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December 2012 - so, do we all know what we're doing yet?

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MaMaPo · 20/01/2013 04:56

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halesball · 29/01/2013 05:15

One of my friends is BF her 6mo she has told me shes taking me out with her to show how easy it is to BF anywhere. She says once i've seen her do it, i'll find it easier. I'm going to take her up on it. And i agree Stacey it is something which should be seen more so that it becomes the normal and then we wouldn't have people like me nervous of doing it in public.

I may have just got H to sleep fingers and toes crossed, as it'll be her 1st sleep for longer than 15 minutes since 11:30 am yesterday. Hopefully this is good night all.

EggsMichelle · 29/01/2013 05:22

Before my SIL and I came along, no one breast fed in DH's family (he has 14 cousins!) but it's amazing how quickly they have adapted to seeing us feed, no one bats an eye lids. And if anyone protested from my family, they would feel the full wrath of my mother (think Poison Dwarf!). Iv still not fed in a very public place, but that's due to lack of opportunity.

Slept 8-12 1-5. I'm sure it won't last but that 2 night of good sleep, and he's snoring on me already so should get another 2hrs. I put it down to the gaviscon, yes his poos are thicker and take more effort for him to push out, but his reflux is much better and he isn't covering everything in vomit. It's something like 70% of babies get reflux, so worth going to the doctors and getting it sorted.

Can't remember who said about moving baby into another room at night, but DH is a terrible sleeper, and hasn't slept tonight due to F's grunting and moaning, so when he goes back to work, some one is going to have to move rooms.

zcos · 29/01/2013 06:23

Mmm I don't feel comfortable yet to do it in public or even in bf support group ... I have never gone topless... I have fed quite a bit in front of mil my sis my mum and once a friend. with the friend it was cos dd was already on when she arrived at the door. dd does go on and off a bit now off her own accord so I think it wouldn't be that easy not to expose myself.
I really do not want to make my dad feel uncomfortable at all he has been happy to leave and go in another room. when I went for Sunday dinner at rents I went upstairs to parents bed room ... it was nice and cosy up there my sister and mum came too and we went through old photos and had a good natter. yesterday when I went into town I took em and a friend fed dd for me as it was easier in case she just didn't come off me and saved me the time of trying to find somewhere close that would be happy with it. I went to a w spoon pub.
it is quite strange though how much it can actually offend usually men (in the general public) in one of the streets in Cardiff there is bf friendly cafe a few doors down a fantasy lounge (strip club) the world is odd.
think I would find it a lot easier if it were summer hot weather and not much clothes most peeps half naked anyway and if dd decides to go for marathon session I could.just be sat in the sunshine.
any other tips would be appreciated though as I feel I am duty bound to try to bf in public as the more we do it the more it will be accepted...wish I had a friend like you halesballs to show me how the two people I know who have babies one gave up one was only able to bf for 4 months part of the time, the other has had to give up but yet to see her to find out why.

SpottyTeacakes · 29/01/2013 06:35

Thanks for thinking of me mamapo Grin I think I've managed about three hours of broken sleep all night. It doesn't help that there's no chocolate in the house!

I've breastfed in macdonalds (classy), John Lewis, mothercare, sainsburys, hair salon, pil's (at family party), aunt's (at family party), various friends' houses and lots of hospital waiting rooms Grin so it is getting easier but only because I now think 'sod it they will just have to look at my nipple and squirting milk until he latched on Grin

SeymoreInOz · 29/01/2013 06:48

Just had DS weighed, 15lb 4oz at 8 weeks. That's why my back hurts!

I feed in public usually with a muslin over my shoulder and DS's head, it's becoming more tricky now he's bigger and more wriggly. Sometimes he grabs the muslin and pulls it off. I might try one of these. Maybe I could make one!

SpottyTeacakes · 29/01/2013 06:49

Seymore did your dh come back?!

Barbeasty · 29/01/2013 07:43

The only person I'm careful feeding in front of is one of my brothers.

We chatted about it and established that it's just the thought of seeing his big sister's breast that he doesn't like, anyone else's would be fine! So I still feed but warn him first.

MaMaPo · 29/01/2013 07:45

Seymore, that's a big baby!

I think the oddest places I have bfed in are a fancy private club that doesn't admit children under 8 (we had to pull some strings) and on a crowded tube. Inquisitive looks from tourists but who cares? I've never had more than a second glance from anyone, and a lot of the time I don't think people realize what you're doing.

Oh no Spotty - rubbish sleep here too.

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PurplePidjin · 29/01/2013 07:58

Get a proper bf top so your not so exposed. I like my m+p but am happier in a vest and shirt, i show no more flesh that side than in a low cut top.

Settle into a sofa in the corner of a cafe with coffee and cake to hand. You're a legitimate paying customer.

Remember that you are legally entitled to feed your child whenever and wherever you wish.

Have a couple of lines ready if anyone challenges - "Would you prefer to listen to him/her cry?" or "I take it you've signed all the petitions calling for a ban on Page 3?" or possibly "How would you feel about eating dinner with a blanket on your head/in the toilet?"

