pr, that sounds terrifying, so glad you are both relatively unharmed. I'm pretty sure you have used up your last dose of bad luck and life will be plain sailing now for ages.
Long witter re church...
I was brought up going to church / Sunday school until I was about 10 as my dad was really involved in our local church. We then moved south and never went again and at some point my dad became a humanist and atheist.
I don't know if it is related, and I am sure it is a pretty common / natural fear, but I have a huge fear of death. It has been worse after the birth of each DS (fear of their death, my death, my parents death, DH's death) that is with me a lot of the time and seems to taint a lot of positive things that happen in life. Eg, if my mum and DS1 have a lovely day together some part of me is thinking that she will die and then they won't have anymore days like that and I'll really really miss her. The fear faded a while after DS1's birth and is fading after DS2 but I'm still waiting for it to go back to a more normal level after DS2.
I googled what causes this fear and very often it is linked to a conflict / changing spiritual belief. I certainly have that - want to believe in something but can't believe in the church, then worry about going to hell for not believing.
Have considered joining the church locally as it is a big social thing for my friends in my street (as it helps get your kids into the better local schools) but feel hypocritical about going. Really don't know.
Right, having bored you all to sleep, I'm going to attempt the cot trf!