October 2012: onwards, upwards and rolling over?

[YompingJo]

Is this part 5 already? Where did that time go?

Yomping what a hideous day for you. Glad today looking better x x Are you planning to express for bottles or intro some formula? Good luck

Angelico we have had a wrecker for a couple of weeks!! He does it on changing table And sound fills house! He does it on ground and I wince every time......

Oren I am feeling partic blue lately too. I'm blaming it on lack of sleep and the missing instruction book for DS. But seriously. It is hard feeling so clueless

Epic fail on first bottle. Despite him having before. FFS.

much sympathy smorgs and cherry on shit nights. last night was a shocker.
i agree too smorgs about the all pervading fog of tiredness. DF suggests things like going out for lunch after a bad night and i look at him with astonishment. obviously i'd rather sleep at lunchtime to catch up. And this makes me feel some of orenishii's gloom. my life is a repetitive slog of childcare and trying to get enough sleep so i don't feel like a total zombie. And it's so lonely with DF in a separate room and out all the time. Rubbish. i had thought it'd be better by now but it just isnt. On which note, orenishii, just a hug and spring is coming and it'll get easier. It will. Squid's mantra "This too shall pass".

Angelico that's a bit eek re the monitor but glad it did the job. we have one too.

huffle I hope the Battle of The Bottle has been won. I am daunted by the prospect of getting DD to take the disgusting hyperallergenic formula.

bella i hope you are on the road to recovery and formula is, as yomping says, less significant than sanity for mums. Hugs.

yomping I hope this will see you on the right road to a more contented baby. It's so hard when beans are unsettled and unhappy.

Hats off to woolybob re getting into your pre preg size jeans! I'm still chuckling at angelico's "someone else's figure".

Right. Off to bed with me. Just for a change.

Wishing you all good nights.

FFS. DS has taken the odd bottle right up to last weekend. Today when it starts to matter; point blank refused. Tried both an earlier feed and a later, both times before mega hungry, both via daddy, 2 types of teat which he took before. Screaming refusal. FFS. DH reacted quite emotionally and blaming himself. FFS.

Before bath I gave him teat he liked best (nuk) to play with. He shoved it in and out of mouth, licked and sucked it a bit, but didn't scream.

Try again tmrw. Sigh.

Hang in there huffle!

Bollocks day - very first world problem alert - but somehow whilst moving house we lost a bag of clothes. No bother - except it was the bag with ALL MY GOOD DRESSY CLOTHES IN!!! And believe me, there weren't that many - but was relying on a nice monsoon dress for welcoming service tomorrow Cue me tearing round house like tornado searching everywhere. No joy. Am starting to suspect we had a cross-dressing painter / plasterer / plumber who made off with them...

So will be dressed like tramp at my own daughter's service. And DH (wearing suit as usual) says, 'Don't worry, people won't be looking at you, they'll be looking at the bean.' To which I reply, 'Yes but I'll be the fecking hobo holding the bean!!! In all the photos!!!' To which he went ''

Peace and love...

oh poor you huffle babies are amazing aren't they, they way they can find such massive spanners to chuck in the works. hope you manage to crack it.

angelico you poor thing! that's so annoying. do you have at least some pretty tops so you look good in pics holding bean? bottoms don't matter so much as long as you get people to take landscape rather than portrait shots

well. ds2 is back to 4.30am being morning. which seriously sucks. ds1 did a poo in the bath last night - first time ever, and just as he's getting more aware of that kind of thing and inching closer to potty training. wtf??

and we've put ds2 down 2 days running, awake and grizzly, for his second morning nap at 9ish (waking at 4.30 means he has a few morning naps ), and after 15-20mins grumbling he goes to sleep! for precisely 30mins but still, magical self settling baby! I'm so sodding lucky! at the moment, anyway...everything changes so fast...

posted accidentally. was fishing ds1's poo out the bath last night, fun and he studied it and announced 'tea bag' this morning as I pulled my tea bag out of my tea he pointed and exclaimed 'poo!' shook his head and gravely said 'poo in bath' - he uses head nods/shakes as grammatical marking to establish whether a sentence is positive or negative

As long as he doesn't try to do a poo in your teacup Crazy!!!

haha!!!