Smile. Old ladies love it, I've had loads of positive comments and no negative ones so far :)

SeymoreInOz · 29/01/2013 08:07

Ha spotty! Sadly he did! He came back at 5am and got both barrels from me. Apparently he and his mates decided it would be a good idea to play poker at 3am so he came back to look for his poker set, which is why he was rummaging about in the bedroom. He did apologise the next day and said it wasn't his "finest moment". That's an understatement!

SpottyTeacakes · 29/01/2013 08:09

Oh dear! At least he realises it wasn't too clever Wink hopefully he is making it up to you?!

Ds is losing all his hair!

EggsMichelle · 29/01/2013 08:57

Zcos never feel like you have to feed In public, at the end off the day it is your comfort, and if you try to feed whilst panicking about where your boob is, the feed won't go well. I'm lucky to have small boobs, so never go on full display, but I also wear a vest under my tops so my belly isn't exposed, and tuck the corner of a muslin in my bra strap to keep it in place if I feel uncomfortable (like the pub!)

I will be devastated if F loosing his hair, he has loads and I love it!

WillYouDoTheFandango · 29/01/2013 08:58

Wow Seymore that's a bouncing baby. And you DH must have a death wish! Waking you only to bugger off back out to play poker!

My DP is going on a 30th in Blackpool this weekend Hmm so I arranged a few drinks with my friends the week after as he encouraged me to. He now claims he never planned on going out a d had no idea I was planning too

Rubbish Spotty we've out a balding baby here too. I am not a happy bunny.

I am in a bad mood this morning, J's nappy was super full. Need to go up a size for nights I think. A recruitment agent rang at 8 for the former owner of my number. I gave it to him both barrels Blush

Off to new mums fitness in a minute! I'm scared to go on my own!

FriendofDorothy · 29/01/2013 09:09

i am quite happy to feed whenever and wherever. When he was 3 weeks old we went to a posh restaurant for my Dad's birthday and I fed him there.

I have ginormous boobs so it seems quite easy as I just tuck him up under whatever I am wearing. I do tend to wear a vest though and pull that down so my belly is covered.

WLmum · 29/01/2013 10:39

Woman's hour today has/had a feature on how it's hard for new dads too! Not sure if I've missed it.

Dummy advice ladies please. I'm quite keen for dd to have a dummy so that settling her is not entirely boob reliant as it was with dd2. Yesterday was the first time she was happy to take a dummy (aged 6 weeks today), and I spent about 30 mins in the afternoon playing keepy innie and stroking her face, she was v relaxed and easily drifted off to sleep but as soon as she was asleep and the dummy fell out, she instantly woke up. Followed the same pattern at bed time, after an hour I gave up and she came in with me as normal.

AnyOne ahead of me on this one? Is she unable to keep it in because she's little and new at it or will she always be crap at it like dd1 was!

SpottyTeacakes · 29/01/2013 10:42

It's probably because she's still quite little. I remember a friend having to keep putting her dd's dummy in for ages (sorry that's not what you want to hear!) I have to do the same thing with ds's thumb Hmm

WLmum · 29/01/2013 10:54

Would love love love it if she would suck her thumb but she just curls it in when I try to straighten in out and pop it in her mouth!

SpottyTeacakes · 29/01/2013 11:32

I had to force it a bit to start Blush

Secondsop · 29/01/2013 11:41

WL we found that Z takes the dummy quite easily generally but there are sometimes times when we hold it in a little bit until he takes it properly. If he doesn't want it he makes that perfectly clear.

Does anybody else's baby make high pitched dolphin noises in their sleep?

WLmum · 29/01/2013 11:51

seconds did he get better at keeping it in over time or was he quite good from the start?

Secondsop · 29/01/2013 12:16

WL he was quite good to begin with - he just varies as to how much he wants it when we put it in his mouth.

MaMaPo · 29/01/2013 12:55

WL my little one will take a dummy but we do have to play keepy innie. She's 8 weeks and she's been like this since about 3-4 weeks. Often now she will spit it out when she's ready to sleep so I wonder whether its really her thing. She has started to find her hands and sucks on them (as she did in utero - she had blisters to prove it, ad she is sucking her hand on our 3D scan at 37 weeks!) but not consistently; besides, we swaddle and keep the hands hidden!

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WLmum · 29/01/2013 13:40

Hmm thanks. Will see if she gets better at it, if not it will have to go - am a bit wary of creating a monster which we did with dd1 who became v dummy dependent (we gave it to her to help her reflux just like dd3), but was so rubbish at keeping it in I was putting it back in for her about 20 times a night and eventually at 5.5 months we had to get rid of it which resulted in a controlled crying situation poor little sausage.

monsterchild · 29/01/2013 13:47

Second, yes! What is that about? Yunior scared me and woke me up completely with his Flipper imitation last night! Ours very loud and very dolphin-y. That's a perfect description.

halesball · 29/01/2013 13:50

WL i cannot get H to take a dummy, shes just not interested at all in it no matter what i do. I've even tried different shaped teats i've give up now i think.