeling isn't it.