November 2012 - Don't forget the tummy time

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I've finally caught up!

zcos, I'm a Taff but live in Yorkshire. Both dd's have welsh names, Cerys and Bronwen.

I had a very scary evening. I went out for dinner with my friends in Leeds city centre, it was the first time leaving LO with DH. It was snowing when I left but thought it would be ok. By the time we finished dinner at 10.30 the city was snowed in, No buses or taxis running! My friends managed to get trains to where they live but I'm not on a train line. DH had to wake dd1 (5) and put her and B in the car to pick me up. The roads were horrendous, they closed the motorway it was so bad. Meanwhile, I'm walking from the train station to try and meet him somewhere better, it was like a scene out of 'the day after tomorrow'. People were walking miles to get home. We eventually met up and got home along side-roads, avoiding a collision with a car the spun completely in front of us and pedestrians walking down the middle of the road. Awful, most scary experience ever. I am never going out again.

Swaddling -we swaddled dd1 until she was 6 months old! Would not sleep without a swaddle! 7lb13oz 7 days late. Bronwen is also swaddled, wakes after about 10mins without a swaddle, she was 7lb 11oz, 6 days late.

Cluster feeding - Bronwen cluster feeds every evening now from 7-10.30pm but then sleeps until 6am so I'm just letting her get on with it.

Happy anniversary PR and happy birthday kissy ( I hope that's right, can't remember)

We use the fleece Velcro 'swaddle me' by kiddopotamus. We've got a small and a large. This is the large for those struggling to find a larger size.

www.amazon.co.uk/Kiddopotamus-SwaddleMe-Microfleece-Large-Ivory/dp/B000CC5ENO

Oh poor DD1 VQ. Am impressed about emergency dentist. Is it because you are registered with one? I won't bore you with the tale, but here, you are left in agony all weekend fucking tossers with any dental related stuff. Unless your own dentist has out of hours. I wasn't registered with one... well I had been, but thrown off the books for not going! :(

I hope she gets sorted. Can they not fix them with glue?! I have no idea. I'm not good with teeth!

Definitely having a snow day here. I'm nice and cosy on the sofa, waiting for my lunch to cook while Oscar snoozes in the swing. I have such a predictable baby. I can't tell you that there is any difference in his cries, but I know exactly what he wants every time.

I was musing yesterday over the differences between having DS1 and DS2. I feel I am a much better mum this time around. I don't mean in how I love them, just in the fact that I am happier, comparing how I felt last time, I must have been depressed. I did not feel like I do this time at all. I wouldn't have said it was PND, more depressed at the situation I was in. I was so damn independent that I ended up isolating myself and feeling so very lonely. I didn't have any money to go out and do things with, and no one to go and see, or anyone to come over. I didn't have a car so was reliant on buses - so lots of places were too hard to get to, so I just didn't bother going. In retrospect I probably should have stayed at home living with my mum, rather than moving out at 17 to live with my partner. He should have moved in to my mums with me. But I had a point to prove . Not like me that...! Mind you, I might not be where I am today if I had not done those things. Swings and roundabouts!

I am so glad I waited this long for another. I needed to be in the place I am now so I could fully appreciate a baby. I'm so grateful for him - it really has been as if he has been missing my whole life. I love having 2 children. It's fabulous. It felt as if there was a void in my life for so long. I wish I could of had a smaller age gap, but life just goes that way sometimes.

Oooh, deep post. Sorry! Just wanted to get it off my mind!

stunt he's 14 weeks. He won't sleep unless in my arms, even sleeps in the crook of my arm at night in bed. What kind of sleep training are you planning?

I should be annoyed at him when he thinks 5 am is time to get up, but how can I when he is just so lovely and cute?? When he smiles and coos at me he has me round his adorable chubby little finger.

This is right by my house! Bloody hell, glad I wasn't going to work last night, or I'd have been in that!! That is the m'way that is right by my house, I live right next to J25. The 2nd picture is 0.7 miles from my house (less if you go by birds eye!).

TooMany I got stuck like that one year. Never again! I hope you have recovered!

vq how old is dd1 - if they were wobbly already and causing pain then hopefully the dentist will gently ease them out - are they her first ones?? Love tooth fairy visits had one last week for dd1 but the silly tooth fairy was sooooo busy it took her 2 nights to collect & reward nothing to do with sleep deprived forgetful mother hope she's ok!! I did think it was the baby that had twatted her and wondered if your dh was David Hayes lol

Wooooooo I've been flying!!! Ordered dh and dc about and put Dottie in swing - she hated it after 10 mins do put her on my hip and then in the sling like mini me (I'll put a pic on fb) and hey presto - front room is now tidy and dog hair free for all of 2 seconds just need to do loo and bathroom tomorrow then I'm happy!!

Dh is planning to cook tomorrow he's just asked me what juniper berries are and where would they be in tesco I don't want something ala carte or from Jamie/Gordon/nigella I just want him to knock up a spag Bol once in a while when I can't be arsed!!!

