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December 2012 - the sleep and poo thread (too much of one, not enough of the other)

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PurplePidjin · 06/01/2013 22:45

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MaMaPo · 13/01/2013 02:45

Um, he has a rubbish cough, I mean.

Stacks · 13/01/2013 02:48

Well, if I'm honest I was impatient hours ago. DH doesn't approve of my frustration though, which makes me feel like a terrible mother. Maybe I should lock him in a room with a screaming DS and a cheese grater for his nipples?

Did everyone here get the storybook rush of love for their LO? I think I missed out, maybe because of the CS and no labour at all? DH had it I think, at least he cried before, during and after the CS. I spent so many years wanting a baby, really feel like I've missed out on stuff already :(

Sorry, bit depressed in my exhaustion. Glad others had good days, and even got out to be social. Very impressed.

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PurplePidjin · 13/01/2013 02:56

I hated cosleeping, always woke with a cricked neck and the sleep wasn't proper sleep, just enough to take the edge off my exhaustion. I was thrilled when i found a way to get R to sleep in the crib!

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Clarella · 13/01/2013 03:08

no stacks I didn't - cs had a part to play I think also as you can't do much for them at first - I didn't feel 'ownership ' till I was fitter and could carry him more etc. I was also so shocked at his weight that the first week was all about this mission to feed him - plusI was v sad about it, worried, googling etc. it's been developing slowly . that radio prog said it was more common to not bond and feel or that initially than people realise, actually quite normal. when babies start interacting smiling etc it becomes easier. so please don't worry about that.

Stacks · 13/01/2013 03:10

DS is asleep, will I manage to put him down and get some sleep too? I hope not to post again till much, much later. Hope everyone else is sleeping now/soon too.

Bellaboo123 · 13/01/2013 03:12

Sorry you're all having crappy sleeps - we've just woken up for a feed here.

I switched from infacol to Woodwards gripe as I wasn't noticing any improvement and have now stopped Woodwards too as neither seems to do anything here so we've braved it!

Seconds impressed you got out! We're off for a lovely brunch in canary wharf today with mil - I may have to brave bf in public - cant believe I've got away not been brave enough with it for 6 weeks.

WLmum · 13/01/2013 03:26

Oh dear, those 3 hours may be all I het? Dd regluxy and awake. Hmmm.

Bellaboo123 · 13/01/2013 03:32

Not sure if it'll help WL but they say to put a folded towel under the top end Of he mattress so LO sleeps slightly propped up - helps with reflux???

WLmum · 13/01/2013 03:33

mama I only co-sleep out of desperation - I too wake cold and stiff and not sure that she latches v well - sucking for comfort/ human dummy, but sometimes it's the only way for me to get any sleep at all.

WLmum · 13/01/2013 03:34

Thanks bella, cot is on 2 blocks already ! Helps a bit but bot enough.

utopian99 · 13/01/2013 03:54

So sorry to hear of those of you having sleep issues like we had.last night. It destroys your mental state faster than anything else..

I don't get uncomfortable co sleeping but just really see it as a means to an end sleep wise and am persevering with putting him into his hammock at every opportunity, as they way i see it the bed is for me and dh and it's important not to undermine that more than i have to. He is doing longer stints in it, but progress is slow..

Bellaboo123 · 13/01/2013 04:11

Argh have A is fast asleep after feed but I'm wide awake - wtf?!?

SpottyTeacakes · 13/01/2013 04:18

I didn't get that rush of love with either dc and none of my friends did either.

I'm sooo fed up of the night wakings now Sad it's ridiculous I fed him at half two and he's awake again at four! Yet in the day he can go three hours! He'll be seven weeks tomorrow....

Anyone got any snow?

EggsMichelle · 13/01/2013 05:30

We have snow in Nottingham! Just a fine dusting at the mo, but it's still coming down. Been awake since 00.45, F has been grizzling, think its the gripe water stopping his frequent pooing! Either that or it's too cold for him.

Typically now I have given up the dream of sleep, he is fast asleep on me while I watch tv and drink coffee!

I can't co sleep, scares the shit out of me, I would probably kick him out the bed.

MrsMiller81 · 13/01/2013 05:32

Hi everyone, have been lurking for a couple of weeks (reading the thread whilst awake again at night has been helping to keep me sane!)

I had dd (Charlotte Victoria) on Xmas eve so she's just coming up to 3 weeks old and I think is having a growth spurt! I only just put her down at 3.45 after a mammoth 30 min feeding session and she was awake again at 5!!! Ds is 8 yrs old and I had completely forgot how exhausting the night feeds are!!

Sorry to hear a lot of you are having rubbIsh nights too (I just keep repeating that it will get better!)

I can't remember who asked about breast pads but I definately recommend Lasinoh ones, I've tried a number of shop own brand and tommy tippee but none are as good, particularly in terms of absorption and staying put!

We are hoping to introduce a bottle at around 4 weeks and was wondering which formula would be best?

Going to try to put C down now.....

WillYouDoTheFandango · 13/01/2013 05:45

So DP's night doing the feeds is going well! He's slept straight through this one.

I'm also terrified of cosleeping. I get a great sleep when I do though. Think it's cos he's like a little hot water bottle. I usually give in at 5 when he starts sqwaking and won't stop.

My boobs have started leaking again too which is quite upsetting really as J could now latch but I only have this thin trickle left cos I couldn't be arswd to keep up expressing or that's how it feels. Sad

I had the rush of love, but DP didn't he said he needs time to let it grow. I think he also struggles wirh this stage where you get no feedback ir response from your baby. I'm sure it's the shock of the c-section and the cumulative tiredness. It'll just take a little time.

Righto back to bed, I'm now owed the lie in in exchange for this feed Smile yippee!

WLmum · 13/01/2013 05:46

Thanks bella, cot is on 2 blocks already ! Helps a bit but bot enough.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 13/01/2013 05:47

Welcome MrsM they say aptimil is the closest to breast milk

Stacks · 13/01/2013 06:00

We're up again. It's not rally long enough, but will have to do.

WLmum · 13/01/2013 06:06

spotty I feel your pain- in the day time dd will sleep for 4 hours at a time, but at night I'm lucky if she goes 2.5! I read that nocturnal habits get better around 6 weeks so hopefully our los have read the same'

SpottyTeacakes · 13/01/2013 06:24

Welcome MrsM we always used Aptimil with dd and that's what all the baby's in SCBU had.

WillYou it is possible to relactate if that was something you wanted to do or you could put him to the breast even if it was just for a comfort suckle Smile

Clarella · 13/01/2013 06:32

welcome MrsM!

oh this little man's been struggling with bad gas - he'd definitely sleep better if his bowels didnt give him jip :( roll on getting bigger. he is managing better though and being much braver poor thing.

I sometimes give boots gripe water after or during a particularly fussy feed as well as infacol - apart from anything he loves the taste which districts him!

Clarella · 13/01/2013 06:39

I was told of a woman who was to adopted a baby and basically pumped her breasts for around 6 months and then went on to breast feed the baby (by med professional so supposedly kosher!) so you would give it s go if you wanted to?

SpottyTeacakes · 13/01/2013 06:45

Clarella I've heard of that happening too

Secondsop · 13/01/2013 07:30

Welcome mrsmiller and congratulations on your daughter.

stacks no instant rush of love here - instead, lots of confusing feelings and then a slow burn of love. My husband definitely had the rush though / cried at the birth and really did have that instant wow feeling. My feelings worried me but then I read up about how utterly normal they were.