Just popping on to say hope Squid's ok- think it was your gran's funeral sometime this week so hope all was as ok as these things can be. Hugs and that.

Quick question: does anyone else's baby move their head from side to side- as if shaking their head to say no? Mine has just started doing this a lot. Sometimes it seems to be a tiredness cue, but not always. It looks odd. She's getting a bald patch on the back of her head from doing it lying down.

Yes Smorglet turns his head from side to side when he's hungry or tired, I think he's just rooting for boob. He has a huge baldy patch on the back of his head. I don't think it's anything to worry about. Also hope squid's weekend went as well as to be expected.

My baby is only feeding for about 3 minutes nowadays. Is this normal? Has he just become super efficient? He breaks off after 3 minutes and looks around, or smiles at me, or stuffs his fist in his mouth. I keep him in the same position so he can go back on, but he just goes back on for a nanosecond and breaks off again. I'm wondering if this is why he is feeding so much during the night? Although, his feeds don't last very much longer then either....

Bad weather and bad night means skiing off today, but have promised we will go for whole weekend next weekend.

Also, I am so sorry so many of you are feeling down but it does make me feel a little bit better in a very, very selfish way. I think it is the monotony of it all kicking in. Which isn't to say I don't enjoy it. It's just that weird combination of being so tired, but not really wanting to go off and leave the baby as they are just so cute and adorable right now apart from when they won't damn well sleep Went for a walk this morning and I couldn't help thinking 'I have this wonderful DH and wonderful baby and am incredibly lucky and blessed in so many ways, why the hell do I feel so blue at the moment?'

London - yeah DS does that incessantly - I thought all babies did it? He has a very attractive "old man" bald patch on the back of his head and it looks like my black cat has been sleeping in his cot. He does it when he's going to sleep, or when he's feeding. When he's feeding I just guide his face back to my nipple, and when he's trying to go to sleep, I just place a hand on his chest firmly - but gently! Seems to calm him.

smorgs I think you are right about the monotony setting in, despite this being everything I have wanted too and feeling so blessed to have a wonderful family.

And it really wasn't a given that we would get to have this by any means. When Dp and I got together 13 years ago, I would never have imagined we would create a beautiful family together, there was no legal recognition for same-sex couples - and now, our boys will grow up with MARRIED parents.

Hey everyone.
sorry to hear about your uncle smorgs and for you. hope you feel a bit better soon.
squid i hope your weekend has been ok.
DD has a bad cold and cough :( her chest feels really rattly. Docs tomorrow for us I think.
had a great day yesterday at DD's naming party.. then went to the ROCKY HORROR SHOW!!! In lingerie and everything ;) It was AWESOME.

im sorry to be so unsupportive and not post very often.. DD is generally so good I don't want to post all the time about how much of an angel she is because I don't want to boast.. and make you all feel rubbish.
I do think of you all alot but I don't want to give unsolicited(sp) advice!!!

best mate leaving on tuesday. not looking forward to it.
love you all.

lets do the timewarp again

Hey
Thank you for thinking of me...
Funeral was ok. Seeing the extended family was a bit exhausting. Was a bit tense having Jess there but she was actually very lovely and well behaved and smiley.
Me and younger brother both spent a couple of days with our parents afterwards. It was nice - took Jess swimming, me and boyfriend even got to go for an evening meal out. and I wore very fitted 30th birthday dress so that was encouraging
Brother's kid is 13 weeks and much more difficult than Jess - cries a lot, doesn't like to be held by anyone except her mum, feeds every hour through the night. They are shattered. (They have a 2 yr old too.) I feel really guilty but not sure what I could do!! I did tell them they were doing really well, this too shall pass, told them about wonder weeks idea (instead of giving them "advice")
Drove home, four hours of torrential rain... I'm tired. Boyfriend is sleeping in spare room with Jess tonight. She sleeps through till about 5am, but she is so noisy and thrashes about and the last few nights i've not been able to sleep through it. I feel a bit bad about this. Not sure why. My dad keeps telling me to move her out of my room. Not ready to do that yet.