I love our fast moving thread - keeps me amused when I'm rocking dots to sleep or sat in the drs chuckling about broken fanjos - not that a broken fanjo is funny lol

Awwwww det has gone all squidgy and soppy - how lovely - its fab that oscar is predictable and you know what he needs and when - I felt like that with my other 2 whereas with dots I'm sometimes clueless and end up in tears!!!

I was the same with DS1 Glenda. I guess we all get one baby who is a little sod!!

snow in Wales gone may finally get to leave the house we were in red zone over a week ago!

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stunt wow. so its official we talk to much and need to slow down
candy i thinking i'm going to join u on the lurker status. the only time i can catch up is when feeding and then i cant post in response to anything as i forget who im saying what to. :(

zcos we have the same issue, its his alcohol intake, or rather his behaviour. i wouldnt mind but he just turns into a rambling idiot spouting random sounds... sounds like LO minus the idiot part. he insists on talking but makes no sense, he winds me up and i get upset. this morning he is all 'whats wrong what have i done?' keeping me awake until 3am, getting me so upset i cant sleep till after 4. i then have to wake at 6 to feed lo, i have had at most 4 hours sleep with interruptions. WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK IS WRONG WITH ME. im still fuming.

madam the silent treatment didnt last long! see above lol well i had to tell him what was wrong, i even pulled away when he tried to kiss me bye. now the silent treatment will start. im going to bed when LO does, so will make it easier.

VQ good idea

tiger how long did you let him cry for when he woke? TRY not to pick him up, try the shushing rocking to see is he will settle. if this doesnt work. try pick him up, sooth him till calm, them put him down again.

right off to eat.

Update: appointment not until 3.15 and at the bloody hospital anyway, so a significant journey, especially in the snow. We would be coming back in the dark too, so would have risk of ice. I would have to take DS, and leave a sick toddler at home. If DD1 had not made a miraculous recovery, I would go, but she has been dancing around, singing, laughing, eating, drinking, and sucking her sodding fingers. The pain is negligible now as the finger sucking has popped them back so I am not going to go. I will cancel the appt. She is at the dentist Tuesday anyway. I do not think that makes me a bad mother, but will no doubt in the small hours.

garden what a twat!

fatima I would make no effort whatsoever!

dicks glad you all got home safely x

detective saying you have a predictable baby is just asking for trouble! You still have the 12 week growth spurt to get through remember.

J is an angel baby (I know, I am asking for trouble too) and bf is so easy now. You guys who are struggling, 13 weeks is good!

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The Snow Fairy has been about this week, never mind the Tooth fairy. [bgrin]

Xx

tiger I would pick up to check for wind, quick sniff of nappy, if not obviously hunger then straight back down again.

an excellent example of biscuit use sophia well done!

There was way to many posts for me to catch up on for just skimmed

Vq hope your DDs okay and you don't get trouble in the early hours

I'm going to a friends birthday tonight and taking DD, I quite fancy having a glass of wine or two but I'm not sure on how long it takes to leave your system before feeding again. I would give her ebm while we're out but would like to do the night feeds. Any ideas how to work it out?

nervous 1-2 units max, and leave 2 hours before feeding is the advice from Kellymom website. Not to feed if feeling tiddled which is fairly obvious from a health and safety point of view.

praying that the fact I am yet to notice growth spurting at work means I'll get off the hook at 12 weeks!!

Don't all pelt me with tomatoes!!! I threw up relentlessly and stabbed myself with Cyclizine for months. I was due some luck. And yes it's down to luck, not parenting!!

any tomatoes would be heading over to Luxembourg, so do not worry detective

Rofl!!!!

I've bought some aveeno - with colloidal oatmeal??? Is that the right one for cradle cap?? How do I use it and how often? She's only got a teeny bit just at the front of he hair line and some dry bits further back that is the start of cc so want to get rid!!! Tia

I don't notice much difference at growth spurts. I see they are happening as LO feeds and sleeps more. I guess when bf it's more noticeable

the problem with shiny sinks is that it almost physically hurts to watch them get used and dirtied again each mealtime. My sink has been shined and dirtied twice already today, and it's shiny again, but am soon going to start preparing dinner, and that means it's going to be used again.

Tempted to go get pizza to avoid but have an anniversary dinner planned plus getting take out to avoid using sink would be both expensive and very silly

Ooh I think there'll be even more tomatoes heading my way with that first line. Sorry. ?

Just had DD meltdown at the shop. Had DS in a sling so couldnt hoik her under an arm and leave, had no pushchair as DD wanted to walk so was on her reins. Ended up dragging her home by the arm. Being in public probably the only thing that saved me from losing it. Then DD was fine once we got home and I could put DS down - she was full of cuddles and kisses. I thought I was handling two well, but days like today make me feel like a really shite parent - too busy with DD to give DS the time and attention DD had as a baby, but too occupied with DS to give DD my full attention which she obviously wants.

Don't send too many. I'll slip on one and drop my baby again.