Will try and catch up tomorrow - hope all are well. xxx

Finally caught up again, only taken 2 or 3 weeks! I so want to be a regular poster and help with advice and reassurance but really struggle to keep up.

Anyways,

I'm in the bad sleeping gang. DS has never been the best sleeper but its been so much worse the last few weeks. I don't think he's slept for longer than 3 hours in one go and from 3am he's waking every hour. :( I've been trying to get him to self settle, so not putting him down fully asleep. It seems to be working and I'm trying hard to not keep picking him up in the night. I've been feeding him on every wake up too, but really want to get out of doing that. The last few nights I've expressed some milk and have been giving him that whilst he's still lying in his cot. I'm putting it all down to the 4 month sleep regression and just hoping it stops in the next week or so.

londonmrs. Yes to shaking his head side to side. I get him up in the morning to a matter mess on the back of his head which I'm having to wet and comb through in the morning.

We're also in the eczema camp. His skin is so bad. It started off just a little patch on his chest and its now all over. :( We were first given hydrocortisone cream 1%. I've since been prescribed just E45. So I'm whacking that on 3 times a day. I'm going back to the Drs tomorrow though coz I'm still not happy with it. He's also got a horrible patch on the back of his head which isn't going. The dr said it was a fungal infection and to put the hydrocortisone on it, but a month later and a week of not putting the cream on its just as bad.

Sending happy sleep vibes for everyone!

london yes DD also thrashes head from side to side when asleep. I also do the gentle hand on the chest trick.

squid glad to hear the weekend went ok and the funeral. Feel very jealous of the sleeping til 5 - we're still on multiple wake ups but i'm not going to do any moaning about that, it's just the way it is for now - although would literally do anything for a 5 or 6 hour sleep.

Last night alone, DH back tomorrow. 8 days away and I'm exhausted. We've managed but not sure it's done my sanity any good. Evenings are the hardest when I'm trying to feed myself, feed the cat, get ready for bed, lock up etc etc all whist DD is at her grumpiest. I actually feel physically exhausted tonight.

Also going to work tomorrow for continuing negotiations to go part time. Bit nervous as I am crap at things like this.

Silly question to anyone who uses formula. Can I just use rule of 1oz water to 1scoop formula?? Totally doubting self......

Using ready made to get started but he is totally refusing. Thus wasting loads. Today I got the Avent sippy cup. Not dying about Avent but the handle goes over bottle and he can half hold it himself and shoves it in and out if mouth, chewing on it a bit. Think this might help.

DH being really annoying. All advice is for him to do it but he is giving up too easily. So i am trying to turn it into a game with DS on floor or chair and getting giggles from him.

Gah.

Sore boobs for now it is!!

Appreciate anyone's answer to basic 1oz query!! X

huffle ffer here, I tend to measure it in ml but yes, 1 scoop = 30ml or 1 oz.

Thanks October. Really lame self doubting question The ready made is too easy!!!

Flummoxed by the whole water cooling time relevant organisational elements. But I will get in to swing of soon enough!!

Ta x

Promise to catch up tmrw peeps

Quick wave - welcoming service great, bean surpassed our wildest dreams and was angel baby, not the thrashing cranky demon we thought she might be when doused with water :o Nice meal with everyone afterwards too. Wore my one non-lost dress with knee boots and didn't look like a complete tramp Thanks for sympathy crazy - and :o at the poo antics :o

london another head thrasher although funnily enough she has kind of started growing out of it the last couple of weeks - it was more when she was colicky, but still occasionally when she's overtired and refusing to sleep.

Squid was thinking about you during the week, glad things went as well as possible. Always strange how family get togethers revolve around christenings / weddings / funerals.

More tomorrow x

Sleeping must be going well for everyone. All seems quiet here now.

This is DS 3rd wake up since going down at 7pm. He woke at 10 and took nearly an hour to settle, then again at 1am. But a little expressed milk (less than a minute sucking) and the dummy and he was straight back off. Unfortunately the same cant be said about me. Tut. Took me an hour to go back to sleep. This time I've given him the boobie, thinking its been 5 hours since his last feed. It's from now till morning that's usually the most difficult as he wakes every hour. My plan at the moment is to only give him the expressed milk if he wakes again. Wish me luck!

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